trnslationlost

I am just curious - for those of you who are like me and have an "apron" of extra skin - does it affect your love life? I am so afraid to start dating again, because although I feel sexier every day and every pound lost, I worry so much about that "surprise"'s effect on the significant other.

Has the extra skin been a huge problem? I don't want to have to guard myself just because of it!

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Allison

RNY Surgery

-Weights-
326/302/175
Starting Weight/DOS/Goal

jerseygrl684

I think Baja will attest to this... No man is going to care about your imperfections when you are standing naked in front of him. If he does, point south and start laughing at him, that will shut him up.

I thought men cared about this, but they honestly don't. It is scary what they don't notice.

katzz87

I'm not dating (been married for 23 yrs) but I KNOW that it hasn't negatively affected my love life...quite the opposite since I've gained confidence in myself. And I think if you radiate confidence...that's all they're gonna think of...well, that and the obvious!

Gotta agree whole-heartedly with jersey (and baja) on this one! Men do NOT notice the imperfections we have...they'll notice what THEY like (butt, boobs, thighs...whatever THEY are attracted to!) and as long as you "make them happy"...all is right in their world!

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Cathy

Height 5' 8"
288/176/170-180
Highest/Current/Goal

TT Gym rat club member #132

lovinlifedfw

I have been engaged for almost 2 years. Been with the guy for almost 3. They dont care! They might act like they do. As mine, Will constantly remind me of the "extra skin." I will remind him that he isnt so perfect either. See, I have lost 106 pds. He has GAINED 50-60 since I had my surgery.

We all have our imperfections and no ones perfect.

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Decision Weight: 283
Surgery Weight: 274 (10/20/2008)
04/20/2009: 235
12/25/2009: 180

Baja Big Dog

You said you wouldnt tell!!

Pretty much spot on....Im normally only concerned with whats on the inside........

katzz87

Ending with a comment like that...makes it difficult on me, Baja...
My smart-assness really wants to reply!

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Cathy

Height 5' 8"
288/176/170-180
Highest/Current/Goal

TT Gym rat club member #132

Baja Big Dog

Hence the two smiley faces!!

Leaves it "open" to interpretation!!

And imagination!!

XOXO

sassy37

I have bingo wings from hell and my boobage is quite skinny and south and Ive been with my fella for 7 months now .. he has Never commented on any loose skin . Carnt say he really has even noticed .
He knows I dislike it very much and Ive been to see a plastic surgeon my fella even come with me to support me .
If they are into you , care or love u it shouldnt be an issue .

IF THEY ARE A SHALLOW HAL .. LETS FACE IT HE AINT WORTH IT ! WALK AWAY ...

And my plastics I need are gona cost me £10 500 gbp

Gona take time to save huh .... ££££££ wonders if baja still has his old food fund $$$$$

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Surgery date :Friday 26th Sept 2008

first fill 24.11.08 =6.5cc

Second fill 29.01.09=1 ml

Third fill = 1ml

10ml band filled to 8.5 ml ....

I love my band ! 7 stone 3 pounds gone thats 104pounds

Behind.The.Lense

Im 3 months post-op, and 60lbs down, so I don't quite have the skin yet. I talk to my partner about what he'll think about it when it comes and he smiles and laughs and says he'll probably like it, that it'll be "neat" and he'll probably piss me off by touching it.

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Laura

Highest/Pre-op/Current/Goal

288/275/217/165

foxyfuzz

Skin can only be an issue if you allow it to be

I am seeing someone that cares less. It is mine insecurities about it that bothers him. He touches it or whatever as if it was any other part of my body. He even tells me that he doesn't ever want me to be worried about that with him.

Granted certain outfits seem to mask the skin issue and make me feel more comfortable and I am more conscience about the choices in clothing I make, but dont worry about it.

IF it is an issue then he isn't worth your time.

I was up front about it in the beginning when I knew we would be taking that step to where he would 'see' it and I was surprised at how much of a non issue it is for the right person.

They see the sexy confident you and not the skin issue

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Cerissa

Never regret something done with affection; something born with a true heart will never be wasted

Sometimes you have to forget how you feel, and remember what you deserve.

314 / 298.5 / 156 / 150
Start/Day of surgery/Current/Goal

Surgery on 12/18/2008