Over 40 and lovin' it! - ThinnerTimes - Gastric Bypass Forum, Lap Band Forum, and Vertical Sleeve Gastrectomy Forum

veroniquetalk · 03-28-2009, 10:49 AM

I remember a time when being over 40 looked ancient to me! Now that I am there it is so much more than I thought it would be. I love who I am and the growth that I have seen in myself. I wouldn't go back to the 20 or 30 years version of me for anything! When I think of the woman I am now I think of black velvet; sexy, smooth and ever so confident!

I thought I would start a thread for those of us (men and women) over 40 and what we love about it. If you are over 40 please add to this thread!

What I love about being over 40:

I am now beautiful on the inside as well as on the outside.

Those gorgeous laugh lines around my eyes reflect the joy in my children, grandbabies and others in my life who have tickled my heart.

I know what I want out of a relationship and won't settle for less.

I have inner peace that only age and surviving the trials of life can bring.

I truly understand the saying, "But for the grace of God, there go I."

I have learned to pick my battles and have also realized that very little in life is worth having a battle over.

I don't let anyone's opinion of me determine who I am.

I know how to please a man both in bed and outside of it.

When I get an admiring look from a much younger man (and I do get them) I can just give a sexy smile back but know that I wouldn't go down that road for all the rice in China.

I also realize how incredibly short 20 years is and realizing that puts an entirely different perspective on what I choose to spend my time doing.

I don't have to worry if the man in my life will lose interest in me once I am saggy and baggy

He has already seen the sags and bags and still tells me I am the sexiest woman he has ever been with.

And the number one reason I love being over 40: I can have sex without worrying about getting pregnant!

Marella · 03-28-2009, 12:30 PM

I'm over 40 by 11 years. My 40's weren't the greatest years I've spent on this earth physically. But still, I honestly do enjoy being over 40, and being 50 doesn't bother me. I thought it would but it's no big deal to me. I think it's because I'm 50 and I'm not the largest person in the room anymore.

Anyway, what I like about being over 40:

I don't spend my time chasing a dream, my dream is already here. In so many ways, I really have everything.

I don't waste my time arguing with my man. We disagree, but we don't fight. We never make-up either. We have an understanding that we never go to bed angry, and that makes that special time even more special.

I don't spend my time in my own reflection. I know in my knower that what I know and what I have achieved is by the Grace of God, and to Him I give the credit for my happiness. It's been so easy to analyze His works in my life, in hindsight, that now, I don't need hindsight.

I enjoy knowledge and wisdom, the pursuit of knowledge and learning. I hated school in my youth, now I love it. I want more of it.

I truly enjoy my kid. I have never once been disappointed at my life with him in it. There have been so many blessings, to numerous to count.

I truly enjoy being married to my man. He doesn't complete me, he adds to me. He doesn't fill a void. He doesn't define me. He is my confidant, my best friend, my lover, my partner, in whom I trust my life and my love are in good hands.

It took time to grow to these things, to realize them, to give up the pursuit of nonsense and possessions in favor of what really counts... and I had to define what really counts. I found some of the answers at age 35, but I think I found the meaning of my life around age 42 - and it was this realization that helped me make it to 50.

veroniquetalk · 03-28-2009, 12:36 PM

Marella

I loved your comment about not spending time chasing a dream - you already have it. What a wonderful feeling to have!