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Hi everyone. Wow it's been a wild month, and I've kind of lost track of time and coming on here. So, a quick update on me, (Hopefully it's quick, we'll see!)

Two months ago, the house that I rented was sold. My old landlord told me two days after he sold it "So, I sold the place, take care!". We had lived there for almost 10 years. 10 years of life happened at that house. My son went from Kindergarten to 8th grade in that house, my youngest came home from the hospital to that house. Lots of memories. Well, the new landlord came by and served me with a new lease, and a "You have 60 days to get out" notice. 

It is hard to find a place to live, especially when you have a zoo of pets and kids. It's hard to find a place you can afford. In fact, the stress of that was crazy. First, we tried to buy a house, and I paid off our credit cards in an attempt to boost our credit score. It worked, but not fast enough. It took almost a month of my 60 days for the credit to update and 30 days is not enough time to find a house that fits our needs, and close on it. I called the new landlord and begged him to stay, I even offered double our rent, and he was "Well, you are not the quality type of people I want living here, and I doubt you'd pass our application process". Wow. Just wow. Really, not the quality of people, I pay rent in advance, we don't party, we don't do drugs, not the type of people. 

In a dark hour, I found myself at the local food bank, scouring through rentals, trying to find anything, anyone, anywhere we could go that would not put my kids out. I came across a newspaper (Yes they still exist), with a number on it, for a 3 bedroom house, with lots of storage and an option to rent to own. So, I called and left a message. About 30 minutes later I was called back, and a week later I signed a year lease for the new place, and with a bonus, we could keep all of our animals. 

So, the past month has been moving houses, which is hard to do, and moving my mother in law in with us. As she was also evicted. It's been a heck of a process, that I find myself with little time to do anything else. I've had to change addresses for three kids in three different schools, in order to get my middle child on board with it, we had to do an inter-district transfer for her to remain at her current school. We now are paying for water, and sewer, and garbage. But I am not complaining, it's a house, it's a house that will feel like a home, and the location is great, I have no neighbors I have to worry about, literally, I am tucked away from a main road, with easy access but unless you were looking for my place you couldn't find it. I am thrilled. 

 But, that's not quite all that has been going on. First the negative. My sister in law, Michelle, passed away, two weeks ago, stage 4 breast cancer. She was my husbands favorite sister, and of course my mother in law is grieving from losing her daughter. It's hard to squabble about the petty things when something else happens that is devastating. The positive is that we were able to bring home another pet that was promised to my children if we ever had to move. His name is Marley, named after Michelle's favorite dog. 


But again life is full of checks and balances. Outside of my personal life, my work life is happening. My manager had retired, which left an opening for his position. Out of three people, I was given it, however, yesterday news came down that his father passed away, which was his reason for retiring, so yay I was granted the position, but yay the position may not be available. Will have to wait and see which puts me in flux. It's difficult to be in flux, I am someone who likes to know what is going on. But, to balance that out, August 1st was a year from when I had my surgery done. This past year has been amazing, the ups and the downs. I am thankful for it all. For the negatives for showing me what I can get through and do, and the positives showing me what the rewards can be. 

A year and a month ago, I was obese, depressed, frustrated. I had no sex drive, no drive really to do anything. I was tricking myself into thinking I was happy when I was not, and I made a change for the better. I took a plunge and I am so glad that I did. At my highest I was a little over 290lbs, As of this morning, I weigh 154lbs. I fit into size 8 in pants, and small in shirts. 

My Progression : 

Day before surgery - 


Two months after surgery - 


Four months after surgery - 


6 months - 


Seven months - 


Nine months - 


Today - 


I am thrilled with how I look. I am so glad that I had my surgery done. I have excitement for a future in which I didn't even know could exist a few years ago. I am excited and happy for whatever lies my way.  (Thanks for reading :D)


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Your pictures are gorgeous! Love your style. So glad you got away from the landlord who bought your house. He's the "type of person" everyone should stay away from. What a weirdo. Sorry he put you through so much. Your new place sounds awesome and like you will be very happy there. I'm so sorry for the loss of your sister in law. I lost my mom to breast cancer, and it is so hard to watch someone suffer through it. Hugs to you and your expanding family (adorable new dog!). You've done an amazing job making your surgery a success. Well done! Thanks for sharing.

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What a year! Life has thrown you some curves, but I'm glad you've persevered through them, and come out the other side gorgeous and healthy. 

Im sorry to hear about your SIL. When someone dies, it puts everything else into perspective. It's a reminder to be grateful for life and living. Hug everyone you love.

Moving stinks - can't imagine how much more complicated it is with kids - but it sounds like you've found a better place. Landlords can be $&@%#¥s. Pay him no mind. You know you are good people.

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@Zyia thanks so much for the update. My condolences to you, your husband and the family with your sister-in-law's passing. What terrible heart ache and pain. 

"I have excitement for a future in which I didn't even know could exist a few years ago." What a generative post. I hope others contemplating WLS will read your post(s) and consider seizing control of their lives. As I once posted after one of your blogs, you have a gift with language and imagery. 

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Let us know how the new adventures are coming along. It didn't have to happen this way, but for a lot of people the changes of WLS are part and parcel of other changes in life. Hope the kids are doing well in the new schools, your husband and MIL are doing as well as could be expected, and the new job is rewarding. Trying times.

At some point we'll want to know what your routine is for maintenance. It may seem kind of banal after all the things you blogged about but well this is a WLS and support site, and your good example - is a good example. Best wishes BB

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