Jen581791

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  1. I hope everything went really well for you! Let us know how you're doing when you feel up to it.
  2. @Ro ro and Ollies mom Congrats and welcome to the bench!! Keep us updated. The first few days/weeks are definitely a bit tricky, as you're healing from surgery and learning how to deal with your new anatomy, but it will get easier. Take good care of your new sleeve
  3. Hi Courtney, and welcome. Rachael has already hit the nail on the head here with the idea that those kinds of comments show that your choice to have surgery may hit a little close to home for some people, and also that being overweight is really really common and "normal" these days. I'd add that our culture's view that obesity stems from character flaws (laziness, lack of self-control, greed, etc) is not helpful here. Thin people seem to feel that they have been rewarded for being "good" about intake/activity levels and that fat people must not be being good, and in fact have to suffer for their crime of being fat. WLS is often seen as "cheating," like it's some kind of unfair shortcut to being thin that requires no work. This is all untrue, of course, but try telling a thin person that. I'm a very driven, goal-oriented person who has a lot of self-control and I have always been able to lose weight - it's the keeping it off that's been hard because my body was setting me up to fail before I had WLS. In order to be thin(ish), I had to exercise like a mad demon and starve myself, and this was ultimately not sustainable any of the times in my life that I tried it. WLS totally changed the math for me, though. It's not easy or anything, but it makes it possible for me to be thin and healthy and active. It's definitely not cheating! It's the one statistically proven way to help an overweight person lose weight and keep it off. My advice would be to not tell many people if their comments hurt you. It's no one else's business. If you want to tell people later, when you're a shining example of what WLS can do for a person, it will be much harder for people to react in a discouraging way. And if they do, you'll feel all smug because you know they're wrong and you can just ignore them.
  4. Looking happy and healthy, Lee! Congrats!
  5. You gotta do what you gotta do. The important part is finding your limit and staying firmly within it! I'm tempting fate by planning to run a 50k (30 mile) ultra trail run in November. I should know by then whether a marathon distance is in the cards for me or not. I'm definitely planning on taking it a bit easier on the training that I was this summer. At the moment, my knee is feeling good with up to 10k (6 mi), so I'll start ramping up again soon... Gentle running is probably in the cards for you for a long time yet, Cindy. Especially at a low weight, you're not impacting your bones/joints in the way you used to - it does take time to build up all the necessary supporting connective tissues, though, so easy does it
  6. Welcome! I hope your journey goes smoothly. There is so much benefit to so many from having WLS - try to learn as much as you can now so you have a good idea what the process will be like
  7. I totally get it. I had just about given up on hiking at my highest weight - it is so fantastic to not only be able to do it now, but to enjoy it a lot more now that I'm not carrying around a 130 pound "backpack" with me. My training has been totally derailed by a knee injury. It's an old injury that started acting up when I was in France in early July - I was totally overdoing it with so much hiking plus running. I had to cut way back and couldn't do the marathon this summer. I can go about 6 miles with no pain, but certainly not 26. This just about broke my heart, as I was so close to the end and had even done all my longest runs in the run-up to the big day, but I just couldn't do it So I have been giving it some rest and taking it easier, plus doing all the icing/stretching/elevating I can. I'll run a marathon someday, but it didn't happen for me this summer.
  8. Hi Gloria, welcome to TTF. I'm sorry to hear you have some negative feelings at this early stage, but rest assured that it's pretty normal for many people to react that way. It's a big shock to your whole life to have to make so many changes! You will probably start to feel much better about things as you enjoy your losses and start to eat more normal food again. You'll learn all about what works and what doesn't, and all of the coping strategies you'll need to be successful. I have nothing but positive feelings about my WLS at this point, but there were some darker days, particularly right in the beginning. This is an inactive post, but don't hesitate to start your own new post and ask questions or ask for help or support or just commiseration. People here are very friendly and informative
  9. Eggs are still hard for me, even at 2.5+ years out. I can eat one, but it's work, and it doesn't always stay down Some things that work well for me when I'm feeling a bit delicate: cheese (one babybel is a good snack), yogurt, tuna with mayo, tofu cubes cooked in coconut milk with curry paste to make like Thai coconut curry, thinly sliced meat (fake meat for me), beans of any kind. At 10 weeks out, a couple of bites at a time is probably OK - it'll get easier. Putting some kind of sauce on the protein is usually helpful - some tomato sauce or cream sauce, or just anything that makes it a bit more wet. Your profile says Middle East - mind if I ask where? I'm in Oman.
  10. Thanks, it is! I've just gotten back from vacation to America and I have been totally away from TTF the whole time. It's high time to dig back in and do an update
  11. Welcome! Your wait for surgery is a great time to find out as much information about what will happen and the changes you'll need to make. Fortunately, you've come to the right place There are lots of helpful and supportive people here. Ask as many questions as you can.
  12. Hi! It sounds like you're in the early unsure phase where you're figuring things out - we've all been there, and there are tons of people here with great advice and experience to share. Careful! Your pouch is new and your sense of fullness has not yet developed. Measure what goes in so you don't hurt yourself and so you get used to eating the correct amount. Your stomach needs to learn all over again what full feels like - it doesn't feel anything at all right now. Go slowly and follow your doctor's plan. The stuff you mentioned above is basically stuff you should probably say goodbye to for your active losing period, honestly. You can probably eat bits of it again once you're at your GW, but right now is a good time to build habits and cut that stuff out of your diet. Think about it like driving a car down a curvy mountain highway: you can either rely on the guardrails to keep you from going over the edge, or you can use the steering wheel to stay in your lane. One of those options is way more sensible than the other one. Don't rely on your pouch to prevent overeating. Your dear cousin is not a bariatric specialist, I imagine? Follow your doctor's orders. As for your question about beans and salsa, I eat beans almost every day. They keep me regular, fill me up, taste great, are cheap and easy to prepare, and are available in lots of restaurants. They have more carbs that other kinds of protein, so I don't eat a LOT of them, but they serve their purpose. Most people's plans have beans in there somewhere, and I'd be surprised at the doctor who said not to eat them at all! Best of luck, especially with your cousin I'm sure he'll be helpful in providing support eventually, but at the moment it sounds like his advice is somewhat outdated compared to what most surgeons are telling their patients these days.
  13. I've never in my life overlooked a cocktail! Congrats on your 9 months of maintenance. You're doing great. You're actually getting to be an old-timer, you know that, right? It creeps up slowly. It sounds like you've got some great strategies for maintaining, and I'm seriously impressed at your dedication to getting to WW meetings. Good for you. A little beer and cheese will just be fuel for hiking if you play your cards right. I am SO EXCITED for your big hiking trip in the Alps. Keep us posted. As for your sister's concerns, I guess everyone has their own ideas about what's extreme, in terms of health maintenance. I don't have a sister, but I imagine I'd occasionally be a little bitchy to one if she had just lost a ton of weight and looked/felt like a million bucks now
  14. Congrats, @tracyringo! I missed your surgiversary while I was out of town, but I hope you did something nice to celebrate You're doing so well. You're a shining example to those who come after you, and a source of inspiration for the rest of us!
  15. I'd try those crispy cheese things - parmesan crisps (?). They taste awesome, they're basically pure protein, and they seem fancy
  16. Great to hear from you @nimiety. Congrats on keeping a level head and some good perspective on the distance you've come and the place that you find yourself now. Keeping within a 5 pound up or down window for two years is an achievement of special importance to those of us who can sometimes count years in 20 pound increments (or more). It sounds like you're still experiencing the physical and emotional changes that come post-WLS, which might seem surprising after three years, but I suppose it does take time for the tiny little changes to accumulate into big ones. Enjoy your success.
  17. Jen581791

    Reconnecting

    Hi @Kio - it sounds like you have your head in the right place. Having a plan for keeping yourself in check is the best way to approach the changing behavior patterns necessitated by the remodel. Good for you. And keep going on your hiking/walking/exercise - statistically the best way to keep the pounds off (well, keeping in mind your eating plan). I'm sorry about your cat. What a lovely long life enjoyed with you. It's great that you can keep your mind on the happy aspects. Best of luck with the new active pup! Running after a puppy will keep you on the move, for sure
  18. Jen581791

    One month

    Congrats! How are you doing on food stages and tolerances and whatnot? OK I hope
  19. Welcome and best of luck! You'll have such an amazing time seeing all the things you can do comfortably as you lose. It's quite a journey. Don't worry about not telling people if you're not comfortable. I told no one at first except my husband, and it was fine. Now a few people know, and I feel like I've told the right people to get the support I need.
  20. What a cool trip! and way to take some really great measures to keep yourself fully informed about how your intake/output was affecting your body. Exercise, monitoring your food, strategic clothing choices, all great tips. So glad you found success in this aspect of your trip, and it looks like you had a lovely, active, scenic vacation. Welcome back and thanks for posting
  21. Jen581791

    Vacay time

    Thanks, Cindy Lou! I couldn't find peanut butter when I got to the small town we were in, so I was stuck with the next best thing: peanuts! I ate like a half a pound of peanuts per day every day. I kept them in my front pocket and just grazed all day. According to my Fitbit (notoriously inaccurate, but something to start with) I was burning like 3500 calories per day on the big days (8 hours of hiking) so I was busy eating everything in sight then. I had a few bars and shake packets with me, but I mostly just picked things up along the way without worrying about carbs (no need at that level of calorie burning). Since I was carrying everything, I didn't want to bring along a bunch of stuff from home, although I would have been happy with some protein bars now and then. I dropped a few pounds over the two weeks, but managed to pack them back on in the inactive (relatively) week we spent driving around at the end just by sheer force of will: I kept eating non-stop, basically! While we were hiking I just ate every time I had the opportunity, which was a lot, and I was fine as far as keeping up my energy went. 14 days of hiking in the Alps sounds AMAZING! The altitude will be a challenge for sure (I live at about 2 feet above sea level, so I get you there), but so cool. I would love to do that!
  22. Thinking of you @ktallon and hoping you find some resolution soon!
  23. Hi @LVS. Your situation sounds a lot like what I experienced post-op. For me, everything protein smelled/tasted about the same, whether it was eggs or cheese or yogurt or meat or whatever. And not delicious the same - disgusting the same. I really didn't want to eat anything and took no pleasure in eating for quite some time after surgery. This has all dulled now, but not entirely gone away. Some things still just taste/smell gross to me, even if they were things I liked a lot before. My brain has perhaps rewired itself around this issue so that it's gone back closer to normal, but it's still not altogether back how it was. (as an aside, my sense of smell was partially permanently wiped out a few months before surgery by a weird cold I had - so my sense of smell is maybe 50% of what it used to be, plus all messed up since surgery - sort of a compounded problem). So, here's what I did: I just planned what to eat for the day based on my intake needs (65+ g of protein, low carb, around 800 calories as of about 6 weeks out) and set a timer for myself and ate what I had planned. I ate without joy. I ate to support my body's healing. I ate to keep up my muscles. I ate to keep my hair. I did not eat for fun. For a long time. This allowed me to take a really needed psychological break from my relationship with food and reset it to be much healthier. When I got to my GW, I upped my calories (I exercise a lot and have been lucky, so my caloric needs are relatively high) and allowed myself some "treats" (whole wheat crackers, particularly), which I get pleasure from. But it's not the same sort of pleasure I used to have, which is actually a good thing. I don't daydream about food anymore. I don't go crazy when faced with a buffet. I don't plan my day around finding good things to eat. This has all been great for me, really. I don't "miss" food because it's not honestly that appealing to me, so I don't have to work so hard at limiting or regulating my intake. I have a list of foods that I don't mind and that are healthy (Greek yogurt, protein shakes blended with berries, hard boiled eggs, protein bars, cheese, tuna, tofu with spicy sauces, beans of any kind, veggie burgers) and plan most of my meals around those. Things that actually taste good are generally on the "strict limit" list (crackers, sweets of any kind) and I eat them sometimes in limited quantities for the most part, and I know I have to be careful of them.
  24. Jen581791

    Vacay time

    Ah, yes, that's a lovely corner of Spain. I don't know much about the wines there, though, sadly. Lists of things to do. Cycling would definitely be another nice way to see the Dordogne - that's a very popular circuit these days. Faster speed = more villages + more castles!
  25. Hey, good for you! 23 months post op and still losing! Glad you found a good option to control the acid. That sounds not fun.