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About athenarose

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  • Birthday July 24

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    Farida Bounoua
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    Santa Barbara Cottage Hospital
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  • Surgery Type
    Gastric Bypass

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  1. I don't track consistently. I haven't since I had WLS. But I did weigh & measure my food until I hit goal and I'm a creature of habit (and was even more so when I was actively losing), so it was easy to figure out my daily calories. I did weigh myself every day during active weight loss and for a good six months after I got to my goal. Now I weigh myself a couple times a week, but mainly go by how my clothes fit. I have to say though, my biggest goal through all this was getting to the point where I felt normal. Obsessively tracking my food and weight doesn't feel normal (or healthy) to me. I don't want to be hyper focused on what I'm eating. When I was in the yo yo dieting cycle, I did track religiously and it constantly preoccupied my thoughts. So it was a very conscious choice on my part to not track after WLS. But that all said, I think keeping a food journal can be really helpful when you're just starting out and trying to develop new habits. It also can be eye opening to realize how many calories, carbs, etc food has if you've never paid attention to that kind of stuff.
  2. Welcome! Yeah, carbs and sweets are a really slippery slope. Good for you that you're catching yourself and doing a reset. Hopefully it'll help you refocus and get back on track.
  3. I'm not Katie (obviously), but I'm on another forum she frequents and I'm guessing she found a solution as she wound up getting pregnant and having another baby. Hopefully she'll visit here and respond. On a related (kinda TMI) note, have you tried coconut oil or a silicone based lube? They last longer than the water based ones. Just don't combine silicone-based lube with silicone toys or coconut oil with latex.
  4. Welcome! How exciting that your surgery is only a couple weeks away!
  5. I know my surgeon does self pay, but she's in Santa Barbara. I'm sure most doctors in private practice would do self pay.
  6. That reminds me- I remember watching a YouTube vlog by someone who had bypass and she talked about how she misses the overfull feeling she'd get deep in her belly when she overate pre-op. It comforted her on some level and she struggled post-op with the lack of physical sensation after eating. I can definitely see how depression would stem from having a coping mechanism (food and the associated physical & chemical reactions) taken away. This site is such a valuable resource because, as a community, we model and encourage addressing issues through therapy, self-reflection, etc and finding healthy substitutes for our former unhealthy behaviors. I also feel like this community is super realistic, sometimes to the point of bluntness when it comes to the actual realities of post-op life which can help prevent one of the struggles listed in the article. I'm so grateful for this community!!!
  7. If your multivitamin contains iron, you need to wait to take calcium since they can't be taken together and absorbed at the same time. But if it's a multivitamin without iron, you can take calcium with it. Personally, the only chewable vitamin I like happens to contain iron, so I just take my calcium separately, but that may not apply in your case. So they're both of kind of right. Does that make sense?
  8. Agreed with the above. I don't relate to that article at all. My relationship technically changed, but I had been strongly considering divorce for two years before surgery, so even though I divorced after I had surgery, it was a long time coming for reasons completely unrelated to my weight loss and WLS.
  9. Zicam and Elderberry are my go tos for fighting a cold. They also make elderberry lozenges with zinc that are pretty awesome.
  10. How was your lifestyle when you met? Was it more similar to how it is now or did you smoke & eat like he's accustomed to? If you were healthier in the beginning and you look at it from an objective POV, over those ten years, did you both change together? There's a difference (in my mind at least) between growing apart over time and growing together, then one partner making a drastic change, even if that change is reminiscent of where you both began. Not pointing fingers at all or making excuses for perpetuating unhealthy habits. Just offering some possible food for thought.
  11. Couples counseling might be a good idea. Your normal has changed while his hasn't. Gently, your expectations might not be completely fair. Think about it in terms of another drastic life change. Say that, he suddenly decided to start going to church and became really religious. Of course he'd hope that you'd be inspired by his example and join him, but realistically, you might not be interested in changing and doing things differently. And both are valid viewpoints. Your relationship was founded on one set of circumstances as the norm and now you're doing things differently. Neither of you is in the wrong, but there's a disconnect there now that wasn't there before. Counseling might help bridge the gap. I wish you the very best and hope you can find a way to resolve this.