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CurvyMermaid

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S - ickening eating habits

I - ntegrated tool

X -tra room

Wow have I been absent from Thinner Times for the past few months.  I have been overwhelmed with a terrible work situation and then the holidays hit.  BAM!  And here were are, at month six.  Actually past my six month-iversary.  I have no idea on my weight or measurements (haven't weighed or measured in a month but clothes fit the looser so at least there's that).

I traveled and will travel more for this holiday.  The first was for my grandfather's 90th birthday.  My parents came to the airport to pick me up and they didn't even recognize me.  It's been surreal at 100+ pounds down.  I've gone from a size 28+ (because I wore stretchy cottony things and who knows their actual size) to an 18.  I recently bought a pair of jeans at the thrift store that were a size 16.  The sweatshirt I am currently wearing is an XL.  SURREAL!

Sickening eating habits.  There is no other way to describe my thoughts as I watched my parents.  I spent the holiday with them and there was bread and butter with everything.  And so many, many snacks between meals.  So many, many sweets.  I'm not going to lie, I was completely revolted by it.  It's hard not to respond when I see them doing all the bad habits that I know I had pre-surgery and lead to my max weight of 370 lbs.  I am concerned for their health, obviously.  So I would make lots of salads in the hopes of filling them up before they ate the main meal.  And fruit salads in the morning.  But they love their carbs.  I'm such a midwest girl from a midwest family.  I was sickened by it all and just went for long walks around the neighborhood to distract myself. Everyone said how good I look but how do I *not* harass them about eating better.  Both of them know they have gained weight over the years and want to improve.  I feel almost like I'm part of a pyramid scheme and I'm trying to recruit others into the VSG lifestyle but I SWEAR!! this works!  But wait, there's more!  If you act now, you'll also get a set of Ginsu knives that will cut through cans!

Integrated tool  During all of these family events there were a lot more dinners together where my eating habits were heavily scrutinized.  There was also the issue of me not even feeling like eating most of the time (still no appetite at 6 months out and focused only on getting to 80g protein).  Perhaps they weren't as heavily scrutinized as I felt, but I was aware that I was eating approximately a cup of food to their very full dinner sized plates.  There were also some very judgemental dinners with family where they felt the need to weigh in on my unmarried, athiest 'lifestyle' and did not want to hear about the new homeless initiative I started with my Humanist group.  Le sigh.  Family drama, eh?  But I felt like I integrated my tool well.  My VSG tool is something I am still getting used to but I shipped protein bars and protein chips to where I was staying in advance so that I could have them with me.  I did NOT eat a single Christmas cookie or bread/pasta/empty calorie food and managed to find decent offerings at quite a few restaurants.  So is my tool fully integrated into my life? Not yet but it did feel more integrated with the additional family challenges.  The dating challenges are still just that, challenges.  But I'm finding a way around those too.  Salads really are key.

Xtra room!   YES!!  Allow me some leeway with that spelling - how else can I use an X and part of my fun with these posts are finding things to fit the letters.  HOWEVER, during this holiday I flew for the first time since surgery and there was XTRA room in the airplane seat belt!!  I won't say there was extra legroom because I really am too tall for these seats but there was extra seat room and I was even stuck in the middle seat for one flight!  What an amazing feeling to know my extra large body (rather than 4x body) could fit in the seat without ending up with bruises on my hips from the seat rests, without crossing my arms over my body and hoping/praying/swearing that if I could will myself or squeeze myself smaller so I didn't 'spillover' to my neighbors, I gladly would.  It was a great feeling.

So as we all get ready to celebrate the end of 2017, which I have to say has been a remarkably terrible year for me in many ways but also already a new beginning, I want to say thank you to all of those who have gone before me and gave me the courage, and give a huge, squeezy hug to all of those who go after me in order to give you comfort.  There will be terrible times, there will be times when you may not regret the decision but need a break from thinking or writing about it on this forum, but to know this community is here....well, it makes me smile, gives me continued comfort and  keeps me coming back.

Cheers!



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happy half-year! Curvy Mermaid, I was wondering where you've been!  Congrats on the XL sizing now!  Amazing!  Doesn't it feel wonderful?  So thrilled about the plane seat too! I think it was @TammyP who also was enjoying her xtra room!!!  (check for her post under the Christmas post @Kio wrote...there is a pic of her tiny legs and looong seat belt! it's amazing!)

i hear you about watching people killing themselves with food....I feel the same way! It's kinda disgusting! 

 

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Congrats on successful eating over the holidays!  I had people over a few times for Christmas and found that I was "out" of many things that I've used, served, cooked with in the past, so I made the mistake of trying to replenish them all.  Of course we couldn't use all of that food so now the people are gone and I have loaves of bread and bags of potatoes to get rid of somehow.  Lesson learned - at my house, serve people things I like to and am able to eat!

Glad to hear salads are going well - I think your surgery was just ahead of mine so hopefully I can successfully try to start eating more salads as well.

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Congrats on your continuing success, Curvy! I love that you are able to stay away from the scale and just measure your success by other means. I’m glad that is working well for you :) 

Other people’s eating habits are disturbing, for sure, particularly if they are loved ones with health issues. There is some evidence in some studies I’ve read that one person making healthier lifestyle changes has a knock on effect in their family/friend circle. So, here’s hoping your shining example and lack of pushing has a subtle effect.

Xtra room on an airplane is CERTAINLY a perfectly good way to use that X. It’s a game changer, for me!

Such a big mental difference between plus sizing and XL in regular sizes. Congrats on getting there!

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On 12/30/2017 at 3:43 PM, CheeringCJ said:
On 12/30/2017 at 8:47 PM, Jen581791 said:

Such a big mental difference between plus sizing and XL in regular sizes. Congrats on getting there!

Congrats on the XL sizing now!  Amazing!  Doesn't it feel wonderful?  

 

So true! I haven't yet tried to buy things in 'normal' stores as I think I am at a true size 18, which tends to push the envelope of the largest size. BUT it is amazing to know I don't need the extra 'x''s.

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On 12/30/2017 at 6:26 PM, kayak19 said:

Congrats on successful eating over the holidays!  I had people over a few times for Christmas and found that I was "out" of many things that I've used, served, cooked with in the past, so I made the mistake of trying to replenish them all.  Of course we couldn't use all of that food so now the people are gone and I have loaves of bread and bags of potatoes to get rid of somehow.  Lesson learned - at my house, serve people things I like to and am able to eat!

Glad to hear salads are going well - I think your surgery was just ahead of mine so hopefully I can successfully try to start eating more salads as well.

Salads are an absolute life saver when dining out. They allow you to eat a meal with whomever you are with, are meant to be picked at so you can go slow and help keep the bowels movin'!

If the food you purchased is unopened, consider donating it to your local food pantry. Or just find a neighbor! Lol, the last person to leave on Thanksgiving took a LOT of random things home! 

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@CurvyMermaid Sorry I missed your post, I was off the Forum for a few days and got behind! Glad to hear from you and am impressed you are not obsessional about weighing yourself. 

Le Sigh too re: family. Had dinner with my son last night who could not have been more effusive and supportive - he even texted me photos from a family vacation about 20 months ago. I looked huge. This is SO MUCH BETTER! 

A Happy, Prosperous, and Healthy New Year to you! (I think that also means, and hoping you end up someplace near your goal).

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I wouldn't say I'm not still obsessed with weighing myself @BurgundyBoy, my scale just died a few months back and I haven't replaced it!  I've survived the last month without one but I have also been traveling for the majority of the month so now that I'm back, I plan to buy one and start weighing back up.  I don't want to think I'm still losing by my clothes but no know the numbers.  I want to celebrate more scale victories! along with the non-scale ones. :)

Happy New Year wishes to you and yours too!

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I can go a week now without weighing... Only problem is that the gaps have seriously messed with my beautiful Excel spread sheet and graphs. Am travelling too and lots of social dinners (!!!) - try to just nurse my glass of water or um purified grape juice and peck every great once in a while at things that go by so hosts don't come up to me and insist on gobbling too much. 

And thanks for the good wishes. Also have had some horrific junk at work but also some gratifying things too. The weight loss and better health help put everything into perspective. ;)

 

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