Juliet

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Just getting into this, had my first appointment April 12 and have all the psych evaluations and nutrician classes set for May. Dr. is recommending the Bypass. Haven't gotten the lowdown on insurance, which could put a damper on this, but I intend to go forward to save my life...

Thanks to all of you who take the time to help others.

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Hi Juliet and welcome!

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Welcome, Juliet!

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Welcome!

 

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Welcome Juliet!

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Welcome Juliet!

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Welcome!  I have never regretted having my gastric bypass, as it has allowed me to become thin, healthy and much more active. 

We are here to inform and support you on your weight loss surgery journey. :)

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Welcome to Thinner Times Juliet!

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I'm going back and forth between being excited and scared. I think the biggest questions all newbies must have are: Am I doing the right thing? Will be ever be able to eat again? Will I regret having done this?

Surely all of you wondered the same things?

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I am 10 days prior to surgery and have those doubts too. Thinking to myself couldn't I just do this with diet and exercise? The answer for me is "no". I've tried everything including lap band surgery.   For me I need this huge tool in order to motivate me to do follow the meal plans and exercizing needed for the amount of weight loss I want. Sure I could probably lose 50 pounds without it but I'm ready to be thin and skinny and healthy and keep up it off and most importantly break my addiction to food.  I have to believe my surgery will be my needed kick in the bottom to heal my relationship to my body and food. 

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I KNOW I can't get this weight off any other way. I've tried and failed too many times. and there's too much I need to lose. As I told the doctor, I don't really feel like I have any choice at this point.

But it's still scary,

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I agree (for myself).

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1 hour ago, Juliet said:

I KNOW I can't get this weight off any other way. I've tried and failed too many times. and there's too much I need to lose. As I told the doctor, I don't really feel like I have any choice at this point.

But it's still scary,

Not to be indelicate Juliet but for me, dying due to my morbid obesity was even scarier.

One of my WLS friends has a poster in her kitchen which says it all:

  Don't dig your grave with your own knife and fork.

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It hit me that I had to do this when I saw my sister recently, after a number of years. She's 8 years older than me, heavy all of her adult life like me, but also diabetic, incontinent, and barely able to walk without pain. We were meeting in a distant city for a memorial service; when I went to meet up with her at the airport I found that she had fallen ALL THE WAY down an escalator. She couldn't get up. Her hearing aids flew out, glasses flew off, she had ugly gashes in her thigh and shoulder from the sharp edges of the escalator stairs, dark bruises and the beginning of a huge hematoma. The rest of the trip I took care of her, she couldn't go up or down stairs without help, and ended up leaving for her return flight in a wheelchair. Now, some of this was due to the fall, but what may have contributed to the fall in the first place? I thought, is that where I want to be in 8 years? It's too late for her...she's past the age for WLS...but I am not. I have a chance.

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2 hours ago, Juliet said:

It hit me that I had to do this when I saw my sister recently, after a number of years. She's 8 years older than me, heavy all of her adult life like me, but also diabetic, incontinent, and barely able to walk without pain. We were meeting in a distant city for a memorial service; when I went to meet up with her at the airport I found that she had fallen ALL THE WAY down an escalator. She couldn't get up. Her hearing aids flew out, glasses flew off, she had ugly gashes in her thigh and shoulder from the sharp edges of the escalator stairs, dark bruises and the beginning of a huge hematoma. The rest of the trip I took care of her, she couldn't go up or down stairs without help, and ended up leaving for her return flight in a wheelchair. Now, some of this was due to the fall, but what may have contributed to the fall in the first place? I thought, is that where I want to be in 8 years? It's too late for her...she's past the age for WLS...but I am not. I have a chance.

I'm curious how old your sister is. I'd hate to think it's too late for her to turn things around. Good for you for taking back control of your life.

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My sister is 71. I think, at 62, I'm close to the upper end to qualify for WLS.

 

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Oh, I really feel for your sister. What an awful fall! Hugs to both of you!

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Posted (edited)

Thank you Gretta, you are most kind. My sister is doing the best she can ... don't we all? ... and knows nothing of my plans. My father, also overweight, passed away from heart disease at 71. I watched them both lose and gain weight over the years, myself included of course. My middle sister is also overweight, but I'm not aware of her health status. My grandmothers were both overweight and each passed at 74 with heart issues. It goes on and on.

Doesn't WLS seem like the right thing for me to do? I hope insurance will go along, as there's no way I can pay for it.

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I think you are right to explore this option for yourself. We have to use all the tools at our disposal to live our best lives.

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I agree. You are right to explore this awesome tool. God bless your sister, also. 

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Welcome, Juliet! WLS is scary... and to be honest, that's a good thing - it means that you're not taking this decision lightly, and that you understand this is a life-changing experience. There will be a lot of sacrifices you'll have to make and in the beginning you'll probably have a few days where you wonder what in the hell you just got yourself into. That's okay... just like any other big decision in life, it takes a little while to digest (no pun intended) and get used to. If you choose WLS, have the confidence that you WILL do great, and know there are plenty of people here to support you!

I had surgery when I was 24 years old - I had been very overweight my entire life (my mom took me to Jenny Craig at the age of 12 - yes, seriously), tried every diet and exercise plan possible, took every prescription and OTC weight loss medication out there. I finally realized that it was my RELATIONSHIP with food that had to change - if I didn't change that, it didn't matter what diet I was on. I saw a therapist for 18 months before getting approved and it was a great decision... she diagnosed me with Binge Eating Disorder well before it was acknowledged in the mental health community as a diagnosis of disordered eating, and I was able to spend those 18 months learning how to build a new relationship with food and how to manage binges before they occur. Today, I'm almost 9 years post-op, and while I've had some challenges with weight gain (currently back to basics and working on getting back to my goal weight), it was the BEST decision I've ever made in this life so far, and I would do it all over again in a heartbeat. 

Stay strong - you got this. :)

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Thank you all for your support. We'll see what happens next week. I have the second meeting at the surgeon's office on Wednesday, where I'm supposed to get the scoop on the insurance. Then, if all goes well, I have meetings with a nutritionist and mental health specialist on Friday. And we're off to the races!

In the meantime I've tried to cut back on eating, improved the nutritional value of what I DO eat, donated three bagfuls of groceries from my pantry to the food bank, studied everything about WLS I could get my hands on, bought a bariatric cookbook and am trying some new recipes, joined this forum, increased my awareness of how much water and protein I take in, and bought some adorable little appetizer plates to hold my new tiny meals. 

I'm trying to get ready...

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Well it seems I'm good to go. I've got the usual hoops to jump through, but it looks like surgery will happen probably sometime in the next two months. I'm struggling to decide which procedure I would want...I know it's a decision that's made with the surgeon, but it seems to me I should have a preference.

 

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It's officially a go! I've been told insurance will pay for the procedure. I've been through the second visit with the surgeon's office, the first nutrition class and psych evaluation, and got instructions to start the pre-op diet. I have another nutrition class/psych appointment next week, and then it's back to the surgeon to schedule an ultrasound. I'm not sure if the surgery date will be decided then or not. 

Still not sure about which procedure it will be. Does anybody wish they had a different procedure than what they had? If so, why?

Thanks, 

Juliet

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You're well on your way, Juliet! 

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