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  1. I wouldn’t tell them much at that age.  I wouldn’t mention losing weight.  They probably don’t even know you are heavy! :)  my youngest kids were teens and i did tell them.  One of them asked me if I would come home thin. I thought it was such a weird thought (I WISH it worked that way! Ha!) but then I thought how would he KNOW what would happen, he never heard of WLS!  So I did explain that my stomach would be smaller and I wouldn’t be able to eat as much and stressed the health more than anything.  However, at 5 and 8 I would leave all of that out and just say you’re having surgery and will be home soon.  You will have a stomach ache but that is it.  They really won’t notice how little you eat (or care!) at that age, nor will they notice you losing weight.  What they WILL notice is how in a few months, mom seems more active and plays more on the floor with them and runs around outside with them etc!!!

    Good luck and enjoy your new lease on life!  I wish I had done this when my kids were young like yours instead of waiting!

  2. On 11/14/2019 at 11:52 AM, Kio said:

    Hi, @CheeringCJ!  Been a while!  :)

    I'm doing pretty well - recovering from the renovation, which JUST ended, and trying to get my life back into a routine.  It's been a rough time because I still have some issues with what I can tolerate vs. what I can't, and I basically lived on yogurt, cheese, pistachios and lattes for the summer.  Now I'm trying to remember what cooking is and why I should do it!  It's so easy for me to edge into "slider" foods because my physical capacity for solid food doesn't seem to have increased much (I'm still only able to eat about half a cup of chili or a single protein bar at a time) while my hunger - at least head hunger! - has definitely returned.  So my other struggle is noticing which kind of hunger is which, and acting accordingly.  I did end up gaining some weight back over the course of the reno, but not enough that I'm worried - just enough to warn me that I still have to keep an eye on things!

    How's life with you??

    Wow, I am impressed that your physical capacity for food is still small.  I wish mine were. I go in cycles of eating really well and then not but getting back on track. Overall I am still pretty good and happy about my results and life. It will always be something I continue to have to work at (as we all do) but I refuse to let myself go back to where I once was! :)

    I did give an update/pic in my blog under 2 year you can see how I am doing, not perfect, but content with my outcome.  

    Glad your renovation is done.  That can be a bear to work through. So did Leah’s parents end up moving in yet? 


  3. 4 minutes ago, tracyringo said:

    Congrats on all your success CJ !! You are so right, some of us were never meant to be 130s or 140s.  My high school weight was 160s and I never thought I would see this weight again.  NEVER  yet here I am and I have found peace with it,  50s and menopause on top of it all too.    

    That is so true!  I am thrilled to be this size in my 50s also!  And the energy I have now is way more than I had when I was in my 30s and 40s and 200s!!!!  :wacko:

  4. Awwww, thanks, @Cindy Lou Who !!  You’re the best!  Thanks for thinking of me.

    I wrote this up on the train yesterday but never got back to post it.  :(  I will stick it over on my blog but I saw this and wanted to reply to you. 



    So it has officially been 2 years since my surgery!  I went into work this morning much the same way I did the surgery, as I now work at the same hospital I had my surgery in.  That day, I went in very early in the morning, on the train as everyone else was going about their commute and I was thinking about how much my life was going to change!  It was slightly different two years later, I still went in very early, on the train, and yet, I was one of the commuters heading into the city but this time I was thinking about how much my life HAS changed!  


    I considered how much more comfortable I am in my own skin.  I wasn’t created to be morbidly obese and my old body and mind knew it.  Somewhere it took the wrong turn and I fell victim to my circumstances and assumed I would be fat forever. Granted, I didn’t want to be fat and I spent thousands of dollars and even more hours trying to get thinner but nothing ever worked...until my VSG! Two years ago today, I was given a new lease on life.  I was given the chance to start over and I was given the tools to do it right this time around!  My stomach was cut and a big part of it removed and I was left with a small sleeve that would be my new holding place for my food it would be impossible to overeat and binge!  I wasn’t one bit afraid or nervous about “mutilating” my body.  My body had already failed me and this was my chance to get it to cooperate with me and no longer work against me.  I was prepared by learning all I could in the 6 months leading up to the surgery, plus I had a coworker who had been wildly successful with the procedure so I was filled with nothing but hope!!!  


    I had the surgery, had a few issues with the anesthesia making me lightheaded and nauseated, so I stayed a few extra days, but all in all it wasn’t a bad experience at all because my outlook was so good and I knew the pain and the nausea was only temporary but the wonderful changes coming were not!  


    I got home and followed the rules.  I had another 2 weeks of nothing but liquids and the weight continued to come off.  Then I started puréed foods, and the process of reteaching my stomach and my head what it was like to eat in small portions and to be satisfied.  The food never mattered to me like it did before.  For the first time in my life, I was eating for sustenance and not for pleasure and I was perfectly comfortable with that!  I had never eaten “normal” in my life and it was refreshing to fill up before everyone else and really just enjoy the conversation at the table and not just the food!


    The weight continued to drop and thought it had it’s stalls and times I wondered “is it over already?!?!”, I did continue to lose in a healthy, controlled way.  My surgeon and doctor were both pleased with my progress and I was over the moon with my own success.  It wasn’t just seeing the scale finally move down, it wasn’t just seeing my clothes nearly dropping off of me and changing sizes by the weeks, it was much deeper than that.  It went down to the core of me and the fact that I wasn’t a failure anymore, that I was actually doing this, I wasn’t broken, I had just never had the correct tools before.  It was an eye opening, life changing experience like I had never had before!  


    Now two years later, I no longer eat the same way I did when I was first losing.  I do eat protein but I don’t overdo the protein and forgo nearly everything else. I do eat carbs (gasp!) and I even eat an occasional treat (double gasp!).  However, life it different.  I can’t binge without getting ridiculously full fast, but I can certainly eat more than the 4 ounces that was all I could eat at a time for that first year.  I wasn’t sure how to do maintenance, so I joined Weight Watchers this past summer so I could learn how to eat normal and survive in a real world as a normal, average person and not as a post surgical person.


    I have to admit that I did struggle with seeing people that lost FAR beyond what the “norm” is (60% of your excess weight) and it bothered me for a while that I wasn’t in the 130s/140s like they were, but I have come to accept that I was never in those numbers even in high school so why should I assume I would be in my 50s after having 5 kids?!?!  Plus some wise person here reminded me that I DO have excess skin (no pretending we don’t!) and that alone has excess weight, so if I didn’t have that my weight WOULD be lower. (And since my insurance doesn’t cover excess skin removal, and since I have come to terms with what I have), I am not going to stress about the number on the scale!


    I still have a weird relationship with my body.  Mostly I like it but there are days I abhor it.  Those are because they are the days I still see myself as morbidly obese.  Then there are days that I see photos of me that don’t make me cringe anymore and I realize I am NOT that XXL person anymore. It is a weird mind play to be so fat for so long and now just be normal.  I am basically a size 10/12/14 bottom depending on the make and a size M top.  I can see myself in some pics and realize that although I think my stomach is so flabby/fat, I can see it really isn’t.  I think although I will always struggle w/ my identity, I am coming to terms with being just plain regular! :)


    I go to the gym about 4 times a week, and I always make sure I get my 10K+ steps in everyday.  I walk 1.5+ miles every lunch break (30 mins) rain or shine, hot or cold.  I just dress the part and head out!  Keeping active seems to be what helps me maintain, and keeping active is way easier as a normal sized person than it was as an obese person!


    I read a great book my Connie Stapleton, PhD called Eat it Up which is for weight loss patients and it deals w/ reasons for regain and finding a balance in your life...and I highly recommend it.


    I was here at Thinner Times day and night before the surgery and after, but as time has gone on and I have less free time because my life is even busier, I am not here as often. However, I must say for you newbies, this is THE place to be...look no further and glean as much info as you can get from here, it is THAT vital to your success!!!    I do miss hanging out here w/ all the other “Losers”, but I stop in when I can.

  5. 22 hours ago, DrCohbi said:

    Again, WOW!

    okay, it’s settled, tomorrow I pick a location, dust off my Nikon, and start snapping pictures. I sure hope that I’ll be able to post such a successful result as you have CheeringCJ. If nothing else, I’ll be able to look back at my progress and gain inspiration.

    Thank you all...I’m lucky to have found ThinnerTimes!

    Oh trust me, they were only for ME to see for the longest time.  I didn’t post them until maybe 4-5 months out? I am not sure, but I was surely embarrassed of them to begin with but they did inspire ME to keep going when the scale wasn’t moving!

  6. 44 minutes ago, DrCohbi said:


    Thank you for sharing that video. It is completely inspiring, and most impressive. Makes me think I should start a photo diary of my own. Probably something that many people think they should have done.???

    YES, YES, YES.....start taking pics for your “records”. I took a pic in the same outfit (until it didn’t fit anymore) in the same place every month.  Days when I didn’t think I was progressing, I could look back and SEE that I did! :)

    (They are on my blog on here but I don’t know how to post them here, so I screen shot them to add here)

    (and I loved refried beans but they were too thick so I added plan greek yogurt (like sour cream) and a little water and salsa and blended it up so it was thinner and more tolerable.  Then I would add a little cheese to the top and it was delicious.  Ate it for months and didn’t get tired of it!  Still do now.  Good luck with it.



  7. So nice to hear from you, @Kio!  We lived in our house during construction and it was my poor husband doing the construction.  He’d work a full day at work then come home and work another 6-7 hrs at home.  We were getting a new kitchen and taking the wall down between the kitchen and dining room, so there was drywall dust and stuff everywhere.  We were without a sink for a week and then it was finally done for thanksgiving (he started in Aug so I was impressed he did both rooms, ceilings, electrical, drywall, new supporting beam, widened the opening, redesigned the kitchen, put in new cabinets, all new appliances, all new flooring in both rooms, etc while still working a FT job!) but the quartz didn’t come in until the week after so he couldn’t hook the sink up bc it was an undermount farmhouse sink....we had TG dinner w/o a sink.  My husband and I washed the dishes in the bathroom sink.  My point it I totally get living in a remodel and feeling the stress.  We had a microwave we were eating Encore entrees for months, which got pretty disgusting and fattening :-/ 

    I am proud of you pre-deciding to not go there this time!  Awesome mindset, girlfriend!

    How fun was hiking?!?  Wonderful that you could do it and survive!!!  

    You’re so close to your goal weight.....kudos to you!!!  Keep it up! 

    I was starting to get into bad habits and though I was staying w/in 5 pounds but I wasn’t happy w/ it, so I joined WW two weeks ago.  I am hoping it will teach me to eat now that I am “normal”  (weight at least...haha!) but need to shed the mind set of a new WLS patients....not that I don’t want to  be mindful and not drink during eating etc etc, BUT I have to learn to reintroduce carbs (a little) and stop insisting on eating tons of protein forever.  I know that sounds wrong but you know what I mean...I definitely want to eat the proteins first but I bearly had fruit b/c it was a carb and a person does need carbs (healthy ones) for energy and I need to learn to re-eat in the “real world” and still maintain my weight.  I haven’t gone nuts but do feel like I am making wise choices.  And I am with you, don’t want to be coming back here in a few years 40 pounds up and try to get a grip!

  8. Looks like an awesome trip @Jen581791!  Your trips always sound so exciting.  Granted the injury, not so much.  It was smart to realize your limits w/ the re-injury and taking a car (and I love the canoe idea, worked out your upper body while the lower body was rebelling!). 

    We are having terrible heat lately and all the accompanying humidity thunder storms and right now are under a tornado watch.  BUT our weather today was 98 F, not 105....yuck!  My kids are heading overseas (their plane is leaving in 45 mins) and one of their stops is in London and i heard they were having a heat my DIL looked up some places to take my granddaughter swimming! :)

    thanks for sharing the pics....loved the scenery, the kitten and the fact you’re so dang ACTIVE!!!  GO YOU!!!  (PS don’t know what the medical care is like where you are, but if you have a sports med doc, go see them so they can help you heal before the marathon!)

  9. You’re sooooo close. This time 24 hrs from now it will be over and you’ll be on your way to healing and becoming a thinner, healthier person!  So exciting!    Of course it will be nerve wracking but you’ll be so glad to be on the other side and to be done!  Keep us posted!

  10. Doing ok, @tracyringo, haven’t lost anymore but haven’t gained.  Maintaining as it were. Which isn’t all that bad, I think my body likes this set point also, which truth be told, I never thought I’d be at, so I should be thrilled! (I am but I am also a little greedy to go down more).  It doesn’t help that my life is super busy right now.  My job is exhausting (we got a grant given to us to spend before the fiscal year ends, and I have to keep getting quotes and proofs etc so my other work has fallen behind) and our free time has been totally booked lately.  I still get my 5 miles in every day and I am doing the 30 day squat challenge and did 80 squats this am.  So I guess all of that helps w/ the maintaining part.

  11. Hi, @Dtrain84!  Nice to see you...  we can “see” that the gym is working for you! :) 

    Sorry to hear about your MIL and how difficult that was on your wife.  

    Twin grandsons, what a treat!  And to think Grandpa can keep up with them now that he is fit!

    How’s the new house? (Not as new anymore, I guess) 

    Happy birthday (I am only a few months behind you) and happy re-birth of you! Don’t be a stranger. :)

  12. Sounds  heavenly!  We have vacationed a few times in Vermont and my kids loved it there.....they always talk about it (as “the place without signs” since they don’t have billboards all over). Beautiful state, enjoy!  I’d warn you that the winters are cold and snowy, but you’re used to that!  Love how you changed your location already, I can tell youre excited about it!  Have an awesome summer getting to know your new home town and area and what a perfect way to meet the neighbors, by taking walks with  Seamus!

  13. 1 hour ago, ktallon said:

    Thank you all for your suggestions as always i appreciate it but unfortunately i suffered a miscarriage early in the week. I am going to be taking some time to myself for a while as i try to work through all the emotions i am feeling right now. I hope you all understand and i will hopefully be back soon in a better headspace than i am now

    So sorry to hear of your loss.    {{{HUGS}}}