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suebry05 · 06-28-2009, 06:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Baja Big Dog

Went shooting this morning, one of the guys we shoot with was late, he called and had been in an accident, a couple of us drove over to the accident, unreal...this douche bag illeagel, (we assumed, couldn't really verify, since he didnt speak English!!), driving a car registered to someone else, had no license, no insurance, no nothing, but my buddies totaled out car, and a hurt dog, the cop writes the guy a ticket, and sends him on his way, and the cop tells my buddy to call his insurance, and hopefully he had uninsured motorist, since we will NEVER see this guy again, the cp claims its all he could do!!

And they arrest this woman for over feeding her kid...really makes you wonder sometimes, but if we are patient, Im sure some of the TT experts will chime in why this action was justified, we are on stand by!!!

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Originally Posted by Native2u

You've got to be kidding me!! They let that a**hole go? WTF??!! They should have arrested him on the spot, IMO. If he caused that accident, he should be made to show-up in court or something. (I know that the dude would just go south, after the court hearing...but at least they could have made it harder on the jerk)

it really blows my mind how the cops let this guy just walk away

mburgs · 06-28-2009, 06:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Baja Big Dog

Went shooting this morning, one of the guys we shoot with was late, he called and had been in an accident, a couple of us drove over to the accident, unreal...this douche bag illeagel, (we assumed, couldn't really verify, since he didnt speak English!!), driving a car registered to someone else, had no license, no insurance, no nothing, but my buddies totaled out car, and a hurt dog, the cop writes the guy a ticket, and sends him on his way, and the cop tells my buddy to call his insurance, and hopefully he had uninsured motorist, since we will NEVER see this guy again, the cp claims its all he could do!!

And they arrest this woman for over feeding her kid...really makes you wonder sometimes, but if we are patient, Im sure some of the TT experts will chime in why this action was justified, we are on stand by!!!

Uggh. Unbelievable. Hope your friend and his dog are alright! How do u have someone without identification, proof they can drive, proof they have mandated insurance just vanish?

Melissah · 06-28-2009, 08:16 PM

OMFG! I just clicked on the link and then on the other link that had 25 pictures of criminals and what they were charged for as far as killing or hurting their children! As a parent how do you stab your 2 year old 100 times with a pair of scissors.

LizzieShell · 06-29-2009, 05:39 AM

But for the grace of God go I ....

This could have been very easily me ..... I feel nothing expect empathy for this kid and his family.

AirForceWifeInUtah · 06-29-2009, 05:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Native2u

I won't understand "why" the Dept of SS didn't jump in and try to give the mother some help, not food stamps....but like a cooking class or something for the boy to learn what is healthy and what isn't.

Not sure exactly what the food stamps comment was aimed towards. There was no mention of food stamps in the article. If you were referring to food stamps being some form of help that the DSS might have offered... food stamps does not a healthy meal make. They will buy the same junk food that cash, credit or a check will.

I think it's pretty general knowledge what is and isn't healthy. I'm sure the boy at 14 knows the difference between "this is going to make me fat" and "this is good for me". Like the difference between pizza and broccoli. Young teen girls are majorly concious of their weight. No reason to think that a young male teen would be any different, especially considering the hand he's been dealt.

I think the blame lies on both the mother and the teenager. What they need to explore is the emotional issues that surround why HE makes the choices that he makes. Even if his mom cooks healthy, he's the one making the concious choice to eat the food she makes, doesn't make or buys for him.

$10 says he's got abandonment issues and he's one lonely teenager.

Baja Big Dog · 06-29-2009, 07:40 AM

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Originally Posted by AirForceWifeInUtah

Not sure exactly what the food stamps comment was aimed towards. There was no mention of food stamps in the article. If you were referring to food stamps being some form of help that the DSS might have offered... food stamps does not a healthy meal make. They will buy the same junk food that cash, credit or a check will.

I think it's pretty general knowledge what is and isn't healthy. I'm sure the boy at 14 knows the difference between "this is going to make me fat" and "this is good for me". Like the difference between pizza and broccoli. Young teen girls are majorly concious of their weight. No reason to think that a young male teen would be any different, especially considering the hand he's been dealt.

I think the blame lies on both the mother and the teenager. What they need to explore is the emotional issues that surround why HE makes the choices that he makes. Even if his mom cooks healthy, he's the one making the concious choice to eat the food she makes, doesn't make or buys for him.

$10 says he's got abandonment issues and he's one lonely teenager.

This is a good post, fact and comments not new to most of us, but the issue is, does the mother deserve to go to JAIL for the "crime"?

ragazzarosa · 06-29-2009, 11:53 AM

it's really obnoxious for me to think that they separate a kid from his mom (and send the mom to jail!) for neglect when there are tons of a-holes out there that CPS has determined to be a real danger and yet they remain with the kids or they try to reunite them.

unbelievable.

550 lbs is really extreme, but I think it just goes to show how deep the bias against fat goes, whereas you know, smacking your kid on the head or beating them repeatedly nets nothing.

Airforcewife is right - at 14 it's both parties causing the issue - and mostly the kid. I feel really bad for him, food is probably his only comfort.

Native2u · 06-29-2009, 12:19 PM

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Originally Posted by AirForceWifeInUtah

Not sure exactly what the food stamps comment was aimed towards. There was no mention of food stamps in the article. If you were referring to food stamps being some form of help that the DSS might have offered... food stamps does not a healthy meal make. They will buy the same junk food that cash, credit or a check will.

I think it's pretty general knowledge what is and isn't healthy. I'm sure the boy at 14 knows the difference between "this is going to make me fat" and "this is good for me". Like the difference between pizza and broccoli. Young teen girls are majorly concious of their weight. No reason to think that a young male teen would be any different, especially considering the hand he's been dealt.

I think the blame lies on both the mother and the teenager. What they need to explore is the emotional issues that surround why HE makes the choices that he makes. Even if his mom cooks healthy, he's the one making the concious choice to eat the food she makes, doesn't make or buys for him.

$10 says he's got abandonment issues and he's one lonely teenager.

The only thing that I was saying was.......she didn't need foods stamps to purchase "more" food for him.....that she needed help for him but maybe in another form. I didn't/don't mean anything bad with the food stamps comment at all.

I know that at 14yrs old, I was already putting myself on diets. I knew exactly what was making me fat and I tired to control it. BUT, my parents were parents that "made" me eat everything on my plate, even if I was full.

Native2u · 06-29-2009, 12:22 PM

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Originally Posted by ragazzarosa

it's really obnoxious for me to think that they separate a kid from his mom (and send the mom to jail!) for neglect when there are tons of a-holes out there that CPS has determined to be a real danger and yet they remain with the kids or they try to reunite them.

unbelievable.

550 lbs is really extreme, but I think it just goes to show how deep the bias against fat goes, whereas you know, smacking your kid on the head or beating them repeatedly nets nothing.

Airforcewife is right - at 14 it's both parties causing the issue - and mostly the kid. I feel really bad for him, food is probably his only comfort.

**comment for the red area**

Especially if the 14yr old spends a lot of time alone....while Mom is working. That is why I said that instead of the Mom being arrested, they should have "helped" out the family. Get them counseling, food prep help...something!!