Zen_Steph

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It's been a long week. And looking at the photo I posted of the pup, she's gotten bigger even since I took that one. Funny how that works.

The service for my grandmother was nice. It was good to see my cousins and family again. I miss them often, but that happens when I don't live close enough to visit more than a few times a year. It is what it is.

We are in escrow on the house and have been for about a week and a half. It's complicated, though. She is in the military and on Friday, we found out she got a transfer order, so they were going to back out. Our realtor put the house active again and has showings, but found out Saturday that the original buyer hadn't backed out of our contract yet because she didn't know if she actually had to move with her transfer. So, technically, we're still in contract with her. There's a cash offer buyer that is interested and saw the house on Saturday, but we haven't heard yet, and our realtor has a few showings coming up. But, again, we're still in contract with the original person. We should know by noon today if she has to back out or not. Ugh, so it goes. 

We're settling in at our temporary place. It's smaller than our previous or upcoming new place, so we have to make adjustments. Four of us sharing a single bathroom isn't fun, but whatever. It's temporary. 

We're still waiting on the lot to be released for sale so we can put our money down on it for the new house. It was supposed to be released three weeks ago, so that's also been quite frustrating. But, we hear that it will likely be this week that we can finally put down on it and there's also a good chance they'll start chalking and trenching the lots in that phase this week. The longer they wait to release, the later our house will be done. And, my SIL is holding off on selling her house until we move out, so her home sale is contingent on our house being done so we can vacate hers and it can go up on the market for them. It's just a timing nightmare at times, but I know as soon as we can put our money onto the lot, things will move quickly.

I ordered new jeans to replace the ones I got paint on in working on the old house. I bought size 6's in the hopes that I was back down there. Sure enough, I'm able to wear my slim fit size 6 jeans right now! Haven't tried on the new skinny pair, but if these fit comfortably, those will, too. So, I'm back down into a comfortable size 6. Hooray!

Hopefully things will move further with the home sale and new home purchase. I'm counting the days until we can get back into our own space. While I am very thankful for my SIL letting us stay in her house, it's not our house and you realize how much you crave your own space when you don't have it anymore. And with the addition of the dog, our space is at a premium. I miss all of our furniture (we are very minimal right now....mattresses on the floor in our rooms, folding card tables for desks, a futon for our living room area for seating...it's bare bones for us) and the comfort of being in our home. Maybe it's because I know this is temporary, so I won't allow myself to fully settle in our arrangement. Meh, it is what it is.

Have a good week, everyone.

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I have really had no updates, things have been status quo. We've been "settled" (and I use that word very, very loosely) with my sis in law for about two months now. I think we have a routine, but living in the smaller space has been challenging and frustrating. 

We close escrow on the home sale this week, though! Actually, in the next few days. Should be signing the paperwork in the next day or two on our end and our realtor said the only thing we're waiting on is the loan documents from the buyer, which is easy and should get today. So, yay! One huge chapter closing.

And, with the buying saga, that's finally moving forward. They FINALLY released the lot for us to put down on in late March, so 3ish weeks ago (right before our anniversary), so we are locked into our price and have money on our lot. They jacked up the price and I called and spoke to the sales director and he basically told me I had to suck it up. I was floored! I talked to our sales agents and they said "let us talk to him, I'll get back to you." They are awesome. They managed to get us an additional design center credit for the bullcrap that we had gone through and the misinformation we were given since January. Would have been better for them to lower the home price, but a design credit is basically the same thing. We had a meeting with the electrical contractor and put together a list of things we want done on the wiring and electrical end and are waiting to hear back on that cost. We go to the design center to do the rest of the upgrades (flooring, counters, fixtures, etc) at the end of next week. And, after a LONG wait, they finally chalked out our lot yesterday (they chalk the lines on the lot to indicate where they need to trench for the underground piping and the perimeter of the house for the footings and eventual foundation). AND, to top off that good news, I drove by this morning on my way in to work and they were actually trenching the lot. There is actual work being done and the home construction process is officially under way! It looks like we may be in the house in September after all....I was beginning to wonder...

On a down note, though, my daughter broke her collar bone last week. She was riding a scooter at her school (and riding it incorrectly and was told continuously from her teachers to ride it correctly). She ended up tripping over it and falling. I thought it was probably a bruise because she had some mobility, but she was acting like she was hurting. Doesn't help that she is pretty overdramatic, too. Anyway, this was Wednesday afternoon. Thursday she was still hurting, so I took her in to the doctor. They checked her out and took x-rays. After the second one, the radiologist walked in to position her for the third and told us "Oh yeah, that's definitely broken." We were shocked! She took us in to look at the images and, sure enough, it was very, very clear that she broke it. My poor baby...she is turning 5 next week, too! The doctor sent the images to the medical center and spoke to the orthopedic specialist. They said no surgery, which shocks me because the break is really, really bad....I don't see how it could just heal on its own with her arm in a sling. But, they said they didn't think she needed it. Okay, they're the specialists. So, she is in a sling at the moment and has an appointment with the orthopedic specialist in about an hour and a half. They'll likely do more images and see how she is doing and we'll talk about next steps and if surgery is actually needed (I'm still not convinced she doesn't need it, but we'll see). I hate seeing my baby in pain. And she sometimes forgets she is hurt. She is so active and wants to do so much, but she is limited. She broke the left one and she is left dominant, so that's been a struggle, too. Like I said, she has mobility in her elbow, wrist, and hand, but when she tries to move her shoulder, it pulls and hurts the area where the break is. We'll see what they say today. I'm hoping, hoping, hoping they don't say she needs surgery. I hate the idea of my little baby going through it. If she has to, I get it, but it still scares the crap out of me.

So, good news stuff, bad news stuff. I haven't stepped on a scale in over a month, but I don't think I've gained anything. I was also set to go to the gym again starting last week, but the injury to my kid happened and she needs an adult around to take care of her (not going to make my teenage son help her take her pants down and pull them back up when she needs to go to the bathroom, sorry), so that's kind of on hold. I'll try to get in a trip tomorrow when I don't have any plans, but we'll see how it goes. 

Take care, everyone.

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Thanks for the update. It is great that real construction work has begun. You should take lots of photos of the house every week as it is built, as those photos will be fun to look at later (you can put them into a photo book) and even may prove valuable if you ever try to sell the house. 

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11 hours ago, Res Ipsa said:

Thanks for the update. It is great that real construction work has begun. You should take lots of photos of the house every week as it is built, as those photos will be fun to look at later (you can put them into a photo book) and even may prove valuable if you ever try to sell the house. 

Yeah, we have been so far, especially now that things are moving. We also did when we bought the house we just sold because we bought it when it was a dirt lot as well and it was fun to see the progress and how fast some of the building stages were.

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I'm so excited for you! 

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See....time just creeps past you and then it's been two or so months. Things are moving along. My sister-in-law officially moved out on Sunday and she and her dog and cat, with my husband and son in tow, began their trip to her new home where here husband has been since January. They arrived a few hours ago, actually, and were unpacking the truck when I spoke to them. This week it's been quiet, just me, our daughter, and our animals. I'm going to start going through the boxes that have been upstairs with us and repacking them into boxes that go to specific rooms and finally moving them downstairs now that it's cleared out down there. I can't wait to have open space again!! I rearranged the living area on Sunday to open it up a bit, then I've been working on organizing with more shelf space for pet and cleaning stuff, then packing up things in the kitchen I won't use with the hot weather (like my espresso maker I use to make decaf lattes and hot chocolate for my boys) so it's ready to move in a few months. This was the one major hurdle to get past: my SIL moving out. Now, I feel so much more relaxed. If only it wasn't a million degrees outside this week. Stupid heat wave.

The new house is coming along nicely. It is framed, the duct work is installed, electrical has started to be installed, the exterior wrapping has gone up, flat work poured and cured for the walkways and exit points in the backyard, and our doors (minus the garage door) have been installed. I think they did some interior work yesterday and it may have been installing our tub and shower units. And today, windows were installed. I'm hoping they aren't working on the houses when I get out of work today because I'd love to go walk around the house and see what all they did. I am anticipating that we will have our framing walk through by the end of next week or the following week. What is awesome about that is that usually indicates that we may be 4-6 weeks away from closing on the house, which is quite ahead of schedule. That makes me happy. I would love, love, love to move in at the end of August, but I'm thinking more the first week or so of September around Labor Day. But, it is awesome to see all of this work going on. The work on the next phases has slowed down a lot, but I'm at the point that I don't care one bit because my house is going up and that's where my focus is. Maybe 2 1/2 months and we'll be moving in! Happy dances all around!

Our daughter is healing well from her broken collar bone. It looked great according to the specialist when we had our follow up, now it's just letting it heal. She is acting like it never happened and is back to her old self. Love to see her giggles and smiles again.

Our son, though, broke his finger, which was fun. It was a small break where a ligament popped off and took a small bone fragment with it. It looks healed and the swelling went away. He has range of motion. I'm guessing it's going good. I, however, threw out my back on Easter Sunday and have been dealing with chronic pain ever since. I went in to get it checked out and got prescribed Flexeril. That took away the stiffness, but not the pain, so I went in for a follow up. After some x-rays, I was diagnosed with osteoarthritis and early grade 1 degeneration in a few of my vertebrate (the discs looked great and the spacing is fine, which is a relief). They have me in physical therapy, which I started last week and have for two more weeks. It has helped a great deal and my pain levels are drastically lower than they were for those two months. I also started back at yoga and that seems to be doing its thing, too. I haven't gone running and I haven't done any high intensity workout at the gym, but I'll get there. I miss running, but gotta heal first. And besides....in this heat, running is not a good idea. 

Our son started swim season and he is doing well. That's kept me outside and active more outside of my regular routine. It's just made me incredibly busy and the little free time I had after work and commute time has been sucked up with swim practice and meets. But, there is only 3 1/2 more weeks of that and we're out of swim season. Yay!

The doggo is doing good overall. Annoying at times, but she's a dog. She is just shy of 50 lbs and comes up to maybe my mid thigh now. She's a lot bigger than last photos...when I get home, I'll post a few to this post to show. She's my buddy, though. Can't fault her for that.

I think that's it. My weight has stabilized. I had my 3 year follow up a few weeks ago with my bariatric team and everything looks good. They were concerned that I dropped my calories, but I told them I hadn't been working out or active as much as I was, so I dropped it along with my carb intake. They reminded me that when I do get back to work, bring it back up so I don't get sick. My blood tests came back really good. The only change I have is that I now need to take an iron supplement during my period (yay!) to make up for the blood loss. My Ferritin came up this time, but it's still low, so she's like to see the stores come up more to a normal level. Blech, iron supplements. Better stock up on the bran and fiber...

That's about it. A lot has gone on, but nothing drastic other than my SIL moving out and me feeling less stress as a result. Oh, and she is also working with her husband to work the finances out to get their deck and roof replaced, so we can have access to a not rotting deck to sit out on during the evenings when our Delta breeze kicks up. I've loved having access to it because it affords some peace and quiet during the evening, but I'm not back to being concerned about it because there is rot and mold growing. I doubt I'll bring it down off the house, but my irrational fear sometimes gets the best of me. Still plan to grill some of the nights during this summer because it allows me the chance to cook something different than my normal fare. Besides, I love to grill. 

Hope you all are well. Cheers.

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I haven't been on in a while just because life and the lack of free time. My back in a continuing saga of annoyance. I went for a walk with my husband and the dog. Nothing intense, just a walk. Where we live currently has some hills, but didn't think anything of it. Well, going downhill, I messed up my back to where it hurt again. I was feeling fine, but took many steps back with it. It was frustrating because I wasn't doing anything other than walking, but I strained it and it hasn't gotten back to where it wasn't hurting anymore since. Dumb hills... I went through 8 weeks of physical therapy, three medications, an x-ray, and then had an MRI a few weeks ago. The MRI showed mild to moderate stenosis (degeneration) in my lower back, two bulging discs that were compressing my nerves, and arthritis. Wonderful. I am now going in to the spine center to the specialist there to see what can be done at this point. I think the only things I haven't done to correct or ease this problem are spinal injections and surgery. I just want the constant pain to go away. It would be really nice to remember what it was like. And I miss running! I wish I could start easing into training for my (hopefully) planned half marathon in March. But, at this rate, who knows if I'll ever do distance running again. I had a great time doing it and I would love to, but if I have surgery, I don't know if it will happen again. I guess I'm glad I at least got three half marathons under my belt. Look at the positives, right? 

I took on a second part time job for some extra cash to hopefully get a second car this spring. I've been there for three weeks. It's not too bad, just cuts even more into my already sparse free time. So it goes.

I'm frustrated about the new house. We were told a few months ago that they were ahead of schedule, which was amazing to hear. We even got excited that we were starting to enter the home stretch of this whole "commute in horrible traffic and have to get up super early without being able to 'run home really quick' for anything anymore" that we've been doing since mid February. But in late June and last month, it seemed like things stalled in the home construction. Hardly anything was done until a week and a half ago or so. Then electrical and data went in, fire suppression went in, and we got to have our scheduled framing walk to look at all of it to make sure it was right (they put one data plug in a bedroom at the wrong location and didn't install our exterior outlet that we requested, but that's not bad considering - both are easy fixes). When we went in, they were putting up the insulation, which is pretty cool. The superintendent said that she was going to have insulation finished and her insulation inspection today, then they start putting up sheet rock, then schedule for texturing. Once texturing is dried, they are about 45 days out. Okay, cool. Except that it may take about two weeks to get to texturing at this point. Not a guarantee and heck, they could start texturing by the weekend and then be 45 days out by early next week. But that added two weeks, plus 45 days. I asked her where that put us for being done and getting the keys. She said that if she had everything scheduled out, we're looking at October. But, our house is on their "year end closing" list, so we are guaranteed our keys no later than September 30th. A week after they originally told us we would close and this put them behind, not ahead, of schedule. It is so irritating! I am so fed up with our current living situation. I want our own house with our own space with the 2/3 of our house that is currently in storage back to be available for use. Like our couches. And oh, how I am SO SICK AND TIRED of sleeping on a mattress on the floor in our bedroom! Especially with my back issues, it is not helping at all. Half of my daughter's toys and books are in storage. I can't hardly use any kitchenware because we just don't have space for it in our kitchen right now. I hate having to have my office space in the living room and compete for noise levels with my daughter, who plays in the living room and will occasionally watch television. My daughter's dresser is in storage and we've been using a very small chest for her in the interim. I have zero closet space and half of my clothes, again, are in storage. My desk is a folding card table at present, as is my husband's. We've been in this situation for almost 6 months and we're both just done with it. Oh, and the house has no real insulation, so in the blazing hot summer temperatures we've been having, it's also hot in the house. Fans don't do much good, so we're sitting in sweat, waiting for the outside temperature to go down enough so we can open the windows for air to circulate and cool the house. Anyway, long rant in shortened form: we are ready to move. Like, yesterday ready to move. So when we're told we'll have our keys no later than the end of September when we've been led to believe that it would be early September...well, three weeks is a long time to have to tack on to an already frustrating situation. And I understand why and I'm not mad at the super or anything because she is doing the best she can, but this is the story of our whole experience. It would have been nice to be able to just live in our old house until, maybe June, then move and sell it so our temporary housing situation was maybe a few months. But, no. It'll be almost 8 months by the time we move. The stress has done a number on me, that's for sure. At least right now, my son's swim season has officially ended as of this past weekend, so there's no more of the taking him to and from practice after work, getting us home by 9:15 pm so we can go straight to bed after a quick bite for dinner and get up at 6:00 am to start the day over again.

I don't mean to lay this all out there, but it's been a challenge for me to not eat my frustrations. It truly has. I did go up in my carb intake for a few months, which probably contributed to my slight gain in the late spring and early summer, but I curbed that and am actually starting to lose weight again. With the mobility at my second job, that's gotten me more exercise during the day that my back can handle for short spurts. So, with the eating addiction not being something I can or will do, it's been spending (to a much lesser extent than it was a year or two ago) and lots of wine. It is what it is.

On another note, my kids start school next week, so they'll have to deal with early mornings (earlier than they ordinarily would if we lived in the new place) and full days of school. I'm hoping that they transition well.

I'm hoping that the next few months go by fast. This has been a difficult year in many different areas. What started out as a "hey, let's move into a new house that gives us more space for the kids and corrects the issues we have with our current house" has ended up being delays and commutes and issues that can just stop making my anxiety and stress levels go through the roof. I need to cut back on my wine consumption, which is something my husband has noted. But, there is an end to the tunnel at least. Or at least I hope there is.

Hope you all are well in your journeys. And I hope to come back with good news about my back and better news about my blasted house getting finished and finally moving in.

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We are finally on the other side of our massive 2017 "table flip" that we started at the beginning of the year. We got the keys to the new house a week and a half ago and moved in/cleaned my SILs house over the past week and a half. Right now, we are done with her house, all of our furniture is inside the house (not in the garage), and we are slowly starting to put things into their homes. I have a few things to put up, like my hutch for my desk and the shelves/books for our bookshelves, but hey, we've got all the time in the world to do that, right?

My back has improved a lot. I still have bad pain days, but I have arthritis and degeneration going on, but it's now maybe once a week instead of every day that I have bad days with pain. I have been asked to stay on the gabapentin just to moderate the nerve impulses and get me stable. I guess that's progress.

My weight has started to come down again. I attribute it all to stress, our living situation, and being stretched too thin. The past week, I took time off of my regular job to start doing what needed to be done at the new place and it was really cathartic. Right now, I'm tired still, but that's because I see something I want to put away or organize and before I know it, it's 1:00 in the morning and I have to be up in 4-5 hours. I've learned to live pretty well on about 5 hours of sleep over the past 8 months....I guess it's time to start adding to that number so I can get proper time for my body to rejuvenate over the night.

Tim found a young kitten at his friend's house in early September that had been abandoned by its mother on his friend's property. Long story short, we have a new kitten now. She is awesome and has changed so much since we first got her. We were bottle feeding her and doing what we had to do to get her into a good spot. She goes to the vet on Friday for her first shots, microchip, check up, and scheduling her spay. Spunky little fart, she is. And she loves to tease the dog now, but the dog can seriously hurt her and almost has on some occasions, so they don't "play" together until she can easily get away if she needs to. So it goes, we expanded our menagerie of pets.

Hope everyone is well. I'm improving slowly, but it's an upward trend now. Our table is now upright from its flip and we are into our new chapter.

Cheers.

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22 minutes ago, Zen_Steph said:

We are finally on the other side of our massive 2017 "table flip" that we started at the beginning of the year. We got the keys to the new house a week and a half ago and moved in/cleaned my SILs house over the past week and a half. Right now, we are done with her house, all of our furniture is inside the house (not in the garage), and we are slowly starting to put things into their homes. I have a few things to put up, like my hutch for my desk and the shelves/books for our bookshelves, but hey, we've got all the time in the world to do that, right?

My back has improved a lot. I still have bad pain days, but I have arthritis and degeneration going on, but it's now maybe once a week instead of every day that I have bad days with pain. I have been asked to stay on the gabapentin just to moderate the nerve impulses and get me stable. I guess that's progress.

My weight has started to come down again. I attribute it all to stress, our living situation, and being stretched too thin. The past week, I took time off of my regular job to start doing what needed to be done at the new place and it was really cathartic. Right now, I'm tired still, but that's because I see something I want to put away or organize and before I know it, it's 1:00 in the morning and I have to be up in 4-5 hours. I've learned to live pretty well on about 5 hours of sleep over the past 8 months....I guess it's time to start adding to that number so I can get proper time for my body to rejuvenate over the night.

Tim found a young kitten at his friend's house in early September that had been abandoned by its mother on his friend's property. Long story short, we have a new kitten now. She is awesome and has changed so much since we first got her. We were bottle feeding her and doing what we had to do to get her into a good spot. She goes to the vet on Friday for her first shots, microchip, check up, and scheduling her spay. Spunky little fart, she is. And she loves to tease the dog now, but the dog can seriously hurt her and almost has on some occasions, so they don't "play" together until she can easily get away if she needs to. So it goes, we expanded our menagerie of pets.

Hope everyone is well. I'm improving slowly, but it's an upward trend now. Our table is now upright from its flip and we are into our new chapter.

Cheers.

Congrats on the new house!  I'm sorry life has been so stressful (and painful!) but it sounds like you are finally seeing the light at the end of the tunnel.  My fiancé and I are building a house and I just did the electrical walk through on my lunch break today, so I can relate to some of what you're experiencing.  He works out of state so it's all on me, or at least it feels that way.  We're getting married in 2 weeks and I am so glad we are going away for a quiet private ceremony...no stress no drama.  I work every evening after my job ends to get projects done around my current house which will go on the market right after we get back from the wedding.  I have a torn rotator cuff in my shoulder that I never had fixed because with PT and steroids it was fairly pain free for 3 years. Not so much now, dang it.  So, yep I relate to a lot of your journey and struggle some days to stay in control of eating.  I did the 5DPT a couple of weeks ago which helped a lot.  Hang in there, we can do this!!

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Congrats on the new house & kitten, @Zen_Steph! And congrats on the upcoming wedding, @msmarymac!

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16 hours ago, Zen_Steph said:

We are finally on the other side of our massive 2017 "table flip" that we started at the beginning of the year. We got the keys to the new house a week and a half ago and moved in/cleaned my SILs house over the past week and a half. Right now, we are done with her house, all of our furniture is inside the house (not in the garage), and we are slowly starting to put things into their homes. I have a few things to put up, like my hutch for my desk and the shelves/books for our bookshelves, but hey, we've got all the time in the world to do that, right?

My back has improved a lot. I still have bad pain days, but I have arthritis and degeneration going on, but it's now maybe once a week instead of every day that I have bad days with pain. I have been asked to stay on the gabapentin just to moderate the nerve impulses and get me stable. I guess that's progress.

My weight has started to come down again. I attribute it all to stress, our living situation, and being stretched too thin. The past week, I took time off of my regular job to start doing what needed to be done at the new place and it was really cathartic. Right now, I'm tired still, but that's because I see something I want to put away or organize and before I know it, it's 1:00 in the morning and I have to be up in 4-5 hours. I've learned to live pretty well on about 5 hours of sleep over the past 8 months....I guess it's time to start adding to that number so I can get proper time for my body to rejuvenate over the night.

Tim found a young kitten at his friend's house in early September that had been abandoned by its mother on his friend's property. Long story short, we have a new kitten now. She is awesome and has changed so much since we first got her. We were bottle feeding her and doing what we had to do to get her into a good spot. She goes to the vet on Friday for her first shots, microchip, check up, and scheduling her spay. Spunky little fart, she is. And she loves to tease the dog now, but the dog can seriously hurt her and almost has on some occasions, so they don't "play" together until she can easily get away if she needs to. So it goes, we expanded our menagerie of pets.

Hope everyone is well. I'm improving slowly, but it's an upward trend now. Our table is now upright from its flip and we are into our new chapter.

Cheers.

thanks for the update - glad things are going in the right direction. It's a struggle to balance everything, stress, pain... FWIW no doubt you have thought of how likely your back would be so much worse if you were still carrying as much weight as you had. 

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I'm so glad that you're finally in your new home Steph.  There's nothing like being able to shut your own front door.

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On 10/10/2017 at 4:56 AM, BurgundyBoy said:

thanks for the update - glad things are going in the right direction. It's a struggle to balance everything, stress, pain... FWIW no doubt you have thought of how likely your back would be so much worse if you were still carrying as much weight as you had. 

This is SO true! I can't imagine (and don't want to, frankly) if I was carrying that extra 130 or so pounds on me. I was feeling very tired and sluggish. Right now, I'm tired, sure...but I can move around and actually have more energy. And the back pain...yeah, that would have put me out for the count, that's for sure.

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Wow, I love living in my own house again. It has been SO nice having space again! The animals are happier, it seems. One of our cats is an angry sort and pees on stuff in protest, but hey, we've only lost one rug to him so far. I guess that's a win? The dog is doing really good, too. She's found her choice spots to lay down so she can see everyone and be with her people. She'll be a year old this weekend...when did that happen?

My health has been in the crapper overall for the last month or so, but it finally hit a pretty substantial downturn starting a week ago. Reason: I'm stretched way too thin and I'm trying to do way too much. Two jobs, a volunteer board position, being a mom, being a good wife, keeping up on our house, going everywhere to visit everyone. My body has decided to rebel with a pretty massive cold and my back started taking a negative turn again, so I'm now back dealing with constant chronic pain. It sucks and my husband and I had a talk last night and he told me that he is very worried about my health and the fact that I don't allow myself to just stop and rest. Yeah, he's right. I hate it, but he's right. So, that said, I'm giving my notice at my second part time job either tonight or tomorrow. That decision was also propelled by the fact that last week, I got crap for letting the assistant manager there know I couldn't work one of the days he scheduled me on because it was a regular day off on my availability already (also he gave me crap for not being willing to start coming in earlier in the evening now that I lived closer....screw my family, they can make dinner themselves) and I had already called in sick on Tuesday and yesterday, I went in to talk to the GM about what I should do and she gave me a guilt trip because she was having a hard time covering my shift for yesterday and she had an event that night, but I can't come in because I'm sick. Then she said I needed to call in the night before if I was going to be sick (I'm sorry, I can't predict how I'll feel 24 hours from now, but okay, if you want to play that game....historically, I have colds for about 7-10 days, so I'll be out for a week and a half....?). It reminded me why it's been 16 years since I worked any sort of retail job. They really don't care at the end of the day. I'm fortunate to be in the position that I don't need the job, so it makes me feel awful for those who are there and that is their only income, so they have to take this on a constant basis. Sorry, I don't need that in my life. Peace out, ya'll. So, I'm giving them my notice based on my health, but the real push was the fact that they treat their employees like peons and make them feel like mud on their shoe. 

At the end of the day, I miss spending time with my family. It's really sad when your 5 year old gives you a big hug and tells you that she'll miss you so much and wishes you could be home at night to read to her at bedtime. Or spend time with her. Or listen to her silly story. It's also difficult when I get home so late at night that the lights are off and everyone has already gone to bed because, well...people have to get up early (as do I) the next morning for their job or school. It's really tough physically. It's really tough emotionally. If I'm going to attempt to maintain my sanity, something really has to give.

We'll see how it goes. I really enjoyed having the extra income every month, but I'm also eyeballing a potential promotion here at my office and if I can manage to get offered that job, I'll be making a lot more than my side job gave me over and above what I make now. I'm hopeful. We'll see.

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It has to feel SO good to be in your new home, and in time for the holidays! It can also feel really good to quit a job where you're underappreciated. I hope you get the promotion! 

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Retail! :angry: It made me a bitter person! Good for you for deciding to prioritize your health and family and stick to the one job, and I hope you get that promotion. Good for your husband for giving it to you straight. I was in a similar situation in grad school, and it took a sudden crying jag over something ridiculous for me to realize how thin I had spread myself and how exhausted I was (2 jobs + full time grad school = crazy, even if it means benefits). 

Best of luck!

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@Zen_Steph Sorry these issues popping up but sounds like you are acknowledging them in a positive way. Maybe the extra time will let you work on your back too. 

Don't know if you ever saw this, but Barbara Ehrenreich wrote a book published in 2011 called "Nickel and Dimed" about people having to get by on minimum wage jobs... she concluded you needed 2 such jobs if you wanted to sleep indoors (!). I have a nephew working THREE jobs to keep things together and it keeps me very, very thankful for my circumstances. 

Good luck with the potential promotion!

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