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Kymel · 06-16-2009, 04:32 PM

Ok this is just the starter message. It was suggested in another thread that it would be fun to have a spot to log our dating adventures...so...

All of you single gals and guys trying to wade through the dating waters...feel free to post your dating experiences here. Good. Bad. Ugly. Whatever. Or, if you have some pondering thoughts/questions to share. Maybe we can learn something from each other...maybe we'll get a good laugh for the day...or maybe we can just simply vent some of our frustrations.

Of course you married folks can play too - advice? Share some of your own dating experiences?

Have fun out there...(just as long as you bring back the juicy details!)

Kymel · 06-16-2009, 05:51 PM

Ok, I guess I'll go first...Tricia, I expect a full report tomorrow morning on your escapade tonight!

Nothng exciting, but this was my night lastnight:

a little catch-up first...
Mr Construction...owns a building construcion business, local guy, about my age, has custody of 1 son. Split up with GF 6 months ago (not kids mom though)...still trying to seperate things and break ties. We've talked on occasion at the bar, hooked up once. He was up front with me saying he's not ready for more than friends...still loves the ex, but can't stand her actions....

Lastnight sent a text to Mr. Construction to see what he was up to. Had a bit of a convo back and forth...he'd had a pretty rough day. He was out already with buds having pizza and beer. Worked up the nerve to ask if he wanted to meet for a couple more drinks after he was done...fully expecting him to say, "thanks, but no thanks". Instead, he say's "sure". Met up 20 minutes later, said maybe 10 words between us. Which is funny, seeing as he's notorious for writing a dang book when he texts. Anyway, it was a pretty quiet night. Just out for a beer with a friend.

My attraction to him is a funny thing. He's cocky as hell, which is usually a huge turn off for me, but he's got a real sensitive side too. Most of the times I see him is when he's having a rough day, so I see more of the sensitive. Could be a decent person to date, could be real obnoxious too...have no idea where it will go, if anywhere.

Ok, I did it. It's not much...but it's a start to logging this crazy, insane venture I've been on in this part of my life. I'm sure there will be more to come. There are 2 others that have a little more promise for juicy details...so stay tuned...never know what I'm going to get myself into next...

bridgetgirl · 06-16-2009, 06:37 PM

Two separate dates, with 2 different men.

I dont share that I have had WLS until I care about someone, otherwise I dont divulge my medical history with them ..... until...

I went out with a man and ordered a lemon drop martini, a short while later he ordered fried shrimp.( I thought a couple bites wouldnt hurt) Well that sugar and the fried food had a colossal get together and had to excuse myself to the bathroom where I was fr at least 20 mins!!!!

When I returned he inquired. " You dont look so good." After drinks we were supposed to go to see a movie and after that awful dumping experience I couldnt stomach the idea of smelling hot, buttered popcorn for 2 hours. We spent the next hour walking in the fresh air and discussing WLS. Not romantic, but I appreciated his empathy.

On another date I ordered a side salad and shrimp cocktail. That date stated, "Oh. You're one of THOSE girls." LMAO If he only knew.

GTR-Mark · 06-16-2009, 07:58 PM

Who would like my eHarmony ID to contact me?

txchick1971 · 06-17-2009, 07:29 AM

Okay girls here's the lowdown.....I ran across Mr. Nurse on the free dating site I use on Monday morning. It was funny cuz his pics were horrible and he was wearing a cowboys ball cap. I love a man in a ball cap by the way. I liked his profile....divorced twice, east texas gent, rugged country boy but not anymore now a nurse....blah, blah, blah.

So, I sent him an email stating that he would have a much better chance snagging someone if he didn't have the cowboys hat on.....lol.

Well he wrote me back.....told me he loved my profile and that I seemed like a kick ass chick....gave me his number and said he couldn't talk til 9pm cuz of minutes but had unlimited text....this is like 9am in the morning....so, i texted him and we exchanged texts all day...and i mean ALL DAY.

So he called me monday night and we talked for 2 hours....really hit it off....the really funny thing was before he called me....i asked him what was for dinner and i was having chili cheese dogs and fries....he shot back stfu I am too.....lol, just had to throw that in.....so anyways, we talked about everything and anything it was good.

So yesterday he texts me more and says he wants to meet for a beer after i get off work...so i said ok. He lives 30 miles from me which in houston during rush hour is like 1hr to 1 1/2hr drive. I was supposed to meet him 1/2 way but he drove the whole way. We met up at Slick Willies to play pool and drink.

I could not quit staring at his chest. Big football player chest. OMG, I was just squeamin thinkin about it. Well, after a few beers and a few games of pool. HE WENT IN FOR A KISS.....omg, I bout died. I was trying to be a really nice girl but dayum I love to make out, especially with a good kisser. Shit, I was gone after that!!!

We made out in my truck and finally I had to go. It was crazy, crazy, crazy

he sent me a text this morning it said....."it was very hard 4 me 2 retain my composure and not check the shocks in your truck" <<<<<i read it in east texas drawl too....hee,hee,hee.

txchick1971 · 06-17-2009, 07:39 AM

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Originally Posted by GTR-Mark

Who would like my eHarmony ID to contact me?

you really use that? I think it's overpriced and doesn't really work. Free Online Dating at Plentyoffish.com is fun but there are a lot of crazies.....gotta weed them out....best of all it's free.

Kymel · 06-17-2009, 07:42 AM

Ok, I have a question. Does anyone else feel...not really weird...but, curious about the whole issue of being called cute, beautiful, gorgeous, or whatever? I'm not meaning in the sense that we're not used to it. I get that part. But, a few months ago I started wondering if something was coming across that said to guys that I need to hear something like that? Don't get me wrong, I try to appreciate the complements, and I'm always gracious about it and say thanks...but I dunno. Do cute guys walk up to women that the whole of society considers "hot" or "beautiful" and tell them that? I'm kinda thinking they don't.

I really brush it off for the initial pick-up, but what's eating at me is when I've been seeing someone for a little while and they're still telling me how beautiful or attactive I am. I don't think I've ever felt the need to tell a guy he's cute or attactive. I guess I figure they know they are already (if they are) and don't really need to be told. Feels weird to say something like that to someone...or at least for me it does.

So what gives?

GTR-Mark · 06-17-2009, 07:43 AM

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Originally Posted by txchick1971

you really use that? I think it's overpriced and doesn't really work. Free Online Dating at Plentyoffish.com is fun but there are a lot of crazies.....gotta weed them out....best of all it's free.

It was a joke, I'm happily married

girl1dir · 06-17-2009, 07:46 AM

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Originally Posted by Kymel

Ok, I have a question. Does anyone else feel...not really weird...but, curious about the whole issue of being called cute, beautiful, gorgeous, or whatever? I'm not meaning in the sense that we're not used to it. I get that part. But, a few months ago I started wondering if something was coming across that said to guys that I need to hear something like that? Don't get me wrong, I try to appreciate the complements, and I'm always gracious about it and say thanks...but I dunno. Do cute guys walk up to women that the whole of society considers "hot" or "beautiful" and tell them that? I'm kinda thinking they don't.

I really brush it off for the initial pick-up, but what's eating at me is when I've been seeing someone for a little while and they're still telling me how beautiful or attactive I am. I don't think I've ever felt the need to tell a guy he's cute or attactive. I guess I figure they know they are already (if they are) and don't really need to be told. Feels weird to say something like that to someone...or at least for me it does.

So what gives?

It took me a long time to accept it when Mark said I was beautiful. Never felt that way about myself. It took a LONG TIME! I think men say it because they mean it, and not just trying to get in your pants. I don't think guys tell a woman she's "HOT" to her face b/c to me that's semi-rude. Beautiful is much more appreciated that HOT, IMHO. Of course, now that I have been married for 11 years, when he says any compliment -- I take it -- know he means it -- even if I don't think it. I think I still blush. And sometimes, I do believe it. And I let myself feel that warm fuzzy.

txchick1971 · 06-17-2009, 07:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Kymel

Ok, I have a question. Does anyone else feel...not really weird...but, curious about the whole issue of being called cute, beautiful, gorgeous, or whatever? I'm not meaning in the sense that we're not used to it. I get that part. But, a few months ago I started wondering if something was coming across that said to guys that I need to hear something like that? Don't get me wrong, I try to appreciate the complements, and I'm always gracious about it and say thanks...but I dunno. Do cute guys walk up to women that the whole of society considers "hot" or "beautiful" and tell them that? I'm kinda thinking they don't.

I really brush it off for the initial pick-up, but what's eating at me is when I've been seeing someone for a little while and they're still telling me how beautiful or attactive I am. I don't think I've ever felt the need to tell a guy he's cute or attactive. I guess I figure they know they are already (if they are) and don't really need to be told. Feels weird to say something like that to someone...or at least for me it does.

So what gives?

I love the "rubber neckers" when i'm driving my truck around.....i never got that before.....it's awesome