metamorphosister

Surgery done...happy but sad

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Hello All.  I am 4 days Post-op and getting used to all the small portions of eating and drinking.  I feel a little sad to not be in control anymore about putting whatever i want in my mouth. Why couldn't I just control better before surgery.  I am trying to focus on all the positive outcomes from having this surgery but gee whiz....1/4 cup of food! Just putting it out there as i feel like a truck has hit me. I just have a bit of soreness...but getting used to the drinking and it gurgling in my tummy.  Did any of you feel down afterwards? Or just me.

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Welcome to the losers bench.

The early days of post-op recovery can be difficult but the reason most of us had WLS in the first place is that we didn't have control over what or how much we ate.

Truly, once you recover from your surgery and start to feel the benefits of losing weight, things will be different.  A whole new and healthier world will open up to you. 

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Welcome to the losers bench !!  I asked myself the same question, why couldn't I just do this on my own. I did do it on my own a few times and always regained at some point. This tool gives me more control now. I still am the one doing the work.  Remind yourself that it is just for now.  Later down the road when you are all healed and things start getting back to normal you will be able to eat more and enjoy food again.

There are people on here who have discussed depression after surgery from not being able to turn to food. I myself didn't have that problem, I am sure others will chime in that have has to deal with that.  Good luck to you. Come here for daily support.

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The first few weeks suck as we try to juggle water, vitamins, walking etc. Once the stomach heals and the swelling goes down, we can eat more both in volume and variety, and things start to pick up. The body adjusts to what we've put it through and weight starts to fall off. By this point most people forget any regret or second thoughts they might have had straight after surgery. Give yourself time to heal. Currently your in the worst part of this trip....it gets better each day.

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First, congrats on having the surgery done!  As everyone who has had this procedure done knows, there is a lot of hard work you have to put in prior to surgery.  After surgery I experienced times of depression as well as thoughts of regret because like you I questioned why it came to surgery.  Now I’m 6 months out and know I made the right decision.  As time passes you get used to the restrictions your new sleeve has and it becomes second nature.  As I continue to lose weight I find I have more energy, confidence (I still have social anxiety but not nearly like it was), and overall I am a happier person.  

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You will adjust.  I often use custard cups and dessert/salad plates to make it look normal.  Wait til you go to a buffet, the amount of food they heap on a plate is sickening.  Even eating out is a whole new adventure.  You will adjust, it just takes time..

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The teensy amounts of food are pretty mind-blowing at first, and then it just gets to be normal. The way I figure it, I had 40+ years of eating too large portions to make up for - my brain had a hard time swinging the other direction! At almost two years out, I am able to eat at restaurants and parties and such without people noticing I'm eating weirdly, though (a combination of a little larger capacity now plus good coping strategies). I don't miss being able to eat large portions. I enjoy eating high quality teeny portions of only things I like and need, never things just to fill me up. And my brain doesn't need to spend time thinking about food much anymore. It's very liberating.

You'll start to feel better as you recover - your physical aches and pains and differences will ease, you'll get your energy back, and you'll start to learn how best to feed your new sleeve. As you grow more confident and capable, you'll be losing crazy amounts of weight. It gets better fast! :) 

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Had it done last may, and never regretted it

I like the small portions, if  I order more than one thing at a restaurant, the second thing comes home, and is a small lunch for days

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It will get better and better by the day, @metamorphosister, given time and healing and weight dropping off like crazy ;)

i questioned why i couldn’t do this on my own but quickly realized after years of dieting and regaining that i simply couldn’t and this wasn’t the easy way out, it was the only way out!  And it has proven true!  You’ll see in time.

how are you feeling now that it has been longer?  

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