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Phatlady · 11-05-2009, 07:15 PM

Linds-and at church no less where the content of your soul should have been enough, LOL!

swtsalvadorean · 11-05-2009, 08:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Phatlady

Linds-and at church no less where the content of your soul should have been enough, LOL!

seriously... I know!

Highlandlass · 11-15-2009, 12:44 PM

Just had to resurrect this thread to tell you what a long time friend/neighbour said to me. I had told her that I had the surgery and see her once in a while, but ran into yesterday when heading to my car. She had a huge smile on her face and I expected to hear a nice compliment.....wrong.....her question was, "So does the skin hang down really far?" Honestly, I was not really surprised because of all the people I know this woman is the most likely to come out of left field. I was stunned though and really didn't know what to say. I said, "Oh, no, not really. Just a bit." Then she began to tell me how her skin hangs - even though she hasn't lost a pound in the last 10 years. I went to the car and just sat there shaking my head! Strange.

Doodles · 11-15-2009, 01:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Highlandlass

Just had to resurrect this thread to tell you what a long time friend/neighbour said to me. I had told her that I had the surgery and see her once in a while, but ran into yesterday when heading to my car. She had a huge smile on her face and I expected to hear a nice compliment.....wrong.....her question was, "So does the skin hang down really far?" Honestly, I was not really surprised because of all the people I know this woman is the most likely to come out of left field. I was stunned though and really didn't know what to say. I said, "Oh, no, not really. Just a bit." Then she began to tell me how her skin hangs - even though she hasn't lost a pound in the last 10 years. I went to the car and just sat there shaking my head! Strange.

That was weird! Not sure how I would have taken that being said to me, but you did say she was most likely to come off with something like that.

My Nephew said he was scared to saying anything about my weight loss, cuz he didn't know if it was ok to mention it or not in mixed company? I guess normal people are not sure how to approach the subject? But one thing, I've noticed people that never would talk to me before, are now all talky-talk all of a sudden??? I didn't have, (nor do over weight people carry) some fat catching disease people!!!! They walk amongst us, and a scary fact is, some of them bred!!

Highlandlass · 11-15-2009, 01:41 PM

It was weird and she is the weirdest person I know - does and says the strangest things but is quite happy and positive. She and I have lived in our family homes for our whole lives so we've known each other for years. I should be used to her odd-ball comments, but I am still surprised with every conversation we have. One thing I know is that she is not mean, just odd so I didn't even have a sarcastic comment for her.
Not only do people treat overweight people like pariahs - what about people with depression/anxiety/panic or other mental diseases. God, I made the mistake of telling someone I was on antidepressants - well that person couldn't get away quick enough like I might crack up right then and there and she might have to calm me down or something. People are strange - we have to fit into the "normal" square box but try to push in a round body and you are on your own!!!

djjmak · 11-15-2009, 03:21 PM

when I got approved for my surgery I sat my 4 kids down and talked to them about it, one of them spoke up and said " it will just be weird, you won't be my big mamma anymore" Another said, "yeah, you are just so cuddly right now"

I know they didn't mean anything bad by it.............. from the mouths of babes!

healthierME · 11-15-2009, 09:11 PM

I haven't had anyone say anything about my weight loss yet, but I have had people say some really rude things to me. The one that sticks out the most is an old boyfriend who said "you'd be SO hot if you'd just lose weight". UGH!! I can't think of any others at this late hour...but I'm pretty sure I can think of more later when I'm not so tired, lol. I think what it might be is that I'm so used to letting it go in one ear and out the other!

jwohler · 11-15-2009, 09:54 PM

I have a good one my son called my mother inlaw and said you want to hear something sad, now he is only 23 but she said what's so sad my mom is so skinny do you think she is sick and dying. My mother inlaw said that how this surgery works and that I was fine. Yes people say some really far out things.
Judy

shiver · 11-15-2009, 10:05 PM

You know what is sad to me.... when people who use to talk to me when I was smaller stopped talking to me as I got bigger. It took me a while to figure out what the rejection was about. I have such yo-yo weight gain and loss. It is crazy.

My step mother said to me recently that she has seen me all kinds of shapes and sizes and that I will probably be a different size again the next time I see her.... I wasn't sure how to take that. So I didn't say anything.

My brother calls me the Philesberry Dough Girl. He even tries to stick his finger in my belly and giggle. Now that is degrading!

I've decided I'm not telling them about the surgery. So they will probably just think I'm in another losing phase.

bringingsexyback · 11-16-2009, 03:34 PM

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Originally Posted by swtsalvadorean

heres a good one....

one of the ladies from church said to me...

"now that you had the surgery and are loosing weight you can be a candidate for my son" in spanish it sounded alot more spicy....

I know she doesnt mean bad since I've had a crush on her son forever and almost everyone at church knows it but still the nerve...

all of a sudden I will be good enough to date your son!!!

ughh!

How can you trun off the weight loss or You don't want to lose too much weight. DUhhhhh that is why I got the surgery.