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About Jabsie

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  • Surgeon
    Dr. Namir Katkhouda
  • Hospital
    USC - Keck Medical Center
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  • Surgery Type
    Vertical Sleeve

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  1. I lost my dad tonight

    My heart is breaking for you and your family. I am so very sorry about your loss. Please know that I'm thinking good thoughts for you.
  2. 1 week since surgery....

    A lot of people report going through a period of mourning after surgery. Perhaps you're experiencing this on some level as well. Regardless, try and cut yourself some slack and put a pause button on weather or not you got the surgery for the right reasons or not until after you get through this period. You might feel very differently when you're cleared to go to a full diet, your body has healed, and life with your new baby stomach is more normalized. The lens you're looking through right now is clouded by a whole bunch of things. Many many people experience sadness and depression post-op. With rapid weight loss your system is flooded with hormones that cause depression. For many of us, eating was our go-to coping mechanism for...well...everything. With that no longer an option, you may be feeling things more intensely than you did in the past. It's also really hard to be happy when you're in pain and fatigued. I so appreciate your honesty. This is really hard stuff. We're here for you.
  3. Already struggling.....

    I did a year of research about surgery before I made the decision to proceed with it. During this time I came across some interesting post-op statistics. It appears that there are 4 common correlations among those who regain all or a substantial amount of their weight. They are as follows: Untreated childhood trauma, sexual abuse in particular (never getting professional help). This is the strongest indicator and is true for obesity as well as addiction in general. Not keeping up with doctors appointments both immediately and long term post-op. Failure to accept responsibility for behaviors that lead to obesity and seeing surgery as a cure rather than a tool. Living with persons (family in particular) that do not support a patient's lifestyle changes, actively engage in unhealthy eating behaviors, or attempt to sabotage the patient's efforts. An analogy might be trying to quit smoking when you live with smokers that have no desire or willingness to quit smoking. Just because people may fall into one of the above risk factors doesn't mean they can't be successful. They absolute can and do.
  4. Already struggling.....

    I didn't have the same experience as you. I had no desire to eat and no cravings. It didn't matter what was being cooked in my house, it had zero affect on me. I didn't expect my husband to follow the same protocol I had been prescribed, but I did expect for him not to engage in behavior around me that could make my work more challenging. Although it is unfair to ask someone not eat something just because you can't, it is totally fair to ask them to not do it around you. The hard part for me what that I missed chewing. I also got super sick of things that tasted sweet. Shakes, clear drinks, etc...I was completely over it! Hang in there. Before you know it, this part of the process will be a distant memory and you'll enjoy life with your new baby stomach and smaller body :-)
  5. What a great topic to come across today. I'm having similar challenges. Coming out of surgery it was the very first time in my life I had no appetite and the desire for food just wasn't there. No cravings, no temptations, no 'fighting the hunger'. It was a completely foreign experience for me because I could never remember a time that I didn't want to eat. It was glorious.....and short lived. At about 2 and a half years out, I'm finding both the need to eat (physical hunger) and the desire to eat (head hunger) have increased. I've gained a little weight back and am finding it harder than ever to lose it. To boot, I've gone on a new medication that can cause weight gain. I didn't go through all of this for nothing and the good news is, I'm restarting my efforts not at the bottom of the mountain but just a few steps from the top. I started the 5 day pouch test today in the hopes it will kick-start the process. I'll let you all know how I make out. In the interim, I'd love to hear some helpful feedback from everyone.
  6. Relationship Trouble?

    Most of us worry about how our weight loss will change our relationships. Many folks on the other side of WLS will tell you that the issues they had with their partner didn't disappear after, or because of, their surgery. In many cases their weight loss magnified their relationship issues. Your lifestyle and priorities will change dramatically post op. The fact that your GF is able speak honestly about her insecurities is a very good thing. Saying that your weight loss won't change things between you and your GF is a really nice thing to say but I suspect you both know this is not true. With a physical transformation also comes an emotional one and this can be challenging to traverse within a relationship. Rather than saying your weight loss won't change things, perhaps try some of these: My body may change post op but my principles will not. I'm not sure how I will change after surgery or how others will react to those changes, but I do know that I love you. What I'm about to do is going to be very hard. I can't think of anyone better to help me get through it than you. Your support means the world to me. I have no control over other people's behavior but I can promise you that I will never give you a reason to distrust me. I'm so sorry you're feeling scared and sad about this. What can I do to help? Here's the good news; you guys are talking about it. There's a lot of people who are not able to do that. Instead they act jealous and even try to sabotage the efforts of their partners. My hubby and I went to couples counseling before my surgery to work through some of the issues that could be compounded by the changes the surgery would bring to my life. I am so glad we did. It made a HUGE difference and even 2 years out, we're still experiencing the benefits of it. My best advice; try your best to keep ahead of this. Continue to talk about things ahead of time. Best of luck!
  7. dry mouth....bad breath....

    Yup, this ^
  8. Maintenance Time

    Awww yes...hip bones :-) Congrats my friend!
  9. I'm alive!!!!

    Happy to hear! Congrats!
  10. Little surprise victories...

    1 Toilet, 1 bowling ball, 1 chihuahua, and 4 guinea pigs.
  11. People range from genuine concern, to curious, to nosy. There isn't much that can be done about that. Just do you, be as tight lipped as necessary, and move forward. You'll have a new life after your surgery so there'll be lots of positive things to focus on. On a separate note, if you shared something with your supervisor in confidence and they shared something with others you specifically asked them not to, this is a problem. I'd recommend talking to them asap, make sure they understand that you are very private about this, and stress to him/her that they respect respect and maintain that privacy.
  12. Learning Still

    So sorry to hear that you had to go through that as a child. It sounds like you have a rock at home which can really help a lot. Best of luck to you.
  13. Do you take body measurements on top of weighing yourself? With the amount of heavy lifting you're doing you could be putting on muscle AND losing fat. I too am a fan of weight training and noticed, especially early out, that there were weeks where I lost inches but not pounds. If you see no change on the scale but do in your body measurements, this would be a good indication that you are indeed losing fat. I'm 2 years out too and doing my best to fight the good fight too :-) Best of luck.
  14. How much protein?

    It depends on a few things like how much you exercise and your age and gender but my nutritionist says 60g is the standard for adult women.
  15. Well that didn't go well....

    I know fun and that sounds nothing like it!