The first day i met my BF he told me his whole relationship history.....including how his ex that he cant stand had WLS, how she lied about having it, and shamed people who had it. i didn't expect our relationship to go any further or get serious, so i declined to speak on having WLS myself. i was not ashamed, but just didn't feel the need to tell him since he already had a negative association with it. after our first date i realized he had already fell in love and i knew i had to tell him. it was eating me alive...i just didn't know how to tell him. would he think im a liar? what else am i hiding? Am i just like his ex? so i decided to imply that i think it best to just be friends. he asked why and i told him. he said that he didn't have a problem with WLS its just that his ex lied about so much, and that he felt like if she would have gotten sick he would have had to take care of her, and after taking care of his mother until she died was too much for him. he said he should be able to decide if he wants to be in that situation again, and her lying about it didn't give him the choice. long story short we've been together for 3 months...he is my superman and loves me just as much if not more.