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  3. Aussie Bear

    The flu....

    Stop making me jealous @CheeringCJ. We had a heatwave lasted, and after a weekend respite are heading into another starting tomorrow. I'll be shutting myself in my house under the aircon probably binging on Netflix.
  4. CheeringCJ

    The flu....

    Thanks....but we lucked out and pushed it all north...sorry! it was heading here all week but last night took a swing towards the north, which isn’t as good for you but great for us. We are getting 2” of rain only...I can live w/ that. It was supposed to be snow, then rain overnight and in the am and then a flash freeze of ice and forcasted over 1/4” of ice which brings down the trees and power lines and though we are getting the ice, it isn’t going to be a flash freeze this time, the rain is supposed to stop before the drastic temp drop so we will get ice where water is ponded but not on the lines and trees. We totally dodged this one! YOU be careful and stay inside...no reason to go out on bad knees this weekend!
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  6. Nana Trish

    The flu....

    Lol @CheeringCJ...this storm is named after my Harper, for sure!! The “terrific” twos are here, and the storm has perfect timing, haha! Yes, this is extremely painful, and I can’t wait until surgery. This is torture, ugh. Stay safe through the upcoming storm, my friend! Hugs ❤️
  7. CheeringCJ

    Oh life!

    Sorrry things have been so difficult. You know I totally get it. When our son was diagnosed, it turned my world upside down also. Our marriage wasn’t in a good place at the time (thank God that’s done a total 180 and we are better than ever) but I had 2 teens, and 3 little ones (1, 2 and 5 year olds). Our 5 yr old was very high maintenance to begin with (on the spectrum) and our little guy was just not thriving and he became my FT job of taking him to drs to see what was wrong. He had tons of sensory issues that affected his eating (lack of) which affected his growth. He ended up with 4 hours of therapy (occupational, speech, developmental and physical therapies) a week and then I had to do his treatments (skin brushing/joint compressions/oral stimulation etc) all day long. Bc the therapies were done in my house I felt like I had to have my house clean all time time which isn’t easy with 5 kids and toys everywhere. To say I was overwhelmed is a total understatement. The good thing is, I survived (probably due to my total addiction to food for comfort!) and my son is thriving. It just caused a whirlwind for a few years. It was very hard to take him out because new situations total frightened him and his anxiety level was very high. Home was his safe place, going out exposed him to a sensory nightmare of sounds, smells, brightness, noise everything that was too intense for him. Being in a restaurant was impossible, after about 10 mins he had had it and he would just scream, so one of us would stay at the table and eat w/ the other kids and one would take the baby outside and walk around w/ him till we could switch. Then the other one would walk him while we finished eating. I broke down and cried and said “no more meals out until he can handle it” and we literally didn’t go out until he was 5 and even then we had to take a portable DVD player and sit near an outlet and let him take a bag of toys and whatever we could do to distract him (plus he was on Prozac at that time so that helped). We could only drive certain ways (the routes he was used to, nothing veering off the regular route) or he’d melt down. we could only turn left on the green left arrow, not if that went away...or he’d kick and scream the whole rest of the way to church (which was another 10 mins away!). If he got really upset at the route, he’d projectile vomit his chocolate pediasure all over the car! I decided one day I had to break him of that so I sucked it up and started going different routes....I’d try just very close places and I would tell him ahead of time, this time Mommy is choosing LEFT....let’s go LEFT! (Trying to make it a fun adventure). It as pure torture for him but eventually he got over it...whew! I didn’t have many moments of tears because I couldn’t afford to melt down myself, but they were always just there below the surface, but I held them in. My life was so overwhelming, it is no wonder I wasn’t 500 pounds from shoving down the pressure and frustration and not having a second to care for myself. My point of sharing all of this is that....for one, I wanted you to know that you aren’t alone. I’ve been there and others have been there before you too....try to connect w/ a group in your area where they have things for kids on the spectrum...Meeting other moms who are also in the trenches helps. Just being able to vent helps! Also, it gets easier. It never gets perfect (but I have 4 other kids and they aren’t perfect either! Haha!) but it gets better. Try to enjoy the little things with her too. With mine, I celebrated little things way more than w/ my typical kids. Like when Mason finally learned to poop on the potty (at age 6!) it was such a huge deal! He couldnt’ sit on the potty bc there wasn’t anything under him and sensory wise he needed to have something supporting him and couldn’t sit over a hole (not even on a potty seat on the floor) so I danced the happy dance all day when he finally did it. So, embrace the little challenges that your child makes that is harder for her than for typical kids. I am glad to hear she is doing good and is a happy, healthy girl, but there are so many challenges that can break your heart to think of but you can help her overcome them. My son still hates going places but he has learned there is a limit. I give him a time frame and try not to go over. He knows we HAVE to go out but we WILL be back home by 9 pm (or whatever I tell him) I can’t be spontaneous with him, it still overwhelms him (at 15 yrs old). BUT he is a happy, healthy and absolutely adorable child that I wouldn’t have given up the chance to raise for all the money in the world!!! Here he is now...isn’t he too cute? This was at Christmas. The other pic is at the beginning before he was diagnosed. (It’s all 5 of our kids...our DTR was graduating high school, our son graduating 8th grade, our other daughter just turned 4, our little son was 18 months and the baby was 3 months). He is the baby and you can literally SEE something is wrong with him. He would always scream when he was held and see how he tensed up? He hated being touched. It confused me to no end because i was an “experienced mom” and I knew how to soothe a baby by cuddling them and it was just the opposite for him. When I would hold him, he would just cry and cry. Talk about overwhelming a momma!!! That is when I started searching for a diagnosis because something was clearly wrong and my drs didn’t see it. They just told me to stop comparing him to my other kids. I pushed and searched and he was diagnosed at 17 months. But that is when his help began. As much as I didn’t want the diagnosis, it validated me that I wasn’t just a bad mom or crazy and it gave me something to learn about and DO to help my baby! He still struggles but is doing so much better now. He started high school this year and loves it! He went to a private school just for kids on the spectrum (best decision EVER) and by the time he was 9 he was able to go back to our public school w/ his siblings (in special ed). (any time you want to talk, just message me)
  8. CheeringCJ

    Whew!

    Good for you. You must be awesome at maintenance. Way to go!!!
  9. Cheesehead

    ballroom dancing

    Wow! Losing weight opens so many new doors:). You look great!
  10. Jen581791

    ballroom dancing

    You look great! Enjoy the dance classes - a great way to treat yourself
  11. NerdyToothpick

    Anxiously Waiting.....

    @Abbey Morrison How did your surgery go? I hope you are feeling well. I can relate to thinking of your child when making the decision to move forward with WLS. I also have a three year old and my rationale for having surgery was to be fully involved in my daughter’s life. Kudos to you! Please report back and let us know how you are doing.
  12. Boston Redhead

    Bostonredhead surgery

    Almost at the losers’ bench!
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  14. Cheesehead

    Whew!

    Way to go. Don’t let fear rule! Only a 2-3 pound gain and it was over the holidays;)
  15. NerdyToothpick

    Oh life!

    @tracyringo Hugs right back! Thank you ❤️❤️
  16. NerdyToothpick

    Oh life!

    Thanks for the love @BurgundyBoy. I’m sorry to hear that your family is going through some of the same elder stuff. ❤️❤️
  17. tracyringo

    Oh life!

    @NerdyToothpick so glad to hear from you. Sorry life has been throwing you for a loop the last several months and praying things get better for you and your family as time goes on. HUGS
  18. tracyringo

    ballroom dancing

    Wow, congrats to you. Hope you two have the best time with dancing classes !
  19. BurgundyBoy

    Oh life!

    @NerdyToothpick <<Empathy, support, and congrats on getting these school/state/providers/insurance stars to line up.>> Thanks for catching us up. Sorry to hear about your Dad. Same issues arising in the extended BB family.
  20. NerdyToothpick

    Oh life!

    I suppose I should share what’s been going on in my life. I don’t have the emotional energy to go into detail so i’ll give a short summary. Katya’s autism diagnosis has turned our lives upside down. Katya is happy, healthy, bright and a delight. Autism isn’t a concern at all. K is thriving at Preschool and loving being around other kids. The challenges we have faced are the school system, insurance companies, and endless hoops to jump through. My full time job has been dealing with therapy companies, the state and insurance. My husband helps as much as he can but he works at a demanding job and most of the details are left to me. To make things worse, my husband’s company changed insurance providers (without telling anyone!!) after months of hard work. We finally have everything in place that we need...for the time being. My dad is going through some signs of early dementia. Living 3000 miles away from my parents has been difficult. I’m an only child and we have no family in the USA. I’ve had to help my family through all of this and it’s been tough. Y’all, I am tired. So very tired. I’ve hardly had a second to myself and when I do, I try to catch up on sleep. I love my daughter and would wouldn’t change a thing. Don’t feel bad for me. We do have good days around here. More often than not. I just wish I had an extra hand and energy. Gah! Excuse the typos. My phone is not the best avenue for long posts.
  21. NerdyToothpick

    Whew!

    Sheepish confession. I hadn’t weighed myself since early October. I knew I had gained a few pounds but all my clothes fit, so I allowed myself to be ignorant. That feeling turned into fear and avoidance. I started to get paranoid and scared. I haven’t been eating terribly but I haven’t been a saint. Agh I told myself that my return to TT was also an opportunity to be accountable to myself. I took off my big girl pants and weighed myself. 139! That was a shock as I assumed I had ventured into the 140s. That’s about a 2-3 lb weight gain. I can live with that and hopefully take off with better eating. I am so relieved!
  22. NerdyToothpick

    Happy New Year!

    @Aussie Bear You are too kind.
  23. cinwa

    ballroom dancing

    WOW - that is a truly amazing transformation - congratulations! (don't forget to update your stats). We often forget the impact our excess weight has on our partners and family Your wife must have been delighted with the dancing classes. .... did you have a good time.
  24. Res Ipsa

    ballroom dancing

    Your weight loss is both amazing and inspirational. It is amazing how many fun things, like dancing, one can do at a healthy weight.
  25. Aussie Bear

    Happy New Year!

    Looking good @NerdyToothpick
  26. CheeringCJ

    The flu....

    Sorry, I must’ve missed that! That sounds painful, you will be glad to have relief after healing! Btw, i keep thinking of you every time they talk about this big storm coming...Harper!
  27. NerdyToothpick

    Misdiagnosed...no MS!!!

    @Nana Trish I’m truly sorry to hear about the lamictal. Eek. What meds are your docs thinking of substituting? Good luck with your knee replacements. Are you doing both at the same time or one by one? I’m ok. Not great and I’ve been better. But things aren’t terrible. I’m trying to take things one day at a time. I’ll give more of a status update when I’m not feeling so yucky. Missed you too!
  28. NerdyToothpick

    Happy New Year!

    Gosh! I had no idea I had been this missed. Thank you @Nana Trish @Jen581791 @Aussie Bear @Cheesehead @CheeringCJ @Res Ipsa . Your warm welcome makes me feel good. The NT household is fighting the stomach flu right now and it ain’t pretty. @Aussie Bear I tried to find a picture, only to find that I didn’t take many pictures. Almost none! I was in the moment and didn’t think to snap many photos. I included the top picture because out of the three pictures I have of myself, this is the only one where I’m smiling. Oops.
  29. Nana Trish

    The flu....

    Harper is feeling much better...thank you so much!! I stayed away as long as I possibly could, and was preventitively treated with Tamiflu, and did NOT get the flu!! I just have to make it 13 more days without getting sick, and the surgery is in my sights!! I sure hope you and Katya get over the flu soon!! Love and hugs!!❤️❤️❤️
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