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  • Birthday 12/28/1986

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  1. Thankyou @msmarymac . I won't give up hope I will give up cake instead.
  2. To be honest I don't know how that works in the private sector and if it's possible to get a loan for it. My health is definitely worth investing in, but I'm on benefits because of my mental health making me unable to work, so I don't exactly have much money, so it might be hard to loan the money since they'd probably worry that I can't pay it off. I also already have a pretty sizable student loan, from the education my illness made me unable to finish. So I don't think I'd be a desirable candidate for financing of sorts. It's worth looking into of course though. It's hard to decide if I should listen to the doctors if they think surgery wouldn't be a good idea for me, considering my mental health. But I also can't help feeling like my weight is doing a lot of harm to my mental health. I hope I can convince them. I don't exactly feel like getting heavier and developing weight related illness before getting help!
  3. Yes, they are pretty darn strict. But you're right, there's still a chance. It'll be a different doctor evaluating me in January. Maybe (s)he will see that I am the perfect candidate for Vertical Sleeve. I just have to keep hoping and eat a lot of vegetables.
  4. So, I had the first of two scheduled appointments with the doctors who are in charge of WLS. They don't make the decision about whether I can have WLS until the appointment on January 13th, but the doctor said that I don't really fit the requirements. I don't weigh enough to get the surgery purely based on BMI (you need a BMI over 50. Mine is 42.) and they are concerned if I have the psychological strength that it takes to have success with surgery like this. Even if I lose the weight I could develop another addiction in order to cope with emotional stress. T>he only thing I can do now is lose as much weight as I possibly can on my own. That shows that I have the motivation and ability to stick with a diet change. And I have to lose 8% of my bodyweight within 3 months even if they do decide that they want to offer me surgery, from today, before it can be done. So it's not likely that I can get an operation. I feel so defeated and scared of the future. I need to lose about as much wright as my girlfriends weigh for crying out loud, and maintain it. It seems hopeless without WLS. I just have to cling on to the remaining small chance that I'll get it and do my best to lose as much weight on my own as I possibly can, starting today. I'm so sad.
  5. I hope and think you are right that it ill have significant positive impact on my mental state to lose the weight! I dread having my picture taken too! And I compare with pictures taken of me when I was a skinny teenager, happily smiling at the camera. How I wish I could get that healthy and beautiful body back! I didn't appreciate it at the time. Nah, nobody's life is ever going to be perfect. But I think weight loss will increase my quality of life tremendously! I am eager to tell you guys as soon as I know anything. Getting approved for this will obviously be one of the biggest things to ever happen to me, so I'll have to shout it to the world!
  6. Hi Tracy. Thank you for asking. It's wonderful to be cared about! I'm just waiting and waiting for my appointments with the bariatric doctors in December and January, where they will decide if I qualify for WLS on the state. My first appointment is on the 9th, so not too far in the future. I was at my GP's office yesterday for another reason, but we also got to talk a little bit about WLS and she mentioned how I'm headed for an early grave if we don't find a way for me to lose weight and sustain it. She is just as convinced as me that WLS is the solution for me. She also mentioned that she's seen other patients with mental health problems (I have anxiety and depression) improve significantly after WLS. I hope and expect that would happen for me too. I am struggling with my self image a lot. I hate mirrors and my weight is constantly on my mind, especially if I leave the apartment and venture out into the world. I imagine these things will get better with weight loss. Otherwise I'm just trying my best to eat reasonably healthy, but regularly failing. I'm getting better at it though. I think I'll get some therapy focused on how to deal with it when I'm not feeling well without binging on sugar. Better coping strategies along with a diminutive stomach could very well do the trick. How are you?
  7. That is my plan. To keep incorporating exercise in a way I actually enjoy. The exercise I'm currently getting is walking. And I am making progress. Thanks to getting out every day, I am able to walk further before the pain really sets in (back, knees and calves). I can gradually increase both speed/intensity and distance. Eventually, with less weight to carry around, I figure that can turn into short intervals of jogging, then longer. The sky is the limit. I want to bike too, once I move outside the city center. I take medicine that slows my reaction speed and makes it hard to keep an overview over multiple things at once, so I don't want to bike downtown! I like outdoor exercise. I can build these things up gradually, especially once I lose some of all this weight. But I've already started! I'd like to get addicted to exercise too!
  8. Wow, yeah, that is pretty cold indoor temperatures. Being able to stand and walk for extended periods without pain, even in non-sensible footwear, will be great! And being able to move about better in general. I look up to you for your running. I have a small dream of being able to run someday. Not marathons, but just being able to go for a jog. I think that's a good goal to have. Yeah, it feels weird and wrong to kinda ant a bit of illness, something that would go away with surgery and would guarantee the surgery in the first place. I just really, really ant this surgery so bad. I need this tool to help get my present and future health and life under control, on a lasting basis. Fortunately there's still a decent chance that I'll get approved I think, due to my weight exacerbating my mental health problems significantly and my BMI being over 40. So fingers crossed. Thank you for the support. This forum has really helped me sort things out.
  9. Good news. I don't have sleep apnea. The bad news is I don't even have a tiny bit of sleep apnea to guarantee me an operation. I'm desperate enough to have hoped for a little bit, as crazy as that is. Hopefully I qualify for surgery anyway. I need it.
  10. This is really good to know, in case I turn out to have it to some extend! I get the result of my test tomorrow and am a little nervous. I'd rather not have to sleep with a mask forcing air down my windpipe!
  11. I'll keep my fingers crossed. A side effect of one of my medications is that I sweat a lot from any sort of physical activity (even a short, calm walk - lovely side effect ), so I need a bit extra to keep hydrated, so eventually being able to down a glass of water would be nice.
  12. Keep in mind that this is likely a passing thing, that will last a few months, then get better. It does get better! Either on it's own, with therapy or with medication. Don't worry. I think it's entirely valid to wait a little bit before you jump into medication, giving it some time and getting some therapy first, if you're not completely comfortable with getting medication. There's no rush. The important part is to keep you as comfortable and safe as possible. And we're all here to talk to! But I'd hate for you to miss out on really effective medication out of fear of it though. I don't know about American insurance, but I'd like to echo @athenarose in that generic versions of medications are just as fine as the name brand. The active content is exactly the same. The only difference is in fillers and such. So it's generally not necessary to pay for the name brand (or have your insurance do so).
  13. So, you sit in your office, in the blistering hot Middle East, in a down jacket, because of the AC? Yikes! My boyfriend and I go on a yearly New Year visit with some friends to their cabin by the polar circle. I won't be able to leave the sauna while up there in the Arctic winter!!!
  14. Hi Lisa. I can't help you on the main question, since I haven't had the operation yet, however I do have a lot of experience with anti-depressants (I currently take 6 kinds. That is very, very unusual though. By far most people only need one. And nobody will force you to take more than you're comfortable with.). As with all medication, anti-depressants do come with the potential of side effects, but not many. However serious side effects are very rare (I don't have anything serious despite the crazy amount I take.). These medications can be a huge help and really, really raise quality of life. And remember, if you get side effects that outweigh the positive effects you get from the medication, you can always get off it again. Most people don't take anti-depressants forever, but only for a while until their mood is stabilized again. So it could very well be a good help for you to get through this first time after surgery. I can also highly recommend a bit of therapy, in combination with the medication or on it's own. Talking things through with a professional is a huge relief. There is a lot of stigma around anti-depressants and you'll hear a lot of false rumors about them (like them having a lot of side effects). I definitely suggest you talk to a doctor about the benefits and risks of medication before you make up your mind. I hope you feel better soon.