CheeringCJ

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  1. CheeringCJ

    Miserable... please, tell me the nausea ends

    Same here......I STILL get nauseous from my multivit, so I have to have the one that is the least offensive and eat it w/ food. (NEVER on an. Empty stomach)
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    NSV of the Week - whats yours?

    @Jumping Jo i could have written this entry myself! I love the discount days (but have been known to splurge the whole $6.99 to pay full price to get a pair of pants I really want that fit nice! Haha!). I have ended up with duplicates, even the luxury of having a pair of black dress pants that are long enough to wear with heels and one short enough for flats! I come out of GW or Salvation Army with a couple of bags and pay way less than I would at Walmart for an outfit or two (and I really don’t that much for new retail clothes!) And in our closet for the first time ever, my clothes take up more room than my husband’s do. I have more than I need but for the first time in 50 yrs I LOVE clothes! And I am just loving having so many And YES, before I would buy whatever was cheap and fit over my big body....never worried about how it really looked bc NOTHiNG looked good!! Usually it was big and flowery and ugly and matronly and i was too young to wear the old lady clothes but that is what fit so I got it (I never wanted to spend a lot of money on better clothes that looked better bc i didn’t really “deserve” it since I was so “unworthy”! Silly the mental crap we go through.
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    NSV of the Week - whats yours?

    Here’s a veteran tip (not that I have been at this too long, but I was in your same place this time last year and I had to buy clothes, but i have since packed them all up and given them away, so don’t get too attached to your new stuff and don’t spend a lot on it, no matter how nice it is, it won’t fit you later. My recommendation is to hit the thrift shops (not sure if you have them where you live) but I have literally saved hundreds and hundreds of dollars there. I buy nice brands (you have to look and look so give yourself time and you can’t go in looking for something specific but you will find great deals when you take the time to search the racks). I recently bought a pair of size 8 Loft dress pants with the $88 tag still on them for $6.99! (Here’s the funny thing, I felt sad for the girl who bought these new bc I have spent a fortune on things I am “going to get into” that sat in my closet taunting me until I finally donated them, so I imagined she had done the same so I felt her pain...but then again, maybe she had WLS and bought them to get into and flew right passed an 8 into a 6! Then I wouldn’t feel so bad! Anyway, congrats on your weight loss....great job! Get some transitional pieces of clothes, just know you won’t be in them very long!!!
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    Life updates

    Yikes, not again!!! You poor thing. Update us when you can, hope youre soon up and about and healing.
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    The flu....

    Who is making who jealous, now, @Aussie Bear?? I will definitely take summer back! Well, ok, not the heatwaves like you get down there, but regular summer would be nice! You try to stay cool and I will try to stay warm! (I suppose if I had enough money, I could have two homes, one down there and one up here and live in each one half the year and never have to deal with winter!!!). BTW, I guess it is safe to say that right now you’re not wearing the cozy sweater you knitted for yourself!
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    The flu....

    Thanks....but we lucked out and pushed it all north...sorry! it was heading here all week but last night took a swing towards the north, which isn’t as good for you but great for us. We are getting 2” of rain only...I can live w/ that. It was supposed to be snow, then rain overnight and in the am and then a flash freeze of ice and forcasted over 1/4” of ice which brings down the trees and power lines and though we are getting the ice, it isn’t going to be a flash freeze this time, the rain is supposed to stop before the drastic temp drop so we will get ice where water is ponded but not on the lines and trees. We totally dodged this one! YOU be careful and stay inside...no reason to go out on bad knees this weekend!
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    Oh life!

    Sorrry things have been so difficult. You know I totally get it. When our son was diagnosed, it turned my world upside down also. Our marriage wasn’t in a good place at the time (thank God that’s done a total 180 and we are better than ever) but I had 2 teens, and 3 little ones (1, 2 and 5 year olds). Our 5 yr old was very high maintenance to begin with (on the spectrum) and our little guy was just not thriving and he became my FT job of taking him to drs to see what was wrong. He had tons of sensory issues that affected his eating (lack of) which affected his growth. He ended up with 4 hours of therapy (occupational, speech, developmental and physical therapies) a week and then I had to do his treatments (skin brushing/joint compressions/oral stimulation etc) all day long. Bc the therapies were done in my house I felt like I had to have my house clean all time time which isn’t easy with 5 kids and toys everywhere. To say I was overwhelmed is a total understatement. The good thing is, I survived (probably due to my total addiction to food for comfort!) and my son is thriving. It just caused a whirlwind for a few years. It was very hard to take him out because new situations total frightened him and his anxiety level was very high. Home was his safe place, going out exposed him to a sensory nightmare of sounds, smells, brightness, noise everything that was too intense for him. Being in a restaurant was impossible, after about 10 mins he had had it and he would just scream, so one of us would stay at the table and eat w/ the other kids and one would take the baby outside and walk around w/ him till we could switch. Then the other one would walk him while we finished eating. I broke down and cried and said “no more meals out until he can handle it” and we literally didn’t go out until he was 5 and even then we had to take a portable DVD player and sit near an outlet and let him take a bag of toys and whatever we could do to distract him (plus he was on Prozac at that time so that helped). We could only drive certain ways (the routes he was used to, nothing veering off the regular route) or he’d melt down. we could only turn left on the green left arrow, not if that went away...or he’d kick and scream the whole rest of the way to church (which was another 10 mins away!). If he got really upset at the route, he’d projectile vomit his chocolate pediasure all over the car! I decided one day I had to break him of that so I sucked it up and started going different routes....I’d try just very close places and I would tell him ahead of time, this time Mommy is choosing LEFT....let’s go LEFT! (Trying to make it a fun adventure). It as pure torture for him but eventually he got over it...whew! I didn’t have many moments of tears because I couldn’t afford to melt down myself, but they were always just there below the surface, but I held them in. My life was so overwhelming, it is no wonder I wasn’t 500 pounds from shoving down the pressure and frustration and not having a second to care for myself. My point of sharing all of this is that....for one, I wanted you to know that you aren’t alone. I’ve been there and others have been there before you too....try to connect w/ a group in your area where they have things for kids on the spectrum...Meeting other moms who are also in the trenches helps. Just being able to vent helps! Also, it gets easier. It never gets perfect (but I have 4 other kids and they aren’t perfect either! Haha!) but it gets better. Try to enjoy the little things with her too. With mine, I celebrated little things way more than w/ my typical kids. Like when Mason finally learned to poop on the potty (at age 6!) it was such a huge deal! He couldnt’ sit on the potty bc there wasn’t anything under him and sensory wise he needed to have something supporting him and couldn’t sit over a hole (not even on a potty seat on the floor) so I danced the happy dance all day when he finally did it. So, embrace the little challenges that your child makes that is harder for her than for typical kids. I am glad to hear she is doing good and is a happy, healthy girl, but there are so many challenges that can break your heart to think of but you can help her overcome them. My son still hates going places but he has learned there is a limit. I give him a time frame and try not to go over. He knows we HAVE to go out but we WILL be back home by 9 pm (or whatever I tell him) I can’t be spontaneous with him, it still overwhelms him (at 15 yrs old). BUT he is a happy, healthy and absolutely adorable child that I wouldn’t have given up the chance to raise for all the money in the world!!! Here he is now...isn’t he too cute? This was at Christmas. The other pic is at the beginning before he was diagnosed. (It’s all 5 of our kids...our DTR was graduating high school, our son graduating 8th grade, our other daughter just turned 4, our little son was 18 months and the baby was 3 months). He is the baby and you can literally SEE something is wrong with him. He would always scream when he was held and see how he tensed up? He hated being touched. It confused me to no end because i was an “experienced mom” and I knew how to soothe a baby by cuddling them and it was just the opposite for him. When I would hold him, he would just cry and cry. Talk about overwhelming a momma!!! That is when I started searching for a diagnosis because something was clearly wrong and my drs didn’t see it. They just told me to stop comparing him to my other kids. I pushed and searched and he was diagnosed at 17 months. But that is when his help began. As much as I didn’t want the diagnosis, it validated me that I wasn’t just a bad mom or crazy and it gave me something to learn about and DO to help my baby! He still struggles but is doing so much better now. He started high school this year and loves it! He went to a private school just for kids on the spectrum (best decision EVER) and by the time he was 9 he was able to go back to our public school w/ his siblings (in special ed). (any time you want to talk, just message me)
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    Whew!

    Good for you. You must be awesome at maintenance. Way to go!!!
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    The flu....

    Sorry, I must’ve missed that! That sounds painful, you will be glad to have relief after healing! Btw, i keep thinking of you every time they talk about this big storm coming...Harper!
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    Happy New Year!

    Well, hello, Miss @NerdyToothpick....welcome to our forum. You must be new. where did you ever get a name like that? LOL! Great to see you! Thought of you often. Hope Katja is doing well...and you and your hubby too of course! Nice to see you around.
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    Heading to Haiti

    Clearly you weren’t in Kansas anymore!!! it looks gorgeous! Doesn’t it always feel so good to help people less fortunate? Especially if you can help them increase their health. I am sure you were as blessed by them as they were by you! Glad you had a safe trip and that the people are having more improvements there.
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    The flu....

    Good to hear. Did you enjoy your day with him? What is it that you are having surgery for?
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    17 months post op

    Ill be interested to see how you do... how did you get insurance to cover it?
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    17 months post op

    Sounds like you’re doing great, @tracyringo! Congrats on the surgery approval! What cup size are you going from and to? I would love to have mine done at some point. I went from a DD to a D but still can’t get lower than that (well I can get anatomically lower and I sure have...hahaha!) I would love to end up between a B and C and lifted and I am sure that would help my back also. I still record everything during the work day. Mostly bc my phone is right at my desk which is where i eat. Once I am home, I put my phone on the counter and rarely touch it until I leave the next day, so I don’t record on MFP my dinners/snacks after 5 pm. I did it the other day and i was able to see my cal intake for the day (which I never really know bc I never finish posting for my day and I was still at 1100 which was better than I thought i was doing so that was good. Plus I just noticed that my MFP (free version) doesn’t have the macro breakdown other than fat/pro/carb, my apple health which is attached to my MFP does (which I hadn’t even noticed before)....so I can even see how many grams of fiber I am getting etc. it just makes me more aware of what is going into my body. i think I will keep tracking in the evenings for a few weeks and see if I can’t get my weight started on the downward track again (been maintaining within my 5 pound range I gave myself so I am pleased with that but would like to get down a little further.)
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    The flu....

    @Nana Trish, how are you feeling? No symptoms, right? How’s Harper?
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    Day one

    Agreed! Losing weight makes you feel GREAT! You’re doing awesome. Isn’t not being hungry a wonderful thing? It’s amazing and so relieving after a lifetime of thinking of food 24/7! i wasn’t able to sleep in bed for the first week....I slept on the recliner and that helped.
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    Day one

    How are you feeling today? Did the gas pass? I was fortunate not to have to deal. With that but i had a lot of pain in my incisions (especially the one they pull the stomach through). Anyway, every day gets easier and I am hoping youre feeling a bit better today and then tomorrow etc etc! And welcome to the Loser’s bench!!!
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    Surgery done...happy but sad

    It will get better and better by the day, @metamorphosister, given time and healing and weight dropping off like crazy i questioned why i couldn’t do this on my own but quickly realized after years of dieting and regaining that i simply couldn’t and this wasn’t the easy way out, it was the only way out! And it has proven true! You’ll see in time. how are you feeling now that it has been longer?
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    Month 2 - Holiday month

    Great job!!!! Now compare that to a vacation from a year or more ago.....how would you have done?
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    One year (a little late) - and a little bump :)

    I just saw this @delilas! You look fabulous! I am so glad you posted it! Love your little baby girl bump! She is an adorable addition to her momma! You look happy and I am so glad you’re doing well and have such a great outlook on things during and after your pregnancy! Thanks for sharing!
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    NSV of the Week - whats yours?

    Great tip for my thrift store shopping!!! Thanks
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    Rice after a bypass

    As weird as it may sound to you right now, you may lose your love of rice! My tastes changed after surgery and filling carbs aren’t as comfortable, therefore aren’t as comforting anymore. You may find the same thing. I wondered presurgery about how i would tolerate things post surgery and it was wasted worry time bc i don’t prefer the same things anymore. We used to have rice all of the time. I think I have had it maybe once in the past 15 months and wondered why i thought I’d miss it...it wasn’t as fabulous as I thought it was back then!
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    NSV of the Week - whats yours?

    That is so true...that is why i came to share it w/ you guys, bc you get it”! Skinny folks never had to fold the ends of their skirts over to hang them on a regular hanger. It’s been a weird day getting rid of the clothes. They don’t fit but some of the one I really liked I wanted to keep....then I tossed them knowing they didn’t fit, but in the back of my mind i was panicking bc what if I need a size 14 or 16 next year?!?! Wouldn’t I be glad I kept it? Not sure if that is my hoarding tendency (haha) or my old dieting tendency knowing I ALWAYS gain it back (probably the latter) and that I liked that 14/16 and didn’t want to have to rebuy clothes then when i had perfectly nice ones this year. I’m fighting my brain today trying to convince it that i don’t need a fall back plan!!! This IS the new forever me!
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    NSV of the Week - whats yours?

    I didn’t even know they sold extra wide hangers. Glad you got the fun of getting regular hangers and have never had to go back! The funny thing was when I took this picture I thought I wouldn’t post it bc my skirt looked soooo wide in this pic (despite it is a size 10) BUT then I thought how stupid that I am stressing over how “wide” a size 10 skirt appeared on my picture and I would post it bc I NEEDED to rejoice that it isn’t a size 22 folded in half and clipped onto my skirt hanger! So I forced myself to post it....and be happy about it! Personally my mind is my own worst enemy!