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[NatalieAnne]

I lost my father in January of 2011.  I had gastric bypass in June of 2011.  I have lost 90 lbs most of it within 6 months.   Pre surgery I drank, smoked, and  had meaningless relationships.  I was a social butterfly.

Today I am struggling with finding out, who am I?  You would think I would be ecstatic to be out and show off the new me, but the truth is I spend my free time with family our alone in my house.  I do not regret having the surgery, although I am struggling with not feeling well, lack of energy, and confusion on how to live this new life.  

I guess I need to find a balance in my life, embrace all the positive things.  

Has anybody else had trouble living their new life?  Would love some input, I feel soooo lost and lonely.

[arkfun]

You are going through so many changes, not just on the outside, but on the inside.
Add to this your loss of your dad, that is a lot to deal with all at once.
I think to a degree we all go through thoughts/actions such as yours, but if you feel you are not improving, it may be a good time to consider talking with someone.
Sometimes a therapist's ear can be a GREAT tool, it has been for me!
Remember, this is a journey... what you make of this journey is completely up to you though.

[NatalieAnne]

Thank you Arkfun. My Dr recommended a group therapy. May try, maybe if I see other people with the same issues I won't feel so crazy!

[JustMe8892]

NatalieAnne, on 04 February 2012 - 06:57 PM, said:

I lost my father in January of 2011. I had gastric bypass in June of 2011. I have lost 90 lbs most of it within 6 months. Pre surgery I drank, smoked, and had meaningless relationships. I was a social butterfly.

Today I am struggling with finding out, who am I? You would think I would be ecstatic to be out and show off the new me, but the truth is I spend my free time with family our alone in my house. I do not regret having the surgery, although I am struggling with not feeling well, lack of energy, and confusion on how to live this new life.

I guess I need to find a balance in my life, embrace all the positive things.

Has anybody else had trouble living their new life? Would love some input, I feel soooo lost and lonely.

Hi Natalie,
What a 2011 year you've had, sometimes it's just a day at a time -- learning about yourself, what's important to you, and where your life is headed. I kind of understand what you have been going through, my husband passed away January 2011 as well -- I moved a couple times -- changed jobs a couple times -- and now having gastric bypass next week so I'm sure I'll go through changes with that as well. Do you have a good friend or relative that is a good listener to help you work through things? I am lucky I have my mom and some good friends and they have helped me through the rough times this past year. This online forum has also been great, I've only been on a few months, but the support and care and friendships here are wonderful. Seeing a therapist is good too. Congrats on your weight loss, what a fantastic thing you have accomplished. Take Care, Keep in Touch, Best Wishes Always, Alexis

[NatalieAnne]

Oh I am so sorry to hear about your husband! I do have a FABULOUS support system! It's just such a change, and it happens so fast! I'm not complaining by no means, but its like your in a dream. Weird I know, but I am getting through it!