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Ttc 12-16 months

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i only had my surgery 8/10/15 so this is obviously not something I'll do immediately haha but when my surgeon said 12-18 months after surgery to ttc again, is that not so much in months but when weight loss has stabilized, is that right?

i ask bc I noticed there are a number of people pregnant before the 12 month mark and wondered if my surgeon was just more conservative?  

Like a lot of women I had secondary infertility, due to weight/pcos.  Had a miscarriage a year ago after two years of trying, and the only successful clomid cycle.  That miscarriage was actually the catalyst for starting the wls process.

wanting another baby so badly plus the feelings resurfacing from the miscarriage, plus our only child getting older makes it so hard to think about waiting another 15 months- even though it's something I signed up for!

i have the iud so thankfully I can't let my emotions make the decision.  And I want to be at optimal health if I'm lucky enough to get pregnant again.  But the waiting for ttc is harder than any other waiting I've done in my life :-/

just needed to chat it out :)

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The time will pass quickly as you relearn to eat and get in shape. It'll make carrying that extra baby weight easier since they put pressure on your back, breast, hips and knees. Also the whole giving birth thing! And aftrwards, those car seats are not light.

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My surgeons office said 12-18months as well. I was one of those that got prego before the 12 month month. I was told that even if i lost all my weight i would still need medical help to get prego so me and hubs didnt worry about using condoms all the time. We had tried to get prego for 8 years and nothing. Lets just say the only medical help i needed was losing my weight.

 

I got prego at 5 months 3 weeks post op and I am 18 weeks prego. Saw my OB Monday and see says everything looks great. I had lost 100# before i got prego and was only 15# from goal weight.

 

I would try to weight as close to 12 months as possible. So then that way you weight will be more steady. Just my opinion. Best of luck.

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The time will pass quickly as you relearn to eat and get in shape. It'll make carrying that extra baby weight easier since they put pressure on your back, breast, hips and knees. Also the whole giving birth thing! And aftrwards, those car seats are not light.

You said it--a baby in a car seat is heavy!

i think my surgeon says 18 mos to two years. We conceived at 15 mos, I think. I had reached goal at 12 mos and stabilized eight lbs below that by 13 or 14 mos.

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Thank you all for your honesty!

i do remember the back strain with our first- and I was a good bit younger and lighter.  Oy.  Anything to ease that would be good lol

im keeping increased fertility and health as a motivator for good decisions only :)

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My surgeon recommends 12-18 months. So probably next year around this time I'll have my Nexplanon implant removed and we'll go from there. This next year is all about us - I'm having surgery next Tuesday and hubby is having surgery in 7 weeks!

After that, it's baby time! AHH :D:D 

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The final push for me to have WLS was finding out after 2 years of ttc that my husband had 10% count of what it should be to get pregnant. We were told we needed IFV and I knew I needed to take care of myself for that to even be an option. I had surgery 12/1/14 and everything went great, I lost 50 lbs before surgey and was losing great after. Since I am 33 we wanted to use our 12-18 month waiting period to do the research and get the testing and info we needed to hit the ground running once we were ready. We met with the fertility specialist in April and he told us that 6 months after my weight stabilized we could do our first round of IFV. He did blood work and another semen analysis on my hubby, based on the prior analysis and the physical exam, he recommended my husband have a vericocelectomy and told us 2 months after my weight stabilized we could go back to start the egg harvesting process. He told us based on numbers there was no need to us any birth control.

Well my husband had that surgery the end of April, it was far more extensive then the urologist expected, he had 5 extra blook vessels removed (a vericocele is like a vericose vein in the teste, too much blood flow, extra heat, kills the sperm). He was due to go have a follow up analysis done 3 months later, but he never did since 2 months after his surgery we found out we were pregnant.

7 months post-op, I rushed to my surgeons office the day after we found out to check in with them, and based on my diet, nutrition, blood work, and excersize they said we were perfectly safe. They are following me no differently then if it were 3 years after surgery. I follow the program still, keep in tough with them, and my endrocinologist and of course OB. I am considered a normal pregnancy, my blood sugars are under control, and so far on the 2 ultrasounds we have had everything is going along perfectly. They actually changed our due date at the last ultrasound so now our newest little peanut should arrive (scheduled c-section) during winter break for our 14 year old, which is awesome since she will want to be right there with us at the hospital getting to bond with the new baby.

In no way am I saying not to follow your program and docs orders but I definitely am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason when the time is right. Enjoy this time getting to know the knew you and getting settled into your new lifestyle. Take the time for yourself and your husband and your current kiddo, you all deserve it and we know once a baby arrives you will not get that time lol.

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