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  1. 14 points
    Nana Trish

    Here’s our group photo!

    What a lovely, wonderful time today...meeting @Res Ipsa, @BurgundyBoy, @NerdyToothpick and @Kio!!! You all are even more awesome in person, but that really doesn’t surprise me!! Thank you all so much for spending part of your day with me. I can’t wait to do it again next year ❤️
  2. 10 points
    Cheesehead

    My weekend..

    To avoid some family drama my second oldest daughter (who also just had RNY a month ago) and I decided to go camping by Duluth on Lake Superior this weekend. We actually pitched our tent and it stood all weekend! We did some sight seeing and a lot of walking. On Saturday we walked a good distance to the lighthouses. Afterwards we both said when we started out we weren’t sure if we would make it. Fast forward to Sunday and we went in search of a waterfall we had heard about. So we actually did some hiking. I have very bad ankles (I wear braces) and a muscle by my hip that bothers me (a lot! I’m actually doing therapy on it). I actually was able to do the uneven terrain and we both had fun. When we set out I wasn’t sure how far I would make it but figured I’d never know if I didn’t try. She wants to make it an annual event.
  3. 9 points
    Aussie Bear

    Here’s our group photo!

    You all look so happy. When I first saw this photo a few hours ago I couldn't help but think how online life can become so real. I'm somewhat envious that you folk can get together occasionally. You could even run into each other when out and about, let alone plan to meet up for a coffee! No chance of that where I am.....but if you ever plan a trip to The Land Down Under....let me know.
  4. 8 points
    Nana Trish

    Here’s our group photo!

    It was quite a sight to see the shirts go up and watch scar comparisons, lol...I think the folks in the park must have thought we were nuts! I couldn't join in on that part of the fun, as I was wearing a dress, and well, let's just say no one wants to see that...lol! It was truly my pleasure to make the trip and meet you wonderful people...definitely worth the drive!! I think these get together are fantastic, and I can't wait for the next one!
  5. 8 points
    delilas

    Here’s our group photo!

    Separately! In our own homes! You all look wonderful! So exciting you got to meet and hang!
  6. 8 points
    BurgundyBoy

    Here’s our group photo!

    What a wonderful group you all are! (This has to get in to the NSVs somehow...) It's just humbling to spend time with you guys. Trish next year you'll have to come a day early so the Hubs and I (and whomever else wants) can go striper fishing in the Cape Cod Canal before we get together. @Carina we'll have to ask Res Ipsa to set a date for next year so you can get that inexpensive discount ticket to Boston all lined up! @cinwa The weather was brilliant today, it's hot for Boston but being next to the ocean provided some breeze. It's always a surprise to people how much of central Boston wraps around the bays and inlets ... @Nana Trish @Kio @NerdyToothpick @Res Ipsa
  7. 8 points
    Gypsy Angel

    Don't Forget to Take Pics

    Consistently. Especially in your active losing phase. I'm talking 2-weeks post-op. 1-month post-op. 2 months post-op. Etc. etc. You get the idea. You do NOT have to share with the general public, but you're going to want to stash your progress pics for when you have times of discouragement. Always look at how far you've come instead of how far you have to go! Wish I had dated these photos better. Wish I had done the month-by-month thing. Wish I had labeled these better. I know the first one is the morning of surgery. The second one is 2 weeks post-op. The third one is 3-months post-op when I had lost 100 lbs. After that? Your guess is as good as mine.
  8. 8 points
    Hi guys! LOVE hearing your updates! Congrats to everyone on your progress, and thank you all for your honesty. I shall provide a dose of my own: I'm doing great. As of this past weekend, I'm 100 pounds down from my highest weight ever, and I can hardly believe it. My weight loss has picked up again recently for a few reasons. First, I'm doing some pretty hardcore exercise about 4 times a week - I take these small group training classes that incorporate cardio and weightlifting in short intervals. I come out of those classes sweating so much that I look like I just walked out of the hottest shower of all time and I feel AMAZING. Second, I started dating, which occupies so much of my time and makes me so nervous that I'm rarely hungry. And third, I continue to weigh myself daily and when things aren't looking too good, I get myself back on track before things get out of hand. That's something I could never do pre-WLS. Clothing has been a nightmare. Nothing fits me for longer than a month, and although I'm no longer wearing plus sizes, I am having trouble getting myself to shop in non plus size stores. Is that weird? All I ever wanted was to shop at stores like Anthropologie, and now that I can finally wear some of their clothes, I just want to run into a Torrid and hide. The dating thing has been a hoot. I'm getting attention from guys that would have never given me a second look before, and I find myself feeling conflicted about that. Still, I've met a bunch of really nice and interesting prospects and have been relieved that no one has gone running for the hills as soon as they've seen me in person. As I often do, I must publicly thank @Stephtay for pep talks and compliments and enthusiastic texts that have helped give me the confidence I needed to finally get out there. I've been asked by many of my dates for a second or third date, and I am beside myself that I have so many options. This is definitely new territory for me. On a related note...yeah...the whole saggy skin thing. In some places, it's not nearly as bad as I expected, and in others, it's pretty bad. Not to overshare, but this definitely weighs on my mind as things get physical with guys. I have now been in two situations where I made myself vulnerable (that's what we'll call it, lol), and I approached it by saying something like, "So, I lost a bunch of weight quickly and my body shows evidence of that. I refuse to apologize for myself though, because I'm so proud of myself for the work I've put in and I feel great." From there, I take a deep breath, project some artificial confidence (fake it till you make it, right?), and get back into the moment. And guess what? Neither guy said "ew, you're gross, I'm leaving." Every day I am reminded that this is as much of a mental challenge as it is a physical one, if not more so. As my body evolves, I now realize that it's my job to be proactive about making sure my mind is evolving as well. This has been a beautiful journey for me and I am extremely grateful for the opportunity every day. p.s. Again, my apologies for oversharing. I just know that there must be others out there who have similar fears and are maybe afraid to discuss it, so I thought I'd just put it out there. Also, the picture is about 12 pounds ago. I still have more work to do, but I actually feel ok with how I look in photos now.
  9. 8 points
    kristinwitha_k

    What Are You Wearing Today?

    I'm obsessed with this Madewell top I picked up at Nordstrom Rack (it's an XL, jeans are hand-me-down Lucky Brand in 16). Plus, I actually put on makeup (which almost never happens) so I'm going to share!
  10. 7 points
    athenarose

    Here’s our group photo!

    I can honestly say the same thing about all of you. I love this forum and the people on it so much! And my birthday was quiet and I hid out in my bedroom all day, which is the perfect day for an introvert like me.
  11. 7 points
    NerdyToothpick

    Here’s our group photo!

    @athenarose Your ears must have been burning because we made it a point to talk about how inspiring you are to each of us. I hope your birthday was full of awesome!
  12. 7 points
    athenarose

    Here’s our group photo!

    This makes me all kinds of happy! So glad that you all were able to meet up.
  13. 7 points
    Jen581791

    Here’s our group photo!

    Super jealous!!! You guys look great! What a skinny bunch you are. Great to see you all together with big smiles and small everything else.
  14. 7 points
    NerdyToothpick

    Here’s our group photo!

    @BurgundyBoy @Nana Trish @Kio @Res Ipsa What a wonderful time! I’m glad that we had an opportunity to meet IRL. I already knew BB and Res, so meeting Kio and Trish was an extra special treat. Its funny how these online friendships transform into family relationships. I was nervous when we met (I’m socially awkward) but that soon slipped away into casual ease. Sadly, Res missed the moment when I lifted up my shirt to show my scars. I hope we can keep these meetups going and we can expand our IRL group. Much love to all!
  15. 7 points
    Dtrain84

    I'm doing the happy dance!

    Hey everybody, here's an update! We closed on our home June 29th, my mother in-law is out hospital and is doing well. I did hit onederland at 199 but went back to up 204 a week later where I'm currently at. I'm happy with everything right now. Been really busy unpacking, decorating and settling in. Here's a few pictures of my new home!
  16. 6 points
    nimiety

    Not Being "Good"

    So my return here for the two-year mark has me wanting to think out loud about some stuff, I guess. I do really like this space for thinking through things. I often feel pretty out of step with the general discourse here or elsewhere in WLS support internet space. I have a sense of myself as a "bad" patient, I think, someone who gets away with things, who breaks or bends or disregards the rules, who doesn't work hard enough. The constant vigilance! The culinary monotony! The things that aren't delicious! How do people do it? I feel simultaneously concerned that I should be doing it and delighted that it seems like I don't have to. For example: you hear a lot of people talking about how they gain on fourteen hundred calories a day, twelve hundred calories a day, a thousand calories a day. I am not one of those people. I don't track, but I have been a disordered eater and a recovering disordered eater for long enough that if I stop and think about it and adjust for the human tendency to underestimate, I can ballpark my daily intake in my head. I would say it is pretty much always north of fifteen hundred, probably more likely usually around 1800-2200. There are definitely days it's above that, too—sometimes I go out for ice cream/fall face-first into a box of See's candy/drink three cocktails instead of two Jameson-and-sodas/end up reverting to symptomatic late-night-secret-eating habits while visiting my parents/pull an all-nighter fueled by sour cream and onion chips and citric-acid sour apple gummy straws/have a terrible hangover that ABSOLUTELY REQUIRES as much of the neighborhood's best bacon egg & cheese on a roll as I can comfortably contain. That makes sense as an estimate, because when I go to my favorite calculator and calculate my approximate total daily energy expenditure (TDEE) I get a number just above 2200, which is to say, if my normal range is at or just below that mark, and then there are some higher days, I am eating in a way that maintains the weight I'm at now. Energy balance is a beautiful thing. This number suggests that I have a normal human metabolism, which is particularly delightful news given that my endocrine system has been borked since childhood. I'm tempted to say that I have a hunch that folks who swear they gain on a thousand calories tend to underestimate their own consumption (which is an empirically observed phenomenon and not a personal flaw) but it's also true that a lifetime of dieting is a predictor of metabolic damage (it's also empirically observable that people who've lost a lot of weight often need to be more active and consume less than people of the same weight who've been weight-stable most of their lives). I wonder if the years I spent as a superheavyweight (this is the technical term for the weight class, not negative self-talk!) powerlifter, training twelve hours a week and radically increasing my caloric needs and then increasing my intake to match them helped me repair some metabolic damage. I also wonder if because of the degree of peace I came to with fatness I'm simply content at a higher weight than some others might be, which means I don't have as much of the psychological need to fight my body all the time to maintain a weight lower than the one to which it's internally calibrated (even after the recalibration effect of a surgery like the VSG, which is one of the reasons I chose it in the first place). I also eat regular food, mostly, which seems sort of not to be the way of things for a lot of folks after WLS. I keep Fairlife high-protein milk in the house for coffee (though I sometimes use regular whole milk and sometimes buy half-and-half), and Breyer's Delights protein ice cream in my freezer, but on the whole, I just eat regular things. (Not always the same things I ate before surgery, but things that are normal food items.) It's a holdover from ED treatment, really—they did whole milk there, no reduced-fat things, and I never switched back; also diet foods make me uncomfortable because they feel shamey. And I dislike artificially sweetened things, as a rule, except Diet Coke; yes I know it maybe kind of gives you cancer and Alzheimer's but I simply do not have the energy to deal with rather than indulge my Diet Coke habit; there is a lot going on over here and it doesn't even crack the top ten on the priority list. Yesterday I had four strips of bacon and two-thirds of a piece of toast with mayonnaise and two fried eggs for breakfast; I finished the egg toast with half a grapefruit a few hours later; I slugged coffee with Fairlife chocolate milk all morning and much of the afternoon; I had six homemade chicken & vegetable dumplings (pan-fried) for a late lunch; I had some feta cheese with tomato and olive oil and garlic and about half a pint of protein ice cream for dinner; I had four ginger chews before bed. Oh, and some home-brewed kombucha, because I'm that person these days (frankly, I worry about the sugar but apparently the yeasts eat most of it). Today I had another egg toast (four strips of bacon and two fried eggs on top of tomato, scallions, and feta cheese; it was a significant achievement in the field of breakfast and kept me full all day), more coffee and Fairlife chocolate milk, a prefab ma po tofu for dinner, some protein ice cream as a snack, a jerky and two ginger chews even as we speak. This one's on the lower end of things. I'm okay with that. Like pretty much I'm a normal person. I do still have significant volume restriction—I notice it most when I eat out with others, when I am conscious of how little it looks like I've eaten in comparison—but these are pretty normal amounts of food for a human to consume. Which I enjoy! But which also seems out of step sometimes. Equally unusual: I employ no diet plans (i.e. I eat carbs, albeit in relative moderation that has more to do with space in my modified anatomy—and not just the "good" ones, either—and I have no macros and I have no calorie goal and I will try a bite of anything. And if failing to plan is planning to fail, baby, I'll take the F. I run out the door running ten minutes late figuring I'll grab something later a lot. I have also been known to play pretty fast & loose with the no-drinking-and-eating rule. I could maybe experiment to see if it matters—it honestly hasn't really felt like it does for me. If I drink while I eat, I take little sips slightly less often than I would ideally like to until it's been an adequate amount of time. But here's the thing: when I really think about it, I actually do think I'm a pretty good WLS patient. I do plan on a longer-term basis—I think about what I want to have in my fridge for the week, and I certainly consider my nutritional needs a priority in that planning. I build around protein options (and try never to eat a meal without a substantial protein hit, and ideally not snacks without them either). I keep an eye on what I have a tendency to overeat (chocolate, popcorn, those perfectly sweet-salty butter toffee cashews from the coop, sesame sticks, pasta, takeout, good bread) and make changes if things are going overboard (stop bringing them into my house for at least awhile, figure out what I need to/can sub in for them)—I don't just beat myself up about it and get into cycles of compulsivity, I actually just change the thing (I mean, it takes a minute, but for awhile I was overeating chocolate and now I'm not). I batch-prep things I want to be able to grab quickly (beans, tuna and chicken salad, poached shrimp, dumplings for the freezer). I try to add a little greenery to every protein thing. I usually keep a protein bar and a stick of jerky or two in my bag so I don't have to eat any old thing if I'm running around the world (I also eat a lot of drugstore string cheese; so sue me). I've expanded my culinary horizons in ways that work for me, and enjoying expanding them keeps me getting pleasure out of my kitchen life, which is super self-caring for me. I'm really having a tofu moment. I've also established new rhythms in the kitchen that work for me now around what and how I'm eating. I've done some pickling and fermenting (kombucha; I'd like to start doing sauerkraut again). My favorite want-a-food-experience-don't-actually-need-one-want-one-anyway snack is just chopsticking (bought, not homemade) kimchi right out of the jar. I also like hot sauce and spiciness in general way more than I did before surgery—I think it's about sensation. I want more POW from my food now, often. Which has the interesting effect of making a lot of easy-to-overeat foods kind of less thrilling. I was scrupulously compliant when scrupulous compliance was necessary. The only thing I ever advanced on early was seltzer, and that very cautiously and only slightly before my surgeon had said I could try it. I weighed and measured food, tracked it, counted my calories, hit my numbers, took my vitamins, and drank my water. I still take my vitamins and drink my water—I'd let it lapse, then noticed that it was affecting me and got it back on track (I literally text my partner every day she's not here with a picture of a palmful of vitamins). Even though the amount of food I eat is a pretty normal amount of food for a human to eat, it's also true that it's not historically a very normal amount for me. Like, six dumplings would have seemed like not enough dumplings. I really like dumplings and sometimes I'm mad that I can't eat more of them. (Sometimes I eat eight dumplings. Sometimes six is fine.) A box of mac and cheese definitely felt like not enough mac and cheese, like it just looked so small; if I get one now it lasts two meals and maybe a snack (also I still glow it up with extra cheese, which definitely makes me feel like a bad WLS patient, but honestly otherwise what's the point?). And when I see the box, it doesn't look so small anymore. It's getting to be normal, is the thing: I'm recalibrating. A few weeks ago I caught myself exclaiming over how giant the ice cream cone I'd just been handed was, and then felt like it was a kind of jerky diet-culturey thing to say (especially in the context of my family), but the thing was, it just looked so giant! (It was objectively giant.) A recalibration of perception. Another recalibration: figuring out what my hunger and fullness cues are now. When I worked with an ED nutritionist for years, we did a lot of this: rating hunger and fullness in the food logs I kept for her. I realized recently that I'm figuring out when I'm hungry post-VSG. It's a different sensation: it's not in my stomach anymore so much as in my gut. I think that it has something to do with my actual body needing fuel even if my stomach isn't yet actively distressed by its emptiness. I had to look for it a long time in order to find where it had gone. But I'm catching on. It's there if I look. The point is, there's getting to be an auto-pilot in there, I think. I mean, that's what I'm hoping. I feel self-conscious about saying that I eat like a person and my weight is stable; I feel like someone's going to swoop in here and slap my hand and tell me I should be weighing and measuring and counting and don't I see I'm still quite fat? But I'm doing what works for me. This works for me. I guess I think the reason that I'm actually a pretty good WLS patient is that I'm in command of my own choices. Could I do the weighing and the measuring still? Yes, sure, I guess. Could I lose another ten, fifteen, twenty, even thirty pounds if I did it really rigorously? Yes/probably/maybe. Do I think the effort is worth the reward? Not really. There are a lot of things in my life that need my energy right now! It is frankly kind of insane! I don't have the brain space. But I do think it's potentially worth it to see if I can take another little step down without doing those things, just paying a little more attention. And I definitely think it's worth it to squelch any symptomatic eating that threatens my long-term stability. I feel good about the fact that I'm not denialist, avoidant, or helpless about that. That needs my attention, it gets it, my attention can change the behavior. That's reassuring. I definitely don't want to sound like I have everything all together. I am still paying a lot of attention to this thing. I have some moles to whack that other people probably don't—symptomatic behavior and the things that trigger it, my slightly intense aversion to being too diet-y, etc. I worry because when I'm making a conscious effort to eat on the lower end, I am also on and off the scale all day, just like I was my freshman year of college when the disorder really got me, closed the walls in around me. And I'm sure that someone will think that my consumption of a box of mac and cheese every couple or three months is a slippery slope to hell. Please don't comment to tell me so! I respect your opinion but am okay with the choices I'm making. That's sort of the thing: I'm okay with the choices I'm making. I'm making my choices consciously, with respect for reality and the difference between want and need, which puts me in the driver's seat. And as long as I'm there, I feel good about where I am. ...it turned out I had a lot of feelings about this!
  17. 6 points
    Kio

    I am not sure what i should eat. 2 years PO

    I agree with all the advice you've gotten already. Everybody goes carb-crazy once in a while, and life is too short to sweat the occasional indulgence - but the word "occasional" is key. You need a baseline diet that is protein heavy and much lower in carbs than the one you're currently following. Definitely lower in sugar. You don't need to be in ketosis to lose, but it sure makes it a lot easier, because ketosis is a cravings-killer. At two years out you can eat real food - emphasize meats and proteins and low-starch vegetables, with occasional low-starch fruits. (Banana is not a low starch fruit!) I'm the last person to criticize - I also love me some simple carbohydrates. But carbs are like a bad boyfriend - once you let them back in the door, they just keep showing up and making you feel like crap.
  18. 6 points
    NerdyToothpick

    Here’s our group photo!

    I did not read this as “striper” but as “stripper”.
  19. 6 points
    cinwa

    What Are You Wearing Today?

    I'm glad that I'm not the only one who had that thought running through my head when Kristin posted about the gifted jeans from her friend. The icing on the cake is that if Kristin were to go shopping with her friend to help her choose some new outfits.
  20. 6 points
    Res Ipsa

    Here’s our group photo!

    I am sorry that I missed this, but it was truly wonderful to be able to spend time with all of you. @NerdyToothpick @BurgundyBoy @Kio @Nana Trish And a special thank you to Trish, who travelled a long way with her family to come!!
  21. 6 points
    Cheesehead

    Here’s our group photo!

    What a fun day! You all look amazing!
  22. 6 points
    tracyringo

    Here’s our group photo!

    How fun !! You guys all look great !!
  23. 6 points
    Cindy Lou Who

    Muscle Loss and Fear

    I had a good app't this week at my surgeon's. At almost 5 months out, he wanted to do a body fat test compared to an earlier one that was before surgery. He has a machine that you stand on and it measures your muscle mass, fat mass, etc. He said that what he sees in his office is that women my age lose about 25-30% of their weight loss in muscle. He encourages exercise to minimize muscle loss, but most women still lose alot. The machine showed that of the 80+ pounds that I've lost, I've only lost 9 pounds of muscle! Woohoo! He was astounded and said that was the lowest muscle loss he's ever seen. As a reward he didn't charge me the $ for the test! I'm super excited because hopefully that will help with maintaining my weight when I reach goal because the muscle will help my metabolism. It's kind of a weird statistic, but it made me happy. When I told my husband, he said, "Yep, you are a lean, mean fighting machine!" (Love that man! :)) It also helps me psychologically, because it makes me feel like I'm truly just stripping off the fat layers I don't need and my true, but same self is still there. Some of this process is super scary to me, and I have to fight off waves of panic. I guess I was using the layers of physical padding for something, and I do find myself feeling more vulnerable. It's totally worth it, but does anyone else feel a bit "naked and afraid" when the pounds and padding are stripped away? I don't know if I need to figure out what I was using the extra weight for, or just work on telling myself that I'm safe and don't need that blanket of weight anymore. Anyway, am I weird having these fears or is this common? I still want to lose more and don't want anything to hinder this honeymoon I'm on.
  24. 6 points
    Rny42018

    3 Month Surgiversary

    It's been 3 months today! I'm down 41 lbs since surgery. Currently at 201, almost to onederland! I'm only losing about 1.5 lbs a week. I'm not sure if that's as good of progress as I should be making at this stage or not, but I am happy with it. I'm anxious to see what they say at my next doctor's appointment on Monday. One thing I need to work on still is regular exercise. I'm definitely not doing enough at the time. Just wanted to stop in and share my progress with everyone!
  25. 6 points
    Readytobeme

    Confused Eating/Drinking

    Ok. I will take a stab at answering some of your questions for you. 1. Liquid goes through the pouch so will not stretch the pouch. 2. My opinion is that you should indeed stop eating at the point that you get uncomfortable. It is possible at this point that you are indeed full from just a few bites from all of the swelling so soon after surgery. 3. Totally normal to gain weight (from the fluid pumped into you at the hospital) after surgery. I gained 11 pounds. You may want to stop weighing for a few weeks as it can get discouraging. If you stick to plan, you will lose weight. 4. It is pretty normal to have a hard time having a bowel movement post op. You may want to start taking Miralax daily to keep things soft until things get back to normal. Hope that my answers helped and welcome to the forum! Huge congratulations on having your surgery done and heading for a much heathier life.