Liv

Anyone here had first baby at age 38 or older?

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I'm 36 now and hope to have wls soon. If I wait 18 mths post-op to fall pregnant then I will be 38 with my first pregnancy. I got married at age 33, so trying for a baby before then wasn't really an option before then. Currntly I am not ovulating due to my obesity, but even if I was ovulating my gynaecologist wants me to lose weight first because at my current weight a pregnancy would be high risk.

My gynaecologist has had patients in their late 30s who had healthy pregnancies but they were not obese.

I would love to hear from mothers on this forum who had a first pregnancy after age 35.

Btw- my hubby really wants children, and sometimes I feel guilty for not losing the weight...

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I am in the same boat as you. I will be 36 years old in about 2 weeks. I had my surgery about 6 weeks ago. I have had infertility issues (with suffering from PCOS) for years. I was able to get pregnant about 3 years ago, but I had a very early miscarriage. I really want to be able to experience having a child, and I know there are a lot of women who have babies late, but it still worries me so much. I guess if it is meant to happen, it will. :D

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I am in the same boat as you. I will be 36 years old in about 2 weeks. I had my surgery about 6 weeks ago. I have had infertility issues (with suffering from PCOS) for years. I was able to get pregnant about 3 years ago, but I had a very early miscarriage. I really want to be able to experience having a child, and I know there are a lot of women who have babies late, but it still worries me so much. I guess if it is meant to happen, it will. :D

Thanks for your reply. I believe it WILL happen - for both of us :-) Well done on your weight loss so far :-)

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I had our first daughter at 38 and our second at 42 - thankfully they were uneventful pregnancies although I did have to have a c-section with both. I was at my highest weight during both pregnancies, and was very thankful that we were blessed with two beautiful, big (8lb 10oz and 9lb 4oz), healthy baby girls. My mother had me (her only child) at age 42 as well so it's certainly possible. Best wishes on your journey!!!

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Thanks for your reply. I believe it WILL happen - for both of us :-) Well done on your weight loss so far :-)

Thank you Liv! :D

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I had our first daughter at 38 and our second at 42 - thankfully they were uneventful pregnancies although I did have to have a c-section with both. I was very thankful that we were blessed with two huge (8lb 10oz and 9lb 4oz), beautiful, healthy baby girls. My mother had me (her only child) at age 42 as well so it's certainly possible. Best wishes on your journey!!!

This is great to hear! It gives us hope! :D

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This is great to hear! It gives us hope! :D

I agree. Thanks for posting Technogal :-)

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I had our first daughter at 38 and our second at 42 - thankfully they were uneventful pregnancies although I did have to have a c-section with both. I was at my highest weight during both pregnancies, and was very thankful that we were blessed with two beautiful, big (8lb 10oz and 9lb 4oz), healthy baby girls. My mother had me (her only child) at age 42 as well so it's certainly possible. Best wishes on your journey!!!

Thank you Technogal :-) This definitely gives me hope :-)

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I had my first and only child at 38. I was told I would have trouble conceiving due to PCOS. I got pregnant the first time I tried, but I did not have such good luck the second time.

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I had my first and only child at 38. I was told I would have trouble conceiving due to PCOS. I got pregnant the first time I tried, but I did not have such good luck the second time.

Thanks for posting. Do you want to have more children?

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I have never taken birth control, ever. It took me 9 years to get pregnant the first time, age 26. After that, I tried to get pregnant again and never did. That lasted another 9 years! I met my current husband shortly after my divorce, and was pregnant within 4 months, age 37 (had her at 38). Again, no medical intervention, but I did lose about 30 pounds. I then became pregnant again at age 39 and 40! I tied my tubes after the last one:)

I always dreamed of a big family. After years of fertility problems, it happened for me, and now I am a proud mom of a 15, 4, 2, and 1 year old! Don't give up, it can happen.

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I always dreamed of a big family. After years of fertility problems, it happened for me, and now I am a proud mom of a 15, 4, 2, and 1 year old! Don't give up, it can happen.

Wow! Your story is an inspiration. I have a colleague who tried for years to fall pregnant, then ten years into marriage, when they had given up on ever having a child, she fell pregnant. I also have a friend who tried for four years to fall pregnant - fertility specialist told her there was nothing wrong with her - it was unexplained infertility. When she finally fell pregnant after four years of trying, we were all so happy for her and her hubby. And the only thing that had really changed after four years was that she was no longer so obsessed/stressed about trying to conceive. In fact, she and hubby started discussing adoption (although they had not started the process). Anyway, I guess sometimes it is simply a matter of time/waiting - but I recognise the waiting can be hard.

The first few months of my marriage I really wanted to fall pregnant - every month when my period came, I felt SO depressed and disappointed. Won't even talk about how I wasted money on pregnancy tests. I even had a false positive, where the urine test said positive, but then the blood test said negative :-( When I finally saw the gynae, after doing an ultrasound etc, she told me I am not ovulating, because of my weight.

Anyway, on the one hand I love the freedom of not having to use birth control. But on the other hand, I do want to have children in the future, so I need to start this weight loss process and get healthier.

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I had my first baby at 36 and my 2nd at 39 (4 months before I turned 40) I had no issues with either. They were both concieved after GBS. Both healthy and beautiful! Good luck to you both. My OBGYN says now a days women are having babies later and they should really change the "scare you" number. She said 35 was set many years ago when women were having babies much younger.

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My OBGYN says now a days women are having babies later and they should really change the "scare you" number. She said 35 was set many years ago when women were having babies much younger.

Thanks Jeanie. A doctor friend of mine also said late maternal age is no longer 35. I think she said it's 38 now, but I cannot remember. It is true that many women are marrying later because of careers etc. My OBGYN does not see my age as an issue - her concern is with my weight and the co-morbidities I have.

A friend of mine, in the UK, had her first baby last year when she was 35. The nurses kept referring to her as a mature mother. She was also the oldest in her ante-natal group - the other first time mothers were all in their 20s.

The funny thing is I don't FEEL old as a 36 year old... But I can only imagine how my friend felt as the oldest in her ante-natal group.

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i am 2.5 years since my GB and 37 years old.  I am also 10 weeks pregnant. Although its not my first, it is my 3rd.  I had my other 2 kids at 24 and 26 :) so yes I am a bit nervous but very excited.

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I'm 38 and haven't been able to get pregnant.  After surgery, I'll probably keep "not preventing" it.  It'll be a surprise if I actually become pregnant, but guess I'd take it as it comes.  Should be interesting.  My husband's mom had him at 41.

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I had the surgery just before I turned 40 and have no children (yet). My surgeon just gave me the go ahead to start trying even though I'm only 10 months out. I've lost 70% of my excess body weight and she felt it was safe for me to get pregnant. If and when it happens, I'll start seeing the nutritionist more often to make sure that I am eating properly.

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i am 2.5 years since my GB and 37 years old.  I am also 10 weeks pregnant. Although its not my first, it is my 3rd.  I had my other 2 kids at 24 and 26 :) so yes I am a bit nervous but very excited.

Congratulations on your pregnancy :-)

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I had the surgery just before I turned 40 and have no children (yet). My surgeon just gave me the go ahead to start trying even though I'm only 10 months out. I've lost 70% of my excess body weight and she felt it was safe for me to get pregnant. If and when it happens, I'll start seeing the nutritionist more often to make sure that I am eating properly.

Good luck trying to conceive. I know you'll have fun trying ;-) Please keep us posted - I'm excited for you.

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