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  2. Tubal ligation

    @NerdyToothpick i feel just like you about the eternal birth control woes due to having pcos and endometriosis for me the whole situation of having a period is a nightmare. For the last 3 years i have been on a continuos dose of the pill thus completely stopping the extremely heavy painful periods. I am considering an ablation once healed from my revision. Its probably the best option other than birth control.
  3. At our first discussion regarding WLS my spouse was quick to say, what about the elliptical you were wanting to get, you’ve been losing weight here lately. I quickly explained to him that I have been battling with the Numbers on the scale for eight years and asked if he could recall when we were dating and I was a size 4 and I am now a size 16 to 18. I explained to him how depressed I am and how I don’t feel attractive and it is the main reason why our intimacy has become less and less over the years. My spouse goes on to jokingly explain that being intimate can burn a lot of calories. This absolutely infuriated me. Maybe I’m being sensitive but I felt like he was mocking me when I felt like was being honest and expressing my raw emotion. If he could only understand how disgusted I get when I look in the mirror especially because for so many years I was very thin but once I hit 36 it all changed and I started packing on the weight. My husband is 5 foot 10 and literally eats about 5000 calories in his once daily meal. This is not an exaggeration my brother Thomas who went through weight-loss surgery and is also a member on this site can vouch for me. My hubby is a thin fat man with a metabolism like I have never seen before in my life. I really hope by taking him to the weight-loss seminar will help him to really understand the importance of my decision and the need for his his support during this process. I feel like if he’s going to expect me to cook him dinner he’s out of his mind because it can’t happen The children are mainly grown and out of the house except for one who is pretty self-sufficient. I don’t believe it would be in my best interest to continue to have to cook him his dinner and sit with him while he eats 3 pounds of chili or 5 pounds of cottage pie! I don’t know how to tell him that I won’t be cooking for him once I have surgery! Ugh....maybe I should stop cooking for him after we attend the seminar. I know how angry I get sometimes because he can eat so much food in one sitting and never gain weight. If I think I’m being hateful then maybe I am but honestly should I stop cooking for him or continue to cook for him while explaining that I cannot sit at the dinner table with him while he eats. I literally spend hours preparing his meal then I sit at the dinner table and eat a salad or a plate of vegetables and am completely disgusted by the amount he eats because I guess I’m jealous.
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  5. What are you eating today?

    Thank you @Readytobeme !!
  6. Protein Question

    What brand is it?
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  8. 1st time to ever post to ANY blog!

    Welcome, @Cindy Lou Who. Hope you stick with us along your journey to the NEW YOU! Wishing you a speedy recovery, and remember on your tough days that things will get better.
  9. Questions about food

    I' 3 weeks in. Yes I have a diet plan, but it states cooked veggies. That's all and berries and skinless fruit. Just was looking for ideas.
  10. Questions about food

    Hi Heather, when was your surgery date? Did your program send any information home with you about your eating plan? How far along you are, will determine what we can tell you to eat :-)
  11. Valerie jean

    Oh bless you Aussie. Can't believe you took time out of your life to check this out for me! I hope your kindness is repaid tenfold!!
  12. Did you keep or shed the dieter's mindset?

    The honeymoon period specifically refers to the period of time when your stomach is completely desensitized from the operation, and is incapable of feeling true hunger. It's during this time that you need to pay close attention to what your stomach is actually feeling, because most of the time when you think you're "feeling" hungry, it's actually acid, or it's not a physical sensation at all but rather the strong cravings in your head. This is why we say that during the honeymoon, you must deal with your "head issues", because it is usually the mind that makes us fat, not the stomach.
  13. Valerie jean

    I did a search for you in the doctors and hospital section using your surgeon, hospital and even LGA. The only posts that came up were yours. While I have seen a couple of English members on the board recently, from memory they used the private health system rather than NHS. That's usually the case with those having bariatric surgery in Australia as well. Funding is so tight for publically funded surgery that it pushes waiting times out to extremes, making paying 12 months of private insurance and the inevitable copay an option those that can afford to do so, would rather take to shortcut the process. For those unable to privately insure, unfortunately patience is the key because nothing else will speed up the process. There have been a few Canadian members here who have found their publically funded systems just as trying with years on waiting lists quite normal.
  14. Did you keep or shed the dieter's mindset?

    Your experience in the past does sound very much like mine....and interestingly your stats are very similar to my highest ever stats. I lost and regained 100+lbs three times in the last 8 years through a combination of diet, exercise and obsessive tracking. By obsessive tracking I really mean OBSESSIVE tracking. This time around I decided the tracking was going. I had no choice but to forgo exercise as my orthopedic surgeon wouldn't allow it in any form until just recently. In fact my garden vivofit for so long wasn't allowed to come out of the red zone, which is normally your reminder to get out of your seat to exercise....and by "so long" I'm talking three years...although I did stop wearing it after a week or two of realising just how little mobility I was allowed. Each dieting attempt I regained, but I did manage to stop myself before regaining back to my highest each time. I'd get to within about 25lbs of where I started and then I'd be back on a strict diet yet again. In myself I've seen a big change with time in how I relate to food since surgery. I just don't enjoy it as much any more. Things I craved in the past simply don't hold the attraction anymore. Even when I've given into temptation on some foods, I've found the pleasure I used to get from consuming them just isn't there anymore. I don't believe that my tastes gave changed....I certainly haven't experienced any food aversions, rather I'm just disappointed that food doesn't seem to live up to my memories of how good I remember it was. So for me "eating what I want" is actually okay now, because I pretty much only want to eat things that I know are okay for me to eat...unhealthy and processed foods really hold almost zero appeal. I do wonder how much of thus is just mind over matter, and that I've somehow convinced myself not to like takeaways and high sugar foods anymore....I suspect this has played a large part in dropping to a lower weight than I ever had been in my adult life. I do know other people that post surgery would do almost anything to find a way to consume their favourite goods (like puréeing Mc Donald's) until they got to the point where they could consume it like they could before surgery. That never made sense to me...... but I don't believe I was ever actually a food addict either...rather I just ate too much of a good thing. These days my definition of a good thing is vastly different from a pre-surgery good thing.
  15. Questions about food

    Does anyone have suggestions for foods. I can now have cooked veggies, I tried carrots last night, they immediately didn't sit well And I vomited them. I can start having skinless fruit as well. Didn't know if there were better things people thought were lighter on the stomach. Thank you!
  16. Travel Tips?

    Yep, other countries have small cones. Perfect size? Not pile a half a gallon on top of a cone.. although, I’m good with an iced tea or iced coffee in Cayman.
  17. Travel Tips?

    I had gelato in Italy when I was there last summer. They sell these itsy bitsy cups, and the super-duper triple X sized portions sold in the US... are not sold there. Enjoy!!!
  18. Did you keep or shed the dieter's mindset?

    Hi @ubergirl I may be a bit of an outlier here... no history of yo-yo dieting. Heavy as a child, then slim as a teenager until age 27; then gained a lot of weight which I kept until I had my sleeve 11 months ago. I'm one of those people the Wise and Cherished @Gretta complained of who has been known to say that you could eat butter after surgery and lose weight. (I still think that's mostly true, given the space limitations after surgery, but I hear her and am mindful of her point!!). By the numbers I have lost just under 90 lbs and I suspect a bit more as I was afraid to weigh myself at my peak. For reasons of vanity, not health, I am hoping to get under 200 lbs in the next few months. But if I don't that's ok. Once at age 40 I lost a lot of weight not through severe dieting, but rather eating the calories to maintain a lower weight - it was something like 2000 calories a day instead of my usual 3000. That worked pretty well until I got stressed when a boss got rid of me at age 42 or so... and I regained all the weight I had lost through stress eating. In 2016 I decided to lose weight, reduced my intake to 2000 calories a day as I had at age 40, upped my exercise... and nothing happened for a year. That's when I decided I had to have surgery. I do not have the experience or skills so many of you demonstrate with more significant calorie reduction (dieting), nor an unfortunate past of binge eating. I just ate too much chronically for years and years and years. If you eat even a few calories over your needs you balloon over time. That was me. The only reason I bring this up is that the only time I successfully lost weight it was by eating what I should eat at my lower weight, not through more strict calorie restriction. After surgery that is what I returned to. Currently, I know about how much everything that I eat is calorie-wise, and without any real effort my weight has been about the same since the end of November, -> I consciously did not / could not / reduce my intake to the 600-800 a day for months and months that so many of my more successful friends here have done. (I envy people who can do that, to be honest). I have probably been eating 1800 calories a day since around month 3, and exercise a lot unless ill or my work interferes. My surgical team and nutritionist are of the opinion that the transition to maintenance is much easier with the path I have followed than it is for many people who are more radical with decreasing their intake and who then have to adjust upwards quite a bit when at goal. I'm not saying that is true for you or anyone else, just saying this resonates with me given who I am. I belong to food and wine societies (more than 20 years) and when I go to those functions I will share my meal with others at the table who have finished their tasty but very small courses. Those are in general relatively small meals but with 3 or 4 or 5 courses; when I say a small meal, it is still usually more than I can (or should) eat, so I eat to taste and not fill up. And yes there is wine and I drink during the meal. Another thing I should not do, but, well, BurgundyBoy has many flaws and foibles and makes errors, yet I seem to have done ok nonetheless. I eat more lightly the days before and after one of those functions. Again, we each have to find our own path. Like you I am satisfied with much more moderate amounts, am a lot more careful about eating enough protein and far less carbs. I'm more mindful than obsessive. The longest I've gone without weighing myself is about 2 weeks due to foreign travel. At home I weight myself every day, or sometimes once every 3-5 days. If I am up I decrease the carbs, up the protein, and am sure to hit the gym more frequently. This approach is in no way a burden except I find cooking such small amounts quite odd! I am, to use your phrase, "eating whatever I want" but what I want has really changed. The quality of what I eat is very high, and yes I probably spend far too much time cooking and thinking about what I eat. I don't eat expensive food at home, but just about everything is home made, nutritious, and rewarding. My Perfect Wife lives mostly on air, it seems, and chocolate, and bites of whatever I cook, and so I do most of the evening cooking. I do see myself as "a fat person in recovery" - but since I never was a binge eater, I am not in recovery from binge eating. I am in recovery from eating 1000 calories a day too much every day. When I think about my 1800 or 2000 calories that I eat every day - I still think of that as being a small amount, even though that is just what a normal intake is! So I know I am in recovery since my instinctual view of what is "small" and what is "normal" are pretty close to being the same before - and after - surgery. But like @Michael_A I am just in love with not being 300 lbs, and have worked hard to put new habits in place to keep me where I am. Perhaps one could term this state a form of mindful vigilance rather than obsessiveness. If I'm at all obsessive now it is around flavor, beauty, and ingredients: and the caloric and space limitations after my sleeve are totally integrated into how I cook now.
  19. Valerie jean

    Is there anyone who is being treated at st Richards in Chichester England I wonder please?
  20. Yes i had roux en y, i think they put you on them automatically here in the uk
  21. 1st time to ever post to ANY blog!

    Welcome. Only a few more days to go and life will be forever changed for the better.
  22. Travel Tips?

    Thanks!! Photography is one of my favorite hobbies, and I love sharing my photos with other people. (As I also love seeing others photos!) I will definitely come back and share my pics from Italy, once I weed them down to some favorites. (I took something like 1300 photos in Japan over 2 weeks. I just can't help myself.) I got a new camera for this trip, too, with a huge increase in megapixels, so I'm so excited to get out there and take some cool shots. Yes, I think that all I need to ask of myself is to be intentional about the choices I'm making. A couple bites of someone's gelato is NOT, in fact, going to kill me, as long as I remain in control. I'm feeling good about things at the moment.
  23. Yes, I'm THAT teacher....

    Sounds like so much fun!
  24. Yes, I'm THAT teacher....

    Awesome
  25. Did you keep or shed the dieter's mindset?

    Thanks for your response! Right now, I'm just eating pureed foods and I'm finding it more of a chore to eat than anything. I think that's what you guys are calling "the honeymoon period" so I haven't struggled with wanting to eat too much or the wrong thing yet. (although I understand that this can become more of an issue over time.) I agree that in my case also, there is something different about me-- just eating like a normal person-- which seems like it should be a no-brainer-- proved impossible for me for many years. In my case, what is overlaid over that though is a long a tortured history of going back and forth between binge and restrict cycles. I was very upfront with the surgeon's psychologist, and i did postpone my surgery so that I could go through therapy, for this issue, so I think what I'm trying to say is that this feels like a typical "restrict" cycle to my confused brain. And the whole goal of therapy was to help me not think in certain ways about food, so I'm wondering if there is a happy medium out there that people have found, where they can succeed with VSG without triggering a lot of possibly unhelpful thoughts and emotions. So, it's not really that I want to get to a place where I can go back and just "eat whatever I want". It's that I don't want to get caught up in the negative swirl that has so long been associated with the obsessive tracking, weighing, constantly upping the ante on exercise, that has not been too helpful to me in the past. What you are saying makes total sense-- I just want to make sure I embrace it in the right way. I take heart in the fact that statistically speaking, at least, I'm much more likely to succeed this time! And I'm definitely noticing that I don't have that frantic "this could snap at any moment" feeling that I used to have. It is NICE to eat a small amount and feel totally satisfied!
  26. Did you keep or shed the dieter's mindset?

    Thank you for understanding, and for your insights! I do like the idea of thinking of tracking as a way that you're getting enough! I'm still in the honeymoon phase where the idea of eating anything off my plan doesn't even seem possible, but I know myself well enough to know that probably eventually some of those old temptations will come around.
  27. Did you keep or shed the dieter's mindset?

    Glad to hear you know where I'm coming from. The yo-yo cycle just becomes torture after a while!
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