Res Ipsa

Thankfully, my wonderful wife was and remains very supportive of my decision to have a gastric bypass. That having been said, many people here at TTF have had less than supportive spouses or boyfriends/girlfriends. What is important for you to remember is why you are having the surgery and if that reason makes sense to you then you should not let anyone stop you from doing what is right for you. I had my weight loss surgery because I wanted to be able to live much longer so that I could see my two sons grow up and (hopefully get married and have children). I lost all of my excess weight about 9 months after my surgery and have kept it off ever since. I feel healthy, happy, energized and so much more alive. My only regret is that I did not have the surgery earlier. As I am a guy, I can tell you that guys really fear change in our lives. When things are going well, guys do not want to change anything for fear that it will destroy what is going well. Your boyfriend may fear that your surgery could change your relationship with him. However, the good news is that any person that is worth being with will eventually support your decisions on how to live your life (including whether to have weight loss surgery). If your boyfriend cannot support your weight loss surgery decision, then maybe he is not the right person for you. It is your life and your right to make the important decisions in your life. There are some wonderful articles on weight loss surgery here (posted by the very wise @Jen581791) that might convince him (and you) on why to have weight loss surgery: There also have been many postings over the years in the Emotional Support board at TTF that may be helpful for you - for example this one: And this one: And this one: We are here to support you.

Be sure to let us know when Papa Trish's cookies are available to buy outside New York state - they are yummy (but, of course, are only for those of us on maintenance who do not dump from eating a cookie - like me! ). In response to your question, I am doing very well living in rural northeastern Vermont after leaving my life in Boston. l greatly enjoy the much slower, more friendly and less stressful pace of life up here, plus no traffic jams! My 5 month old Seamus (a golden retriever) is well over 50 pounds of pure sweetness and love. He gives me great joy.

Great news about Papa Trish! Does this mean that he is out of the cookie selling business?

Great news!

Welcome! We are here to support and inform you on your weight loss surgery journey. Can you share with us why you have chosen the gastric sleeve over the gastric bypass?

As usual, I totally agree with the comments here at TTF by @msmarymac. I have always hated going to the gym, running or other forms of "exercise." I know that if I forced myself to exercise, I would stop doing it after a few weeks - that is just the way that I am. So instead I get my daily exercise by lots of walking and by leading an active lifestyle. It really is important for long term health to keep your body moving as much as possible.

Congratulation on your five years of success!! You look great.

Your weight loss success is both amazing and inspirational. Thank you so much for sharing the photos.

Have a great trip! Being able to have an an active lifestyle is one of the wonderful benefits of weight loss surgery.

Great job so far! However, this has got to be some of the worst NUT advice for a two month post-op bariatric surgery patient that I have ever heard of - "My nutritionist recommended a meal plan with plenty of carbs, including mash potatoes, pasta, rice." The normal post-op diet (that I and many others have followed with great success) after a sleeve or a gastric bypass is detailed in this guide from one of the best hospitals in Boston: https://www.tuftsmedicalcenter.org/-/media/Brochures/TuftsMC/Patient-Care-Services/Departments-and-Services/Weight-and-Wellness-Center/GBP-Diet-Manual12611.ashx?la=en&hash=29F5FC8CE082A84BBD66A46335C50C23B8042A29

The New York Times just published an article on a recent medical study that observed that bariatric surgery may significantly reduce the risks of strokes, heart attacks, heart failure and kidney disease, in addition to being the preferred treatment of Type 2 diabetes. Wow. I have not read the study itself, but maybe @BurgundyBoy and other medical professionals here at TTF can give us all their thoughts on it. The NYT article is here: https://www.nytimes.com/2019/09/02/health/bariatric-surgery-heart-attack.html Since the link to the article may not work for long, the introductory paragraphs of the NYT article are as follows: Every year, hundreds of thousands of obese Americans undergo weight-loss surgery in a last-ditch effort to shed pounds and control their Type 2 diabetes. Now a new study suggests that bariatric surgery may also have other significant health benefits, cutting the overall risk of serious cardiovascular events and premature death by almost half. The study, published in the medical journal JAMA on Monday, is not definitive. Though it compared the long-term outcomes of about 2,300 bariatric surgery patients with some 11,500 closely matched patients who had not undergone surgery, it was an observational study, not a randomized controlled trial of the kind considered the gold standard in medicine. But the findings were so striking that an editorial accompanying the paper suggested that weight-loss surgery, rather than medications, should be the preferred treatment for Type 2 diabetes in certain patients with obesity. “The new information here is the ability of bariatric surgery to control macrovascular events like strokes, heart attacks, heart failure and kidney disease,” not just improve weight and diabetes control, said Dr. Edward H. Livingston, the editorial’s author. “That’s a big deal.”

Wow - she is so very cute! Thank you for the update.

I am sorry that you are having such a rough time. What is the problem that resulted in you being in the hospital? At this point you should be focused on drinking enough liquids and eating enough protein. Sadly, graham crackers are not a wise meal choice since they are low in protein. Hang in there - it will get better and life at your goal weight is much healthier and more enjoyable. We are here to support you.

You look great!!!

Welcome, on a belated basis, to the losers bench. You are doing great!