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Discouraging, isn't it? I have been struggling as well so I can totally appreciate how you feel. Mind you I did fall off the band wagon, as they say... But surely it will start to work again as long as I stick to the plan. 

Find out what your comfortable with losing on a monthly basis and just go for it - even if you don't quite make it there I think it is setting the goal that will help the most. As they say, shoot for the moon ... Even if you miss you will still land among the stars ;) And kudos to you for continuing to truck on despite the recent struggles <3 

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On 5/28/2018 at 10:05 AM, tracyringo said:

2 1/2 weeks into my 10 months and I finally lost a pound.  I have been doing a lot of yo yo . Went up 4 lbs after the 9 month weigh in and I finally got them back off plus 1 .  Surely water but still drives me nuts. I don't even know what to aim for anymore as far as losses in a month.  What is reasonable at this stage ?  I was crushed when I dropped down to 6 the last two months and this looks like it will be half of that at this point. I will still keep plugging away regardless. I just didn't expect this much of a slow down before my year.

Weight loss gremlins messing with your head. Just stick to the plan, consider upping your exercise a bit and see if any carbs you don't really want have crept it. I started making my sourdough bread again around Thanksgiving last year and if I don't really limit the amount I don't lose weight, even if my calorie counts for the day are about the same.  

A couple of nights ago I mentioned that I was up a couple of pounds and my Perfect Wife commented that I was slipping back into bad old habits, which in my case is snacking after dinner.  Old habits die hard... and require constant vigilance. Am looking forward to summer and getting up at dawn to get some cycling in then. 

If it helps at all, there is some evidence that people who lose weight after WLS more slowly with an higher caloric intake may have a higher metabolic rate, e.g. metabolic set point, at the end of the day ( @Aussie Bear just posted on this). If that's the case then in the long run the loss you have will be more easily sustained. 

If you actually give up on having a specific goal for loss then you will be happy with whatever you have. (Sounds very Taoist, no? "A good traveler has no fixed plans and is not intent upon arriving.") so if you  have no fixed plans for loss you'll have a good journey! ;)

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Thank you @Ladybugzzz86 and @BurgundyBoy.  I am pretty happy at this point. I had an NSV this week and it has made my month. ( I got into a pair of Eddie Bauer size 14 that I had kept from 9 years ago.) I always said if I could get back into those I would be happy and I was able to do that this week !! I am still 10 lbs heavier than I was back then but I am getting  close.

@Ladybugzzz86 lots of up and downs but you are correct we just need to stick to the plan and we will get to where we are going.

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Way to go, Tracy! What an accomplishment :D Very happy you are able to see the forest through the trees :)

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2 hours ago, tracyringo said:

Thank you @Ladybugzzz86 and @BurgundyBoy.  I am pretty happy at this point. I had an NSV this week and it has made my month. ( I got into a pair of Eddie Bauer size 14 that I had kept from 9 years ago.) I always said if I could get back into those I would be happy and I was able to do that this week !! I am still 10 lbs heavier than I was back then but I am getting  close.

@Ladybugzzz86 lots of up and downs but you are correct we just need to stick to the plan and we will get to where we are going.

Woooo!  That's great, Tracy!  I can't fit into my BFF's size 14 Eddie Bauer's yet (damn it!!) ... I guess that's what 3 extra inches of height can do for you!  All my weight is squished down more so I'm wider in all the important pants places!

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1 hour ago, Kio said:

Woooo!  That's great, Tracy!  I can't fit into my BFF's size 14 Eddie Bauer's yet (damn it!!) ... I guess that's what 3 extra inches of height can do for you!  All my weight is squished down more so I'm wider in all the important pants places!

I thought it would take me another 10 lbs to fit in them, but I guess I didn't think about having more skin now too ?  Still, I wont wear them out for another 5 lbs because they are too snug and I like comfort lol... And yes the height sure does help:D

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9 hours ago, BurgundyBoy said:

A couple of nights ago I mentioned that I was up a couple of pounds and my Perfect Wife commented that I was slipping back into bad old habits, which in my case is snacking after dinner.  Old habits die hard... and require constant vigilance. Am looking forward to summer and getting up at dawn to get some cycling in then. 

 

Old habits die hard... and require constant vigilance.

YES and YES.

 

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Re:"couple of nights ago I mentioned that I was up a couple of pounds and my Perfect Wife commented that I was slipping back into bad old habits, which in my case is snacking after dinner.  Old habits die "

What luck, she waits for you to bring up the subject first.. perfect indeed:)

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  • 3 months later...

I just wanted to let people know who may look at this page, that in spite of all the struggles I had in the beginning of this journey that I did lose 80% of my extra weight. I remember feeling like it wasn't going to happen when I only lost 3 lbs that first week and 14 lbs the first month. I did consider myself a very slow loser compared to others who were losing 20+ pounds in there first month, but like @Jen581791 had said it all added up.  Stick to the plan and you will lose the weight !!

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  • 7 months later...

This is where I am now. I’m 9.5 weeks post op and have only lost 28 lbs since the surgery, and most of that I lost the first 3 weeks. I’ve had some vitamin issues that I think are worked out now, but I’m not losing weight and not feeling that “high” anymore. I was feeling great but now the old aches are back. I’m meeting my protein and liquid goals. Not sure what I’m doing wrong, but I feel like this journey is already over.

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Ahh, the journey is long from over!  There are so many things left to try.  Read @BurgundyBoy's suggestions above, they are good ones.  I'm 13 months out and more often than not my body rarely lost weight how I expected it to.  What I found worked for me was staying focused on protein first, then drastically reducing carbohydrate intake and shortening my daily eating time window as well as going for 20-30 minute walk 3-5 times a week.  Shortening my eating time window lengthened my over night fasting time window and between that and reducing carb intake my surgeon measured a higher metabolic rate for me.  That means my metabolism increased well over where it was pre-op.

You will find what works for you!

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15 hours ago, Boston Redhead said:

This is where I am now. I’m 9.5 weeks post op and have only lost 28 lbs since the surgery, and most of that I lost the first 3 weeks. I’ve had some vitamin issues that I think are worked out now, but I’m not losing weight and not feeling that “high” anymore. I was feeling great but now the old aches are back. I’m meeting my protein and liquid goals. Not sure what I’m doing wrong, but I feel like this journey is already over.

At 9.5 weeks I had lost 26 lbs and weighed in at 270.8.  I kept a journal and still do. This is my entry that day …..  So sick of this already !!! I lost 1 pound this week FINALLY but than again I lost nothing !!!  GRRRRRRRRRR.   Boston I hated hearing people tell me to stick to the plan because they were already at goal, lol.  It is true but they were right..  You can not give in or give up.  At some point in my journey I would not lose weight for 3 weeks at a time doing everything right, then the drop would come.  I just stuck to it like it was my last chance and truly it was for me.  You can do this, one day at a time.  You are worth it.

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16 hours ago, Boston Redhead said:

This is where I am now. I’m 9.5 weeks post op and have only lost 28 lbs since the surgery, and most of that I lost the first 3 weeks. I’ve had some vitamin issues that I think are worked out now, but I’m not losing weight and not feeling that “high” anymore. I was feeling great but now the old aches are back. I’m meeting my protein and liquid goals. Not sure what I’m doing wrong, but I feel like this journey is already over.

At 9 weeks 3 days, I was down 25.6 lb so you got me beat.

You're not doing anything wrong - you have averaged a 2.9 lb a week - that is excellent!

If it's any help, every single diet I tried pre-WLS (and it spanned well over 30 years) was sabotaged by what I perceived as a failure the moment the scales recorded zero loss. 

When I had my WLS, I decided not to have scales in the house - I relied upon surgeon/NUT visits for my weigh-ins.  Not for everyone but it allowed me to focus on the importance of following the programme and exercising (even if it was just a walk and/or yoga or pilates) every single day. 

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I agree with Cinwa; I ditched the scales first off.  Hubby hid it and took it out once every other week.  In my past life if I didn’t lose anything I said forget it and went back to eating what I wanted.  

Have you taken before measurements?  Often when you aren’t losing pounds, you are losing inches.  I measured everything (wrists, thighs, calves, neck..) and measured once a month and could see the inches getting smaller.  And yes, stick to plan, it will come off.

One step at a time.  Each step adds up.

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4 hours ago, Cheesehead said:

I agree with Cinwa; I ditched the scales first off.  Hubby hid it and took it out once every other week.  In my past life if I didn’t lose anything I said forget it and went back to eating what I wanted.  

Have you taken before measurements?  Often when you aren’t losing pounds, you are losing inches.  I measured everything (wrists, thighs, calves, neck..) and measured once a month and could see the inches getting smaller.  And yes, stick to plan, it will come off.

One step at a time.  Each step adds up.

Thanks @Cheesehead. I have had a couple of NSVs, such as losing 19 inches overall and going down I’m a 28/30 pants to a comfortable 22, which I don’t understand how that happens without losing pounds, but...

One day at a time....

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I looked up my history, and at 10 weeks I had lost 31 pounds, so very close to your story. This is just your beginning! All these people with big losses did it over a long period of time. I kept a scale, but only wrote down my weight once per week after my "real" weigh in. Keeping a weight loss table by week with a space for every 5% of excess weight really helped me keep the bigger perspective. Below is a table that a TTF hero shared (I think @msmarymac or @Jen581791), and it was really helpful. I made my own and filled it in along the way. 

You're doing great, keep it up!! :wub:

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14 hours ago, Boston Redhead said:

Thanks @Cheesehead. I have had a couple of NSVs, such as losing 19 inches overall and going down I’m a 28/30 pants to a comfortable 22, which I don’t understand how that happens without losing pounds, but...

One day at a time....

BR, your body is going to lose both pounds and circumference... but the rates are not going to be identical. Like @tracyringo, a lot of my loss happened in big steps: no loss of pounds (though I was shrinking) and then I would lose 5 lbs in 5 days.... and then be at that weight for weeks before I had another "step" loss.

It was as if my body, thinking we were living through a famine, kept holding on to everything that it could, and then sigh, and let the weight go. 

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10 hours ago, Cindy Lou Who said:

Below is a table that a TTF hero shared

Yup, that was me. Here are my tables, just for anyone who is curious. Now I'm at GW and that may seem inevitable in hindsight, but it sure didn't feel like it for the first few months! It felt like it was taking FOREVER.

One shot is my 5% losses sheet (it stops at 150 because that was my original GW - I'm more like at 135 now). The other sheet is my total losses, measured every day, but just marking when the numbers went down. My losses were pretty consistent (again, in hindsight) compared with some others, but still felt like it was taking AGES.

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My goodness @Jen581791 and @cindylouwho! That’s some serious tracking! Thanks for the idea and support!

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2 hours ago, Boston Redhead said:

My goodness @Jen581791 and @cindylouwho! That’s some serious tracking! Thanks for the idea and support!

Data :wub:

 

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  • 2 years later...
On 12/10/2016 at 1:08 PM, Calyx said:

I had my surgery on August 1st. Afterward, the weight seemed to trickle off - a pound some days and a half a pound on others. Of course, this is a pretty good place, but it felt frustratingly slow when I would see others with huge weight losses in the first month. But I stuck to the plan and lost 20 in my first month. I had my first check up with my surgeon, he said everything was going great, and I left his office that day and I didn't lose a single pound after that for a very long time.

The first week I didn't lose weight, I was okay. I knew these things happen.

The second week I was starting to feel a little frustrated.

By the third week I had stopped getting on the scale. I was demoralized. Logically I knew that I had done everything right. Emotionally, every year of fat shaming I had ever heard, even if not directed at me, started to echo through my doubts.  I wasn't hungry, so physically I wasn't bothered. I didn't feel the powerful drive to eat as I had on past dieting attempts, my body sending out hormones to create a hunger so strong I would be forced to eat. I didn't have the shakes from unstable blood sugar levels. I didn't feel tired or weak or cold. But by God, I was angry and disgusted and yes, in some ways I even felt that I deserved it.

At 23 days, I finally got back on the scale. Nothing.

24 days.

25.

I didn't get back on the scale after that. I went to my 2nd month checkup with a total of 23 pounds lost, all of it in the first month. I was going to the gym four days a week. I was counting calories. I think it would be great if someone would do a study of this. What exactly is happening in your body when your calorie consumption has been halved (or more) and you are still not losing a single pound?

A few days after my appointment the scale began to move again, but slowly. I'd lose a pound here, a half of a pound there, then finally began a steady drop again. I lost 10 pounds. Then 20.

But part of me had resigned by then. I still don't get on the scale every day. I just eat my proteins and move on. I haven't been counting calories even though I probably should just to establish habits. 

Then my weight plummeted. I have to tell you, it was scary. I put my skinniest pants on one day and discovered that they kept falling down. Getting on the scale, I discovered I had lost 10 pounds in a single week, maybe a little more. I was bolstered by that, and pleased. The week after, I got on the scale expecting it to read at 235, but it didn't. I hopped on and off the scale a few times to make sure because my digital scale can be finicky. It said 226. In a mere two weeks I had lost 25 pounds. That's nearly as startling as not losing at all.

So here I am, 130 days from the date of my surgery with a total of 80 pounds lost. That's something I can live with. I would still like to lose 40 pounds more, but if I stayed at this weight forever, I'd be satisfied. 

 

I am having a very similar experience, I am hoping I’m close to a plummet! Thank you for sharing, down 41lbs now and counting. 6 months out, one day at a time 

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