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  1. 8 points
    delilas

    Quick updates (bumpdates?)

    Not overall WLS related, so I didn't want to throw it in my blog, but I am still indeed alive! Thank you to @CheeringCJ for poking me once in awhile and reminding me to check in 31 weeks pregnant now, so we're in the home stretch! At my first scan at 20 weeks, baby was a little undersized (40th percentile), and considering my sleeve was pretty fresh, they put us on schedule to have a couple follow up scans to make sure she was getting nutrition and all. Surprise! At the scan at 28 weeks, she jumped to the 67th percentile and was already 3 pounds I guess all those burritos are working For real, though, mexican style food is all I want to eat - that and salads. Thank goodness for some balance! I can't get enough cheese in my life, or enough crispy cold lettuce in my life. I'm forever grateful, honestly, that my sleeve keeps the eating a bit in check. I'm trying to be very mindful of getting proper nutrition, but even when it comes to vegetables, I feel I could easily go overboard if not for the restriction I feel. I've gained 12 pounds in pregnancy so far. Its very disconcerting to see the scale go back up after fighting for the losses for the last year, but I'm trying to focus on what's healthy for us both! I have an issue called symphasis pubis dysfunction - the damn hormones that relax and widen everything are causing me to have a ton of pain when walking because my pelvis is essentially shearing So I know some of that gain, beyond a big ol' baby and amniotic fluid, is the fact I'm not moving much. I'm currently restricted to being on my feet 4 hours a day at work. I can't wait to have this kiddo and eventually get back to walking and hiking! I'm still fitting in the same size of clothing overall (14 in jeans and usually a L in shirts) as prior to pregnancy. I just have a basketball sticking out the front of me now I go for another baby growth scan in a couple weeks, and am crossing my fingers she didn't take my encouragement to grow to add another 20% to her percentile again!
  2. 8 points
    Nana Trish

    Local support group

    I haven’t been on the forum much lately. I’m sorry for this. I have been experiencing some, what I believe to be, post op depression, for the first time ever in my memory.. I’m not handling it well. But I’m trying to keep it under control as I have my next knee replacement surgery 2 weeks from tomorrow. I had my most recent physical therapy session yesterday afternoon. They said I’m doing well, which of course is a good thing. But this depression is causing me to feel like I’m not doing anything right, or doing enough. Well, because of the way I’ve been feeling, and since I don’t have my Harper back until the end of April, I decided to attend one of my bariatric surgeon’s support groups. I’m almost 2 years post op, and it was the first one I’ve been to. They are held the first Monday of the month, and I normally have Harper on Monday’s, and you really can’t get much out of a support group with a 2 year old in tow, lol. AND...the guest speaker for the evening just happened to be an orthopedic surgeon (one that belongs to the same practice as my knee guy!) so I figured what the heck! So I went The surgeon had LOTS of great info about knee/hip replacements, and we were able to ask lots of questions. After the surgeon was done talking, my bariatric surgron’s RN hosted the “sharing” portion of the meeting. We went around the room, and had the chance to share (or pass) table by table. When they got to me, about 2/3 the way through the group, I was kind of nervous. REALLY nervous, actually. But, I though...this is why I’m here. I wanted to hear everyone else’s experiences, but I needed them to hear MINE, too. So I actually spoke up. I was so proud to say that I have lost 195 pounds (the highest amount lost in the whole group), that I’m almost 2 years post op, I’m a diabetic in complete remission, no more blood pressure or cholesterol meds, no more sleep apnea, you guys know my history. It was kind of surreal. It truly helped my depression (at least for a few hours yesterday), and I added a HUGE NSV to my list!! Pre op, I NEVER would have been able to speak to a group of about 35ish (?) people, with some confidence, and not break down. It was quite cathartic to be honest. Who knew?? I’m going to try and make it to the next meeting, which I think is April 1st, but I’ll have to see how new knee #2 is doing, since that will only be 11 days after surgery. I guess the whole point of this post is that reaching out, and even trying something new, can be extremely helpful when you are going through times of extreme stress. At ANY point post op. I’m still learning new things about myself every day...but even imagining speaking to a group of people about WLS, with some authority I might add, was something I couldn’t have pictured even 2 years ago. I’m so very glad I did it. And I hope I can keep reaching down deep inside of myself and continue trying new things. Because it’s pretty awesome! And people really do want to know what I’ve got to say! As usual, thank you so much for listening guys!! ❤️❤️❤️
  3. 7 points
    Nana Trish

    200 pounds...gone!

    I only have a quick minute to post right now, but I will be back later on, after my physical therapy appointment. I have to start by saying that I NEVER, EVER expected to be posting this! I've been close to 200 pounds down, and jokingly said that I'm going to shoot for 136.6 just to say I've lost 200 pounds. Well this morning, it happened. I jumped on the scale, and it read 135.4...so that's a total loss of 201.2 pounds! I just had to share with you guys...like I said, I will be back later today, but for now, I'm going to leave these right here, hehehe... Oh, and that little gain "blip" on My Fitness Pal? That happened just post op from my knee surgery when I gained 13ish pounds from water weight. Besides that, you can see that I've been maintaining really well
  4. 6 points
    lightenupwoman

    Coming up on 5 years!!

    I can't believe it. I don't have any recent body pics. I'll put one up on the actual day. My lowest weight was I think 165 and I'm at 188 now. I would like to get back to 180. I got off track for a while there. Right now it's just odd because I have no appetite again. I have zero head hunger and I have to make myself eat. For a while there I had a lot of head hunger. This is such an odd phenomenon. I started taking progesterone for perimenopause and my breasts went up a cup size so that might account for two pounds. Lol.
  5. 6 points
    Cheesehead

    Just because I can

    February has been brutal. We got over 37” of snow and fidgid cold weather. My hubby travels for work but when he is home he uses the tractor to plow the driveway. I can usually make do until he gets home. This last month if we get 4” of snow and he is gone, I shovel it. I did it twice this week. Our neighbor has volunteered to do it and my son in law has volunteered to bring their snow blower down. But I realized yesterday, as long as it is powdery snow, I actually ENJOY shoveling! When I was bigger I’d have been horribly out of breath. I actually had the driveway done before the neighbor had his done..
  6. 6 points
    Aussie Bear

    Family by the Ton series on TLC

    Jen I feel exactly the same way about my TTF family. Prior to my surgery this forum was invaluable for not not only the information it gave but also for the more veteran members proving to me this surgery can work longer and providing such great advice. Around my surgery time I got to connect with a whole bunch of newer members and we shared each others goals and successes, as well as the downtimes. You folk know who you are, and I thank you for helping me along the way. For now we get to share what we've learned with new members. I often wonder about some of the original members who were here when I joined but have long since gone. I do know some have been dealing with significant regains, and I'm sad they've moved on and away not only from this supportive environment, but also from being examples of where the curve balls come from and what to do about it. I realise a degree of regain is expected, and to the surgeons at least, is acceptable. Mine told me that the 12-18 month mark is a critical regain time. Those of us here who had surgery around the time I did, have now safely traversed that stage with just minor blimps. I definitely believe this forum gave me an accountability to myself I wouldn't have otherwise had. Research suggests that the really tough time comes at 3 years out for sleevers, and 5 years out for bypassers. This would seem to be the case for many veteran TTFers who are no longer here from what I can tell. Let's hope all of us can get through those times just as well. @Res Ipsa, @Cheesehead, and @cinwa, have all proven to us it can be done.....we just have to prove it to ourselves now.
  7. 6 points
    What a fantastic conversation! This is the reason I love this site. You guys are SO spot on. Thank you! I currently have alot of loose skin - on my thighs, on my upper arms, alot on my lower butt, and a little on my stomach. Like @cinwa I have yoyo-ed my whole life. I remember my MIL saying that you wear the past on your face. Well, I wear the past on my body. I was obese, and didn't lose it all until I was 57. So now I will always have extra skin. This thread reminds me that no one else cares. And I don't do all this work to now fret over skin. I do it to be healthy in my future! Yes, I have extra skin. But no more CPAP machine, no more fat "wings" on my back, no more losing my breath when I tie my shoes, no more ankle pain every afternoon, no more embarrassment on airplanes, no more dreading clothing stores, no more upper arms that I thought looked like huge hams, no more high blood pressure. The list is endless! Skin, schmin, not a big deal!
  8. 5 points
    Kio

    still here!

    Well, all this has made one thing clear to me: ALL the coolest kids have no gallbladder! I'm about to join an elite crew!
  9. 5 points
    tracyringo

    Family by the Ton series on TLC

    I really don't know how my journey would have gone had a not had this board. I do plan on sticking around though and hope I can help others. I figure I will be more successful if I stay here and hold myself accountable with others.
  10. 5 points
    Aussie Bear

    Family by the Ton series on TLC

    I don't see anything wrong with those who are successful taking a harder line. They know what works, and let's be honest for a minute here, we all went into our surgeries wanting it to work for us long term...I know I certainly did. I regained more than I lost after my original surgery back in 1986. My surgeon said that particular surgery was pretty useless, which is why it was discontinued a year later, plus there was no ongoing support and no internet. These days we're lucky that we can connect with those who have longer success and can tell us the hard truths. I certainly don't beat around the bush with people considering surgery regarding how hard this is when "the honeymoon is over". I believe it does people a disservice to molly-coddle them and pretend regain isn't all about their personal food choices. If we don't want to regain then we need to take personal responsibility for our choices....and we do control what we choose to eat. It's a long weekend where I live, and my sister invited me to go and stay with her (middle of nowhere with no shops open). I know how she eats even just 4 months post-op, and knew I'd need to take all my meals and snacks with me if I went, or I'd be regaining myself. I chose not to go, partly because of that, and also because I can't be bothered listening to her talk about how slowly she's losing. It's her food and wine choices, it's not my business or responsibility.....but would become something I couldn't just ignore if I'm stuck there listening to her complain about it.
  11. 5 points
    Res Ipsa

    Family by the Ton series on TLC

    I simply regard weight regain as not being an acceptable option. I did not have intestinal surgery except to lose my excess weight and keep it off long term. Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels. TTF is my support to keep myself from any regain.
  12. 5 points
    Jen581791

    Family by the Ton series on TLC

    I am forever grateful for the extremely healthy and balanced culture we have here at TTF. I have no doubt that the much-improved relationship I have with food is helped considerably by chatting with all of you wise people. I never ever want to be one of the regain statistics. It would be heartbreaking to me. But I know I can be in control of that, as long as I continue to live with the rules I know I need to follow. Thank you all for contributing to this sensible culture of accountability!
  13. 5 points
    @CheeringCJ, glad you could find a compromise workaround. I'm really really working on being OK with my body because beach is a pretty normal part of life here. Sadly, I am pretty distracted by my body issues while at the beach, but it's getting easier. I can't imagine spending the weekend (actually 2 weekends in a row now) at the beach with younger, fitter friends, but I seem to have survived it. I totally agree with the 1-3%, but I wish the other 97% of us could just feel OK about being there doing beach things and not being self-conscious! Maybe someday I'll be a stronger person, and I actually feel somewhat OK, depending on the activity. I try to keep thinking to myself: Hey, two years ago I wouldn't have gone to the beach at all, probably not even in a maxi dress. And now I'm OK with about 90% of my body. That's a huge leap, and really I should be proud. We should all be proud of the amazing progress we've made. The woman who feels comfortable frolicking in a bikini is a rare bird.
  14. 5 points
    It is still winter here in the NE but we were at a convention in FL over the week w/ 4 other couples that we are very close with (none of them know I had surgery bc, frankly only my family knows still). we went down very early Sunday so my husband and i spent the day on Coco beach which was perfect bc i am far to saggy in my bathing suit to share that experience w/ even my closet friends. The conference was over Wed at noon and we weren’t scheduled to fly out until 10 pm so my husband and i were going back to the beach until one other couple wanted to spend the day w/ us and head back to the airport together as they didn’t have a rental car. I debated about it long and hard in my head. I love these two ppl but she is so tiny and naturally thin (and much younger) and I knew that despite my enjoying this couple, I knew i would be totally distracted the whole time w/ my own body issues and never have an ounce of peace or fun. Instead, I suggested we go to Disney Springs for the afternoon which was a lot of fun (and free) and we were still out in the gorgeous. Florida sunshine! It was a win-win w/o me being obsessed with ME! while at the beach on Sunday though, I wasn’t as crazy as I could have been bc I kept seeing other ppl that looked the same as me (or worse yet, were wearing a bikini when they had no license to!!! Haha!). I have come to the conclusion that only 1-3% of the people on beaches look good in a bathing suit so i am definitely in the majority. I am ok as long as they are strangers or my husband/kids, but I still can’t deal w/ friends yet. Probably never will and so I just will avoid situations where I would have to. We live on the east coast but rarely go the shore w/ anyone other than family so I am probably pretty safe avoiding it!
  15. 4 points
    Kio

    still here!

    Hi everybody! I haven't been around much, but wanted to say I'm still out here, still (mostly) on track. I say mostly because I've had a pretty hard week or so just now. I'm having a LOT of intermittent abdominal pain from what is most likely a diverticulitis attack, and I've spent the past three days eating either nothing at all, or plain crackers, because that's all my sad little guts can handle. Dairy is right out, as is any other form of protein. On the bright side, my calorie intake is so low I'm losing weight again? Er, yay? Diverticulitis is something I had some experience with even before surgery, so it's unrelated to my gastric bypass if that's what it is. I'm having some tests done, and that's the prime suspect. The other possibility is gallstones, but I'm betting not; it's just too much like what I've had to deal with in the past - the same pain, that comes and goes in the same way, and all the same gurgling and burping and suchlike. Hopefully I'll know more soon; right now, all I can say is all the blood tests they ordered came back normal. I've got ultrasounds coming up next week. But the worst (knock on wood) seems to have passed. At least, I'm hoping so! Other than that issue, I'm just keeping on program and doing my thing. I miss you guys when I'm not around, and as soon as this situation passes, I'll try to be around more! Many hugs.
  16. 4 points
    Kim M

    Where it all began

    I am talking about my regain. i remember the lie I told myself the first time. I could have a blueberry muffin. Just one. However, if it was okay why did I feel I couldn't eat it in front of anyone. And so the lies began. Be it lies of omission to others, and lies to myself that I could stop the next day. Each day I told myself the same lie. I stopped getting on the scale...I knew my pants were getting tight. Then there was the ability to eat more at meals which I did. The grazing on carbs in-between my healthy looking meals. Sometimes I was too sick to eat my healthy meals. I would complain I was gaining weight too ashamed to admit the reason why. I never ate in front of people. The denial was so great that it didn't matter if I ate in front of people, because I was gaining weight. I suppose I could have come here and confessed my insanity, but I felt powerless to stop. I didn't want anyone to know what a failure I had become. I could have done a lot of things but I choose to continue on a self destructive path. The reason I am writing this today is because I walked into that store today and looked at the muffins. I wanted one. I even tried to justify that it would be okay to have one. I thought of the difficult week I have had and that I deserved some comfort. I know sitting here writing this knowing that eating muffins is not self care. Yes it has been a tough week. I had a car accident, I was coming from a wake and I was in physical pain from the accident. All true but all excuses. I am writing this for me but also for all those caught in the cycle of compulsive eating. I do understand your pain and suffering. I don't want you to regain and feel the shame and guilt that I felt. I don't want you to feel the self loathing of feeling powerless. I want to end by saying there is hope. I am in a better place. Today I didn't believe the lie. Today I knew I had choices. Today I choose to pass by the blueberry muffin and get what I needed for my dinner and come home. I choose to come here. I read some posts and replied to give support to others. I then thought I should write this. Maybe it is cathartic for me which is okay. I need help sometimes. I also hope that anyone who is struggling might read this and know that you have a choice. It is not always easy to do what is in our best interest. What i have learned again and again is feelings are just that. I don't have to act on them and make things worse. Sending love to all those in need,,,including myself.
  17. 4 points
    Nana Trish

    NSV of the Week - whats yours?

    I took a bath today!!!! I know that doesn't sound like a big deal, but for me it truly is! I've lived in my house for 16 years now, and have NEVER fit in the tub. I've taken a couple of baths years ago, but I was wedged in on both sides. Before I had my knee done, I didn't dare try, because even though I knew I'd surely fit now, I didn't know if I'd be able to get out due to my knees. Well today I did it!! There was so much room in the tub, it was insane...lol. And I'm light enough now that I was able to get out without much use of my knees, which was another plus
  18. 4 points
    Cheesehead

    How is this possible?

    Thank goodness! How are you today? I’ve just gotten so I throw caution to the wind. I ordered a grilled chicken sandwich Friday. I usually throw the bun out but wanted the lettuce and tomato with it, so I took the top half off, cut the chicken and bottom bun in half and had a weird sandwich. Only ate a quarter of it. But guess what? It didn’t kill me and it didn’t make me gain weight over night. At this point do what you have to. Get back up to where you are comfortable and cut back....to maintainence..
  19. 4 points
    Nana Trish

    How is this possible?

    Thank you so much, sweet @Cindy Lou Who!! ❤️❤️❤️ I actually turned a corner yesterday morning, thank GOD!! It is utterly amazing how crappy pouch swelling can make you feel, and that you can literally forget this soon after surgery that that is what you’re actually experiencing. All I needed to do was get the swelling down enough to be able to hold down some protein drink, then yogurt, and I knew it would get better from there. I drank 2 whole protein shakes, ate 3 whole yogurts, and actually ate an English muffin last night. Please understand that an English muffin is NOT a normal part of my diet, but it truly was the only other thing that sounded good. I wanted to eat something non dairy based in the evening, because after not eating for almost 5 days, then having all that dairy, it caused some diarreah and I wanted to stop that. So I ate half, and let it sit for an hour. Then I ate the other half. It was glorious! I also was able to drink 80 ounces of water!! Last night was the first time in 6 days I didn’t lose any weight!! I’m completely exhausted today, but most definitely feeling a lot better. Thank you so much for the support and love!
  20. 4 points
    tracyringo

    19 months post op VSG

    I am weighing in at 172 even this morning .6 less then 18 month. I hit 170.8 this month and bounced right back up. My weight is holding without much effort on most days at 172 or 173. My body is comfortable here and I am pretty content with my size. I also like not having to track anymore and I don't have as much anxiety about regain, but I am weighing in everyday. At 19 months out I am not a perfect eater but I still put protein first 95% of the time and I still read the labels when grocery shopping. I also try to keep junk out of the house but like I said I am not perfect. I still have really good restriction as long as I eat my protein first, I can eat 3 to 4 oz of meat , but not much more then that. Salads are not a slider food for me but I have seen others who say that they are for them. My slider foods are of the savory sort and I wasn't a savory eater before VSG so I just keep those out of the house and it doesn't bother me, but cupcakes are a different story, cake of any kind I do occasional cupcakes now because of the size and they do sell them in singles. I know this isn't for everyone but it makes me feel normal to be able to enjoy one if/when I want. I had my breast reduction and lift 2 1/2 weeks ago and all went well and I am doing really well. My surgeon Dr. Mystrik was great and did a really nice job. I still cant believe these are mine, lol. This is the 2nd best thing I have done so far.
  21. 4 points
    Cindy Lou Who

    19 months post op VSG

    MY HERO!!! Way to kill it on maintenance! This is the most important phase, because it is the rest of our lives, and you are doing awesome!!!! Thanks for sharing. You are showing great strength while going into this next part of your journey. As I see it, you are: 1) Keeping your weight steady 2) Checking in every day with the scale 3) Lowering your anxiety about weight regain 4) Finding where your body weight is comfortable 5) Learning body acceptance 6) Learning food habits that work for you Wow, wow, WOW! Awesome! Great job! Holding steady weight, learning where my body is comfortable, and lowering anxiety about regain are three that I'm struggling with, but I'm only 12 months out. You've set a good goal for me to add these other accomplishments by month 19. Thanks for posting!
  22. 4 points
    I’d call them battle scars! It’s like a battle for health, and you’re surely on the winner’s side.
  23. 4 points
    @Jen581791, Congratulations on your 2 year anniversary! Fantastic! You rock!! @Aussie Bear, @Nana Trish, @NerdyToothpick, @BurgundyBoy - All nearing 2 year surgiversaries too! Wow! The All Star team of TT! Congratulations to all of you and thank you so much for staying here! You all inspire in SO many ways! Sorry I've been away. Been working out of town and feeling unbalanced with too much work and stress. I need more TT in my life! I did get to travel to Hawaii last week, and did the bathing suit thing. Good side - before I went I ordered a bunch of stuff from Land's End on clearance, and actually had fun picking bathing suits out! Picked lots of tops and bottoms to mix and match. First time I EVER halfway enjoyed buying bathing suits! Bad side - I have had the mantra for months that "I spent so many years hating my body because it's fat. I REFUSE to now hate my thin body because it has extra skin." Well, that's easier said in winter leggings than in shorts and bathing suits! I did feel pretty darn self conscious with my legs out. I kept fearing everyone was secretly horrified when they saw me. When I think about it, though I have to share something. When we first moved to Houston, it was my first time to play golf with women. A group of ladies (about 15 years my senior) sort of adopted me and I played with them frequently. They all were fit, were awesome, and all had saggy knees sticking out of their golf shorts/skirts. I remember thinking that they looked great, were out being healthy, showed alot of confidence, and who cares about saggy knees! I aspired to remember and be like them one day. Well, guess what, 15 years later, that one day is here! Even if I didn't ever have obesity and heavy weight loss my knees would still be wrinkly and saggy! And now I'm trim enough to fit in shorts, so I should just do it and be brave like them! Who cares if I have more skin than most? If that's the breaks, I'll take it. On the other hand, my girlfriend in Hawaii had a suggestion. She wears alot of tunics and short dresses, and wears white cotton capri leggings with them so she doesn't have any wardrobe mishaps. She's young, gorgeous and fit, but is a real estate agent so is out with public alot and wants to look professional, but still casual. Well, I found white (and other colors) capri leggings in the girls dept at Target for $5.00! Hah! I think I'll try them out this summer with my shorter dresses and skirts.
  24. 3 points
    Brattykid

    Body changes

    Been fighting with the same 5 lbs for the last 5-6 weeks up and down up and down. I'm not worried and I know it will change. But here's photo proof of the body changing even when the scale is not. I don't promote ZOZO or anything else, I just hopped on the bandwagon of ordering their free suit (pay $4 shipping) so it can take my measurements. If you don't know anything about them they are this Japanese company that did this promotion of their suit & accompanying app that will take your body measurements so that you can order custom fit clothing from them. Of course they probably didn't account for the huge bariatric community and other folks who need to take body measurements getting their suits and then oftentimes not ordering any clothing. I will probably order something from them eventually, but can't seem to cough up the $60 for a pair of jeans I might not fit into next month. So I'll probably reward myself with a pair when my goal is met. Creepy how accurate the measurements are...
  25. 3 points
    ktallon

    NSV of the Week - whats yours?

    NSV for me i went shoe shopping yesterday for the first time in about 2 years. I have been maintaining under my goal weight for a few months now. I realized i have lost so much weight that i actually had to shop in the kids section for shoes. Woot woot thats a lot of shoe sizes lost considering just 2 years ago i was wearing a size 10 in womans.
  26. 3 points
    Such an important message for those in the early stages of considering surgery. My Doctor was really good at explaining this to me. I also spoke with some of his past patients for mentoring before committing to the procedure. Surgery is a fantastic catalyst and motivator, but it's not a magic pill. It CAN jumpstart a change in your life, but at the end of the day, it's you who changes your life. And that's a lot more empowering when you think about it.
  27. 3 points
    Kio

    still here!

    Hey guys, just letting you all know I'm out of surgery and back home. Also on the very good drugs. I'm having more pain than I did from my RNY, actually - with that I never got the collar-bone/shoulders gas pain everyone described, but with this one I'm definitely having a bunch of it. The doc said surgery could not have gone better, they got it all out in one piece (which doesn't always happen) and there was definitely one big stone about the size of a marble/ given size and shape they're sure that's what has been causing my pain. So crossing fingers that this WAS the cause, and I'll be better in a couple of days!
  28. 3 points
    Res Ipsa

    How is this possible?

    @Nana Trish It is really wonderful to hear that you are doing better! An occasional English muffin, bagel or muffin is totally fine for those of us (like you and me) at maintenance. You can even slather it with some butter or cream cheese. Indeed, almost any food is fine for occasional consumption in the maintenance diet, as a part of an overall healthy and balance diet, as long as that food does not make you dump.
  29. 3 points
    Res Ipsa

    How is this possible?

    Your current 20.3 BMI is still in the normal range, so there is no reason to panic. Just do your best all day long to get protein, calories and liquids into your body. Your stomach should return to normal soon, and then you can increase your calorie intake if you want to gain a few pounds back. We are here to support you.
  30. 3 points
    Welcome! According to your stats. You’ve lost 30#. That 10# a month. You are considered a “lightweight”. Since lightweights have less to lose, they lose slower. Stay on your plan. You will reach goal. You have less than #50 to goal. Did you take measurements so you can see where you’re losing inches?
  31. 3 points
    BurgundyBoy

    Too much protein?

    There are studies showing that people with kidney disease need to be careful with protein intake, but shy of that there is not much evidence of such a problem. One example I have read about is something called (by some) rabbit disease. The traditional diet of the Inuit peoples of the far North was very enhanced in protein and fat, and only about 15-20% carbohydrate ... and you may know that they famously had excellent cardiovascular health on a protein and fat rich traditional diet. They also got all their vitamin C, vitamin A and so forth from the flesh of the animals and fish they ate. Rates of things like diabetes in people eating a traditional Inuit diet was about half that of people eating a Western diet. (But of course they also exercised a lot, being an hunter-gatherer can take a lot of work). I've read that in this kind of diet, the calories from fat were 2-3 times the number of calories obtained from protein (animal and fish meat, primarily). One difference between the famous (or infamous) Atkins diet and the Inuit diet is that there was a lot more of the 'healthy' fish oils in the Inuit diet - the ones called omega-3s. "Rabbit disease" occurred in people who ate only protein that was deficient in fat. Rabbits are notoriously low in fat and very lean. In many traditional hunter-gatherer societies / cultures people would not eat meat that did not have fat since it could lead to protein toxicity - wasting, nausea, vomiting, liver problems. I think the body gets overwhelmed with the amount of nitrogen waste on a pure protein diet.
  32. 3 points
    CheeringCJ

    Family by the Ton series on TLC

    I am always slapped back to reality when I see them. I am blown away when they are laying on their bed eating fried chicken and chips and think “I can’t ever let myself lose control again”. I get so sad for them and know how hard it is to control on your own (though honestly 600# is so unbelievable I don’t know how they cope. I’d give up (quite literally)
  33. 3 points
    Aussie Bear

    Family by the Ton series on TLC

    I don't find them depressing. I do find them a good reality check though especially when others are trying to convince me that "just a small serve of XYZ won't hurt me". Even moreso when these folk are bariatric patients themselves that have significant weightgain.....and boy do I know a lot of them!!! I'm not yet at a point where I feel comfortable just responding with a "and how did that work for you?" line, despite the fact I often find their behaviour and comments quite rude. However, I can watch these shows.... admittedly sometimes yelling at the TV....and reassure myself that I've actually made the permanent lifestyle changes the bariatric surgeons on these show tell their patients to make. I can see how those the show focuses on often delude themselves both before and after surgery....and I'm reassured that I know that isn't me. If I'm starting to see old habits sneak back in, then these kinds of shows very quickly snap me back into the reality of where those habits might take me.
  34. 3 points
    Nana Trish

    Family by the Ton series on TLC

    I know exactly what you mean about the reality shows, @Cindy Lou Who. My 600lb life is the only one I think I've ever watched. And I'm not truly sure why I ever watched the first episode, to be totally honest. But once I did, I really do find that watching it, when I might be having a particularly rough day with cravings, or head hunger, or just sticking to plan...it helps to kick me back into the straight and narrow. And I have to truly be struggling to watch it. I can't just sit down and watch if I'm having a good day. I know, weird. But I think your approach is much healthier, lol...because these shows can be very depressing, and that's not good for anybody.
  35. 3 points
    I'm definitely with @Nana Trish, but for both shows. I tend to do better focusing on where I want to go (TT heroes, friends making healthy decisions, happy people) than where I want to avoid (reality shows). Just part of my personality. For me focusing on the positive pushes me up and looking on the negative makes me drift down. Reality shows depress me.
  36. 3 points
    Nana Trish

    Family by the Ton series on TLC

    Tracy, I haven’t seen this show yet. I have watched several episodes of My 600lb. Life, though. I tend to want to watch that show when I feel like I’ve been slacking off a little with my routine, and have maybe been eating some things I know I shouldn’t. All of the people on that show that need to lose the weight know they are killing themselves, and they know they want the surgery. But they are so argumentative most of the time, and so quick to be pissed off at the doctor if he tells them he can’t or won’t do the surgery because they aren’t following the pre op plan, it kind of boggles my mind. So I watch, then I get myself back on track, and go on with my day. I don’t think I could bring myself to watch the other show though. I think that would be too much for me.
  37. 3 points
    i love this! I agree wholeheartedly. I'm currently in the first phase of afraid I'll gain it back. But I can see in the future that hopefully, as I'm successful keeping it off, I'll be the second phase where I'm "normal" so it's no one's business. I'm currently working for a new client whose employees only know me at goal weight. It's fun to think that they probably just see me as a normal, fit person! Yesterday one of them said, "Oh yeah, you're like a cool soccer mom." Hahahahaha!!! If they only knew!
  38. 3 points
    cinwa

    Family by the Ton series on TLC

    Coming here every day has kept me focussed. Without that, I have no doubt that I would have gone back to my old eating habits.
  39. 3 points
    Anita62

    Local support group

    That is great!! I have attended meetings every month. I don't get much out of some, but others are remarkable. I need this group and my monthly meeting to help me keep accountable to myself. Last meeting it was announced that starting in April meetings will be held twice monthly. I am so happy, two weeks is so much better to go without live communication then one month. I do pray your depression lightens and your healing progresses smoothly.
  40. 3 points
    Cheesehead

    Family by the Ton series on TLC

    Some days I get busy, some days are hectic, but I always try to check in at least once a day. I like the support everyone gives and gets! I had a boss that I knew way before wls. She had RNY. She’s gained every pound plus back. The thing that stands out is she always had a coke and a box of crackers on her desk. I try not to judge, but.... at first I didn’t tell people I had wls because I was afraid I would gain it back. Now, I just want to be seen as “normal” so it’s none of anyone’s business. I also wonder what happened to everyone..
  41. 3 points
    tracyringo

    Family by the Ton series on TLC

    I am with you Cindy this was a big deal for me, my last chance and I am so grateful and like @Aussie Bear I worked at this. I made changes to get here and make choices everyday to stay here ! Do I get off track ? Yes I do sometimes but I hold myself accountable and get right back on anytime that number moves up where I don't like it.
  42. 3 points
    So this was me at my highest weight and then about 3 months ago. I've been steady with my weight but it's ok. I've only lost about 5 to 10lbs the last few months. But here you go.
  43. 3 points
    Rob_VSG

    1 year follow up (brain dump)

    I saw my surgeon for my one year follow up appointment. He was so thrilled with my progress (145 lbs) he asked if he could make me his patient of the month. So, what I have learned over this past year? 1. I was seriously physically, emotionally and chemically addicted to refined carbohydrates and sugars. The post-op diet was the best time to break that addiction since soon afterwards the focus gets placed on getting in enough nutrient dense protein. Basically, you don't have space for refined carbs. 2. Seems like the key to controlling weight is controlling insulin as this is your bodies master control hormone that rules all of the other hormones that affect your metabolism. Once your insulin goes up it signals your metabolism to store energy, which also means you won't burn fat. For me, I find that a ketogenic (protein first) style of eating combined with intermittent fasting works best. With the bulk of my food intake being nutrient dense protein and healthy fats, I feel full and satiated easily. Being in ketosis makes fasting for 14-18 hours a day fairly easy since my insulin stays low and blood sugar stays stable cravings are near zero. I measure my blood ketones with a home meter and if ketones are showing up, then insulin is staying low. 3. The expression "you will crave tomorrow what you eat today" is pretty darn accurate. While I may think about food during my fasting period, my brain has shifted from the "what can I eat now" mind set to "what tasty nutrient dense meal can I have later when my fasting window is done". Frankly, I didn't believe that mind set change was possible when I started this process, but I stuck to the post-op plan of protein first (lots of water too!) and slowly shifted into the keto style of eating and extending my nightly fasting window and over time, my mind set has changed. 4. Exercise for health: Strenuous exercise is not required to lose weight. For the past year, I've only been walking 20-30 minutes a day for 4 days a week and most of my effort is round working on my eating patterns and nutrition. I don't have any exercise I actually like to do, maybe one day I will find some. If you have a physical activity you enjoy thats awesome, but don't rely on it to help you lose weight because it's really more about controlling hormones. I am now at the point where I needed to line up a personal trainer to start making sure I am able to maintain or maybe increase muscle mass, improve range of motion and fine tune the neuromuscular system. In short, exercise for health, not weight loss. 5. Healthy replacements! It is worth spending time to find healthier replacements for foods you think you will still want. A month or two post-op I was wanting bread, so I figured out how to make low-carb "keto-bread" and that satisfied me, but then months later I haven't been making that as I don't have a strong want for bread. I was raised by an Italian mother and have been trying to find a pasta replacement and finally tried out Shiritaki noodles, like "Miracle Noodles". Now I can make an awesome low carb alfredo sauce with fettuccine Miracle Noodles and toss in chicken or shrimp and have an extremely satisfying meal. 6. Addiction transfer is a real thing. I regressed back to smoking cigarettes. This has now moved to the top of my list of things that need to change. This is the final remaining habit that is counter productive to improving my cardiovascular health and it has to stop and it will. 7. The benefits of changing my eating patterns and habits go so far beyond just losing weight I am highly motivated to make this life style permanent. Pre-op I was clearly having problems with insulin resistance. The key indicator of insulin resistance is your HbA1C blood test (mine was 6.2), if it is above the normal range, you are becoming insulin resistance. The issues I was having around this insulin resistance were joint pain including gout, skin tags, eczema, high blood pressure, poor sleep, low energy, brain fog, depression, degrading vision and increasing eye pressure (reaching glaucoma level). All those issues are all either gone or greatly improved. Incidentally, my eye doctor of 12 years told me there were no life style changes I could make to improve my eye pressure, yet at my December check up he measured the lowest pressure he has since I've been seeing him. I'm believing doctors much less these days. Seriously, get good at researching scientific and medical studies online. 8. I believe that if I were to merely be struggling through a diet for the purpose to reach goal weight and then go back to eating "normal" then that would be recipe for failure. Putting in the effort to form a new normal is what really has to happen here for long term success. Perhaps folks who are much further along post-op than me can explain this better than I. At this point I feel more like I am working on the new normal (permanent change mentality) and not like I am denying myself foods that I really want for a temporary period of time to just lose weight (temporary diet mentality). This might sound strange but I am trying my best to articulate the psychological shift. 9. Stick to the plan, success will breed confidence! Also, the plan isn't written in stone, don't be afraid to analyze and fine tune it. The plan should be your guide or "rule of thumb", not a bible. I have not deviated from the two cornerstones, protein first, and I drink LOTS of water. Think of it as sticking to the plan, not being restricted to the plan. Don't beat yourself up if you deviate every now and then because of it. Beating yourself up over plan deviation (falling off the wagon) begets self pity and self pity will demand cup cakes (or some other unhealthy food). It's a viscous cycle, break it now! Ok, I think I covered everything I wanted to. Hope you made it all the way down here! Remain calm and carry on. Rob
  44. 3 points
    Rob_VSG

    1 year follow up (brain dump)

    I would like to call it "working out" but in my case, I am so out of shape, the personal trainer experience is more like physical therapy. The drastic change of weight has really thrown off my neuromuscular system and lost any sort of muscle memory I have had in the past. Only had 4 sessions so far but I can already see and feel improvements! Rob
  45. 3 points
    I'd like this a million times over if I could! I had my WLS later in life and with a 30+ year history of yoyo dieting - only to find myself ending up heavier than I was when I started, I have some loose excess skin (tummy and thighs especially). My insurance would only cover the removal if it caused medical issues so I knew from the onset that unless I dipped into my savings, removal was not an option. And fact is, it doesn't affect the quality of my life - far from it. It's a constant reminder of the result of being in a place that I never want to visit again.
  46. 3 points
    Hi all, sorry I've been gone....been living life on the "WTH' is going on" side of life. got hurt at work, I've been sitting at home, in pain, and the MS has reared it's ugly head. as if it wasn't bad enough I didn't make it to the goal I set for myself for the 1yr mark, I gained 5 lbs in a very short period of time, sitting at home. BUT.....this is not a "poor me, I failed" post, rather a "yeah me, I'm getting control of myself and my situation" post. I planned on being at 165 by my birthday sept 30 last year, NOT, I finally got there in jan. still there, if you count the pounds i gained and then lost. The cool part is that I have been doing some... "soul searching" and while I was out there, I rediscovered some very helpful info. stuff I "know to do" but kinda forgot all about it. I've been working on "law of attraction" and mind "reconditioning" via Anthony Robbins "the body you deserve" program....along with some other stuff, lots of journaling and affirmations, and a truck load of self Butt Whoopin. I'm still at home, don't know when I am going back to work. and for now, I cannot do any strenuous exercise. basically, just walking...finally get to walk. This last 1.5 wk, I dusted off my elliptical, downloaded a few books and programs and got to work. I start my day with some type of learning, be it: Law of attraction, tony robbins, buddism, or any other form of personal growth. then I journal and/or do some affirmations (usually both). I also have a really loud alarm set on my phone to remind me to move at ten minutes to the top of very hour from 8:50a-7:50p. Goal: 250 steps per hour / 6,000 steps per day. When the alarm goes off, I either step outside and go for a 10 min walk or I hit the elliptical for 3min. I've met my goal every day this week, as opposed to sitting on my bum all day like I did the last month. Turns out, walking is very peaceful and relaxing. I like to sort of meditate in the rhythm of it. I have dropped from 167.8 to 165.2 in a week. my lowest was 163.6 about 4-6 wks ago. I have also almost gotten control of my daily diet. it wasn't bad, it just wasn't good. I was only losing .25lb a week, and I know I can do better than that. I was too comfortable and too complacent with sub-standard success and wasn't really pushing my self over the finish line of my goal of 135-150. I was living high on the hog of "good enough" because it allowed me to cheat ...... which is only cheating myself. Anyways, I'm really liking the self growth things I am doing, as it is addressing the "why" of me getting fat in the first place. the 'why' I put food in my mouth. the 'why' can't i stop putting food in my mouth. I "know" what to "DO"....doing it is another story. this is helping address the "mind game" of weight loss. my 12mo stats are: 65lbs gone... from 230-265, size 24-12, 3x-M... Recently, I've spent a great deal of time, creating "weight loss" related affirmations. I'm going to post them separately, so anyone can copy them and change the details to fit their own situation.
  47. 3 points
    Nana Trish

    Just because I can

    Good Lord, @Cheesehead, WAY TO GO!! That’s one hell of a long driveway! What an awesome job! I was just telling hubby how much I’m actually looking forward to shoveling next winter...just because I can (will be able to, by then)!! It’s frustrating, because my weight is not what’s keeping me from it this year, for a change, lol! Proud of you, my friend ❤️
  48. 3 points
    @Aussie Bear @Cindy Lou Who and everyone else.... Well, this is a topic that I think about, but don't obsess about. Yes I have funny jiggly skin bits in my upper thighs, and if I position myself like 4-legged animal on my arms and legs, I have droopy bits around my lower abdomen and pelvis. Plus I have those wrinkles on the lower part of my buttocks where they join the backs of my upper legs. Unless I'm at the beach or in a pool though none of that is very apparent. And, to be frank, I don't care anymore. I did have a little boy ask me why my belly button is not perfectly neat, but is instead inside a long horizontal fold of (remnant) extra skin. I just told him I had lost some weight and that was what happens. He nodded solemnly and then went on with more important things than talking to me. Overall I've lost so much weight that THAT is the dominant thing that people see. I just met with an old friend of 10+ years who hasn't seen me in 3 years - boy was she shocked! And she didn't talk about those little jiggly bits. She said I looked decades younger and she asked about my health. A year ago I was still using a cane because of my hip pain / osteoarthritis - > that's gone too. That is what people REALLY notice. But yes there are things I see... If my weight goes up 5 pounds, it appears to go right to my much reduced but still there facial jowls; to my neck (e.g. my neck size may go up a quarter inch); and that funny spot right where your biceps muscle attaches to your lower arm - so when you bend your arm, there is a tiny ring of blubber there. It does not have much emotional weight though, I seem to view it as just a set of sensitive signs that I need to adhere more rigourously to my Path and get to the Gym.
  49. 3 points
    Congratulations from me also @Jen581791. Gosh time has flown by. I've got my two year check at the end of next month..... a bit early for me but have to do when the surgeon is actually here. Not expecting any issues to come up, and it's nice to get it checked off and out of the way. @NerdyToothpick & @BurgundyBoy 2 year anniversaries can't be far away either. I know both were ahead of me and @Nana Trish was about two weeks after me. What a bunch of big losers we all turned out to be.
  50. 3 points
    Omg, I spent the weekend at the beach with a bunch of younger-than-me very fit people. I did a lot of chanting. It's a real struggle. "Hey, let's run around on the beach in our bikinis!" Yikes. I jiggle a lot more than I should for my size. I hope their inner dialogs are focused on their own issues so they maybe weren't so concerned with checking out mine???