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[McSleeve]

MaraJayne, on 23 February 2012 - 07:00 AM, said:

1) I dont think he'd try to stay friends for the purpose of a booty call because we never got to that point.
2) I never met his kid. Mine is devistated.
3) I think he's just pushing me away because I scare him, but he's hurt me and if he comes to his senses, he'll have to come after me and make it better. I'm not chasing.

Ok I guess I will say that noone knows everything you went through, the stages of your relationship. Guys can try to "seal the deal" if you know what I mean, especially if it was close, perhaps (and you are stronger than this mentally) they use the quick break to make you want them, to get them back you throw yourself on them.

I thought you had mentioned you were meeting his kid, either way, was just giving examples, not specifics, generalitites.

It sounds like you have already decided that if he says the right words all can be forgiven, that is different than being done with it, if its what you want, then I hope you get it, if not then I hope you can find a way to let it go. Swizz is right though...a real good way to vent is to right everything you want to say, put it all out and then destroy it, erase it, etc...I have had several friends who used to do this and it was very therapeutic.

[MaraJayne]

Actually HE was the one that didn't want to 'seal the deal' not me. And I was supposed to meet the kid, but as most of our plans did, it fell through.

[design.a.new.me]

I have learned that if it is difficult in the beginning, it may not be worth letting him back into your personal space. The dating stage should be fun, a lot of laughter, getting to know each other and trusting each other. Think about what he said that was hurtful, whether he was scared or not-he still said things that were hurtful. Don't email him and if he comes back, make the decision at  that time if you want to let him "back in"
And you have earned that right to take pride in what you wear and FLAUNT it!

Good luck!

[Julie S.]

MJ (I love that moniker for you!) just wanted to tell you how sorry I am it didn't work out.  I know how disappointing it is.  No words of wisdom here, just big hugs being sent your way, lady.  xxoo

[MaraJayne]

Julie S., on 26 February 2012 - 09:42 AM, said:

MJ (I love that moniker for you!) just wanted to tell you how sorry I am it didn't work out.  I know how disappointing it is.  No words of wisdom here, just big hugs being sent your way, lady.  xxoo

Thanks Jules!!  (I always liked MJ but it never caught on, LOL)  I'm actually surprised at how OK I am.  I thought I would be devistated if this happened, but I'm not.  Clearly he wasn't the right guy for me.  Not sure if I'll ever find the 'right guy' but for now I'm going to just enjoy life.