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    Cold & flu medicine

    Zicam and Elderberry are my go tos for fighting a cold. They also make elderberry lozenges with zinc that are pretty awesome.
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    Hello!

    Welcome!
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    well damn

    How was your lifestyle when you met? Was it more similar to how it is now or did you smoke & eat like he's accustomed to? If you were healthier in the beginning and you look at it from an objective POV, over those ten years, did you both change together? There's a difference (in my mind at least) between growing apart over time and growing together, then one partner making a drastic change, even if that change is reminiscent of where you both began. Not pointing fingers at all or making excuses for perpetuating unhealthy habits. Just offering some possible food for thought.
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    well damn

    Couples counseling might be a good idea. Your normal has changed while his hasn't. Gently, your expectations might not be completely fair. Think about it in terms of another drastic life change. Say that, he suddenly decided to start going to church and became really religious. Of course he'd hope that you'd be inspired by his example and join him, but realistically, you might not be interested in changing and doing things differently. And both are valid viewpoints. Your relationship was founded on one set of circumstances as the norm and now you're doing things differently. Neither of you is in the wrong, but there's a disconnect there now that wasn't there before. Counseling might help bridge the gap. I wish you the very best and hope you can find a way to resolve this.
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    Need vitamin recommendations

    I still can't comfortably swallow most vitamins (the exception being the tiny vitamin A pills I was prescribed for a post-op deficiency). I use the Celebrate chewable multi vitamins. They're what's worked since I had my surgery and I figure if it ain't broke....I also love Rainbow Light's calcium citrate chews. And I drink Floradix when I need extra iron.
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    Well, here I am..

    Welcome Andrea!
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    DS vs RNY

    This basically sums up my experience too (other than Aussie's anatomical limitations). My surgeon didn't even present it as an option and, other than a fleeting thought as I researched all the different surgeries, I didn't really consider it. But I barely qualified for insurance to cover my surgery (BMI of 40 with no co-morbidities) and part of the reason I chose RNY was because I hoped I'd get dumping as a side effect (a negative physical reaction to sugar? Yes please! Lol) and considering how thin I am after having RNY, the extra malabsorption of DS would probably not be a good thing. @Boston Redhead it sounds like you've done your research and your doctor agrees with you about doing DS. I'm glad you've chosen the surgery that you & your doctor feel is the best one for your specific situation. Sorry there's not more people on here that you can compare notes with.
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    How soon to feel better?

    I was exhausted for about the first eight weeks or so. I needed a long nap every single day. After that, I slowly got more energy, but still need a nap if I work out really hard (even now at nearly 3 years post-op). If you're able to take more time off work or ease back in by working half days, that would probably be ideal, but ideal isn't always reality. I've found staying on top of taking my vitamins makes a huge difference. I literally burst into tears the other day because I was so exhausted. I realized I'd increased my calcium intake recently, which was probably messing with my iron absorption, plus I was deficient in B-12 last time I had my labs done. A B-12 injection and a few days of drinking Floradix and being really diligent about taking my daily vitamins made me feel much better. I know you're still early out, but just try to do the best you can with your vitamins and protein because it may help with your stamina.
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    Exercise routine

    I'd definitely encourage you to hire a personal trainer if you can swing it financially. It was honestly one of the best decisions I ever made. Having someone to not only come up with routines, but to constantly check your form is really important, particularly if you don't have a solid knowledge base in regards to exercise physiology. It's so easy to injure yourself if you don't have proper form. Plus, a trainer will likely push you harder than you would yourself or make you do exercises you wouldn't necessarily choose to do (burpees and battle ropes will never be in my voluntary repertoire, for example). And definitely take at least a couple yoga classes if you've never tried it before. Again, having a knowledgeable instructor to adjust your form is priceless, particularly when you're first learning the poses.
  10. My go to lazy meal is a turkey sandwich (1slice of whole wheat bread, turkey, cheese, avocado & veggies). I always have deli meat & sliced cheese in the fridge. I also will bake chicken and keep the leftovers in the fridge to pull out and eat cold. My other easy grab & go foods are boiled eggs & string cheese. Also, little fruit cups in juice (I drain the juice out). They're the perfect portion size. And I keep granola bars and the pre packed bags of trail mix from Costco in the car. I'm always forgetting to eat until I start feeling loopy & queasy, so having snacks in the car keeps me from going through the drive through.
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    Rice after a bypass

    Rice was one of the biggest no-no's from my doctor- she didn't want her patients to eat it for at least the first year post-op. So I avoided it for a good long while because of that. That's said, now (almost 3 years post-op) I eat rice, in pretty small amounts, on a relatively regular basis (1-2xs a week) without any problem. So, you won't necessarily have to give it up completely, or forever. And in the meantime, like CJ said, your tastes may change post-op any way.
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    Frustrated

    You're doing amazing for being 4 days post-op!!! Remember, those are your goals to aim for, not necessarily reality (especially that early out).
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    Farewell to Favorite Foods?

    All of this, but especially the bolded. I personally didn't go overboard pre-op, but I definitely made sure to eat my favorites. I can only speak for myself, but a lot of my favorite pre-op foods lost their luster post-op. I was super strict for the first two years post-op and slowly loosened the reigns in the last year. My relationship with food has changed so much post-op. Now, it's really hard (for me, at least) to eat more than a little bit of certain foods (ice cream, chips, chocolate) without feeling yucky or uncomfortable, but like Jen said, there's very few things (honestly, nothing so far) that I can't eat. There's definitely a lot of foods that I choose not to, but many more that I do eat, just in much smaller amounts. All this to say, I would encourage you to go in more with the mentality that you're taking a break from the foods to establish new habits, rather than a scarcity mindset, which could contribute to a panicked feeling of needing to eat all your favorite foods before they're gone forever. And you may find, once you embark on your post-op life, that you don't want to bring those foods back into your diet, but that'll be you choosing rather than feeling forced to cut those things out. Does that make sense?
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    Drinking Water Post-Op

    For me, I can't gulp water, especially in big amounts (over a couple ounces). That would cause massive discomfort. I still can't drink a lot of water at once. I definitely drink way less than I did pre-op, but it's never been an issue. I do try to keep water handy, but it's not a big deal if I go a couple hours without drinking. But generally, you want to be sipping pretty regularly.
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    Surely I am not meant to be able to eat this much yet!?

    When you eat that much, are you uncomfortable after? And how long does it take you to eat them? That honestly seems like a lot of food to comfortably eat when you're only two weeks post-op, but maybe that was just my experience....
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    Huge Doubts

    And freaking out is completely normal. I know I definitely had my moments of freaking out pre-op too. I think it's pretty common to have reservations before any big life change, especially when it's something "optional" like WLS.
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    Huge Doubts

    I agree with Cheesehead and Cinwa. I did lose weight on my own through low carb, low calorie diets & sooooo much exercise...and gained it back each time. I honestly believe that mimicking the post-op diet doesn't have the same results as actually having the surgery and, realistically, isn't sustainable for the vast majority of non-WLS people long term. WLS is an incredible tool. For me, I need the physical restriction, but more than that, something about having the surgery changed my body and brain chemistry. Nearly 3 years post-op, I still don't have physical hunger sensations, weight loss post-op was the most effortless weight loss I've ever experienced (once I got past the initial healing stages) and maintaining is pretty easy thus far (nearly 3 years post-op). It's literally like a switch flipped in my body. I look at my friends who are doing everything "right" and struggling to lose weight, and I feel so bad for them because, even now, if I tighten up my diet, the weight will just fall off. I can't totally explain it, but the effects of WLS went far beyond the obvious physical restriction. It's truly the best decision I've ever made and the best gift I ever could've given myself.
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    Dating with loose skin etc

    This! A thousand times over. A little anecdote for you: A while back, I dated a guy who is gorgeous. I mean, an incredible body (basically Joe Managniello's body) and just beautiful to look at (also a genuinely kind and a really sweet guy overall). And he's dated some women with (what I consider) essentially perfect bodies. Maxim models, reality tv "stars", etc. And the first time we got naked, he told me that my body was perfect and beautiful. My formally overweight, been pregnant & breastfed four kids, 39 year old body. He clearly saw something I didn't. (And, sidenote, he's also known for being super honest and not freely giving compliments unless he genuinely means them). And he doesn't see his (Adonis-like) body as anything special. Basically, we all see flaws in ourselves that other's don't. Especially when we like someone. The right guy will accept you and be attracted to you and love you and probably won't notice the flaws you see. And if he does notice, he won't care.
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    Dating with loose skin etc

    Fair enough, but I don't think that nudes would be flattering for the majority of people, whether they had WLS or not. There's a reason boudoir photo shoots are a thing. Lingerie, good lighting and the right angles along with photoshop hide a lot and make things way more flattering.
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    Dating with loose skin etc

    Right?! I've dated a fair amount post-op (including some pretty hot guys) and I've never had a guy ask for nudes. Because they weren't jerks. I can't even....The other good news is that there are plenty of incredibly attractive men who aren't superficial jerks and will be attracted to you because you're you, excess skin and all. Keep your standards high and the right guy will come along.
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    Am I the only one that is FREEZING??

    I’m cold almost all the time. Literally, on my side of the bed, I have a heated blanket and two down comforters. My boyfriend sleeps with a single blanket that he doesn’t even use half the time. And that basically sums up my life. If it’s below 65, I’m usually wearing at least two layers.
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    How long?

    I don’t remember exactly how long it took before I could see the difference in person, but one thing that helped immensely was taking full length pictures. Long before I could see a difference in the mirror, I was able to see the changes when I compared old and new pictures. Honestly, even now, I depend on pictures to provide a reality check as to my size. It takes a long time for your mind to catch up with the physical changes (lots of us on here struggle with body dysmorphia and still thinking of ourselves as much bigger than we actually are). Kind of a non-answer response, but I hope it helps. And congrats on your progress so far!
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    Is it just me that doesn't look skinny?

    It may be an old thread, but I’m betting we’re all still struggling with the same issues. No wise answers from me, I’m afraid, but I sympathize.
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    Cardamom,

    No words really, but I just wanted to send you some love. Take what you need without any guilt. We’re here to support you.
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    Weight Loss

    I was pretty exhausted for a long while after my surgery (a solid 2 months or so). It does get better, but even now, I will get wiped out and need a midday nap if I work out really hard or slack on my vitamins for a while. Just let your body heal, try to hit your protein goal and take your vitamins.