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Ten months since surgery y'all!  Last month brought many deaths into my life, my ex-boyfriend re-entered my life (after a year!) and proposed, the harassing work situation from last year has re-surfaced and I've been house hunting for my first purchase!  I suppose at this point in my life, I really thought I'd be married (and that answer was NO) so house hunting alone has been a bit anti-climatic but still an interesting process (especially my first offer....and subsequent rejection! lol).  I keep wondering if when I walk into these houses, is it supposed to feel like a 'say-yes-to-the-dress' moment?

Taller:  Everyone keeps saying I look taller, perhaps it's because I'm not as wide so my height becomes more noticeable.  When asked my height I actually go into panic mode because I don't really know anymore.  Waaaay back when at the start of the journey, a nurse measured me at 5'9", which caused incredulous laughter because I have always registered my height at 6'0".  This nurse was approximately 5' tall and very, very pregnant so I somewhat thought she just couldn't reach my head.  Re-measured a few months later (by a shorter gentlemen at my GP office) I was told 5'10.5", which I thought (and friends and family members thought) sounded off too.  With all of our technical advancements, is height really still measured by standing against a wall with a metal bar?  This becomes increasing important as we calculate BMI.  No matter what the number, everyone has been saying I look taller, which I really think means I'm not as wide and therefore people can notice my height!

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Some photos I found online with folks (or cartoons!) getting their height measured.  You'll notice that the first three, the measurer is always taller than the measureree.  BUT look at the last one! When did you ever see that in the doctor's office??   Why is that pertinent?  Because our doctor's use the BMI to determine what level of tests we have to go through before getting bariatric surgery. Had my height been measured appropriately from the onset, it would have dropped my BMI and I would have needed only half the tests I needed prior to surgery.  There was also an incident with a scale within the doctor's office that measured incorrectly, I brought it to the staff's attention and it was like twisting arms to get them to change it!  Be an advocate for yourself, even for the silliest items.

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Some alternatives to coping with alcohol:  archery, long beach walks, reading and talking to my therapist/friends/family

Ethanol.  And by that I really mean alcohol because rather than coping with food, I have definitely been coping with an increased consumption of alcohol, which has dramatically stalled my program these last 2-3 months.  I am lucky in that I have no history of alcohol abuse, have a wonderful relationship with my therapist to treat my PTSD, and have developed some alternative strategies that are working thus far.  But even without any type of history, this surgery makes you vulnerable to these kinds of issues.  I feel like you need to be vigilant and don't be afraid to seek help.  In fact, even if you don't think you have a problem but have noticed your 'reward' after a hard day is a glass of wine or beer or drink, ask yourself what's going on and if that's the road you want to go down.  I do not feel safe from developing any other 'new' obsession now that food is off the table and I think because I did, I ended up sliding these past few months.  I'm trying not to feel so bad about that, to forgive myself and make better decisions for these next few months but focusing one day at a time.


NATURE!!  Mother nature is taunting us like the saucy wench she is!  We'll have a gorgeous day and the next day I'll see my breath.  Last night I walked on the beach for about 2 hours and while it started out overcast but still pleasant, by the end it was frigid, foggy and positively spooky.  Fresh weather is just around the corner, which will brighten even my saddest moods and I plan to wring every last drop of the day.  This upcoming month brings a trip to the west coast to officiate my friend's wedding, the start of my diving for work (brrr!! cold water! 54*F), and a townwide yard sale.  While I have helped with family yard sales (well, I'm sure I stood there while my mom did all the work! lol), I've never hosted my own.  And, being the researcher I am, I have been reading online about haggle-free yard sales (not socially acceptable),  pricing strategies (be ready for hagglers) and not pricing anything strategies (you can make more and its less work).  Just like in my Poshmark, I want to do minimal work and make the most money.  So far PoshMark has brought in ~$250 for minimal work.  I don't think I can get that much out of my garage sale items but my plan is to donate anything that doesn't sell so something is better than nothing!  Thoughts from other yard sale junkies?


What's this vegetarian eating?  I created a recipe I am calling broccoli piccata with fresh lemon, capers, spaghetti squash, broccoli and some red pepper flakes.  By straining off the sauce, cooling it, mixing in genepro and then remixing the sauce with the cooked ingredients, I'm able to get some decent protein out of the recipe, while also getting in some important veggies.  I also created a veggie egg scramble that did not turn out quite so well.... lol!  Planning my meals for the week has been really helpful in making sure I eat appropriately through the week rather than just drinking protein.

So let me put it to you all:  Is there a more accurate way to measure height? 

For post-ops, did you struggle with an addiction transfer?

For yard sale experts, to price or not to price?!





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Sounds like things are moving right along for you - you're far enough out from surgery that you can focus on other things, which is nice! Happy house hunting - I have never owned a house, so I don't know what it's supposed to feel like when you find *the one* but I suspect that unless you're on at least a somewhat unlimited budget, you may not have that dreamy feeling of "oooooh, this one's perfect!!!!" 

You're a tall person - I thought all tall people had their heights down to the millimeter, since they get asked all the time. It definitely must be harder to get an accurate read, though, especially since the person taking the measurement will probably be shorter than you. The last time I was measured, the nurse was like 4'10" or something, so it was definitely a rough guesstimate rather than some sort of scientific measurement. And the impact on BMI and therefore all kinds of related decisions and requirements is totally a legitimate issue. 

As for addiction transfer, I am trying VERY HARD not to develop a shopping addiction. It's difficult. I'm being really careful about alcohol and food, so I guess shopping is the thing that's calling out to me? It's not like I think I'm going to suddenly bankrupt myself at the mall, but I just don't want to encourage the coping mechanism at all. But I want to buy nice clothes. And more nice clothes. And then something to go with those nice clothes. Just some accessories. And maybe a pair of shoes. And... It's better than food or alcohol addition as far as physical impacts go, but I don't think it's exactly *healthy* per se. 

Enjoy your nature as it gets nicer to go and and be in it :) 

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Taller: we shrink as we get older, the disks between your vertebral bodies get less tall even if the bones don't lose height from osteoporosis. Get measured first thing in the morning before your vertebral column has been compressed by walking during the day. 

Ethanol: Yup, must be careful. No transfers noted here, unless it is an addiction to posting here on the Forum (not terribly caloric, thankfully  :P). Only change on the alcohol front for me is that I am drinking better wine than I used to; over the last couple of years my sense of how fleeting things are, how quickly things may end, has increased, so ... since I can only consume limited alcohol molecules, I want them to be good ones. 

Nature: Da%!g rabbits have eaten all my early flowers... and striped bass are now migrating into Massachusetts waters, so am thinking of some dawn fishing soon. That 54F water you are diving in is I think warm enough for them! I can't wait to be on the ocean soon. 

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Curvy, I am wondering how the yard sale went?  I usually end up donating everything only because I hate yard sales. But, I have recently thought about putting some of my better items up on Ebay.

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On 5/16/2018 at 9:42 PM, Readytobeme said:

Curvy, I am wondering how the yard sale went?  I usually end up donating everything only because I hate yard sales. But, I have recently thought about putting some of my better items up on Ebay.

Sorry for my delayed response.  My yard sale was a total failure!  I really thought there would be more people out but it was not meant to be - I ended up donating the majority of the stuff to the thrift store.  On the up side - I did get to meet and chat with more of my neighbors!  I would suggest combining with other people (friends, family, neighbors) and have a combined yard sale to draw in more diverse crowds.  I had no clothing out (I've sold ~$400 worth of my gently used clothing online), no children's clothes, mainly household goods.  Perhaps if my offerings were more diverse, there would have been a bigger draw from the 'drive-by' crowd?

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Not sure if you have a flea market type place in your area? I can rent a table there for about $5 There are already people there shopping and looking to buy used items. I have had the best luck selling that way.

I have a ton of stuff now that I would like to sell. I am very generous with donations but, I have many toys and other childrens items that were quite expensive. Along with clothing (some brand new with tags) that I would like to recoup something from.

May I ask where you sell online? Is it Ebay? I have thought about trying it as well.

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@Readytobeme  I had the best luck with Poshmark (blogged about it here) and it is a little bit more work than a flea market but I found that everyone wants to haggle and get super cheap prices at flea markets so it wasn't really worth it - I could get more with the larger audience online.  If you already sell on eBay, you might have even more luck there.  I have a friend who sells quite a bit on eBay so I had her post a wetsuit and waders for me as I knew that wasn't the right audience for Poshmark (all women really and not really the outdoorsy types).

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