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  1. 8 points
    Nana Trish

    A couple of days ago

    The pic of me alone was taken last night, and the one of me and Harper is the 2018 Nana/Harper pic (installment #3, lol). I’ll post the collage pic of installment #1 and 2 as well. A lot of changes!
  2. 8 points
    Kio

    Dating with loose skin etc

    Well, the good news is, any guy who asks you for a nude picture so he can decide if he wants to take you out has just saved you a lot of time and disappointment - by utterly disqualifying himself as dating material! THAT is what is disgusting. Ugh, gross. Please, don't ever undervalue yourself enough to do that!!!
  3. 7 points
    Careful, @Loosing Lucy! You're just a couple of weeks out, and the only thing stopping you from hurting yourself is measuring. Your stomach's nerves have not healed yet, and your new sense of "I'm full now" will not yet be familiar to you for quite some time, I suspect. Even after the nerves have healed, "full" is a really new feeling that you have to learn. For now, measure everything and don't take in more than you're supposed to. There's a reason they've told you to take in that much. Think of your new stomach's limits like steering a car on a curvy mountain road: you can rely on the guard-rail on the side to keep your car from going over the cliff by just aiming for it and bouncing off again and again, but eventually that's going to fail you. It's much more sensible to use the steering wheel to gently adjust the direction you're moving and avoid hitting the guard-rail at all. Of course, you have to learn how to finesse the steering wheel, and that's a longer process than just slamming into the guard-rail, but it's very much worth it!
  4. 6 points
    One year. I can't believe it's been a whole year - its funny, how it both seems twice as long, and also like it can't possibly have been a year already. In the year (and couple weeks) since surgery, I have lost over 100 pounds. I can power up stairs without losing my breath, do longer hikes, and I have a wholly different relationship with food. I'm very mindful of my tool; especially now that I really and truly feel hunger again. It would not be difficult to eat past the warning signs of fullness, but when those warning signs begin, I promptly set my utensils down. I don't even bring a drink to the table any more; it is too tempting to "wet my whistle" and find several gulps gone and then suddenly realize I have room for more food. I started in a size 22/3x. I now wear a 12/14 and a L/XL. I wore a 42H bra; I now wear a 36G. While my shoe size hasn't changed, and I was never someone who carried weight in her feet, my shoes do feel a bit looser now and I believe I'll likely be able to wear a non-wide width shoe when I purchase again. I'm thrilled compression socks fit me now without leaving a giant indentation in my calf muscle; I actually have problems with some of them falling down now! My stomach is still flabby (and I dont have a very cute (naked) pregnancy belly at all!), and the fat on my legs hangs depending on if my legs are up or down. My bat wings could cover a childs face. These things bothered me a lot more a few months ago; lately, they arent even on my radar. That may change after arrival of the kiddo, but for now I know my body is gonna change drastically over the next few months, and then drastically again over the months after that, so I may as well settle in for the ride. I'm not opposed to plastics, but my weight never stabilized before I got pregnant, so I have a long way to go after pregnancy still, and then some time to maintain weight before I can think about plastics. I'm now 21 weeks along in this little surprise pregnancy, and the second trimester has been pretty enjoyable. My energy is mostly back, the cravings are diminished, and I'm not yet so big that moving around on my own is difficult. I have about 8 weeks or so remaining until my doctor will force me into light duty, and in the meantime I keep up pretty well at work, despite how physically demanding it is. My focus gets to be on providing healthy foods, but also making sure I'm eating enough - which is actually pretty great for a WLS patient - I have double the reason to stick to my nutrition and calorie goals at the moment! Oh, and we found out last week we are expecting a little girl I haven't done any proper "after" pictures since becoming pregnant, so here's my most recent before and after, followed by a few bump pics The first is 17 weeks, the next is last week. Don't mind my hair in that second one, it was a rough day at work We are having to go for extra ultrasounds just out of an abundance of caution for making sure WLS isn't affecting the baby's growth. So far she's in the 58th percentile and doing excellent! It's been bizarre to think of how quickly things changed just from WLS, and now how quickly things have changed again. I worry I'll have trouble switching gears again once I've had the baby, but I'm excited for an active lifestyle and to introduce a tyke to that - we're already looking at hiking packs that include seats for kids and hoping to plan a couple short travel trips next year to acclimate to traveling with a little one. I'll keep trying to remember to check in often - it seems I always think of TTF during the day at work, remind myself to log on, and then by the time I get home and cook and get ready for the next day, I don't remember a thing!
  5. 5 points
    Welcome and best of luck! You have so many amazing things to look forward to! I know I had read that it gets easier as time goes on, but I really remember in the first weeks/months out feeling like my diet was really limited and I was tired all the time, and feeling a bit desperate about that. It really really does get easier. On a daily basis now, I really don't notice much that I've had WLS in terms of my lifestyle and behavior. I can basically eat anything I want (with a few exceptions) although I generally stick with healthy stuff, and all the lifestyle changes I've made are really just habits now (exercise, very little alcohol, very few sweets, pretty low carb, eating slowly, chewing a lot, not drinking with meals, monitoring what I'm eating in general). They're really ingrained now so they don't feel at all like a burden, just a routine. I just feel like I'm taking care of myself, not like I'm having to follow rules. It's not really that I wish I had known this, because I know people told me this would happen, but I wish I had actually believed it, deep down inside.
  6. 4 points
    Ladybugzzz86

    One year Dec 12/18

    ODAT Start 334 Dec 12/17 Current 232 Dec 12/18 102# lost, and a new love for salads found lol Thank you all for the love and support along this journey. Still a way to go, but I have faith in the process and will keep trucking on. Last A1C 6.3, never thought I would see that day. Still have back pain that I am trying to manage to the best of my ability, but am no longer bed bound for weeks on end. Overall, a fantastic year- and hope next year will be even better
  7. 4 points
    Aussie Bear

    Surgery done...happy but sad

    The first few weeks suck as we try to juggle water, vitamins, walking etc. Once the stomach heals and the swelling goes down, we can eat more both in volume and variety, and things start to pick up. The body adjusts to what we've put it through and weight starts to fall off. By this point most people forget any regret or second thoughts they might have had straight after surgery. Give yourself time to heal. Currently your in the worst part of this trip....it gets better each day.
  8. 4 points
    Cheesehead

    Creating healthy boundaries

    A heated argument broke out between daughter #1 and daughter #4 Christmas Day. I grabbed my shoes and coat, went out to the car, drove it across the frozen field to get away. I went and sat in a park and go for 45 minutes and watched the world go by. No food, no phone. Got back home and finished making dinner. I decided I’m done with drama and next year hubby and I will go away. I’m stronger now and willing to say No. I usually host New Year’s Eve. This year just daughter and her hubby and maybe one other daughter. I’m not having a houseful with the stress of cooking and hoping everyone gets along. I’m a work in progress. I’m learning the word No.
  9. 4 points
    cinwa

    Huge Doubts

    I wasted 35+ years of my life yoyo-dieting my way up to close to 300 lb at one point and many of those diets were pretty much a post-WLS diet of lean meat and vegetables and salad. I lost some weight but I couldn't stick with it and ended up heavier each time. The RNY gave me a reduced capacity and intolerance of some foods (sugars and fats) and that has kept me on plan.
  10. 4 points
    Jen581791

    Dating with loose skin etc

    What on earth has internet dating managed to normalize? This is not OK - anyone who asks for nudes is really not worth ever contacting again. Some things are just not OK.
  11. 4 points
    athenarose

    Dating with loose skin etc

    Right?! I've dated a fair amount post-op (including some pretty hot guys) and I've never had a guy ask for nudes. Because they weren't jerks. I can't even....The other good news is that there are plenty of incredibly attractive men who aren't superficial jerks and will be attracted to you because you're you, excess skin and all. Keep your standards high and the right guy will come along.
  12. 4 points
    Kio

    Regaining now after 4 years - sleeve

    You are not a failure! And you are definitely not helpless. The best way to start feeling in control again is to take control. While revision surgery is an option, the most important factor is going to be what you put in your body. I would suggest going right back to basics - what you did when you had your surgery four years ago. Do a week of protein shakes and soft foods, low calorie, low carb - and see if that helps you recalibrate your appetite and any cravings. It may also help you get your sense of restriction back. Then re-evaluate your diet. Are you eating too often? Too many carbs? Too many calories? Are you getting enough fluids/water/protein? All of these will have an impact. I am sure regaining at all is scary - I'm still losing, and still afraid of regain! But look at this with some perspective - 13 lbs over your goal is not a lot. You are nipping this thing in the bud! And it's the end of one year and the start of a new one - a perfect time to evaluate your choices and dedicate yourself to making better ones. I would also suggest sticking around here regularly and reading, posting, participating. It's an amazing way to keep your mind in the game. Best of luck!!
  13. 4 points
    Start eating slowly, asap. That is one of the hardest for me to do on a regular basis, takes a while to break those old bad habits. So maybe find out which habit that you have, that if changed now, will make it much easier for you to adapt to post surgery. You got this
  14. 3 points
    So we all know we're all different when it comes to what works for us diet wise and what doesn't. When TV rating season ends in Australia there's nothing much on tv worth watching so I've been hitting YouTube and google bigtime. I've suspected for most of this year that many of my post surgery issues relate to inflammation, and researching that leads me to a place where I believe my current diet could well be exacerbating that issue. After much research I've decided to start the new year by tossing out my surgeon's plan and following my own....more akin to the Dr Matthew Weiner way of eating post bariatric surgery....minus his green smoothies though. I figure it can't do me too much harm in the next three months before my next visit to my surgeon. Who knows, it might even resolve a lot of issues and show my surgeon a different way. I'm basically going to go sugar free (which we already sort of do), but also grain free. I'm even going to try as far as possible to only eat protien that isn't grain fed, so I guess you could say it's low carb gluten free. Could be interesting to see if I can do it or not, and I do expect some push back from the medical fraternity that I still see, because they really don't seem to like seeing whole food groups eliminated, even though carbs have no intrinsic nutritional value whatsoever. I'm seeing an MD in a couple of days and will be telling him what I'm doing and why, so he can decide if he wants to monitor anything along the way. Please don't assume I'm going off plan without any medical supervision in place. My logic is that when I had my bypass, I wasn't actually unwell. My body was surprisingly metabolically sound for someone who was morbidly obese. I was taking no prescribed medications other than pain relief for my fractured foot, and vitamin D3. Since surgery though it seems my prescribed medications get added to almost by the month. Apart from the vitamins, calcium etc which we all expect, I'm now on diabetic medications daily, other medications that over time will damage my liver and kidneys, daily antihistamines because my body reacts to everything I take or put on my skin, and now hormones. Probably should add here that while symptoms are somewhat improved, they are nowhere near what they should be. Instead I foresee dosages being increased while my aim is to actually eliminate them eventually. As the saying goes somethings gotta give, and at the present time that seems to be my sanity. Maybe changing things up is the answer, maybe it isn't.....I won't know until I try. So wish me luck folks, and if you have a different perspective or even just some other tips, please feel free to share them.
  15. 3 points
    Cheesehead

    Huge Doubts

    I’m with Cinwa. How many times had I tried to do it on my own? I’d failed every one of them. This gave me a fighting chance to drop the weight. It was up to me to keep it off. If I could have done it on my own, I wouldn’t have had to have surgery. This was my last chance at a normal life. Use your first year to change your eating habits and lifestyle.
  16. 3 points
    Aussie Bear

    A couple of days ago

    Just know sweetie that you've done everything....and I mean EVERYTHING....to be in the best place healthwise that you can possibly be to allow these surgeries to be a success. I've had an endocrinologist, a bariatric general practitioner, and a surgeon, tell me I'm amazing! That my weightloss is a shining example of just what is possible, but they tell their patients not to expect because it's unlikely they'll ever get to a normal BMI after WLS. By transference, that makes you amazing as well.....along with pretty much every regular poster on this site. We all care about each other and support each other....unlike so many other sites where mediocrity seems to be the goal. Those of us that have reached or are closing in on "normal" BMIs are all stars of the process and have all worked our tools to the absolute best of their ability. Whether we realise it or not, we are organised, we are planners, and we follow through on or plans. What I'm about to say isn't meant to be a scare story..... Although it is quite horrible. I know a woman who underwent VSG in January this year. Her whole goal was to get herself to a point where her orthopaedic surgeon would do her knee replacements. That's all she wanted...her weight down to the magic number required by her surgeon. She started at 160kg (353lb), she was not compliant with her pre-op diet and was lucky to have her surgery proceed as planned. In 11 months she dropped to 120kg (265lb) and for reasons I don't quite follow her orthopaedic surgeon went ahead and performed her first knee replacement surgery just before Christmas. Most here in Australia won't do them until patient BMI is below 35. This woman chose a VSG because she didn't want to risk dumping syndrome....according to her she liked icecream too much to risk losing it from her life. Post surgery soft serve icecream was a staple of her diet, as were marshmallows....makes me nauseated just thinking about it....and yeah I'm being very judgey. She was "too busy" after her surgery to bother picking up her vitamins, so to this day has not been taking them. Christmas day she woke up in her bed with cellulitus weeping so badly her leg was stuck to her sheets. She is malnourished by her poor nutritionally lacking high sugar diet. She really didn't stand a chance!!!! THIS is NOT you sweetie. You've proven time and again that your health is a priority in your life. You will be compliant with the requirements after your surgery just as you have proven to be after your RNY. Your results alone prove that. You will do your exercises and you will be mobile again. When you start to feel sorry for yourself remember me...think about the months I spent home alone non-weightbearing. It was so, so, hard....but I took a relatively short term inconvenience to regain my mobility....and I did it!!!! YOU WILL TOO!!!! You are much stronger than I am, and I suspect even more determined than me. Sure you're going to be in pain for a while, but the end result will be the mobility you've dreamed about and worked towards for so long. I know it's been hard....but you are a star my distant friend....you have a level of resilience even you dont realise yet. Knee surgeries aren't the end of your journey, they are just part of the one you started long ago to a whole new life. My god when you get your mobility back you are going to be unstoppable!!!!!
  17. 3 points
    Cardamom77

    Dating with loose skin etc

    Sooooo I date. Yes, I’m married but we are polyamorous and we date and have relationships with other people as well. We have since we started dating 13+ years ago. It works for us. It had been years since I had even bothered, but I decided to start an online dating profile on a whim and WHOA do people respond in droves when you’re thin! I actually put on my profile that I didn’t want to talk to anyone who had a “no fatties” policy because I used to be one. Lol Anyway, I met someone who is a runner and works out religiously and is pretty objectively hot and he is not put off at all by my loose skin. He actually likes it - it’s soft and feels nice. We do talk about fitness, etc and he knows I’m working on building some muscle but he isn’t critical or pushy about it - plus I ask him for advice sometimes since he knows his stuff. My girlfriend is on the heavier side (which of course is not a problem for me) and she likes it, too. My husband has been there through all of the changes and is completely in love with every changing inch. (It’s fun when I go to the gyno and they ask if my partner *fill in the blank* and I say “which one?” Lol!) If you can relax about it, it’s really not a bad thing. Easier said than done, I know, and I’m still working on it myself. But I’m getting there. So don’t worry. The right person will appreciate you for who you are. As my boyfriend likes to say, “I love the package you come in.” ❤️
  18. 3 points
    Nana Trish

    Merry Christmas!!

    Wishing you all a very Merry Christmas and a safe and happy New Year! I’m sending all of my love and prayers to you all ❤️ Enjoy!
  19. 3 points
    Res Ipsa

    Merry Christmas 2018

    It is....
  20. 3 points
    Cheesehead

    Creating healthy boundaries

    When there is drama at this house, I have an escape route. We have 5 adult ? Children. There is always someone at odds with another. 2 years ago at baking weekend 2 of the girls started arguing. I couldn’t get to my car so I took hubby’s old beater truck, backed into a tree, and headed to town. I went to a man store (fleet farm) not sure why bgecause my normal would have been Wally World. I felt a tap on my shoulder and hubby was there. He told me I told them to be gone when I got home. Lol! Right now we have daughter, her hubby and 4 month old living with us. They are working on closing on a house, suffice it to say it’s been stressful. Half the time she isn’t talking to her hubby or us. I just rattle on. If things get to stressful, I go to a store and walk around in a daze. Or shrug my shoulders and carry on-I’m getting better at that..:). Right now food isn’t calling, I’m good. Find what works.. go have a coffee, go for a walk someplace, forget food it isn’t callling..
  21. 3 points
    tracyringo

    Happy Holidays !!

    Thanks guys, it was nice being able to do something fun !!!!
  22. 3 points
    tracyringo

    Happy Holidays !!

    Happy Holidays !! Not quite sure why the pic is so big. Anyways Merry Christmas !
  23. 3 points
    Cheesehead

    Happy Holidays !!

    Cute picture! Love the dress! Looking festive!
  24. 3 points
    Aussie Bear

    Happy Holidays !!

    Very festive outfit Tracy.....but OMG your house is spotless!!!!
  25. 3 points
    cinwa

    Happy Holidays !!

    WOW Tracy! You have embraced Christmas totally - you are looking fantastic!