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  1. Jen581791

    Hi guys

    Oh, I'm fine. It really just felt like a bad flu. I'm just feeling tired and cooped up now. Like most people who get it, I just had a mild case. As for those who are unlucky enough to get a bad case, it looks terrible. Let's get back on track then. Control is all about what you're doing right now, so just distract yourself (toddler wrangling strategy, right?) if/when the urge to eat what you shouldn't pops up. Protein first. I'm going to focus on drinking a lot of water and herbal tea today as well. Sometimes I forget that I'm actually the one in charge of me. Time to take charge. Daily check-in here might be a good strategy, as well. Not like I'm busy doing other things at the moment!! Be strong.
  2. Jen581791

    Hi guys

    Hi Trish, I've been thinking about you all during this weird time, too. Strange times, and I think it's going to get much worse before it gets better. I hope you're doing OK. I've actually been sick for a couple of weeks (recovered/recovering now) with what was probably covid19. Dr. Google is my most official source here - not going to deal with going to the clinic over this at the moment, and they wouldn't test me anyway, as I'm not sick enough and haven't been traveling, but the symptoms do seem to point to CV over influenza. I'm fine, but still a bit wiped out. Anyway, we're in semi-lockdown here in Oman - almost everything is closed and we're under orders not to be out unless necessary. Most people are complying for the most part. No teaching for a month, not even online teaching. So between not being able to run (since I've been sick) and eating more than I should and stuff I shouldn't (having nothing better to do all day), it's been a rough couple of weeks! With more in store, unfortunately. Pantry food is not the best for me, either, and many of my go-to healthy foods are either out of stock (protein bars, frozen meat substitutes ) or hard to keep up with buying since I'm shopping so infrequently (dairy like yogurt and cottage cheese). I've been actually resorting to a lot of carbs, which isn't a great way to control what I'm eating. It sucks! We ordered a veggie box from the local farm place yesterday, and it's chock full of healthy stuff, so I do see a lot of salads and roasted veggies and whatnot in my immediate future, which will be an improvement. I'm going to make a nice big pot of veggie soup today. All this is to say: this is a time when everything is sort of crashing down around us, or we're at least waiting for it to do so, which is just as bad in many ways. I'm going to try to make myself feel better by not using food to feel better. I know it doesn't really work in the short term, and certainly doesn't work in the long term, so I might as well try to give up using food for comfort before it actually starts to make me feel really horrible. I feel like if I take more control over my intake, it might make me feel in control of at least one aspect of my life at the moment (this whole not knowing how long this weird trapped at home thing is going to last is killing me). OK, so there it is. I'm committing to feeding my body rather than feeding my emotions. Let's do this. Try with me? My heart is going out to all of you who are in the medical field or have family/friends in the medical field, plus all the other essential workers who can't stay at home and have to take risks going out. And those of you who are or who are taking care of people in high risk groups. And everyone else who is just feeling stressed out by the virus, the economic fallout from it, and the weird social/psychological effects of this uncertain and strained time. Stay as safe as you can
  3. I'm sorry you and hubby are having to go through this right now But it sounds like you have the best attitude you can. Hang in there and take it easy.
  4. Better check and make sure they're not joking! Best of luck on the big day - I know you've been hoping to get this resolved, and I hope it works out really well for you. Good for you for staying in GW range.
  5. Congrats on this milestone! You must feel terrific! And you should Your GW sounds like one of those ones that is set at a fairly high, very achievable number, which is a great place to aim for initially as it puts you in a much healthier place than you were. It's also not so low that your former self couldn't imagine being there, so great for that, too. According to a standard BMI calculator (for what it's worth, BMI is at least one metric we can use to ballpark with), your BMI will be within the top end of the "normal" category at 174. So no need to fret that you're going to be a walking skeleton overnight. You're early out and you're eating very little - it's likely that your weight will continue to drop quite a bit. It will probably also level itself out at some point, but where that is, who knows at the moment. Just keep on building healthy behaviors (eating smart and exercising sound perfect!). That's what will keep you in a healthy place. You may want to head over to the maintenance cafe portion of this site to just get an idea of what people do when they get there. And how they feel. I've been in maintenance for 2 years and it's pretty different from the active losing phase, but not so different that it's unrecognizable. You're doing great! Keep up your hard work!
  6. Jen581791

    Good News

    Great news! So glad to hear things are going better for you
  7. What a terrible tragedy, Trish. Hug your kids and grandkids. It sounds like everyone will need a lot of love and support.
  8. I hope everything went well - please update us when you can. I'm thinking about you.
  9. Three years ago today, I was lying in a hospital bed in Mexico wondering what the heck I had done to myself. I was pretty freaked out. I was also not at all hungry, which was a new thing. It was a wild and crazy ride for the first year, during which I lost 150+ pounds (!) and got to my eventually recalculated GW of 135, which seemed impossible and insane at the time, but normal to me now. I measured and counted every single bite of everything that went into my mouth that year, and was genuinely as close to perfect as I could be, as suits my sort of all-or-nothing personality. I started going to the gym and walking a lot. I gave my wardrobe a complete overhaul from the ground up. I started doing active things like hiking and running and swimming as entertainment. I moved to a new country and met all new people at my new job (so no one here really knows the before-me). Year two was all about figuring out how to make this whole change sustainable - eating in a less regimented way, exercising a whole lot, not spending every waking second thinking about WLS. Staying in the weight zone I was comfortable in. Amassing further wardrobe items Figuring how to eat while traveling. Getting used to being in a bathing suit in public. Getting used to how I looked in reflections and photos. Getting better at hiding that I eat a bit weirdly. Getting better at eating in restaurants. Starting running a bit more seriously (this becomes fairly important further on). Year three has mostly been about running. How to eat enough to fuel running long distances and during frequent trainings. How to deal with eating a lot more carbs for running. Getting used to looking in the mirror and seeing a fairly athletic person. Getting used to people referring to me as an athletic person <-- mind-blowing. Running a lot. Did I mention running? My husband is a little sick of the running. I worked myself up to running 10k, which seemed far. Then I decided to try running a half-marathon, just to see if I could. I trained for a marathon but didn't end up running it because I blew out my knee overtraining on my last long 30km run before the race. I rested up enough to start training again, and really got after it. I was talked into signing up for a 50km ultra trail run up and down a whole mountain (what on earth). I trained like crazy for the 50k, and ended up doing OK (survived, made it in before the cut-off time). Signed up for another ultra (in three weeks!). Through dealing with weird nutritional needs (lots of carbs, yikes! I literally squirt packets of sugar goo in my mouth during my long runs!) and just caloric needs (I'm burning an extra 4000-5000 calories per week running), plus gaining some muscle, I suppose, I've gained about 10 pounds in the last year, but it looks pretty good on me, so I'm not upset. I plan to go back to low carb and lower calorie once my next big race is done - 10 pounds less to carry around will make me a faster runner. I just can't work on losing while training - it doesn't seem to work for me, weirdly enough. So, today, to celebrate my surgiversary, I ran a 10k trail race. I did OK and felt comfortable competing and pushing myself. It was a fun race. I have pretty bad impostor syndrome at the starting line - trail runners look pretty badass, lean and muscled. I look pretty unimposing. I got 5th place among women (in a field of about 30) and 20th overall (of about 70). So not bad! It felt really good to go out and do something that would have been 1000% outside of my comfort zone three years ago (and, honestly, outside of my ability zone as well - it probably would have killed me). It felt like a great way to celebrate the changes I've experienced over the past three years. If anyone out there doubts they can make the changes necessary to succeed at this whole WLS thing, know that you can. It's not easy. It requires a ton of persistence. You have to keep making good choices every day, not just once, or even once in a while or most of the time. You will change your whole life - not just what you eat or how much, but what you do in your free time, what you think about, what you enjoy, your self-image, your identity. Everything. Here's a picture of me this morning at the end of the race.
  10. Trish, please be kinder to yourself! Assigning yourself blame isn't really fair or kind, especially if you're having mental health issues. There's no one to blame. Just work on the choices you make, and try to make it as easy on yourself as you can. I'm sure you're a great cheerleader for David - now do the same thing for yourself!
  11. You look amazing, lady! Truly gorgeous, loving life, and an inspiration to us all
  12. Great inspiration for the rest of us! Thanks for posting - you look great
  13. Exactly! When I have gotten down to "thin" previous to my WLS, I have had to spend 100% of my mental energy on avoiding food, pretending like I'm not hungry, eating one thing when I really really really want another, pushing down food thoughts, berating myself for my weakness, and just focusing on not feeling like I'm starving. I was basically starving myself and getting mad at myself for feeling starved while I was starving. And I was only ever able to keep it up for maybe a year max each time, followed by giving up and gaining weight. And feeling self-hatred and regret and embarrassment for not being able to just stick it out (forever). Now, post WLS, I just have to sort of make up my mind not to eat a thing I shouldn't. And then I don't eat it and the moment passes. I don't ever feel like I'm going to tear out my hair with needing food. People who haven't ever been an obese person on a diet really don't know what it's like to feel that way. They may think they do. And they may think they have to work hard at staying thin, but it's all relative. I kind of feel like telling an obese person to just "eat less" is like telling someone who is being deprived of oxygen to just breathe less. Everything in your being is going to fight that.
  14. Welcome and best of luck! It sounds like you've made it through the first few tough weeks OK. It gets better!
  15. This is absolutely how I feel. People who think WLS is like cheating are more interested in "punishing" overweight people for their imagined sins than in seeing overweight people get their health back. When it comes down to it, most thin people feel like they have to work pretty hard to stay thin. They feel like since they are doing it "the right way," everyone else should do it just like them and they'd be OK. They don't understand that hard work isn't the problem - many obese people work very hard and don't see success at weight loss because their bodies don't respond in the same way. They don't need punishment - they need a solution. For most obese people, WLS is simply the best (and possibly the only) solution. If we've got a perfectly good solution, why not use it?
  16. I gave up eating for Lent - that's a good one! I told very few people. Just a few family members and a few close friends. I have since told two people (who asked) that I thought might benefit from WLS. Everyone I told was supportive, particularly after seeing me drop a ton of weight and get healthy. Everyone else I just told that I am on a very low carb low calorie diet and I exercise a lot. I saw a video of CluzieL's on YouTube about how not to let conversations focus on that, and her (hilarious) advice was to get all excited about telling all about your new diet in painstaking detail, like grams of carbs vs. fat vs. protein, and what kinds of things you're avoiding, and how you weigh and measure all your food and track it on My Fitness Pal, etc, etc, etc. Most people's eyes will glaze over in about 30 seconds, and even the stronger ones will slowly back away when you start talking macronutrients and using a food scale. I would LOVE to be an ambassador for WLS, just to help de-stigmatize it, but my insecure inner fat girl could not handle that much focus on my former body size and the reasons for it. I spent 30 years agonizing over my fat, and I'm very happy to not be doing that now. I, too, started a new job a while after surgery, so most people I see every day now do not in the slightest remember I used to be heavier at all. People see stuff on Fb occasionally and are surprised. I'm not in denial, I just don't want my "before" picture to be in everyone's mind every time I talk to them. Some people are really honest, though. I salute them. They are tougher than me.
  17. Welcome! You've made it through the first three weeks, which are the tough ones. You're on the mend now and probably starting to move in the direction of normal-ish types of food, which was a huge relief for me. I wish you the best of luck on your journey.
  18. Welcome! It takes a while to get your mind to remember all the new rules, but it'll happen eventually I chugged a glass of water a few days out before I remembered not to, and it wasn't fun there for a few minutes. I was worried I'd messed something up inside! I was OK, though. Eventually these things will become either second nature or they won't be a problem anymore. I can chug water now as well as take a handful of pills if I need to - but remembering to chew things well and take small bites is a habit now.
  19. Welcome! I wish you the best on your journey!
  20. Congrats on getting your surgery date - what an interesting one! As @msmarymac said, it's worth noting that the normal outcomes for obesity aren't great, whereas the normal outcomes for WLS are excellent, and it's relatively low risk. You're buying yourself a healthier happier future to enjoy with your wife (congrats to her on the recovery). My husband was a bit freaked out by the surgery, but I don't think he'd even consider not encouraging me to go for it if he had to make that choice now. I'm a much happier person, both physically and mentally. It sounds great that you have a dietician to help you through the process. Good support will be really helpful in making the lifestyle and thought-pattern changes that you will need to make to ensure your success. I hope your surgery goes really well. Keep us posted on how you're doing during the liquid diet. You may need some words of encouragement from people here at the forum during that phase - it's a tough one, but essential for reducing the risks of the surgery.
  21. Hi Jay, and welcome. You definitely didn't gain 15 pounds of fat from surgery - it's swelling and water retention from the surgery itself. Many (most?) people report coming home from the hospital heavier than when they went in, but it goes away pretty quickly. There's nothing to worry about there. Just focus on getting the nutrition and water you need to recover well, and your body will take care of itself. Protein shakes and water - your best friends right now!
  22. Oh my goodness, it sounds like you've been through the wringer. I hope you've turned a corner and start feeling better soon. What an awful list of complications you've experienced! Gentle hugs.
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