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  1. 12 points
    Nana Trish

    Happy!

    I did it!! I didn't have time to post yesterday, but I finally did it! 9 months after surgery, and 11 months from starting my pre op diet.....
  2. 11 points
    Trish13

    Picture updates

    I haven't posted in a bit, and feel like I'm behind the 8 ball because work is so insanely busy lately and have been working a lot of hours. The single pic was taken yesterday (7 mos out). It was the first time I wore my hair pulled back in a long time, and I felt like I could really see the changes starting to occur in my face...I almost didn't recognize myself in the bathroom mirror at work...lol! The other pictures are day of surgery & from about 3 weeks ago (about 6.5 months Post op). I actually had my shirt tucked in for the first time in forever! Can't believe I'm down over 84 pounds in 7 months! I had a rough month last month as they increased my carbs, protein, and calories and I gained 5.5 pounds. I really struggled losing what I gained & finding the balance, so I backed off the carbs a bit and started to slowly drop. Now I lost all I that and a couple more! Next week we officially start the gym....gulp!
  3. 11 points
    Michael_A

    What a year can do

    This is me, all around 1 1/2 to 2 years ago, at my highest weight, between 275 and 290. I had type 2 diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, my knees hurt, and I took ibuprofen daily, sometimes multiple times a day. I had headaches constantly. I was taking about 7 different prescription meds. I was extremely unhappy with life by this point. I hated the way I had to dress (nothing off the rack fit). I wore the exact same clothes daily. (I had multiples of the same shirt, same pants, etc because I knew how to make them work and where to order them). So 5 pair of the same pants, 14 of the exact same shirt, etc. I despised seeing my reflection in a window. I was just so miserable inside. I finally overcame insurance issues and in Jan 2017 contacted a bariatric surgeon in CA (I'm in Alaska), and in Feb 2017, began her "liver shrinking diet" which was very low-carb at first, lean meats and veggies, gradually giving up meals and transitioning to protein shakes. By Nov 10, 2017 (surgery day) I weighed 217, down from 275 in Feb. I weighed 211 at my one-week follow up. Today, one year after my start date, I weigh 170. This is me tonight at church (I play that gorgeous piano every week)... I can tell you, life is SO MUCH BETTER on the other side of WLS. I love how I get to dress now. I finally feel like the REAL ME is being reflected in the clothes that I wear. I take a single prescription drug, for asthma, and probably will for life (have since I was 18). I haven't needed a painkiller post-op at ALL, except for a week that I had the flu. I'm only three months out and I have a lot to learn yet. My mind is still numb to these changes. When I see fat me, it is getting harder to identify with that person, and also those pics make sad and angry because I hated my life at that point. Not like, suicidal hate, just the lifestyle of the fat and miserable. I'm so excited about who I see reflected in the post office glass when I walk up to the building every day, and never in a million years could I have imagined that things could feel this good, and that I would be so happy with the person that emerged. I became inspired by watching @TP1210's own WLS surgery experience play out here on TT, all the way up to his surgery day and after. It was when I really thought to myself, "wow, I think this surgery thing is right for me!". But on the whole, TT in general is what kept me motivated once I made the decision, but started having insurance obstacles. This family of people is SO awesome.
  4. 9 points
    Nana Trish

    "At goal" pics

    Ok guys, here goes... The pics in the blue butterfly shirt are my "surgery day" pics. If you've seen any 'before' pics of me, it was most likely these. I rarely let hubby take pics of me pre op. We only did these because it was surgery day. There are two of me that no one has seen before except hubby and the kids. The one with me and hubby was on my 50th birthday (last April) at our favorite restaurant...the waitress snapped it before I even knew it happened. When she gave it to me as we paid the check, I was frozen. I cried all the way home. The one with just my face in it was at my heaviest weight ever of 348, taken sometime in 2015. Although I'm not done losing yet, I thank God everyday for this second chance I've been given, and for feeling like life is worth living again. And also for finding this forum. You have all been like family to me...closer than some of my blood relations, actually. Without all of the support I receive here, I'd never be able to do this. I just want you guys to know how much you mean to me. Thank you so much for catching me every time I tripped, not judging me when I fell off the wagon, and for just being here ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ With that said...please be kind, as I'm not comfortable with a couple of these pics, but I trust you guys enough to show them anyway Oh, and my sweet Devin is in one of the pics with me too (PS...NEW BRA UNDER MY CLOTHES)
  5. 8 points
    TammyP

    NSV of the Week - whats yours?

    I did another closet purge today! I have kept the largest slacks I ever owned, and took a pic of these with my current slacks overlaid on them. I apologize for the upside down photo! I can't seem to turn the image here Largest slacks - Navy blue Croft and Barrow size 20. Current slacks - Black Maurices size 9/10. It feels good, I can't lie
  6. 8 points
    TP1210

    My sister the nurse

    She has joined the forum. Just waiting for approval. She wants VSG so I sent her here for info. Her user name is SusanVMallory. She’s an RN and the reason I’ve been so successfull in my journey. Please welcome her when she gets approved!!
  7. 7 points
    delilas

    NSV of the Week - whats yours?

    Had to buy new scrubs this weekend as I have swapped jobs and they require a different color. Went from pushing the boundaries of a 3x to being thiiiiis close to a 1x. I like some wiggle room in my scrubs, so I went for a 2x, but regardless, I'm thrilled. When I mentioned I was a little sad I couldn't quite pull off a 1x yet, my DH said "Don't worry, at this rate it'll only take you another month" He's wrong, but he's cute. I'll keep him.
  8. 6 points
    Susanvmallory

    Newbie

    Hi everyone my name is Susan my brother Thomas recommended me to this forum as a way of gaining knowledge and support regarding my decision to have weight-loss surgery. I am considering a sleeve and will be attending my first weight loss surgery seminar in March. I am currently 5 foot nine and weigh 253 pounds . I bounce back-and-forth between 245 to 265 pounds and have been doing so for about five years! My worsening eating habits have turned Extremely harmful and it is time for me to seek support and help. It is very overwhelming and at times lonely and depressing. Being a registered nurse I am the one to usually offer advice and help others; therefore making this somewhat uncomfortable yet extremely humbling. I am just grateful beyond measure for my brother Thomas, who has been my biggest supporter and my best friend.
  9. 6 points
    Stephtay

    Travel Tips?

    I know you aren't asking me, but here is my POV. Indulging a bit when you are in Italy isn't going to derail your weight loss. I had WLS to live the life I wanted to live which includes indulging on occasion. I like food, enjoy it and want to eat things that bring me pleasure. If I were going to Italy, I wouldn't waste my calories or carbs on the pasta. But I would eat some sweets, bread and wine. When I went to Paris post-op I totally over indulged. I can't remember how many pounds I gained that week but I lost them once I got home. I ate what I wanted to while I was there. I'm glad I did. I had some fantastic things (eclairs and macaroons) and I knew as soon as I got home I'd be back on plan. Plus, when I see something now like a macaroon I think "I had the best ones in Paris, no need to feel tempted by that low-rent cookie. I've had better."
  10. 6 points
    @Madhouse Heidi @cinwa I am pleased to report the 6 pounds are gone plus 1 more !!!! I weighed 228.6 this morning and my head is still spinning!! I went and bought a regular scale also besides the digital I have and it is correct. Thank you guys for your support. I don't know where I would be without you guys .......Thank you !!
  11. 6 points
    TP1210

    My sister the nurse

    @Susanvmallorycomes to visit every month. She lives in KY, I live in NY. I used to live with her and her family in KY, where I had my surgery and did most of my losing. As some of you know, I came back home to NY to help my parents. Our Mom has Alzheimer's and my Dad is in poor health. She is here now and will be until March 3rd. She is my best friend, staunch supporter and one of the only people I can say is truly selfless. Hopefully she is approved today and can post. She's anxious to get started and has signed up for the WLS seminar at Norton Health Weight Management in Louisville, KY (same place I had my seminar and surgery). I am very excited for her! That's Sue and I at her wedding in 2011.
  12. 5 points
    Learningtolovemyself

    Stall

    Hi all, just thought I would update that I just lost 2 pounds this morning. SO hilarious that some of you said that sometimes posting about it can break a stall. Ha! I am sharing my update for those who are also stalled so they can have some hope! This stall taught me finally just to chill a little during a stall (as much as I can anyway) because it will pass. Of course it’s easy for me to say that right now after I broke my stall! I am sure I will have to remind myself of my own advice when the next one comes around! I am appreciative of the support I got. Thanks guys.
  13. 5 points
    Nana Trish

    Happy!

    Thank you so much, @ktallon, @CheeringCJ and @Readytobeme!! @cinwa...thank you!! I’m not quite ready to settle just now Two more goals. Next I want to reach 168.3, because that will put me at a loss of 50% of my total body weight!! Ultimately, I’d like to hit 160. That was my original goal when I first started my journey, wayyyy back in November of 2015. When I started my pre op diet in March of last year, I set my goal at 160 in my profile, but changed it to 175. At that time, I could barely imagine reaching onederland, let alone 160. I really wanted to focus on a somewhat obtainable goal at first, knowing I could adjust as I went along. Soooo, long story short, not ready to maintain yet! @Res Ipsa and @Jen581791, I’ll be stopping by the maintenance cafe later today for a quick Greek yogurt, but I’m not ready for my standing reservation just yet! The funny thing about the cafe? I don’t think it even existed back in 2015 when I first joined the forum, did it?!? Lolol!! Thanks for saving me a seat...keep it warm for me!! ❤️❤️❤️
  14. 5 points
    All but one of these people were very severely malnourished if their serum albumin was as low as the level published ... and 9 of the 11 had very low zinc levels, which is very hard to accomplish on a diet that is remotely normal, since zinc is present in many foods especially meat and seafood proteins (vegans are at a bit more risk of zinc deficiency though on average their zinc levels are only a little lower than in omnivores). Zinc deficiency is common in malourished children in poor countries where the diet is monotonous and deficient in micronutrients, e.g. kids eating maize (corn in US) porridge for all meals. My guess is that this group of unfortunate souls is a mixed collection of people with odd eating habits after bypass plus a few with inborn genetic dispositions to this abnormal biochemical state. I would put this complication on the list of things you can tell people about at a cocktail party when you regale them with your tales of the Weight Loss Path and your success.
  15. 5 points
    NerdyToothpick

    What Are You Wearing Today?

    Warning! I’m not great at being vulnerable about my physical appearance. Be kind. I often feel fat (approx 50 times a day) because I have to shift my loose skin around when I go to bed. I know that I have it easier than most folks but I still have body image issues. I was getting dressed (size XL sports bra from Target, size 4 Lucky Brand jeans) and I thought, “Huh? Not bad”. I have a set of before pics in my undies. Some day soon, I will be brave enough to post them on TTF Body dysmorphia is a h3ll of a drug. Bonus points if you can figure out where my scars are located. Use your own belly as a map! Please excuse the clutter. I’m organizing baby items for a community clothing swap.
  16. 4 points
    CheeringCJ

    Yes, I'm THAT teacher....

    who went out and did the chc-cha slide, chicken dance, cupid shuffle etc w/ her kids today! we had indoor recess w/ all the rain and we put up the projector in the gym and put go dance videos on and the kids were rocking it out....and THIS teacher was down there dancing w/ them! I love my special ed kids who "dance like no one's watching" so I did too....and I can move a lot faster as a smaller person so it was fun for us all!
  17. 4 points
    Lyds85

    Well, that kinda hurt.

    Had my surgery the 20th and just made it home today. Wanted to say thanks for the support on here! Everything went well. It kinda hurt the first couple days but now on day 3 im feeling good. Everything is going great. Thanks again for those who took the time to answer my questions on here!
  18. 4 points
    I read something here on the forum once that struck me, and I think about it almost every day now- "You'll lose the weight and be tempted to think that now you're normal, and just like everybody else. But it's not true. You'll always be a fat person in recovery." For that reason I think I will always need to be in the "dieting" mindset. There IS something different about me, that got me to almost 300 lbs. Even with my new tool, I know that without always being mindful in SOME way of what I'm eating (counting carbs, paying attention to calories and the nutritional density of the foods I eat) I will be back at 300 lbs again. I've learned, and I don't question it at all, that there are plenty of foods that I like to eat, that I cannot eat unless I eat them out of a 4 oz dish, because the bites would never stop otherwise. I really like not being 300 lbs. Once I started eating a bigger variety of foods post-op, I knew that I would probably eat, in some fashion, the way I'm eating now, for life. And that's ok with me! I feel like for me, there's safety in eating this way. Someone here also said "whatever you have to do to lose weight, is what you'll have to do to keep it off", and I thinks there's truth there.
  19. 4 points
    Cardamom77

    Three month follow-up

    So I had my 3 month follow-up appointment today and everything is pretty great! I'm down 63 lbs total by their scale, 52 lbs since surgery (66 total by mine, which is the one I go by since I weigh more often and have more reliable data here), which they consider to be about a month ahead of schedule. My blood pressure was 124/78, so they took "hypertension risk" off my chart since this is the second appointment where it's been in a good range. My heart rate was 62 bpm. I need to exercise more, but I already knew that and I'm working on it. My diet has been great, so there were no issues advancing to their stage 4 diet, where there aren't really any limitations other than stay relatively low-calorie, get my protein, avoid sugar, and keep the carbs down. Other than that, I'm free to eat what I can tolerate. I'm SO excited for salad! I'm feeling good. My joint pain is almost nonexistent. I have a little bit of creakiness still in my knees, but it's not too bad and improving all the time. My clothes are either fitting better or falling off of me, depending on when I bought them. I can walk in heels again, though I'm still a little nervous about that so I'm not pushing it. I also need to get my rings resized! Though I may just set them aside and wait until I'm at goal weight before doing it so that I don't weaken the bands. Speaking of goal weight, I've set a long term goal. It's 150 lbs. That's technically still overweight according to the BMI chart, but I figure I'll have some skin left over and I've always carried more weight than I look like I'm carrying, even when at an in-range weight, so I'm giving myself an extra 8-10 lbs to work with there. That means losing a total of 129 lbs. I'm already halfway there!
  20. 4 points
    Michael_A

    What a year can do

    What in the world, nothing to be ashamed about. It's like we're all family living in this great big house... some of our schedules and lives keep us away for a few days at a time, but we always say "hi" when we finally wander back through. I'm glad I was some kind of inspiration to you at times. It went both ways though. Also I was SO annoyed with you right before your surgery, you were like "oh hey everyone I just dropped FIVE more pounds!" and then like, 2 days later "guess what friends, 4 more pounds"! Meanwhile I was threatening my scale and using harsh language at it... I am absolutely loving the differences I'm noticing in myself, here and there. Confidence, levity, more relaxed. Two years ago, I was so miserable, depressed, in a dark place and feeling trapped in that life and locked in. One year ago, I was just barely cautiously optimistic. Still miserable. but some light at the end of the tunnel although nothing was moving fast enough. Today.... I feel like there's just a big open road road in front of me. And I'm smiling and excited, and I have no idea what happens next :-)
  21. 4 points
    Youre so sweet for thinking of it Yes, I started Monday and so far, so good. It'll be a lot more movement and activity which is definitely a good thing! I think it'll be a good way to be more active each day, and working 4 10's means I get an extra day off each week for errands or fun activities like hiking. I have a lot of hiking goals for this spring Unfortunately for my old job, they went from 3 nurses to 1 in the span of 24 hours, as they finally fired the scarily incompetent one on my last day there which is great for the safety of our patients, but certainly sucks for the workload for the one left!
  22. 4 points
    Res Ipsa

    Travel Tips?

    As ususal, I totally agree with the wise advice from @Stephtay, @Jen581791, @BurgundyBoy, @Cheesehead, @NerdyToothpick, @Aussie Bear, and @CheeringCJ. When I am on vacation my goals are to have a great time with my family/friends, focus on non-food events, and not worry too much about losing weight. By the way, don't forget to pack your vitamins as they can be hard to find abroad. I find it helpful to organize them into daily packets in small ziplock bags. I travel a lot and I have not found it hard to hit my protein levels. In Italy, if you go out to eat see if they can serve you a small piece of fish or chicken, some meatballs, or at least an antipasto plate with cheese and sliced meats. Soup is usually a good option, although it may not be high in protein. Try to avoid pasta, risotto, or bread as these items will fill you up in a non-nutritious way. Do not be surprised if you gain a few pounds, as when you travel the food tends to be high in salt. Just plan on drinking a lot of liquids when you get back, and the salt related weight should fall off quickly. Most of all enjoy your trip!
  23. 4 points
    Stephtay

    Travel Tips?

    I hear you on this. I can make a special occasion out of anything - light traffic on the way home - let's celebrate! The sun is shining - whoooo-hoooooo! Here is how I draw the line. Making spontaneous food decisions got me to over 275 pounds twice. I don't trust myself to make good judgments in the moment. So I plan to indulge. Before I went to Paris I stuck to plan 100% for 2 - 3 weeks knowing I was going to have lots of sweets and champagne. After Paris I went right back to plan. It was tough the first couple of days coming off all the carbs and sugar but I knew it would be going into it. On a lesser scale, I'm going to an Oscar party in about 10 days. I'm going to eat and drink what I want at this party. So, no booze or carbs for me until then. I don't count calories but I would guess I'm keeping them around 900/day until then and I'm exercising every day. The best bites of any food are the first and the last. Take a first bite of that gelato and really enjoy it. Savor it. Have another if you want. After a bite or two then tell yourself your next bite is your last and savor that one as well. And if you feel sad for making yourself stop before you want to, remind yourself you will have another opportunity to have a treat again. Just not at this moment. Hope all of this helps. I identify as a food addict and my food demon is WAY smarter than I am. He is always finding ways to try and trick me into eating more. What I've listed above allows me to truly enjoy food without sliding down that slippery slope that I know so well.
  24. 4 points
    kristinwitha_k

    Travel Tips?

    Thanks for your thoughts @Stephtay and @CheeringCJ, definitely some food for thought. I think there was part of me that was hoping I could do both. Have a taste of things here and there and properly enjoy Italy, and manage to lose a couple pounds still while I was at it, but it's probably better for my emotional well-being if I don't expect it, eh? I also have been struggling with where it's appropriate to draw the line between a true "special occasion" and making excuses to eat things I shouldn't. I agree that a big trip to Italy falls under the special occasion category, but I need to process my feelings about that slippery slope I'm worried I will find myself on. I definitely don't have the capacity to seriously overeat (obviously), but I'm also worried about feeling a strong desire to have more and being unable to. Like having one bite of gelato will just make me sad I can't have more. Lots of thinking to do on this. Yay for therapy. Good point about setting expectations for eating out, @NerdyToothpick - I generally am pretty good about just going with the flow, but WLS has made me a bit more uptight about finding food options. (As this entire post will attest!! Ha.) We are trekking all over, here's the general itinerary: 6 nights in Rome, 4 nights in Sorrento (also visiting Pompeii, Capri, and a tour of the Amalfi coast), 3 nights in Venice, 3 nights in Florence, 5 nights at an agriturismo outside Monteriggioni (we're renting a car to see Siena, San Gimignano, small towns in Chianti and the Val d'Orcia, and a trek down to Assisi), 1 more night back in Rome before we fly out. There are so many amazing places we're not going to get to, but even with three weeks, I had to apply some limits. And yes, I do love grocery stores away from home! My last BIG trip was to Japan a few years back, and food markets and grocery stores are some of my favorite pics. I'm going to subject you all to a few of them:
  25. 4 points
    cinwa

    Newbie

    I heard my name called! Susan, there are some excellent non-whey protein powders/liquids on the market. Finding one you'll like enough to drink regularly is challenging, made all the worse by the fact that our tastes can and do change post-op so do not load up on anything before your surgery. Unfortunately, there is no company that I know of who offer a selection of different samples to choose from but a few company offer samples sized packs of their powders. Along with Amazon, here's a few companies that offer sample packs for sale but browse the web, and even if they don't show sample sizes for sale, find the contact us link and shoot them an email asking for one: Jay Robb Naked Protein Orgain ideal raw Sun Warrior MRM-USA PS Science
  26. 4 points
    I cannot believe the changes I’ve gone through in the past year. It’s truly shocking. I am so thankful for the opportunity to have this amazing do-over that is WLS. Long story short, one year post-op and I’m where I want to be: 135 pounds, healthy, and happy. The losing phase is over (well, I want it to be, we’ll see how that pans out). Thank you everyone at TTF for your nonstop and sometimes even relentless support. I have received kind words, insightful advice, interesting facts, heartfelt congratulations, and sharp yet timely reminders when I've needed them. Your nonjudgmental and sympathetic ears have perhaps been bombarded by a bit too much about me from time to time, but I thank you for listening. One year ago, I was in Mexico, waiting for my surgery appointment. I was fat, depressed, desperate, afraid, but hopeful. My surgeon, a WLS patient himself, made me feel OK about seeking help and being the “before” picture. I felt like he was going to take away some of the burden of my previous failures and give me what I needed to be successful. I felt taken care of. Before I started down the WLS path, I had stopped looking forward to the future, as it seemed like it didn’t hold anything positive or fun, but the idea that this surgery could turn all of that around and give me my life back was like a shining beacon of hope. I didn’t quite trust that WLS would be the magic bullet for me, but I knew that it was my best bet. I’d done all the reading and researching, and the stories were amazing - but in the back of my head, I held on to the thought that there wasn’t a guarantee of success. I might not be one of the successful ones, the ones whose blogs were so inspirational, the ones whose YouTube videos made me tear up with joy. I might end up like the remorseful, desperate, bitter people with their stories of why WLS “failed them.” This thought was so frightening. I’ve done the whole “lose a ton of weight and gain it right back” thing before, more than once. I didn’t want that to happen again. Because of these dark little doubts in the back of my mind, I swore to myself that I would be *perfect* after my surgery. I would do *everything right*. I knew that this do-over was a one-time-only offer, so I wanted to make sure everything I was in control of was *absolutely perfect*. I knew my metabolism was crap, but I also knew that my will was strong, my desire to succeed was strong, and my ability to follow the rules on a diet was strong. Maybe my crap metabolism would not allow me to get to GW, but I wanted to be sure I was doing everything in my power to give myself the best possible chance. I didn’t want to look back on my first year out and think, “Well, I guess I could have tried a little harder.” So I made sure that I tried as hard as I could. I was basically perfect for a year. Not everyone has the fortitude to do this, but tapping into my own psychological strengths/weaknesses, I knew that drawing some hard lines in the sand would be my best bet. I haven’t had a piece of bread since early January 2017. Or pasta. Or rice. Or sweets. Or soda. None. It was easier for me to say flat-out no, so that was my approach. My surgery was an unqualified success. I had a relatively easy recovery, and despite some initial doubts about whether I was losing fast enough (OK, we all think we’re slow losers at some point, thank you for talking me down, TTF fam), I lost steadily and well (one more time for the newbies: yes, I felt like I was a slow loser and I was going to fail!). My feelings after the first month were positive enough to give me back hope for my future, so I interviewed for and was offered a job back in the place I wanted to be, doing what I wanted to be doing. The future started looking like a fun place where I could enjoy myself and live my life as a happy and active person. For my first few months, I was unemployed (well, and technically homeless, but that was by choice, so can’t really feel sorry for myself there), so I had plenty of time to make sure I was taking the very best care of myself. I measured. I weighed. I counted. I tracked. I made spreadsheets. I ate between 600 and 800 calories per day every day until I got to GW (with the exception of maybe 5 days at around 1000). Fitbit and My Fitness Pal became my obsessions because hey, that’s who I am. I was meticulous. With a twinge of shame, I will confess that I sometimes weighed myself multiple times per day “for science.” <— not recommended but sort of interesting to me - I usually weigh the least right before lunch! Eventually I started to feel like a normal sized person again. I was down to a weight that made me hang my head with shame (and eat to comfort myself) when I was there on the way up, but on the way down, it felt fantastic. I had to buy some new clothes. They were still drapey, and I was still working hard to cover up my fat, but I felt better about myself. I was able to exercise and be more active, too. I moved to the other side of the world at six months out. It threw my rhythms into quite a shock, but instead of resorting to food for comfort, I doubled down and took comfort in being in control of what I was eating. Many of my normal foods were not available (no cottage cheese, omg, tragedy strikes!), so I had to find new things and be resourceful. In previous moves to new countries, or even back to home from abroad, I always always gained weight, every single time. This was new: I was still losing. Within about two months of moving, all of the clothes that I had brought with me were too big. This was the beginning of my wardrobe worries. I fretted that I was going through sizes too fast. I fretted that I didn’t know what style I would seek out for myself when I started shopping in earnest. I fretted that I wouldn’t ever get to a place where I was really pleased with myself. This was all silly, of course - I managed to find things to wear just fine. I found a tailor to take in my clothes. I bought a few things. I started figuring out my style. And I’m totally happy with my current state. All the new people I’ve met here think of me as being a thin and fit person (I feel a bit like I’m fooling them or like I’m an impostor, but I’m not). I mean, many have noticed that I’ve lost a lot of weight since I’ve been here, but they know I’m active and that I’m a health-food low-carb whole-foods protein-shake freak. I’ve taken up hiking again - I had always loved it but finally quit doing it when I got too heavy and it just became painful and unpleasant. Now, I’ve joined a hiking club and do it regularly (every week!). It’s not hard to haul myself up a steep hill. I don’t get wheezing out-of-breath tired. My heart doesn’t pound. I don’t have to stop and “admire the view” twice as often as anyone else. All a part of the new persona. Moving to a new country has actually probably made it easier to be a "new person." In December, at just past 10 months out, I hit my original GW of 150. Woo hoo! I celebrated by buying a few outfits that are now too big for me That’s OK, though - they were a fun way to spend the day, and I probably would have spent that money on food previously, so all in all it wasn’t a total loss. I do need to get those clothes to the tailor, though, that reminds me. Anyway, there I was, at GW but not really certain I wanted to stop. What would I look and feel like a little bit thinner? Because I cannot simply let things be, I spent the next two months fretting about when to stop. Thank you for your patience, support, kind words, and excellent advice, TTF fam. Finally, at 15 pounds below my original GW, I had my husband take some pictures of me, and hey! That’s what it took. Yes, I need to stop losing now. That was a week ago. Since then, I’ve upped my calories to about 1200 per day. That may need to go up, but I’m experimenting. I have now had the life-changing experience of NOT TRYING TO LOSE WEIGHT. Yes, for the first time in my life, I’m actually NOT trying to lose weight! I’m not planning a diet, figuring out how to sabotage myself or rationalize cheating on a diet, berating myself for failing on a diet, or in any other way dieting. I’m still tracking like a crazy fool, but I’m tracking to make sure I eat ENOUGH, which is hard. I bought myself a pair of bright orange jeans yesterday afternoon. Because I can! For all of you pear-shaped ladies out there, I know you’ll understand. From the waist down, it’s been skirts or dark “flattering” colors my whole life. Please don’t look at my booty or thighs! However, I now have a small (absent?) booty and thinnish thighs, so to celebrate, I bought bright orange jeans. I’m wearing them right now. I also bought a pair of bright coral pink trousers. I hereby retire from the all-dark-clothes-all-the-time club. I don’t remember who on the forum said their shopping mantra was “If it’s not black, put it back,” but that has been my go-to color all my life. Well, navy blue or charcoal to spice things up occasionally, right? I’ve decided that I will wear funky bright colors and flashy stuff if I want to because I can. While my eyes still do not always see a thin person in the mirror (I look fat to myself about half the time), I know that I am now a thin person. My sense of identity is growing to include “thin person” now, although my inner fat girl is probably here with me forever (you know, the one who thinks of excuses not to do xyz because it’ll draw attention to her various issues, or else thinks of excuses to do something food-adjacent to cash in on the treats). I can’t for the life of me pull a piece of clothing off the rack that’ll come close to fitting correctly, but I’m starting to learn the numbers game with sizes, anyway. I’m that person who always takes the stairs. I always have a food contingency plan - a carefully packed lunch and snacks, an emergency protein bar, and my ever-present water bottle. I go to the gym instead of watching TV or having a cocktail. My priorities are just very different. I’ve taken this year to cement into place some very different new habits that I hope will stick with me forever. TTF fam, thank you so much for your support and friendship. They have meant so much to me this year - whether in awesome NSV moments or when I’m hanging my head over the toilet because I’ve eaten something that just didn’t work, you’ve been there for me when I’ve needed it! I love you all.
  27. 4 points
    Cheesehead

    Travel Tips?

    I confess, I’m a grocery store a holic..even our own, I can spend time just walking the isles. And foreign ones are even more fun, especially if things aren’t in English. There’s a Dutch one I love when we go to Bonaire. And I love a Mexican one I go to several times a year. In Bonaire we love Dutch gouda and apples. Hubby likes mayo in toothpaste tubes.. the yogurt in France was the best (pre surgery so not sure if they had Greek)..
  28. 4 points
    Susanvmallory

    What a year can do

    Wow you look fantastic congratulations on your success. My brother has been my biggest and best supporter as well as inspiration . I was right there beside him when he went through his weight loss surgery and he is now supporting me through mine. Lastly, my brother happens to be the person you mentioned in your post TP1210
  29. 4 points
    NerdyToothpick

    Travel Tips?

    As a Type 2 diabetic, I have found grocery stores through most of the world to be my friend. It is hard to travel without running into a situation where most everything is carb laden. I like to see the way people shop and live, so grocery stores are fun for me. You can often pick up some dried meats, cheese and have fun with local treats. I’m not suggesting you do this for every meal but eating out and planning ahead aren’t always foolproof. Some of my best memories are of laughing with friends/family on the beach and eating new things out of a can. I’m excited for your trip. What part of Italy are you visiting?
  30. 4 points
    Cheesehead

    What a year can do

    Michael, not too many people could do the pre op diet you did. Many of us were busy having food funerals. No matter how you got the weight off you are a wls person. Your guts have been rearranged..you are healthy! You are living! Wait until one day soon the kids will tell you they don’t remember the bigger you. Your kids are younger so it will happen sooner rather than later. I was a couple years out when my adult kids were talking and they couldn’t remember me heavy.
  31. 4 points
    I really wanted to share this article with those believing that maybe they should give diet and exercise another try. Finding cut and paste almost impossible on this device, but I have managed to copy the links According to this study the statistics for success are even worse than we've previously seen quoted. I really appreciate that in this study they have broken down the statistics into male and female. This study looked at almost 280,000 people which is a huge number to be included in a study. Of course those who had bariatric surgery were excluded from the study. To summarise their findings, the annual chance of obese people achieving a 5% body weight loss was 1 in 12 for males and 1 in 10 for woman. For those who achieved that weightloss 53% had regained within 2 years and 78% regained within 5 years. More sobering, for those with a starting BMI of 30-35, the annual probability of reaching a normal body weight were 1 in 210 for men and 1 in 124 for woman. If those figures don't scare us already the statistics for those with BMIs above 40, the statistics become 1 in 1290 for men and 1 in 677 for woman. https://www.kcl.ac.uk/newsevents/news/newsrecords/2015/July/Lowchanceofrecoveringnormalbodyweight.aspx Next time someone says weightloss is a simple process of eating less and moving more, refer them to this study. In all seriousness, if we knew these were the odds then why would anybody ever bother with diet and exercise alone? The weightloss industry would not exists if these truths were more widely known, and obese people might not face the prejudice they do now.
  32. 4 points
    I get why you are looking for the negatives, @ready2bme - I did the same thing, and pretty close to surgery. Unlike many people here, I met with my surgeon and started my program while I was still undecided about whether I would ultimately have surgery. I wanted to make sure the decision I made was informed by opinions and research on both sides of the fence. Mainly I didn't want to end up with some bad complication down the road, kicking myself because I'd been too scared to look at the other side of things. I admit, though, that your original post scared the crap out of me for a couple of days. I have pretty severe health anxiety, and a tendency to imagine that every ache or pain is a sign that The End is Nigh. I try really hard to avoid stuff that will set me off, and when I feel myself GETTING set off, I try really hard to stop the behavior that I know will follow (the endless googling of symptoms, the endless internal monitoring of my sense of my body, waking up in the night to read more about whatever it is that scared me in the first place). One of the things I had to consider when I was deciding whether to have surgery was whether I was in a good place for it mentally and emotionally. I knew there were risks, however small - and I knew that I would likely be more scared of those risks than most people. I also knew that I would likely blow out of proportion any symptoms I had post-surgery, and scare myself. Knowing all of that, I still decided to go forward with surgery; I just promised myself that I would be just as vigilant about symptoms of irrational anxiety as I was about symptoms of any complications/issues with my body. I think I've done pretty well at that. Most of the time these days I'm successful at heading my brain off at the pass. So while I was scared by your post, it wasn't like a big downward spiral or anything - it was just a scary blip. I've seen other scary things here, too - reading about @ktallon's experiences comes to mind, or about @Ladybugzzz86 post-surgical issues. (If you think I didn't research the hell out of portal vein clots after reading @Ladybugzzz86's story -- whooo boy!! I was pretty sure I had one for a couple of days!!) I DO think there is room here for discussion of possible downsides of WLS as well as just the upsides. I think we're used to seeing both sides here, too - but maybe the difference is that the downsides we read about tend to be people's personal stories, things that are actually affecting them. I guess my only contribution to this thread would be maybe we should keep in mind that many people come here at the ends of their ropes - in a vulnerable, easily influenced state. And so the way we frame these conversations is just as important as having them. TT should be -- and I think it is -- a place that is both safe AND honest. And I really value both of those things.
  33. 4 points
    Madhouse Heidi

    NSVs—Let's share!

    I need to share one more NSV. I went to a second hand store to hopefully find a pair of jeans. I tried on a bunch , and I was able to wear size 13/14! That hasn’t happened since I was a junior in HS! I ended up with 3 pairs, all the same size. I’m so excited! I’m almost into regular size clothes and boots!
  34. 4 points
    Chefman77

    My sister the nurse

    I am sorry to hear about your struggles with bulimia and I completely understand. I had the same issues with night time hunger and giving in to them. I looked forward to the time everyone went to bed. I'd stay up, watch tv, and eat. My intentions were always to just have a snack. However, it always turned into feelings of guilt, remorse, self-hating, etc... I felt as though I'd already blown it so I might as well really blow it knowing that I was going to purge it all anyway. I'd go to bed feeling defeated and depressed, but I'd repeat the same behavior night after night. This went on for years and years. I developed severe GERD and eventually was diagnosed with Barett's Esophagus which scared the crap out of me. The fear of esophageal cancer was eventually enough to get me to stop purging, but the binge eating continued until I reach my maximum weight of 371 pounds. I hated myself and who I had become. I had finally become the morbidly obese person that I saw myself as for years. I don't want to cross any boundaries or offend anyone here, but I need to share what changed and probably save my life. My wife and I got together in the spring of 2009. She had a strong faith in the Lord and she showed me unconditional love like I'd never felt from someone else before. Over time I was saved and learned to let go and let God. It was a process for sure. Not trying to control and manipulate situations and people anymore gave me freedom like I never knew. I eventually realized that I wasn't a bad person and in time learned to like myself. So there I was morbidly obese, but I actually liked myself for the first time in my life. Liking myself has allowed me to love others like I never could before. There is so much more that went into my mental and spiritual transformation that I really can't put into words. I know for me looking back it has been nothing short of a miracle by the grace of God. I just wanted to put all this out there so that you wouldn't feel so alone and to give you hope for change. There are many things available to help with eating disorders. I had and still have counseling. It's not easy and is most definitely a process, but there is hope. You can do it and it all has to start with change. Make yourself go to bed when everyone else does so you don't have to fight that fight every night. Stop beating yourself up and know that you're going to come out of this. Owning it and wanting to change is a huge step. You're obviously a caring person given your profession. I'm sure that you bless many people through the care of people through your work as well as in your family. I pray that you find peace within yourself and conquer this! I'm proud of you for putting this out there. I know it wasn't easy to do. God Bless You!
  35. 4 points
    Cheesehead

    Picture updates

    I wanted to add that your face and neck are melting but didn’t want that taken the wrong way:). You also seem to glow! Carbs are those evil things that sew our clothes tighter when we aren’t looking;)
  36. 4 points
    Susanvmallory

    My sister the nurse

    It will take me a minute to learn how to post and navigate around this forum; however, I am grateful to be able to get advice, support and gain knowledge from others regarding my weight. The struggle is real, (understatement). I feel helpless and vulnerable as I am coming to terms with how impossible it has been for me to drop these extra pounds. My night time hunger is insatiable, so I give in and eat. I immediately hate everything about my lack of self control and to make matters worse I do the unthinkable, flush it down... literally! I am a nurse, how can I be so ignorant and harm myself??? I live my life helping others and I cannot help myself. My brother is my biggest supporter and truly understands me. I am taking the first steps in ending this cycle of sickness and seeking advice from medical professionals and attending my first weight loss surgery seminar March 17th. I am looking for ideas of what to do in the meanwhile to help prevent me from causing damage by unhealthy actions.
  37. 3 points
    Your post hits pretty close to home for me. Yoyo dieting, losing very large amounts of weight several times, calorie counting expertise, tracking, measuring, etc, etc. I've already done the "whole new me" thing and reinvented myself several times in my life. The (inevitable until now, fingers crossed) regain is a heartbreak. Eventually I always either burned out on how strict I was being, or else started to gain despite my massive deprivation (losing weight without WLS, I was always starving and feeling like I would crack if I ate one bite of something I shouldn't) and lost motivation and grew depressed about it. I've been in "diet mode" for just over a year now. I try hard to focus on making sure I'm getting enough of X, Y, Z instead of focusing on keeping A, B, C under a certain limit. This seems to be enough of a change that I don't feel deprived or like stopping what I'm doing. Every day, I set my sights on getting enough water, enough protein, all my vitamins, and enough calories (tricky business, weirdly). With that focus, I don't feel like I'm trying to keep my carbs under X grams per day, but I generally do anyway because of needing to get the protein in. I tell myself "Good job!" when I hit my numbers each day. That makes me feel like I'm working to include enough instead of working to exclude things. Over time, particularly since I got to GW, I've increased the types of food I'm including in my diet, but I'm still tracking closely. Until I hit GW, it was basically the same ~10 foods every day. I wonder if I'll ever really not track, at least mentally. I don't know. I also don't know if that would be a good thing for me or a bad thing. I'm really awesome at lying to myself about what and how much I'm eating. The pouch will limit my intake, for sure, but it won't limit the kinds of foods I put in there (well, with some exceptions!). I think trying to keep a modified diet mentality forever could be a good thing for me. I'm trying to talk myself into a different way of thinking about myself ("I'm not a carb person." "I don't eat sweets." "I don't want any bread or potatoes or rice or pasta taking up room in my pouch." "I don't care about food that much." "I don't like junk food.") and that seems to be working. My sense of identity is starting to incorporate those ideas. Long term, I think that might be the most helpful thing. I feel like I tend toward one end of the spectrum as far as my way of eating goes. I'm best with rules and tracking and details, and since I know this, I'm trying to exploit it. Other people have great success on the other end of the spectrum, or somewhere in the middle, but I know myself: I'm good at rules.
  38. 3 points
    Welcome! This is a great place to be. Feel free to ask questions..I failed every diet I was on for 50 years.
  39. 3 points
    tmcgee

    20 more pounds

    It's more like a couple of years. I started at 360 and now I'm staying between 180 and 190. It will be 5 years for me in a couple of weeks. I know some folks have to go back to basics, Corrine, I've been very fortunate that I never stopped the basic plan. The important point in all of this is that you can lose more weight after monumental stalls or regains. Keep your eyes on the prize, NOBODY wants to regain. It's a lifetime commitment.
  40. 3 points
    NerdyToothpick

    Travel Tips?

    Wow, wow, wow!! These photos are awesome. What strikes me most about these images are the vibrant colors. You have a great photographer’s eye. I’m looking forward to your Italian holiday photos! I could window shop in grocery stores forever. It’s one of my guilty pleasures when I am traveling on my own. Now that I think about it, @kristinwitha_k, I lost about 5 lbs on my December vacation. I was surprised! I had made my peace with gaining a few pounds ahead of time. I tried my best to make smart choices and I had dessert every d@mn day. I think my food choices, combined with walking around and not shoving massive amounts of food in my face was a reminder that this is a complete lifestyle change. The choices we make today aren't the same choices we made when we were sick and fat. You’ll be fine!
  41. 3 points
    Cheesehead

    8 days out and struggling!

    First off, slow down, take a deep breath. You just had major surgery. Right now, focus on your liquids so you don’t get dehydrated. If you can drink protein shakes grab a couple of those. They also count as liquid as well as protein. For the first couple weeks, just try the best you can, you may not hit those goals but do get as much liquid as possible. Get up and walk, but don’t do too much so you are in pain. It will get better. Good luck as you start this new journey.
  42. 3 points
    TP1210

    What a year can do

    @Michael_Ayou have done an amazing job. I am both honored and humbled that my openness about my journey helped someone! In the end, you did this. Your strength, your determination and surely your own sacrifice. Good on you, cheers to your new life! It only gets better, trust me!
  43. 3 points
    Stephtay

    My body has gone crazy!!!!

    I've been doing it for a few years and initially we worked a lot on alignment and balance with my hips. I have a bone spur in one of my hips which I've known for 15+ years and while it hasn't bother me in a decade, I was favoring that side in a way I didn't realize which eventually pushed me out of alignment. There is also a fair amount of stretching involved for all the muscle groups which is great! And, all the core work will give you abs of steel. I used to tell people to punch me in my rock hard abs but was then told by a couple of trusted friends to stop acting like I'm a Jersey Shore cast reject!
  44. 3 points
    So another mini update with good and bad highlights. After my OP I spent six weeks COMPLETELY off the bariatric wagon and hit a record 160 pounds! Up 20 pounds...... Whoa!! But I managed to do a carb cleanse and am back within sight (8 pounds) of my previous maintenance weight of 140. I really need to to take my own advice to heart -"Whatever you had to do to lose weight is pretty much what you need to do forever." It sucks but it's true. my BF and I have been getting out cross country skiing on the weekends, so that is helping with my motivation. Speaking of BF's, congratulations @Kim M !! That's so awesome for you. Mine surprised me with a promise ring for Valentine's Day. Actually 2 rings. after declaring his intentions of wanting to be with me forever....while out on a cross country ski trek, BTW..... we went to look for a ring (he wanted me to pick it out myself to make sure I liked it). The one I REALLY wanted was blue and white sapphires in a silver and rose gold setting. But I am a vet tech and my daily exposure to poop, pee, blood, pus, vomit and other grossness as well as numerous hand washings didn't bode well for such an intricate ring. So we settled for a lower profile, simpler emerald and white sapphire ring.....more practical but still very beautiful. Then, a week later, he surprised me with the other ring, telling me I deserve to be as sparkly as I want and could wear it when Im not at work. I might be almost 50 years old, but I feel like a silly teenager who's boyfriend just gave her his class ring ......that was SERIOUS love back in the day Thank you, everyone, for the well wishes. Good luck to all of you.
  45. 3 points
    CheeringCJ

    Travel Tips?

    same reasons @Stephtay said....you want to live a little and have no regrets! In fact, if there was a fabulous pasta dish your mom ordered and you were dying to have a bite, I would! Italy is known for that so don't order your own but certainly taste mom's if she is raving over how wonderful it is. Try some delicious new cheese dish or something you wouldn't have at home. Traveliing is also a culinary experinence and you don't want to miss that. That way you aren't holding yourself back so much that it is upsetting and you are trying something new in a new place BUT I would just do a bite and be satisfied. I'd skip the bread and empty fillers but if there was something you wanted just a bite of, I would. (Unless you're the personality that that would be a slippery slope. Personally I couldn't binge if i wanted to so I wouldn't worry about it yet...I could order a huge plate of lasagna but honestly after about 5-7 bites, I'd be forced to push it away because I would have hit my limit so I doubt it would be a slippery slope since I can't really overindulge and it would be a vacation only thing.) I think vacations are to be enjoyed....and if you have a few extra calories, go for a long walk....I usually walk so much during a vacation that I undo any damage done . I wouldn't overindulge in every meal, but i would have a taste of magnificent things so you can say you :had a magnificent ____________ in Italy and it was to die for"...only you didn't die...you ate, savored and moved on!
  46. 3 points
    CheeringCJ

    NSVs—Let's share!

    no need to update your wife's Rx....just update her husband's wardrobe and buy some smaller jeans!!!! LOL!
  47. 3 points
    Cheesehead

    Travel Tips?

    When we go to the Caribbean I carry protein powder, protein bars, string cheese, beef jerky strips, I’ve carried yogurt, bagged in zip locks, in case they break open. Hubby works in the food industry, just last week at Chobani, and has been assured it is fine unrefrigerated. And I’ve packaged peanuts in 1 oz portions. I carry 2 boxes of protein bars, plus what’s in my purse. I think 2 boxes are about 3 pounds..each box is 25 ounces..there are a few nights that I chose not to eat out because there is nothing I will eat.
  48. 3 points
    Chefman77

    Picture updates

    Congratulations on the success and transformation to this point. You're looking awesome! The gym is your friend. Keep up the great work!
  49. 3 points
    AustinJ

    My body has gone crazy!!!!

    I had a follow up today, my blood work all looks good, but as my PCP put it I had 6 days prior to the blood work where I was forcing extra electrolytes and sodium into my body. He wants me to continue doing so. Between my PCP, dietician and surgeon they want me to keep the anaerobic exercise to 2 days a week or less, but I can walk everyday. They also want me to keep my fluid and sodium intake up, but I can return to 800 cal and 30g of carbs per day. I am to keep my output less than or equal to my intake and let my body do the work to lose the weight. I would like to thank everyone who took the time to read my extremely long post and get back to me. I feel blessed to be part of such an amazing community. I will try to keep you updated if anything new develops.
  50. 3 points
    @Chefman77