Claire-in-Texas

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  1. And YOU are awesome!!! Congratulations!
  2. Yes! Had a lovely time in Las Vegas! It was a convention for Paparazzi Jewelry with a lot of R & R before and after! My suggestion to you is that you try not to analyze and think about how it will be after your surgery. You have no idea how you will feel, and it will be very different than anything you have experienced in the past. I suggest, for best results, to embrace it, accept it, and move forward with it. Take it as it comes. Follow your guidelines. It is really that simple. We humans tend to complicate things, but that's the best advice I can give you. It's right around the corner for you! How fabulous and exciting! Best, Claire
  3. Hello Sunny! Please accept my apology for the long delay. I was in Las Vegas for almost two weeks, and I didn't look at my email! Shame on me! You raise a very good question. The honeymoon period is the period of time where your limited intake, and slow return to various foods (based on your doc's recommendations) cause you to start over again with habits. We have obviously had very poor ones, and this is the way the tool allows us to spend months developing far better habits (assuming we don't push the envelope). It is almost 10 years since my surgery. I weigh the same, give or take 3 or 4 pounds at any given time. Over the two weeks I was in Las Vegas, for business and pleasure, my mind and stomach caused me to seek out my beloved yogurt and fruit, chili, grilled hamburger without bun, etc. I had a scoop of ice cream during that time, and that was fine (no guilt), but I resumed my good food eating after that. As obsessed as I had been for decades about eating and eating, now I enjoy eating like a normal person, BECAUSE I ALLOWED MY EATING HABITS TO CHANGE OVER TIME. I am not suggesting you have only yogurt and fruit, chili, etc. What I am saying is that the food I found that was delicious and satisfying during the honeymoon period, remained with me. I have no idea when the end of that period was for me. It is a transition period. I slowed down weight loss after about 9 months, completed 130 lbs of total weight loss in 13 months. Here is the important thing to remember. We hear a lot about people gaining the weight back after this type of surgery. Keep in mind that the failure (a huge percent of the time) is in the human's desire to push the envelope, and not the tool. So therefore, go forward with tunnel vision, accepts that it works, and follow your guidelines to the letter Your slim and healthy body will thank you, and you will look wonderful! Best, Claire
  4. Excellent commentaries and educational information. Claire
  5. Hello, Gabriella! I'm just seeing your post, way past Thanksgiving! I'm not far behind you at 75, and I congratulate you on taking this journey. The older one gets, the more difficult the decision You have an excellent mind set, and you will continue to do well because of it. Best, Claire
  6. Hello, and I'm so glad you reached out! From my experience (going on 9 years post op), the best thing you can do for yourself is to find a weight loss surgery group somewhere near you. If your surgeon has one, that would be the best. Even if it means traveling a distance, it will be worth it. You sound very alone in this process, and you will get relief from being with people of like minds and interests. Second, I suggest you go to a nutritionist to discuss your concerns on a personal level. It is so worth it - it gave me a clear road to follow, and I am still at my lowest weight. I still follow the nutritionist's guidelines - they were very explicit. If your surgeon has one in his/her practice, that is the one to go to. If not, perhaps they can refer you to one. If you have already seen one, visit her/him again. Speaking for myself, it is not possible to determine whether you are on the right track with your food or not. And keep in mind this is a mental battle just as much as a physical one. If you FEEL out of control, you likely are (my opinion). I wish you the very best! Claire
  7. Molly, you are so very welcome - and I do think that you and I are indeed very similar in perspective. Maybe I'm just more used to it, with all the passage of time. Best, Claire
  8. Molly, I agree totally! Your perspective was mine exactly after 2 years or so post op. Now, at past 8 years post op, and at my lowest weight (the best weight for me), my perspective is a bit different. As I look back, I realize how we humans tend to complicate tasks, easy and difficult ones. I agree this is an overwhelming task at first - a trauma to the body and the mind. BUT At first I put blinders on, had tunnel visions. A food addict all of my life, with yoyo dieting, I saw this as my last chance, at 67 (I'm now 75). What the first year did for me - it caused me to form habits that would cause me to lose weight, and then maintain it. I was determined. It was the most difficult thing I have ever done, for sure. After the first year, I was still a bit shaky, and so focused on what I ate that I made myself and everyone else crazy. Over time that softened (at least it appears so - I'm still relentlous).. Eight years post op, it's just who/what I am. My message here is that we tend to over analyze and become paralyzed and so stressed in this journey. It's only natural. I totally agree with you, Molly, that it isn't about going off the wagon and then dieting like crazy. Here is what I do. I go "off the wagon" in a calculated way. For example, I had Chinese Food (yes, the fried kind) recently. The next day I simply went back to my normal eating habits. I never even thought about "dieting"- I just started to do what I do as far as food inake that I normally do. Never diet. That's what normal for me. That is what thin people do. And to consider myself with the mindset of a "thin person" is unbelievable for me, a lifelong foodaholic. So here it is - take each day, one at a time. Follow guidelines. Drink lots of water. Laugh a lot. Reach out to others (sometimes people who didn't know you obese are better than those who judged you before). Surround yourself with positive people, people who encourage you. Express gratitude for the opportunity that this tool has given you. AND DON'T OVERTHINK. And one more thing...yesterday is GONE. Today and the future are what matters. It's not too late. For the lovely lady who is in so much pain who recently posted, my heart goes out to you. And I agree that professonal help is called for. With compassion, Claire
  9. I don't know if I mentioned this here on T-T, but I'm a Certified Master Life Coach, and my mind went to my professional self when I read this post. You don't have to answer t his, of course, but I'm interested to know how this thread is helping you. I am so sorry that you are feeling such despair. C.
  10. Karina, I feel your pure JOY! I remember feeling this - I remember it very well. I still feel it to a degree. It truly is a joyful experience when you simply "get it." And when you "get it" now, you will definitely evolve to a comfortable life style change. Your powerful tool of gastric bypass will assist you and guide you, since you "get" what it is all about. It's new now, and it will evolve to good eating habits! I don't get on the scale often, but when I do, I pat myself on the back - I am so happy that I am a recovering food addict, a successful one! You go, girl!!! Best, Claire
  11. Thank you for your kind words, Jo. In my opinion, giving yourself permission to go off the plan, even a little bit, at your stage, is failure waiitng to happen. Yes, I truly believe that. The stricter you are with what you eat, the stronger your good eating habits will be, and that is GOLD for your permanent success. Keep in mind that losing weight is the "easy" part. Keeping it off is a whole different ball game, and much harder. It is the HABIT that makes for a successful journey. Look for substitutes of food that you love. I love frozen yogurt, low calorie, protein enriched. Yummy. That's my go-to treat, and it is common for me to go to it more than once a day. Just an example. My own yardstick is calorie counting, and I know by heart the number of calories in the items I eat - combined with the nutritional/protein value. My habits changed 8 years ago - now there are tons of new items on shelves that are wonderful substitutes. Best of luck on this fabulous journey! Claire
  12. You are so very welcome!!! You will never DIET again. You are changing your eating lifestyle. It's life-changing! Best, Claire
  13. You are very welcome, and I'm so glad this thread is a tool for you! I wish you the very best as you begin new habits that will become regular habits and evolve to a more enjoyable lifestyle. I have to add something here of my own journey. I thought my clothes were a bit tight, and I got on the scale (which I seldom do), and YIKES, I saw that I had gained 7 lbs. I realized that I was just eating too much of the right things - no junk, just portions, obviously that were too big! I knew exactly what I had to do. I reverted back to the basics, and those 7 lbs were gone in 3 days, plus a half pound. It's an education in eating. And as I have said many times, here and elsewhere, I have never felt deprived. Best, Claire
  14. Mike, you can do this! I had gastric bypass, too! Your food intake will be drastically restricted, and you will have that wonderful opportunity to start totally new habits. You will be like a baby going from formula on to regular food. It's the same process. The key to ultimate success on this journey-without-destination is to utilize this period, the honeymoon period. to form different and better habits. Then, when normal type hunger kicks in, and it will, you will be able to just continue what you have been doing. That is the key to keeping the weight off. Please let us know your progress, and the best of luck on this wonderful journey! Best, Claire
  15. Hello, Chris, and welcome to the forum! I hope you find it to be another tool in your tool box as you travel your weight loss journey. To answer your question, the Honeymoon Period is the 6 to 12 months period immediately following weight loss surgery (regardless of which procedure you had). It is the time to change and build your new eating and lifestyle habits. This is the 23 page of this thread, and I encourage you to go back to the very first page, and my first post, which explains my spin on it after many years post op. Congratulations and best wishes as you travel this journey without destination. There is no destination, really, because getting the weight off is just the beginning. Keeping it off is the journey I refer to. This is the perfect time for you to embrace the journey, and I encourage you to read the posts throughout this thread in the hope it will help to guide you. Best regards, Claire
  16. See the entire details above.... I love this!!! Thank you for such a valuable contribution!!! I just noticed that there is a message for me on this forum that was sent to me in February! How dreadful that I just saw it! If you would like to have a conversation with me, email me at clairepeters@sbcglobal.net. I would love to hear from you! Just to show you that I am imperfect, I see that I have gained 4 lbs. Good to know. Now I go back to my original baseline of eating. It's a relief to have one (established during the honeymoon period). Claire
  17. I totally agree with this post. Superb response. Sometimes we get too much information, and that information is not always complete when it is second hand. And sometimes we over-think situaitons and advice. I followed my nutritionist's and surgeon's instruction to the letter. I didn't want to re-invent the wheel! Very good questions, though, and I'm glad they were posted here.
  18. Saguaro68, this thread is for YOU. Please read it, read responses and concerns. The best to you, Claire
  19. How cool is this!!! Great ideas I am going to embrace, for sure!!! C!!!! xoxox
  20. I have an idea... How about listing the substitutions you use, such as we have been talking about. Here are some of mine. A sweet potatoe - nutritious, low in calories, I even enjoy it cold. 100 calories snacks - found in the cookies/crackers section Protein cookies - found in the health section of supermarket with the protein shakes Fiber One little cakes - 90 calories and yummy Sugar Free pudding in individual cups, 90 calories. Blueberries, cup I never ever counted carbs. Nothing wrong with doing that, I just didn't. My yardstick has always been protein and calories. Who else wants to give us ideas for substitutions? - A list! Claire
  21. Here is a HOT subject: DEPRIVATION If you feel deprived as you go through your honeymoon period (or any period on this journey), then you are still in the "diet" mindset. In order to get away from "diet," and on to "new food lifestyle," it is necessary to let go of the whole DEPRIVATION thinking. It is absolutely normal to drool when you see someone eating a cookie that you love, a piece of pie, etc. That is the moment that deprivation sets in (if it is going to set in at all). Here is my spin on that. I have substitutions. Examples: As i watched my husband eat a piece of chocolate pie, I reached for my protein cookie. It is white chocolate/macadamia, and it is delicious. 150 calories, big, lotta protein, satisfying. Made by Smart Cookie (smart-cookie.com) SUBSTITUTION. When I have the urge for potato chips (and of course I do!), I reach for a 100 calorie snack pack of something similar. SUBSTITUTION. You get the idea? Each of us has different food urges, and they can be satisfied by substitutions. You have to have them in the house, ready for the sudden urge for food in a form that is not good. I like apple/cinnamin rice cakes. 50 calories, very satisfying. waldenfarms.com has zero calories salad dressings (creamy and delicious) and flavored coffe creamers (I put the creamers in my protein shakes - yes I still do the shakes from time to time) that are absolutely delicious. I NEVER feel deprived. Not ever. As a matter of fact, I always carry some sort of snack with me (or two) when I leave the house. I never know when the urge will hit. Now you know a large part of my staying-thin system. Keep in mind that the losing-weight part of this journey is the "easy" part. Staying thin is a totally different ball game. And it is in the staying-thin mode that you utilize the new habits acquired (if you are smart) in the honeymoon period. You have to have a system. You have to plan ahead, think ahead. You have to know yourself and your food weaknesses. We are faulted humans, we need to THINK to avoid weight loss surgery faillure. I don't want any of you to fail. But it is totally YOUR journey..... To your success, Claire
  22. Aimee, I'm curious to know which posts are your mantra?