Michael_A

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About Michael_A

  • Rank
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  • Birthday 09/21/1974

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  • Gender
    Male
  • Location
    Alaska
  • Interests
    I'm an IT guy, so gadgets and electronics to a certain extent. I play the piano. I'm raising 5 kids, ages 4 yo to 14 yo.
  • Age
    42

Information

  • Height (ft-in)
    5-06
  • Start Weight
    275
  • Current Weight
    171
  • Goal Weight
    170
  • Surgery Date
    11/10/2017
  • Surgery Type
    Gastric Bypass
  • Surgeon
    Ellner

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  1. Michael_A

    Drinking water

    I'm a year out and can't drink plain water, except for sips here and there. It makes me sick to my stomach. I have a cup or two a day of decaf (I don't drink anything caffeinated) and then my water bottle is filled with water and some Crystal Light flavor enhancer. Strawberry lemonade is my favorite but I'll use blackberry if I can't find strawberry.
  2. Michael_A

    Am I the only one that is FREEZING??

    YES
  3. Michael_A

    Am I the only one that is FREEZING??

    A year ago, before WLS surgery I always kept the house at 67 (!!!!!) because I was always so hot, that's were it was comfortable. I'm in Alaska so, long winter. Also I have a clip-on fan next to the piano that I play at church every Sunday, and used it every time I sat down there. Now one year after surgery, the house is at 72 in the winter and the fan at the piano never gets used by me. I also bought a heated jacket to layer under my bigger jacket, because yes I am ALWAYS cold now.
  4. Michael_A

    The smaller chair

    Good for you, there's definitely some karma there!
  5. Michael_A

    The smaller chair

    I always sit in the smaller chair now.... because I can.
  6. I know you're sore and feeling confused. But first, are you getting enough liquid? That's the number one cause of constipation or poor BM's. Drink drink drink. Like @Aussie Bear said, second add some Benefiber to your water to help your body actually have something to push out. I left the hospital with a drain tube, that was removed at 7 days. After that, it took a good 3 weeks or better for it heal up and stop draining and oozing. You have a lot of support here , ask all your questions :-)
  7. Michael_A

    Hi guys

    I know it will be hard to take in or internalize, but try to take it from someone who's objective -- You did the most loving thing that you could have done for that poor creature by giving her some peace. I know how you feel, I come from a family with lots of dogs around all the time. Sounds like you are in the right mental place for getting a little more focused on your weight or eating habits. Give yourself some room and time to breathe :-) A few small changes, here and there, will see you back on track. Sending peaceful thoughts your way :-)
  8. Michael_A

    Five years

    @Res Ipsa-- I agree with everything you said :-) Thanks for being a solid example of a successful post-WLS life.
  9. Michael_A

    Life is just so much better

    It's a good busy :-) You look amazing! Great work.
  10. Michael_A

    Life is just so much better

    Thanks CJ :-) I did see yours and Austin's pics when you all posted them. Good to see that you guys are making the (original) November Newbies group look good!!
  11. Michael_A

    Life is just so much better

    Congrats on your decision to pursue WLS! I made the mistake once of "encouraging" someone here to not bail out on their surgery plans, when they were getting cold feet at the last minute. I won't do it again because I think that you have to really want the change that WLS can bring- regardless of the obstacles or feelings. Smelly farts couldn't have kept me away from WLS because I badly wanted it, and I knew WHY I wanted it. Nothing was going to deter me. Plus, they make fart deodorizing pills that you can buy on Amazon :-) So maybe I'm the wrong person to be asking advice from lol, because I think if you can be swayed easily by (what seem to me to be) fairly small fears and worries, then maybe you don't want the surgery badly enough. But also I know at times I'm not very empathetic, so I'm sorry if that's how I'm coming across now. You said it though-- eyes on the prize. With determination. Only you can decide which surgery is right for you. Gastric bypass was the option for me because I had Type 2 diabetes and gastric bypass almost always and instantly eliminates it. Plus I just wanted the surgery that was a little more aggressive --- restriction AND malabsorption. I can't tell you which to choose, but my opinion (and it's free, so take it for what it's worth) is that if you are being honest with your posted current weight, then you don't weight nearly enough for the DS. The DS is the most aggressive WLS there is and you can easily meet your weight loss goals with the sleeve or gastric bypass. IF your head is in the game. Sleeve is only restriction, and weight loss is slower than with gastric bypass (or DS). Also it has a high rate of causing acid reflux/ GERD after surgery. BUT only a part of your stomach is altered, and you can drink normally and with meals. GB alters the stomach and intestines. There's no gerd complication with it but for the rest of your life you'll have to pay attention to not drinking while you eat, because the part in your stomach that usually regulates that, gets bypassed. Keeping up with your vitamin supplementation is more important for bypass than sleeve. Continue to read through through the forum and ask questions, and you will begin to get a good feel for what is right for you.
  12. Michael_A

    Life is just so much better

    Honestly, I could just stop there and be happy expressing that sentiment. It's been a year since my surgery. I had to pursue it for a couple years before it finally happened, and my surgeon had me on a liver-shrinking diet for most of the 10 months pre-op, so I lost probably 75% of the weight I wanted to, pre-op. Ha ha I got to the Maintenance Cafe reaallly quickly. Once I got my bearings and got used to life with gastric bypass, I quit posting here because it had taken me so long to get the surgery and I had so many ups and downs getting there, I just needed to step away for a while and not be so deep in the community, and just live for a bit without all the extra voices in my days. I've still checked in on the place every week or two and been loosely following how everyone is doing. The last few years leading up to my surgery were pretty dark for me. Being very obese was a huge factor in that. I hated the way I looked, the clothes I had to wear, I hated that I was the fattest dad at my kids' events. I hated that I was diabetic and had all these medications I had to take all the time for high blood pressure, diabetes, cholesterol etc. Ibuprofen every single day. Just my life and the way I had to live was really depressing. I can honestly say that I have lived more life in the last 8 months, than I have in probably the last 10 years. I feel SOOOO much better about myself. The "young" old guy that was inside of me (I'm 44 but feel like I'm 25) has come out in full force now. I used to wear the lamest, most boring clothes. Always the same thing almost every day- huge black slacks that I had to use suspenders for, black nondescript casual shoes and a button up shirt. I hated the outfit, but it was what I could get fairly easily and it wasn't awful looking. But that's not who I was on the inside. The real me wears nice blue or black or tan or navy 36 waist jeans every day now, usually with a nerdy graphic tee of some kind and a nice zip up jacket or hoodie. And, I have got a good collection of Chuck Taylors going now. I love them lol. Me and my 14-year old daughter definitely have it in common. This summer we rented a motor home and took a very cool family vacation to Seward. My kids are 14, 13, 8, 6, and 4. It was amazingly beautiful. First time I've really even been in a motor home. I have a friend there who is getting ready to build a house, and had a piece of land cleared with a driveway graveled in. We stayed there for four nights and it couldn't have been more perfect. We brought a fire pit with us, and had a fire every night, tucked deep into beautiful forest. We toured the area, went on hikes and I chopped wood. We've done a lot around our own town as well. More than I personally have done in a decade. Just random activities, fun runs, biking. Things that I would normally have just stayed home. One reason for for my overall feeling of wellness I'm sure is that I'm off almost all the medications. I don't think we realize how much that stuff eats into our lives, one pill at a time. Headaches, pains, aches, sadness and depressions, CAUSED by the things that we take to fix OTHER problems, in my case obesity related. I do not pay attention to protein at all, which is something I definitely never saw coming. My very first labs at only 4 weeks out, my surgeon told me to stop protein drinks because my protein levels were pretty close to the high end. Since then I do not supplement protein at all and my numbers are always a bit high. My surgeon is pretty aggressive about labs and I've had 4 sets since surgery (my one-year labs I'll get drawn next week). She's not overly worried about it, because otherwise my labs are stellar and so we're just keeping an eye on it. I do have to be cautious not to get dehydrated though. It's a bad combination with high protein. My pouch works marvelously and I am so happy with that aspect of my life now. Yes sometimes I don't stop soon enough and get to the painful/sick part, but I find it all empowering to be honest. It is such a badge of honor to me to finally be at a place where I put a little bit of food on a saucer and I know it will do the job! I usually have some eggs and sausage for breakfast, or I skip breakfast and have lunch instead. I met my wife today for lunch at the hospital cafeteria and had some green beans with butter on them, and some cooked roast beef. Probably 6 oz food total. And split 1/2 a cookie with my wife. I will probably have a snack later in the evening, often a sugar free Jello pudding, or some smoked cheese (I love it so much, I make my own now!!) or broccoli with butter. I'm addicted to broccoli with butter right now :-) We were just in Anchorage for a few days and my family loves IHOP. My routine is that my wife cuts off a small piece of her omelette and I have that and steal 1/2 of someone's pancake or something. I simply love the way I eat now. I absolutely don't judge anyone around me eating "normal" plates and portions, but honestly, for my own self, I feel blessed to be liberated from them. Those portions were what I lived for. I could ramble on for a lot longer so I'll stop. I guess I could sum up my life right now by saying here, at the one year mark, my life is mostly everything that I wished it could be, for the last many years. A ton of that I'm sure is that I feel so much better about myself. I feel better in my relationships with other men because I feel like I'm more of a bro now instead of a plump outsider to bro culture. I feel better about myself as a dad because I can do tons of dad things now that I didn't or couldn't before. I feel better as a husband because I think I'm a lot nicer guy now and much more at peace with myself. And sex is sooo much better. Anyways, winter is here now in my land so life is slowing down for now and I'll be around a little more. "Slow" is maybe relative though, with 4 kids in school and number 5 starting next year lol.
  13. Michael_A

    What should I do at noon today?

    This is the painful truth. Once it's out, you have no control over what someone else does with it, what light they share the information in, etc. 10000% agree.
  14. Michael_A

    5 weeks in and struggling

    Yes just for some comparison, I wasn't allowed to have any kind of meat until at least 3 months. The only thing I could have before that was scrambled egg and thin-sliced lean deli meat. The lunch meat never really sat well with me at all and I didn't try eating any more at all really until many more months down the road.
  15. Michael_A

    5 weeks in and struggling

    There's no rule that says you have to advance your foods on a schedule. You can definitely go back for a bit to things that were easier to tolerate. What kind of foods are you eating now, that you are calling soft foods?