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  1. 9 points
    NerdyToothpick

    Whew!

    Sheepish confession. I hadn’t weighed myself since early October. I knew I had gained a few pounds but all my clothes fit, so I allowed myself to be ignorant. That feeling turned into fear and avoidance. I started to get paranoid and scared. I haven’t been eating terribly but I haven’t been a saint. Agh I told myself that my return to TT was also an opportunity to be accountable to myself. I took off my big girl pants and weighed myself. 139! That was a shock as I assumed I had ventured into the 140s. That’s about a 2-3 lb weight gain. I can live with that and hopefully take off with better eating. I am so relieved!
  2. 8 points
    BurgundyBoy

    Whew!

    Well @NerdyToothpick your tale shows you have really incorporated WLS lessons into your life. 2-3 lbs for me is normal variation over a week. It's impressive that without being mindful, and with all the stresses in your life, you are that fixed at your weight. So if it is confession time... my parallel universe is similar, but my weight gain was about 18-20 lbs. So perhaps more sheepishly than you: I weigh almost exactly what I did a year ago (204 lbs) today. In the interim though, especially over last summer and early fall, I ate well and upped my exercise level to 30-40 minutes a day of intense rowing in the gym, plus summertime walking and cycling, and got down to something like 192-193 last August - and a normal BMI for the first time since my twenties (I'm 63 now). And then in Sept-October work got intense, lots of conflict there, blah blah blah and I stopped working out, and only weighed intermittently. My BMI went from 24.8 or so to... 27, and I was in the 210-212 region (So + 2.1 or 2.2 BMI units). My diet really didn't change much (yes I drank fermented grape juice beverages most nights, ate foie gras and confit duck as much as possible, e.g. my normal weird diet). In December I said to h3ll with this, hit the gym again daily and did the usual stuff we do. Even spent 2 weeks in India where it was harder to control my diet, since I had to eat out most meals, and walked 4 or more miles a day, and lost some there too. Not quite half way back to where I want to be, which is the weight I was at in August-September. I have not had a moment of anxiety about this circumstance. Two things to point out: - My weight bump up, with my diet the same, but with and without exercise - was 2 BMI units, and all in about 3 months time. What do all the studies show about people who exercise after WLS? That their long-term BMI is ~ 2.1 BMI units lower than that of people who don't exercise. I feel like my body must have read the scientific studies and taken them to heart. - We can just do the stuff we know how to do, e.g. eat right and get some exercise and eschew the Cheetos and so forth when we have stopped being mindful ... and we can get right back on track. It feels SO GOOD to know that I have the tools and ability to do this now. None of us are perfect and we all have ups and down. All of you reading this now, especially the Lurkers thinking of having surgery, should take heart. You get so many useful tools going through this process. and now, having confessed, I feel much better. Thank you @NerdyToothpick!!
  3. 7 points
    tjk

    Three Days Post

    I did it! Only two hours and they repaired a hiatal hernia I never knew I had and removed a lipoma. Resting with some pains but lots of love and some medicine to help that.
  4. 6 points
    Nana Trish

    Knee surgery #2 scheduled!

    Knee surgery #1 is on January 30th, and #2 is scheduled for March 14th!! They scheduled the second one today when I went for my pre op clearance for the first one. I still can’t believe it...by spring, I could have 2 “normal” knees!!
  5. 6 points
    Res Ipsa

    well damn

    As I am a guy in my 50s, I may be able to provide some insight here. Guys generally are very unwilling to change, and this can make us look (from a woman's point of view) to be totally clueless and insensitive at times. Guys really like the status quo (our motto is "if it ain't broken, don't fix it"); we like to avoid talking about feelings; and we like to ignore obvious hints or suggestions that we change (because any acknowledgment of a need to change means a loss of the status quo). I am 99% sure that he sees all of your positive weight and lifestyle changes, and (in his own way and without admitting it to you) is very proud (or even jealous, although he will never admit this) of you for these changes. So if you want him to change and be more sensitive to your feelings, you best approach probably is to be very direct (in a nice way) with him about what you want, but do not expect (or ask for) drastic/immediate changes. Ask for gradual changes (e.g., please do not smoke in the house, please not bring ice cream or cookies into the house, etc.) so that the status quo changes slowly. Try to explain to him how much better you feel now that you have given up being overweight and given up smoking; try to explain to him that you want to spend the rest of your life with him, and that's why he needs to live a more healthy lifestyle. Ask him to go for walks with you if you want him to be more active. Try to avoid appeared to be bossy or to give ultimatums - guys hate these things even when we know that the wife/girlfriend is 100% right. And, be sure to tell him (if it is true) that you love him. We are here to support you.
  6. 6 points
    BurgundyBoy

    Food suggestions

    Hmmm. I could be accused of looking scrawny now too, my wife has said as much, and I have a few muscles here and there too. There is a lot of data that suggests nuts, fish oils and olive oil are good for you. I try to eat walnuts or almonds, and olive oil every day. I also eat salmon pretty frequently. If you do an internet search on the Mediterranean diet and the studies done in Spain ~ 10 years ago you'll find quite a trove. I'm with @msmarymac on this one. I love chips but they have to stay out of my house as the fats that are used are not the best. If they are salty and crunchy, I am doomed to snack on them. I recently bought some sunflower seeds to put into my sourdough bread and I have probably eaten 1/3rd of the bag so far, without any getting into the bread. Sigh. The only upside is that at least there is something good in the sunflower seed oils and the seeds have some protein too. Pick your poisons carefully. On the topic of fats in general: in the Lancet a leading medical journal there were some very large studies published in 2017: there was no relationship between fat intake and death rates in people at risk of cardiovascular events (like heart attacks and strokes). In contrast, the more carbohydrates you ate -> the higher the death rates. (I feel like everything I learned over the last 40 years about eating a carbohydrate-rich diet was wrong). These studies had hundreds of thousands of people in them and were conducted across many countries. My take is that fats are fine, go for the ones identified in the Mediterranean diet studies, and be happy. My read is that we should be eating high protein high fat and low carbo diets, and the fats should be the Med diet ones. Although the 'normal' BMI range is 20-25, there are some studies that show a BMI 24 is better (lower risk) than 25, 23 is better than 24, and 22 better than 23.... but you do not see much if any benefits going lower than 22 for many things including hypertension. Your "real" BMI might be 21 or 20.5 now, not 22, since you've got the extra skin. (I have read others here who say their BMI of 30 is really 25 because of their extra skin, but really that would mean their extra skin is a sixth of their weight, which would be uncommon. My surgeon says the extra skin is only about 5-6 lbs on most people). I think you could give the weight loss a bit of a rest now and see what happens as you head into Maintenance. You can always dial up or down a bit since you are now a WLS Master. I mean, really, you weight half of what you used to weigh!! Talk about mastery! As the proud possessor of one of the stupidest names on this Forum that does in fact mention Wine, would just say that my observation is that a glass or two of wine can kill my resistance to Eating Bad Things. So I do make more high satiety, fiber-filled foods in the evening (think farro and beans, or farro and lentils, in the Instant Pot). If I do decide to snack later on, it's on these relatively safe foods, not chips. Which I would eat after a couple glasses of wine if they were in the house.
  7. 6 points
    msmarymac

    Food suggestions

    Yes, that is good. These are good fats with some heart-protective benefits as well as the satiety benefits. Far better than chips which by the way are also almost all fat but not good fat, which of course you know You likely look scrawny without clothes on because you have loose skin. Your husband and others think you're too thin looking because they've only got obese you for comparison, plus when you lose quickly it's almost as difficult for other people's brain to catch up with as it is our own. How do you feel physically? Not emotionally because we really can't rely on that when it comes to weight loss at this point; most of us are way too proficient at misusing the food/weight/emotion connection. If after evaluating all of those things honestly you believe it is time to stop losing weight, add in healthy calories and stick to the general rules. You'll do great! I do think for me the most difficult part of maintenance has been not having the "high" of losing weight. The honeymoon is over, the thrill is gone, now its time to settle in with the one you love (YOU!) and create a mature, long-lasting relationship
  8. 6 points
    Jen581791

    Whew!

    FWIW, I really have not been very strict with myself since Thanksgiving. Holiday parties, vacation time, etc, etc, the normal excuses, plus I had some hip pain and stopped both running and making sure I got my 10,000 steps (usually 14,000 - 18,000) every day. I ate sweets, I drank more adult beverages, I ate out more. It's been about two months of this, and I'm clocking in at about a 3 - 4 pound gain as well. I expect it to come off in a couple of weeks of getting back on plan. Really, WLS has been the magic bullet I've needed: it's allowed me to limit my serving sizes and helped me learn to moderate/modify my choices so the dreaded holiday season weight gain is very limited and I feel like I'm in control of getting rid of it. My hip's feeling better - time to start carefully and slowly doing some running again, along with the back to basics food intake! I'm expecting to be fitter and stronger in 2019 than ever before! @NerdyToothpick, you are doing great at maintenance, particularly in the face of some challenging life events. I'd say the only real change you might consider is weighing more frequently so you don't build up a feeling of dread over it and start actively avoiding it. That might cut out some of the stress you place on yourself over your weight/health/diet/exercise. If you're doing well, as you are, you might as well know it and celebrate it!!!
  9. 6 points
    sonnybuck

    ballroom dancing

    surprised my wife with "intro to ballroom dancing" for our wedding anniversary something I never would have done due to my weight First picture 400+lbs (2015) second picture 187.2lbs (this week)
  10. 5 points
    Jen581791

    Food suggestions

    A treasure trove of ideas already from @msmarymac and @BurgundyBoy! As for knowing when to stop, someone, I think @Stephtay, told me to look at pictures of myself. That was the right call for me. I would catch myself looking in the mirror and seeing FatJen or looking down at my thighs and seeing FatJen, but looking at photos, particularly candid ones, was really enlightening. I looked thin. At one point, I looked a little too thin, so that was time to stop. My hubs would prefer me to stay about 10 pounds up from my fighting weight - I'm a little curvier at that point, and have edged that direction over the holidays. I prefer the lighter weight just because I feel sort of sleeker there, and being athletic is a bit easier there. After my 5 pound holiday gains, I can see that being up 10 would not be the end of the world (I am OK with being a bit curvier in the right places - my GW has me down in the sort of skinny no-butt-no-boobs range), but I'm going to go back down to my GW because running and hiking are easier for me at that weight. Your NUT is possibly thinking about the rebound that many WLS post-ops have, and might be worried that if you don't get as low as you can, you will rebound up out of the healthy range. I think there are enough examples here on the forum of people who haven't experienced that to see that it's possible to dodge the rebound if you are careful (and perhaps lucky). However, the people in your life who think you're too thin may just being seeing the loose skin and the big change you've gone through without really being able to process where you are now very accurately. I vote that you take a bunch of photos. Not for them, but for you, so you can see yourself a little more objectively. I found myself in your position when I was nearing the end of my loss phase and then sort of magically decided where my stopping point was. I was still very on-point with the eating and exercise, so I was mostly worried I couldn't get it to stop (no chips for me at that point, and wine maybe once a week). To stop the losses, I started adding more cheese and nuts to my diet. I also increased the quantity of small meals I eat. I generally eat about 7 or 8 times per day now(!) for a total of around 1800-2000 calories. One really quick and easy way for me to up my calories was peanut butter protein balls: peanut butter (the less sugar the better, preferably natural) with protein powder of your flavor choice (vanilla or chocolate for me) creamed into it with a fork until it's workable into ball shapes. I make each with as much "dough" as fits in my fist with all of my fingers closed, none hanging out the edges (pretty scientific portion control there!) and roll them in a coating of powdered nuts of some type or, lately, in unsweetened cocoa powder as a treat. I eat two per day, generally, and they're about 150 calories each. That sounds like a crazy amount, and I may nudge them out of my diet for a while until I'm back at my fighting weight here post-holiday season, but it was necessary to stop my losses. I also eat more protein bars now, partly for convenience, partly because they're tasty (the right brands, anyway), and partly to keep calories up. I sort of consider them my junk food - not quite healthy, but not too bad. One Bars are good, when I can get them. Oh, One Bars, I miss you See you in America next summer. Ah, the things we miss when we're far from home...
  11. 5 points
    athenarose

    well damn

    Couples counseling might be a good idea. Your normal has changed while his hasn't. Gently, your expectations might not be completely fair. Think about it in terms of another drastic life change. Say that, he suddenly decided to start going to church and became really religious. Of course he'd hope that you'd be inspired by his example and join him, but realistically, you might not be interested in changing and doing things differently. And both are valid viewpoints. Your relationship was founded on one set of circumstances as the norm and now you're doing things differently. Neither of you is in the wrong, but there's a disconnect there now that wasn't there before. Counseling might help bridge the gap. I wish you the very best and hope you can find a way to resolve this.
  12. 5 points
    CheeringCJ

    Oh life!

    Sorrry things have been so difficult. You know I totally get it. When our son was diagnosed, it turned my world upside down also. Our marriage wasn’t in a good place at the time (thank God that’s done a total 180 and we are better than ever) but I had 2 teens, and 3 little ones (1, 2 and 5 year olds). Our 5 yr old was very high maintenance to begin with (on the spectrum) and our little guy was just not thriving and he became my FT job of taking him to drs to see what was wrong. He had tons of sensory issues that affected his eating (lack of) which affected his growth. He ended up with 4 hours of therapy (occupational, speech, developmental and physical therapies) a week and then I had to do his treatments (skin brushing/joint compressions/oral stimulation etc) all day long. Bc the therapies were done in my house I felt like I had to have my house clean all time time which isn’t easy with 5 kids and toys everywhere. To say I was overwhelmed is a total understatement. The good thing is, I survived (probably due to my total addiction to food for comfort!) and my son is thriving. It just caused a whirlwind for a few years. It was very hard to take him out because new situations total frightened him and his anxiety level was very high. Home was his safe place, going out exposed him to a sensory nightmare of sounds, smells, brightness, noise everything that was too intense for him. Being in a restaurant was impossible, after about 10 mins he had had it and he would just scream, so one of us would stay at the table and eat w/ the other kids and one would take the baby outside and walk around w/ him till we could switch. Then the other one would walk him while we finished eating. I broke down and cried and said “no more meals out until he can handle it” and we literally didn’t go out until he was 5 and even then we had to take a portable DVD player and sit near an outlet and let him take a bag of toys and whatever we could do to distract him (plus he was on Prozac at that time so that helped). We could only drive certain ways (the routes he was used to, nothing veering off the regular route) or he’d melt down. we could only turn left on the green left arrow, not if that went away...or he’d kick and scream the whole rest of the way to church (which was another 10 mins away!). If he got really upset at the route, he’d projectile vomit his chocolate pediasure all over the car! I decided one day I had to break him of that so I sucked it up and started going different routes....I’d try just very close places and I would tell him ahead of time, this time Mommy is choosing LEFT....let’s go LEFT! (Trying to make it a fun adventure). It as pure torture for him but eventually he got over it...whew! I didn’t have many moments of tears because I couldn’t afford to melt down myself, but they were always just there below the surface, but I held them in. My life was so overwhelming, it is no wonder I wasn’t 500 pounds from shoving down the pressure and frustration and not having a second to care for myself. My point of sharing all of this is that....for one, I wanted you to know that you aren’t alone. I’ve been there and others have been there before you too....try to connect w/ a group in your area where they have things for kids on the spectrum...Meeting other moms who are also in the trenches helps. Just being able to vent helps! Also, it gets easier. It never gets perfect (but I have 4 other kids and they aren’t perfect either! Haha!) but it gets better. Try to enjoy the little things with her too. With mine, I celebrated little things way more than w/ my typical kids. Like when Mason finally learned to poop on the potty (at age 6!) it was such a huge deal! He couldnt’ sit on the potty bc there wasn’t anything under him and sensory wise he needed to have something supporting him and couldn’t sit over a hole (not even on a potty seat on the floor) so I danced the happy dance all day when he finally did it. So, embrace the little challenges that your child makes that is harder for her than for typical kids. I am glad to hear she is doing good and is a happy, healthy girl, but there are so many challenges that can break your heart to think of but you can help her overcome them. My son still hates going places but he has learned there is a limit. I give him a time frame and try not to go over. He knows we HAVE to go out but we WILL be back home by 9 pm (or whatever I tell him) I can’t be spontaneous with him, it still overwhelms him (at 15 yrs old). BUT he is a happy, healthy and absolutely adorable child that I wouldn’t have given up the chance to raise for all the money in the world!!! Here he is now...isn’t he too cute? This was at Christmas. The other pic is at the beginning before he was diagnosed. (It’s all 5 of our kids...our DTR was graduating high school, our son graduating 8th grade, our other daughter just turned 4, our little son was 18 months and the baby was 3 months). He is the baby and you can literally SEE something is wrong with him. He would always scream when he was held and see how he tensed up? He hated being touched. It confused me to no end because i was an “experienced mom” and I knew how to soothe a baby by cuddling them and it was just the opposite for him. When I would hold him, he would just cry and cry. Talk about overwhelming a momma!!! That is when I started searching for a diagnosis because something was clearly wrong and my drs didn’t see it. They just told me to stop comparing him to my other kids. I pushed and searched and he was diagnosed at 17 months. But that is when his help began. As much as I didn’t want the diagnosis, it validated me that I wasn’t just a bad mom or crazy and it gave me something to learn about and DO to help my baby! He still struggles but is doing so much better now. He started high school this year and loves it! He went to a private school just for kids on the spectrum (best decision EVER) and by the time he was 9 he was able to go back to our public school w/ his siblings (in special ed). (any time you want to talk, just message me)
  13. 4 points
    NerdyToothpick

    Oh life!

    I suppose I should share what’s been going on in my life. I don’t have the emotional energy to go into detail so i’ll give a short summary. Katya’s autism diagnosis has turned our lives upside down. Katya is happy, healthy, bright and a delight. Autism isn’t a concern at all. K is thriving at Preschool and loving being around other kids. The challenges we have faced are the school system, insurance companies, and endless hoops to jump through. My full time job has been dealing with therapy companies, the state and insurance. My husband helps as much as he can but he works at a demanding job and most of the details are left to me. To make things worse, my husband’s company changed insurance providers (without telling anyone!!) after months of hard work. We finally have everything in place that we need...for the time being. My dad is going through some signs of early dementia. Living 3000 miles away from my parents has been difficult. I’m an only child and we have no family in the USA. I’ve had to help my family through all of this and it’s been tough. Y’all, I am tired. So very tired. I’ve hardly had a second to myself and when I do, I try to catch up on sleep. I love my daughter and would wouldn’t change a thing. Don’t feel bad for me. We do have good days around here. More often than not. I just wish I had an extra hand and energy. Gah! Excuse the typos. My phone is not the best avenue for long posts.
  14. 4 points
    Well, it's only Month 3, and I'm no longer in my goal range of 130-140. I've spent a few weeks feeling very weird and a little scared. My emotions have run the gamut between, "Wow, what fun, this is awesome, my Weight Watcher goal in 1985 was 127!" to the depths of "This is scary! Am I still healthy? I'm looking scrawny? If I accept this weight am I anorexic?" Part of me was asking what foods to add, and the other part was loving still losing each week. I finally made an appointment with my NUT and went yesterday. I needed some hard facts and I got them. They have a machine called a SECA that measures not just weight but also fat mass and non-fat mass. Here is my history: 1/30/18 - 232 # total. 124 fat pounds, 108 nonfat pounds for 54% fat 7/18/18 - 162 # total. 63 fat pounds, 99 nonfat pounds for 39% fat 10/15/18 - 143 # total. 50 fat pounds, 93 nonfat pounds for 35% fat 2/4/19 - 128 # total. 35 fat pounds, 93 nonfat pounds for 27.6 % fat In total I've lost around 90 pounds of fat and about 15 pounds of muscle. My NUT says that those stats are good for my age. In the last 4 months I've lost 15 pounds of fat and zero muscle. YAY! All my "am I getting sickly or scrawny" voices have been dashed! And I'm remotivated to keep exercising 5 days per week. The percentage fat stats REALLY help too, since I'm ancient and grew up with percentage fat charts instead of BMI charts. There are a bunch online, but at the bottom is an example for women. So I'm near the lower end of ideal, but I'm fine. Whew. Maybe because I "believe" the fat % charts more, I feel more logical now about adding calories, and adding them the right way. My NUT says NOT to add volume of food at each meal since I can already eat 1/2 to 1 cup at a sitting. Don't want to stretch the sleeve! Instead, she suggested adding calories in the following ways, one at a time, to see what happens for a week or two to see if I should add the next one. I can do any of them in any order: 1) Adding a protein shake each day 2) Adding good fats - nuts, olive oil, or avocado 3) Adding one serving of carb each day. And I have to add @Jen581791's suggestion of protein powder/nut butter balls! Yum! Anyway, it's so weird, but the fat percentage thing really squashed the mind games, and I feel fortified to take this next step on the journey in a much more logical manner. (I still think it's because I'm ancient and pine for the abacus! ) Maintenance Diary - 1st month - Range 135.4 - 140 pounds 2nd month - Range 133.0 - 135.4 pounds 3rd month - Range 127.2 - 133.0 4th month - Starts today!
  15. 4 points
    BurgundyBoy

    5 weeks post op and stalled - help!

    @Formymum Let's get a (friendly) grip here. Take a deep breath! You are letting a number on the scale rule (and maybe ruin ) your thinking. Your Mum lost 13 kgs (nearly 29 lbs) before and after surgery. So, factually, you know that on a diet she can and will lose weight. No doubt her body (1) is remodelling and (2) is convinced she is in a famine, and is trying to hold onto every single tiny molecule of weight. Weight loss after surgery is essentially inevitable unless you are eating more calories than your basal metabolic rate.... but it is not smooth. I had stalls of over a month, others even longer. And would then drop 5, 6, 7 pounds in no time at all. Our bodies are hard-wired to retain weight if at all possible since it thinks we are still hunter-gatherers and at risk of dying in a famine. Do the calories. Calculate them. How many grams of protein a day is your mother taking in? Calculate them. Does you mother have a scale that she can use? Have her weight everything. What you describe seems like it is marginal for protein while the calories are under any lower limit of a reasonable basal metabolic rate. 1.1 ounce Special K = 110 calories so 1 ounce should be about 100 calories. With 1 cup nonfat milk ~ 160 calories. 3 tbsps cottage cheese @ 17 = 51 calories. 3 tbsp baked beans are ~ 45. 2 tbsp avacado is 90-100 calories. So lunch before the tiny bread is about 200. Dinner might be 150-250 calories depending upon preparation. So a ballpark is, without knowing the protein water, about 600 calories. You cannot ingest 600 calories a day and not lose weight. You can surely be stalled at some weight while your body resists the loss... but the dam will break. Please do the math for the protein - she should be > 60 grams, and if possible higher. Sorry to hear she has arthritis. Is there a pool she can swim in for half an hour a day? Swimming is very easy on the joints since it is not a weight-bearing exercise. Even tiny amounts of exercise can sometimes do the trick. Others have found that boosting protein, upping the fluids, and tiny bits of exercise (if possible) move things along. Just for perspective, there are people on the Forum who only weighed once a month. So far as I can tell that is the group that almost always recorded a loss, month over month, and was most free of worries. (I of course weighed every day and suffered the emotional consequences). And, if it helps, also remember that this form of eating after surgery has been PROVEN to work over and over again. But these studies measure weight loss at 3 months, 6 months, 9 months, a year, two years ... not on a daily or weekly basis. Very tongue in cheek, when I was posting here ~ 18 months ago, I used to refer to the Weight Loss Demons that would act to stall our loss and torment us. Perhaps the tormenting Demons have settled into your Mum's house. But it is temporary. Be of stout heart. I think @tracyringo is giving good advice to measure arms, thighs, waists, hips, bosoms, neck... many of us during remodelling had the same weight measure but noticed changes in our girth. Good luck, and don't let your spirits go down.
  16. 4 points
    BurgundyBoy

    Food suggestions

    Well, I don't want to minimize the struggle ... and of course with a 90% mental game, and if one is only 20% mentally engaged, then bad things can happen! Just saying that with the new skills I have, plus having a sleeved stomach, I find it is easier to put a lid on my overeating. As has been said here before, when we overeat now it tends to be a few hundred calories, not 3,000 calories, and so the recovery from eating too much is easier. Yes, now am about halfway back to my low weight. It may have been put back a few weeks as I think I pulled a collarbone tendon rowing and I have to rest that, so I'll walk in my neighborhood after dinner, or maybe cycle in the gym... but I'm going the right way and know The Path. There are lots of individual trails that make up The Path. I'm not sure I have actually ditched all my bad habits ... What I may have done is transmogrified them. Sometimes you can't ditch the bad habit, so you have to change the reward cycle and be happy with a related but different reward that you can still look forward to. If you used to eat a sugary chocolate bar in the afternoon, you can eat half a chocolate flavored protein bar with minimal carbos instead. Still tastes chocolaty, and it's some good protein calories, but you can use it with a cup of coffee as a late afternoon pick-you-up snack and still scratch that nasty junk food habit that you had. While feeling good about yourself. And feeling good about yourself makes it a lot easier to be mentally engaged. A virtuous circle!
  17. 4 points
    Nana Trish

    Whew!

    Oh, my dear friend, you’re doing great! 2-3 pound gain...through the holidays with EVERYTHING else you have going on in your life...you will be fine!! I agree that weighing more often will help ease your mind. I still weigh every day, no matter what I’m eating. But you’ve got this. You know what to do if things start going south. Plus WE ARE HERE FOR YOU, ALWAYS!! I’ve gotten as high as 146 through the holidays, but I’m back down to 144 now. This is my perfect weight, as far as I’m concerned. I feel like I look best, and I know I feel best, at 144. I gave myself a break over the holidays, but now I’m right back to it and doing well. You are a winner for the long term, I can feel it in my bones ❤️ We love you, @NerdyToothpick!!
  18. 4 points
    tracyringo

    Whew!

    I cant avoid the scale because I know where that leads for me. So happy for you and only being a couple of pounds since Oct. That is fantastic !!!
  19. 4 points
    Anita62

    Whew!

    Coming up on two years post surgery. Get your head on!! You can do it!! Make your anniversary your goal to feel thin, energized and healthy!!
  20. 4 points
    SarahBMelbs

    NSV of the Week - whats yours?

    I weighed myself after 5 weeks in Europe and 3 months post op and I am now 92.1kg! I couldn’t actually believe it!!! I have dropped almost 31kg to date. I still see the old me in the mirror, but my clothes all seem to be sliding off! Time to go shopping me thinks!
  21. 3 points
    Cindy Lou Who

    Food suggestions

    I hear you on the exercise angle. I'm good on the cardio exercise at about 5 days per week, but have been avoiding muscle building (because I don't care for it.) I like cardio because it also helps with stress and my overall outlook on life. I also think exercise has gone a long way in the revving up of my metabolism. I used to have to get down to 1000 per day to lose anything. But I know muscle building is important too, especially whenever I get old, somewhere in the far distant future! I'm still so amazed that we can dial up or down the weight loss later. I'm so dumb, I guess, but I thought we had one chance to lose during the "honeymoon" first year, and then the rest was as difficult as it used to be. It was enlightening that you posted that you had gone up a bit, and were able to dial it back down. Thanks so much for sharing that! Thanks for the nice words as well. To be honest, I have ditched ALOT of bad habits, and I had alot, believe me! And I'm ready now for the 90% mental game/challenge. The surgery gave me such an opportunity at a healthy life, and I want to do it right. I'm ready to fight on!
  22. 3 points
    Cindy Lou Who

    Food suggestions

    Wow, thank you so much to all you caring responders! I've been away from my computer for a few days, and your care and advice feel like little gifts, and I want to open each one carefully and consider each. It helps SO much having your advice because you are all my heroes! I envision that I'll have a quick take away from your gifts of advice, and then also other ones that I'll learn more in time. My first reactions: One common theme is that good fats are a good way to go. Thank you. I'm old enough to remember the days of doctors pushing low fat diets, and it's hard to let go of that. I like the idea of adding nuts, nut butters, fish oils and olive oils and researching Mediterranean diet suggestions. I've been craving sardines lately, and have been eating them at least once a week, so it almost feels like I'm craving that fish oil. And I've avoided nut butters for many years because they are high calorie, but I used to love them. More good fats are definitely on the menu! @msmarymac - Thank you. I do think the loose skin adds alot to the scrawny appearance. It definitely makes me look like I don't belong in my skin. And I do feel good physically. Aerobically I feel great. I'd like to get a little stronger, but that's about working out, not eating. I like they way you're asking me to shift to how do I feel instead of how I look, which can be deceived by emotions. @BurgundyBoy - Thank you for all the good fat data. Very insightful! Also, I had forgotten about the weight of loose skin. Even if it's only 5 pounds, that would put me at 20.7 BMI this morning. It's helpful to know the data that under 22 doesn't really add to heart health. And stopping now to see how it goes knowing I can "dial it up or down a bit later"?????? What a concept! Do we really stay in control of our weight forever, and not just the first honeymoon year?? I can lose more later if I want? What a fantastic revelation! Are you certain you aren't putting me on? That would be too good to be true! @Jen581791 - Thank you. Pictures! Good idea, and definitely a challenge. I still really don't like pictures of myself. But it seems like a really great way to see myself more objectively than in the mirror. I will definitely take this on. And I am right there with you on curvy versus athletic ability! My husband is objecting to the "no butt" look. ( I still have boobs because my extra skin fills out a DD cup! We've been together since college and he says I had a butt then, but I looked healthy and fit. But in September I'll be doing a major hike for 2 weeks, so I appreciate the idea of going from curvy to easier athletically. Again, your post is suggesting that I will have control of this after my honeymoon period???? Are you and @BurgundyBoy in cahoots in your trickery? Can this really be true?? If so it's a shocking revelation from the "Maintenance Crew"!! That's a HUGE benefit that never dawned on me! I thought WLS gave you one shot at losing, then you'd gain ten pounds, and then struggle (albeit it's doable) to stay at that weight for the rest of your life. Now you guys are telling me I can adjust later?? WOAH!!! Still don't believe it! @Anita62 - I'm averaging about 1500 calories per day, and still losing a little over a pound per week. I'm not hungry for more food, and I just assumed my body would stop at a good place without any effort on my part. I was very willing to stop at whatever new setpoint my surgery had created, even if that were heavier than ideal. (My surgeon said people lose an average of 60% of their excess weight). I had never considered that the setpoint might be lower than ideal? Is that a thing or impossible? Am I just settling for being bigger than I need to be? To all of you - Thank you again so much. SO helpful for a newbie. I'm hoping it may be helpful for others too. Such great advice from you guys. FINAL NOTE - NOT a thank you. Many of you agree that chips are bad, dang it! I was hoping to sneak by with that one! ......... OKAY..... I'll switch to nice yummy pots of whole grains to have on hand instead. Can't sneak anything by this Maintenance Crew!
  23. 3 points
    Jen581791

    Bostonredhead surgery

    You're going to have such an exciting 2019!
  24. 3 points
    Aussie Bear

    Whew!

    Same here....been there done that....and had no option but to buy new t-shirt at the time. This time round the only days I don't weigh are when I have no access to scales because I'm not at home.
  25. 3 points
    Cheesehead

    Whew!

    Way to go. Don’t let fear rule! Only a 2-3 pound gain and it was over the holidays;)