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Lynette · 10-31-2009, 01:06 PM

Yeah, you can't make everyone happy, even Mother Theresa and Ghandi pissed people off sometimes. I know it is directed at you but try not to take it too personally, it is just the Internet

AirForceW1fe · 10-31-2009, 01:11 PM

Ok so for the "sick of" thread I am the anonymous asshole, nutcase, moron!

First of all let me say I did not know reputation was anonymous. I assumed it would tell you who gave it good or bad. Have not been here long enough to know how it really worked.

As for hiding behind it, I made my feelings to your response to me very clear in the thread itself. But as time went on and the more I thought about, the more it angered me so I decided to do the reputation thing. Could I have handled it by way of a PM, yeah prolly. Would it have changed your tendency to minimize peoples issues by saying we should all put a smile on our faces and have a group hug and move on? Prolly not.

So I did what I did. And I was not doing it to hide.

If you are unclear as to what was condescending let me spell it out.

"Dear, I'm sorry for your loss. I don't see this torture as an equation to post WLS annoyances."

"We have new bodies now. The old hardships are gone, and those old excuses are gone as well. "

To insinuate that my weight loss would somehow erase the fact that I went through a full labor and delivery knowing I would deliver my little girl that had passed away and that somehow I used this experience to justify my "bitchiness" was beyond condescending.

Maybe you can get up every single day of your life and always do the right thing, never have a bad thing to say about anyone, and now that you have lost your weight be the picture of perfection. If you can, more power to you. I for one can not and don't need it preached to me at every turn.

You clearly don't see it, but there is alot of "oooh look at me and how holier than thou and perfect I am" vibe in most of your posts. Gets a little old after a while.

I don't hide behind anything. So here it all is. All spelled out. It's my opinion and I am entitled to it. Do with it as you wish.

Peace.

Marella · 10-31-2009, 01:15 PM

Ladies... we are typing what we are trying to say. Not everything comes out crisp and clean and literary, the way you are judging me to be. If you know anything about my response style and even if you don't, for your information, I was responding to what they said.

When I first responded to Sherry, I didn't quote her response, I just highlighted the fact that she Googled for me. If you don't say Thank you, may I kiss your toes, are you going say that I left something out and it's snarky (whatever snarky means).

How dare you take this time, this thread, to pick on me and tear me apart! Kelly and Kel You've made your snarky comments crystal clear.

I apologize for rushing my comments, anything past, present or future. Do I have to genuflect to you also?

Bullies all the way!

Highlandlass · 10-31-2009, 01:15 PM

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Originally Posted by mistymee

And I'll leave with this, I don't think this thread is appropriate at all for the forum, but then some people have been telling me it's boring around here. So I guess now it'll be less boring for a day or two till this runs it's course.

I'm sorry Mistymee, but I believe that in the Socialize area we should be able to bring things up like this to air our feelings and to allow members their freedom to rant. Marella feels that her reputation has been attacked and we are our reputations, especially in the written word. Its too bad that someone chose to give her bad rep without perhaps P.M.ing her to say they felt she was dismissive or snide. Things can be handled between 2 adults much easier when they identify themselves and are honest enough to allow the other person the chance to at least apologize (or not) for what is perceived as "attitude". We are all different, but we are travelling on the same journey. I hope that my rep never comes under scrutiny here and I believe that Marella is a caring member who doesn't deserve it either.
Now, to counter what I said, name calling and dirty remarks are not what I would consider acceptable even though I used a few nasty remarks in my post above. They were not aimed at a specific "named" person, only someone who chose to remain anonymous and was not brave enough to identify theirself. Poor them! My 2cents worth, for what its worth!!!

soon2bthin · 10-31-2009, 01:18 PM

Ok this whole thing is too f*cking funny! LMAO . Do we really care that much what others thing of us on the internet?

jerseygrl684 · 10-31-2009, 01:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Marella

Ladies... we are typing what we are trying to say. Not everything comes out crisp and clean and literary, the way you are judging me to be. If you know anything about my response style and even if you don't, for your information, I was responding to what they said.

When I first responded to Sherry, I didn't quote her response, I just highlighted the fact that she Googled for me. If you don't say Thank you, may I kiss your toes, are you going say that I left something out and it's snarky (whatever snarky means).

How dare you take this time, this thread, to pick on me and tear me apart! Kelly and Kel You've made your snarky comments crystal clear.

I apologize for rushing my comments, anything past, present or future. Do I have to genuflect to you also?

Bullies all the way!

Ok, you responded in a sense that you were upset about how you were negative repped. YOU brought this to light, no one else. I am telling you how I feel about how you come across sometimes. You want to take it as snarky and that I'm tearing you apart? No. I'm not. I could probably be a lot worse but shockingly I give you the benefit of doubt at times.

Marella, you PMed me once to tell me that you don't let your child use language that I use... Really, I'm not your kid. I'm another adult on an internet forum, remember that.

Fyi: No one can see your rep but you and john.

mistymee · 10-31-2009, 01:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Highlandlass

I believe that Marella is a caring member who doesn't deserve it either.

I've seen her be caring to some people.. but I think Suzanne's post is telling. I see the same dismissive attitude that Suzanne saw. And I've noticed it often.

I think Suzanne is very brave to come forward to say that she is the one that gave that rep.

To dismiss what Suzanne has to say is just kind of unbelievable to me.

mistymee · 10-31-2009, 01:26 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Marella

Ladies... we are typing what we are trying to say. Not everything comes out crisp and clean and literary, the way you are judging me to be. If you know anything about my response style and even if you don't, for your information, I was responding to what they said.

When I first responded to Sherry, I didn't quote her response, I just highlighted the fact that she Googled for me. If you don't say Thank you, may I kiss your toes, are you going say that I left something out and it's snarky (whatever snarky means).

How dare you take this time, this thread, to pick on me and tear me apart! Kelly and Kel You've made your snarky comments crystal clear.

I apologize for rushing my comments, anything past, present or future. Do I have to genuflect to you also?

Bullies all the way!

Honestly? A simple thank you when someone does something for you, even if it wasn't exactly what you were looking for goes a long way.

As an example. Someone started a thread here recently, but didn't have the title in the way they wanted it... and were trying to figure out how to fix it.. so I fixed it for them. Still haven't heard a thanks from them though. Yeah, a thanks doesn't take but a few keystrokes. Instead of acting like you think they're a moron for googling, just saying thanks and moving on would've been much nicer.

soon2bthin · 10-31-2009, 01:26 PM

Me being dumb Kentucky redneck and all wtf does genuflect mean?

Marella · 10-31-2009, 01:28 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by AirForceW1fe

Ok so for the "sick of" thread I am the anonymous asshole, nutcase, moron!

First of all let me say I did not know reputation was anonymous. I assumed it would tell you who gave it good or bad. Have not been here long enough to know how it really worked.

As for hiding behind it, I made my feelings to your response to me very clear in the thread itself. But as time went on and the more I thought about, the more it angered me so I decided to do the reputation thing. Could I have handled it by way of a PM, yeah prolly. Would it have changed your tendency to minimize peoples issues by saying we should all put a smile on our faces and have a group hug and move on? Prolly not.

So I did what I did. And I was not doing it to hide.

If you are unclear as to what was condescending let me spell it out.

"Dear, I'm sorry for your loss. I don't see this torture as an equation to post WLS annoyances."

"We have new bodies now. The old hardships are gone, and those old excuses are gone as well. "

To insinuate that my weight loss would somehow erase the fact that I went through a full labor and delivery knowing I would deliver my little girl that had passed away and that somehow I used this experience to justify my "bitchiness" was beyond condescending.

Maybe you can get up every single day of your life and always do the right thing, never have a bad thing to say about anyone, and now that you have lost your weight be the picture of perfection. If you can, more power to you. I for one can not and don't need it preached to me at every turn.

You clearly don't see it, but there is alot of "oooh look at me and how holier than thou and perfect I am" vibe in most of your posts. Gets a little old after a while.

I don't hide behind anything. So here it all is. All spelled out. It's my opinion and I am entitled to it. Do with it as you wish.

Peace.

Then, ArmyWife, you should have questioned have questioned me instead of stewed. I elevated your grief to torture because I understand the torture of the loss and what follows -- what was wrong with that? I had no intention and do not feel that I diminished your loss in any way. I just could not see it's equation to the subject at hand and you chose not to enlighten me. Instead, you chose to hit below the belt.

Meanwhile, I have counciled many couples and families in the ways of life and overcoming obstacles. Most of the time, the hardest thing to confront is the truth about ourselves. We hide behind blaming others for our misfortunes rather than reflecting the image of our own choices.

Perhaps I sound too much like a therapist, I can't help it, that's what I am, but I will not apologize from trying to help people. I like what I do and I help a great many people.

Thanks guys... I got hit below the belt by a few more. Good gracious God, we are all so self-righteous here, aren't we? I'm not perfect, I'm typing... but you ladies certainly must be in line for sainthood.