athenarose

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  1. I don't track consistently. I haven't since I had WLS. But I did weigh & measure my food until I hit goal and I'm a creature of habit (and was even more so when I was actively losing), so it was easy to figure out my daily calories. I did weigh myself every day during active weight loss and for a good six months after I got to my goal. Now I weigh myself a couple times a week, but mainly go by how my clothes fit. I have to say though, my biggest goal through all this was getting to the point where I felt normal. Obsessively tracking my food and weight doesn't feel normal (or healthy) to me. I don't want to be hyper focused on what I'm eating. When I was in the yo yo dieting cycle, I did track religiously and it constantly preoccupied my thoughts. So it was a very conscious choice on my part to not track after WLS. But that all said, I think keeping a food journal can be really helpful when you're just starting out and trying to develop new habits. It also can be eye opening to realize how many calories, carbs, etc food has if you've never paid attention to that kind of stuff.
  2. Welcome! Yeah, carbs and sweets are a really slippery slope. Good for you that you're catching yourself and doing a reset. Hopefully it'll help you refocus and get back on track.
  3. I'm not Katie (obviously), but I'm on another forum she frequents and I'm guessing she found a solution as she wound up getting pregnant and having another baby. Hopefully she'll visit here and respond. On a related (kinda TMI) note, have you tried coconut oil or a silicone based lube? They last longer than the water based ones. Just don't combine silicone-based lube with silicone toys or coconut oil with latex.
  4. Welcome! How exciting that your surgery is only a couple weeks away!
  5. I know my surgeon does self pay, but she's in Santa Barbara. I'm sure most doctors in private practice would do self pay.
  6. That reminds me- I remember watching a YouTube vlog by someone who had bypass and she talked about how she misses the overfull feeling she'd get deep in her belly when she overate pre-op. It comforted her on some level and she struggled post-op with the lack of physical sensation after eating. I can definitely see how depression would stem from having a coping mechanism (food and the associated physical & chemical reactions) taken away. This site is such a valuable resource because, as a community, we model and encourage addressing issues through therapy, self-reflection, etc and finding healthy substitutes for our former unhealthy behaviors. I also feel like this community is super realistic, sometimes to the point of bluntness when it comes to the actual realities of post-op life which can help prevent one of the struggles listed in the article. I'm so grateful for this community!!!
  7. If your multivitamin contains iron, you need to wait to take calcium since they can't be taken together and absorbed at the same time. But if it's a multivitamin without iron, you can take calcium with it. Personally, the only chewable vitamin I like happens to contain iron, so I just take my calcium separately, but that may not apply in your case. So they're both of kind of right. Does that make sense?
  8. Agreed with the above. I don't relate to that article at all. My relationship technically changed, but I had been strongly considering divorce for two years before surgery, so even though I divorced after I had surgery, it was a long time coming for reasons completely unrelated to my weight loss and WLS.
  9. Zicam and Elderberry are my go tos for fighting a cold. They also make elderberry lozenges with zinc that are pretty awesome.
  10. How was your lifestyle when you met? Was it more similar to how it is now or did you smoke & eat like he's accustomed to? If you were healthier in the beginning and you look at it from an objective POV, over those ten years, did you both change together? There's a difference (in my mind at least) between growing apart over time and growing together, then one partner making a drastic change, even if that change is reminiscent of where you both began. Not pointing fingers at all or making excuses for perpetuating unhealthy habits. Just offering some possible food for thought.
  11. Couples counseling might be a good idea. Your normal has changed while his hasn't. Gently, your expectations might not be completely fair. Think about it in terms of another drastic life change. Say that, he suddenly decided to start going to church and became really religious. Of course he'd hope that you'd be inspired by his example and join him, but realistically, you might not be interested in changing and doing things differently. And both are valid viewpoints. Your relationship was founded on one set of circumstances as the norm and now you're doing things differently. Neither of you is in the wrong, but there's a disconnect there now that wasn't there before. Counseling might help bridge the gap. I wish you the very best and hope you can find a way to resolve this.
  12. I still can't comfortably swallow most vitamins (the exception being the tiny vitamin A pills I was prescribed for a post-op deficiency). I use the Celebrate chewable multi vitamins. They're what's worked since I had my surgery and I figure if it ain't broke....I also love Rainbow Light's calcium citrate chews. And I drink Floradix when I need extra iron.
  13. This basically sums up my experience too (other than Aussie's anatomical limitations). My surgeon didn't even present it as an option and, other than a fleeting thought as I researched all the different surgeries, I didn't really consider it. But I barely qualified for insurance to cover my surgery (BMI of 40 with no co-morbidities) and part of the reason I chose RNY was because I hoped I'd get dumping as a side effect (a negative physical reaction to sugar? Yes please! Lol) and considering how thin I am after having RNY, the extra malabsorption of DS would probably not be a good thing. @Boston Redhead it sounds like you've done your research and your doctor agrees with you about doing DS. I'm glad you've chosen the surgery that you & your doctor feel is the best one for your specific situation. Sorry there's not more people on here that you can compare notes with.
  14. I was exhausted for about the first eight weeks or so. I needed a long nap every single day. After that, I slowly got more energy, but still need a nap if I work out really hard (even now at nearly 3 years post-op). If you're able to take more time off work or ease back in by working half days, that would probably be ideal, but ideal isn't always reality. I've found staying on top of taking my vitamins makes a huge difference. I literally burst into tears the other day because I was so exhausted. I realized I'd increased my calcium intake recently, which was probably messing with my iron absorption, plus I was deficient in B-12 last time I had my labs done. A B-12 injection and a few days of drinking Floradix and being really diligent about taking my daily vitamins made me feel much better. I know you're still early out, but just try to do the best you can with your vitamins and protein because it may help with your stamina.
  15. I'd definitely encourage you to hire a personal trainer if you can swing it financially. It was honestly one of the best decisions I ever made. Having someone to not only come up with routines, but to constantly check your form is really important, particularly if you don't have a solid knowledge base in regards to exercise physiology. It's so easy to injure yourself if you don't have proper form. Plus, a trainer will likely push you harder than you would yourself or make you do exercises you wouldn't necessarily choose to do (burpees and battle ropes will never be in my voluntary repertoire, for example). And definitely take at least a couple yoga classes if you've never tried it before. Again, having a knowledgeable instructor to adjust your form is priceless, particularly when you're first learning the poses.
  16. My go to lazy meal is a turkey sandwich (1slice of whole wheat bread, turkey, cheese, avocado & veggies). I always have deli meat & sliced cheese in the fridge. I also will bake chicken and keep the leftovers in the fridge to pull out and eat cold. My other easy grab & go foods are boiled eggs & string cheese. Also, little fruit cups in juice (I drain the juice out). They're the perfect portion size. And I keep granola bars and the pre packed bags of trail mix from Costco in the car. I'm always forgetting to eat until I start feeling loopy & queasy, so having snacks in the car keeps me from going through the drive through.
  17. Rice was one of the biggest no-no's from my doctor- she didn't want her patients to eat it for at least the first year post-op. So I avoided it for a good long while because of that. That's said, now (almost 3 years post-op) I eat rice, in pretty small amounts, on a relatively regular basis (1-2xs a week) without any problem. So, you won't necessarily have to give it up completely, or forever. And in the meantime, like CJ said, your tastes may change post-op any way.
  18. athenarose

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    You're doing amazing for being 4 days post-op!!! Remember, those are your goals to aim for, not necessarily reality (especially that early out).
  19. All of this, but especially the bolded. I personally didn't go overboard pre-op, but I definitely made sure to eat my favorites. I can only speak for myself, but a lot of my favorite pre-op foods lost their luster post-op. I was super strict for the first two years post-op and slowly loosened the reigns in the last year. My relationship with food has changed so much post-op. Now, it's really hard (for me, at least) to eat more than a little bit of certain foods (ice cream, chips, chocolate) without feeling yucky or uncomfortable, but like Jen said, there's very few things (honestly, nothing so far) that I can't eat. There's definitely a lot of foods that I choose not to, but many more that I do eat, just in much smaller amounts. All this to say, I would encourage you to go in more with the mentality that you're taking a break from the foods to establish new habits, rather than a scarcity mindset, which could contribute to a panicked feeling of needing to eat all your favorite foods before they're gone forever. And you may find, once you embark on your post-op life, that you don't want to bring those foods back into your diet, but that'll be you choosing rather than feeling forced to cut those things out. Does that make sense?
  20. For me, I can't gulp water, especially in big amounts (over a couple ounces). That would cause massive discomfort. I still can't drink a lot of water at once. I definitely drink way less than I did pre-op, but it's never been an issue. I do try to keep water handy, but it's not a big deal if I go a couple hours without drinking. But generally, you want to be sipping pretty regularly.