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About Cardamom77

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  • Birthday 11/04/1977

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    Gastric Bypass
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    Dr. Josh Mourot

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  1. Wow! I realized it's been December since I posted. Holy cr@p! I haven't poked around the threads yet to see how everyone's doing, but I will! I'm doing well. I'll post the not so great first - I developed kind of a not great relationship with alcohol and may have given myself an ulcer as a result. I've only been experiencing pain for about two weeks, so I contacted the doctor ASAP. They're giving me a megadose of PPI daily and I'll have an endoscopy when I go in for my 18 month appointment in May. I'd do that sooner, but I can't afford the procedure so I'll have to save up for it. I'm hopeful that we can get it all healed up and I've stopped drinking alcohol altogether. Still drinking coffee, though. But just one cup a day. Maybe two The great definitely outweighs the not so great, though! I've lost a total of 146 lbs. I weigh less than I've lost - 133 lbs. I exercise CONSTANTLY. I ride my bike all over the place and I'm at the skating rink a couple of nights a week. I actually struggle to get enough calories to keep up with my activity level. My husband and boyfriend (we're polyamorous) are constantly trying to get me to eat more often and I have to pack snacks when I ride my bike over 20 miles or so. So I'm just going to say EXERCISE IS KEY!!!! I've registered for a 30 mile ride in May and a 100 mile ride in September and my training is on track to be successful in both. I fairly regularly ride 30 miles these days, but I'm adding mileage to keep increasing what I'm able to do. This Saturday I plan to ride 45 miles. I'm hoping to get up to 60 by the end of April. I do have some self-consciousness about my loose skin, but I am working through that. I won't be able to afford plastics anytime soon (if at all), so making peace is my only real choice at the moment. I do plan to incorporate some strength training into my exercise routine and hope that will help tone things up a bit, but I know the loose skin is going to stick around in some capacity. Still so worth it, though. I added a pic of me at Disco Night at the rink. I was the only one who dressed up, but I tend to like the attention these days
  2. Sooooo I date. Yes, I’m married but we are polyamorous and we date and have relationships with other people as well. We have since we started dating 13+ years ago. It works for us. It had been years since I had even bothered, but I decided to start an online dating profile on a whim and WHOA do people respond in droves when you’re thin! I actually put on my profile that I didn’t want to talk to anyone who had a “no fatties” policy because I used to be one. Lol Anyway, I met someone who is a runner and works out religiously and is pretty objectively hot and he is not put off at all by my loose skin. He actually likes it - it’s soft and feels nice. We do talk about fitness, etc and he knows I’m working on building some muscle but he isn’t critical or pushy about it - plus I ask him for advice sometimes since he knows his stuff. My girlfriend is on the heavier side (which of course is not a problem for me) and she likes it, too. My husband has been there through all of the changes and is completely in love with every changing inch. (It’s fun when I go to the gyno and they ask if my partner *fill in the blank* and I say “which one?” Lol!) If you can relax about it, it’s really not a bad thing. Easier said than done, I know, and I’m still working on it myself. But I’m getting there. So don’t worry. The right person will appreciate you for who you are. As my boyfriend likes to say, “I love the package you come in.” ❤️
  3. A) no such thing as "too young" for you. You rock that dress! Wear it! B ) Your arms are AMAZING. I mean, AMAZING!!!
  4. A year ago today, I was headed into the hospital all nervous that I had made a wacky decision that I might regret. My sister had just died, so I was grieving and looking at going through this process without her - which was not part of my plan. She was my support system. My family needed me, but I told them I needed to go ahead and do this for myself and that everything could wait until I was healed from surgery. I almost backed out. Some of my friends and family thought I should have at the time. But I didn't. I felt like Brittney would not have wanted me to back out. She would have called me "chickensh*t" and told me to get my a$$ in that hospital. (We are very southern and these are terms of endearment. Haha!) I had my one year post-op appointment this morning. A year later, my medical record reflects a 134 lb weight loss (my home scale indicates a 138 lb weight loss as of this morning). My blood pressure is perfect. I'll hear back about labs, but I'm not anticipating any issues. The dietician told me to work in MORE carbs (complex ones) and continue doing what I'm doing. He did not recognize me when I walked in! I'm going to the gym 4 days a week and doing circuit training and also riding my bike as much as I can, so I definitely need to get those carbs. Haha! It's really nice to be told to eat MORE food. I still struggle to see what others see. I mean, my clothes are a size medium almost across the board now and I'm objectively slim, but I look down at my body and sometimes see the big me. The twice this size me. I can recalibrate and recognize it's not the truth, but my automatic thinking is that I'm fat. I still ask for tables instead of booths. I still worry about sitting in folding chairs. It is bizarre because none of this has been an issue for months. But the head stuff is a lot harder to remedy than the physical stuff. I knew that going in. It's just going to take a little more work to get straight there. Here are my before/afters. I've posted them other places before, but wanted to add them here. The after pic was taken 2 weeks ago, but there's only about a 2 lb difference, so I think it's fine. Ha!
  5. Cardamom77


    Hey - thanks for asking, @CheeringCJ. I started to post a reply to this the other day and ended up not really knowing what to say. I'm still not sure what to say. We have had a difficult time the last few weeks. The holidays will be rough. My nephews' dad is being horrible. It's just difficult. I don't know that there's a lot more to say about it. I also feel bad that it seems like I'm always getting support on here and not giving much support to others. In my day to day life, I work with people who are experiencing homelessness, my mother leans on me very heavily, and I'm the main caregiver for my family. I provide a lot of support for others kind of all of the time - and it's very draining. So I don't have a lot left when I'm hopping on the laptop for a break. You know? I know it's not much of an excuse, but I feel like I should offer some explanation. I probably come off as more of a taker than a giver, but that's not who I am, really. I'm just kind of tired.
  6. Today’s NSV - I just crawled through my dog door because I locked myself out of my house. Lol!
  7. Yeah, I don’t wash everything after every wear but I also keep things pretty clean. I also have a clothing steamer that helps freshen things up between washes. My mirror and selfie taking skill are both terrible, but here’s what I wore today. Grey sweater, grey dress, black tights, Docs and jewelry. I also wore my coat. Ha!
  8. Also I know that this doesn't look like a minimized wardrobe for some folks. For me, this is pared down because I used to do a lot of impulse clearance/thrift store shopping. I like having my wardrobe "decided" so that I don't have to clutter up my brain with a lot of decisions over trivial stuff.
  9. I was wondering if anyone else is doing a capsule wardrobe. I decided to start doing this recently and I have to say - it has made getting dressed SO MUCH EASIER. It also prevents impulse purchases because if I see something I like, I remind myself that I have already chosen my wardrobe pieces for this season and I can buy new things in the spring (unless I shrink out of something, of course, but my size has stayed pretty steady in the last couple of months - plus I have a sewing machine. ). Anyway, I don't count a few things in my wardrobe count. Those things are 2 "formal" dresses, a pair of shiny leggings that I'll only wear to goofy dress up stuff, and the 3 items I wear to help my mom sell her tie-dyes (tie-dyes aren't really my style). I also don't count underwear, pajamas, tights/pantyhose, socks, etc. I also don't count my bike shorts/clothes and exercise clothes. I do count shoes (other than my workout shoes). I have 20 items in my wardrobe. It is mainly black, white, and grey, with two items that are not neutral colors. Here's what I have (price I paid for it in parentheses): A short sleeved white crepe shirt ($2) A long sleeved white linen button-up shirt ($7) A grey and white striped tank top ($2) A short sleeved grey cowl neck top ($3) A black long-sleeved silk layering top ($0 - hand-me-down from a friend) A teal tunic ($.50) A pair of black jeans ($10) A pair of black and grey Spanx leggings ($0 - these were given to me by a friend they didn't fit, but I can say they are worth every penny of the $100 they cost!) A pair of grey and black striped leggings ($11) A pair of black ankle pants ($5) A faux leather skirt ($12 - I feel like basically the most rockstar rock star who ever rockstarred in this) A black open-knit sweater ($0) A grey open-knit sweater ($2) A mottled multicolor turtleneck sweater tunic ($0) A grey long-sleeve dress ($3) A grey corduroy blazer ($5) A black wool peacoat ($7) A pair of black Doc Marten boots ($100 in 2012 - ha!) A pair of black suede "witch heels" ($.50 - they're that kind of Victorian bootie style - LOVE) A pair of Teva Mary Janes for biking in ($30) That's it! Now I have a BILLION pair of earrings and a good dozen necklaces and about 8 scarves to brighten things up, so it's not as drab as it sounds. If you count the Doc Martens, my entire wardrobe cost $200. If you don't (because I bought them 6 years ago), it's $100. I try not to wash stuff as often if it's not dirty to keep it from wearing out too fast. I plan to get new stuff in the spring for spring/summer and plan to try to spend about the same amount and keep it to 20 items. Anyway - tell me about your wardrobe strategy! I have to say it's really nice to be able to find my size with no problem in thrift stores now!
  10. Thank you! I didn't have a birthday cake bar, but my husband found a Swerve cake mix that was pretty good on carbs and had erythritol in it (which I handle well) and made a very lightly sweetened whipped cream frosting for it. It was perfect! He's a keeper.
  11. It's true! I need to change my profile age - it still says 40. Haha!
  12. Here’s what I wore yesterday, on my 41st birthday.
  13. When I weighed this morning, I was the same as I was yesterday, so that was reassuring. I have not been eating as much as I should the last week or so. I put my food from yesterday (best I could remember) into MyFitnessPal and it came up to about 1200 calories. So, yeah. Gonna have to get some snacks. Haha!
  14. I'm not quite a year out, but I can share my experience as a less experienced bypass patient. 1. I drink coffee. I try to keep it to one or two cups a day. Sometimes I'm having a rough afternoon and drink one in the afternoon, too, though. I do not drink sugary coffee drinks anymore. Did you know there are FIFTY grams of sugar in a grande pumpkin spice latte?!?!?! 2. I do not take any NSAIDs and don't plan to. My sister had surgery about 15 years ago and ignored this advice (and smoked) and had the most horrible ulcers. She had to drink liquid lidocaine before eating to ease the pain in her esophagus. 3. I was drinking alcohol about 6 months after surgery. That was probably a little early, but I took it easy and didn't have trouble. However, I have had some medication changes recently and it's inadvisable for me to drink with my current med cocktail, so I abstain. It's fine - I don't miss it. 4. I do not have dumping syndrome. There are some foods that inexplicably do not sit well in my pouch (oranges, raw kale, iceberg lettuce), but I do not dump. Sometimes if I eat too many carbs at once, I will get sleepy, but that's about it. Early on, I think I did have dumping syndrome, but it's stopped. However, I have never even tried to eat anything with over 20 grams of sugar in it, so I'm not sure if I would dump if I ate a lot of something super sugary. I also have not eaten pasta or rice since surgery. 5. I have not thrown up at all - not once - since surgery. As far as things getting stuck goes, get some papaya enzyme. Works wonders. 6. I lost a little tiny bit of hair - completely unnoticeable. But I know some people have lost quite a bit. I think it has to do with where your hair growth cycle is when you have surgery and there's not really any way to tell that before you do it. It will grow back, though. And there are some super cute wigs out there at pretty reasonable prices! I like this place for ordering wigs: Hope some of this is helpful!
  15. I lost another two lbs in the last two days. I'm not sure how I feel about that. Like why did the weight loss speed up again? Am I silly for worrying about it? I'm eating bread again, you would think it would keep my weight steady at least. Haha! I'm overthinking it, aren't I?