OK...now THAT'S where I draw the line - ThinnerTimes

Debz · 03-13-2008, 02:20 PM

I'm sure you've all had the experience of people going over the "what's socially acceptable" line in regards to WLS. You know what I mean...people saying things like "Gee, you don't look fat enough for that surgery. (Read, you're fat, just not that fat).

Or, "Wow, I bet your man is worried you're gonna cheat on him now"...like somehow I had my morals removed along with a section of my stomach... an "ethicsectomy", so to speak.

Or my personal favorite is..."Does your skin hang now"? Well...yeah, but I lost over 90 pounds....what's your excuse? It just amazes me what people think it's OK to say just because of the fact that I had surgery, regardless of the type.

But what put me over the top...just went beyond the beyond, is this. The other say I showed up at my hunny's work. He didn't notice me at first...was deep in conversation with one of his employees. He then looked up and noticed me, said something I couldn't hear, and then said, "Well, here she is right now." He introduced me and told me that the guys wife was having a lap band done the next day. The guy asked me a few questions, and I answered the best I could, considering that it's not the surgery that I had, and then he left. the whole exchange lasted maybe 2 minutes and was vaguely uncomfortable for me. I was soon to find out why.

You remember I mentioned my hunny said something I didn't hear. It was " I can't answer that because...Well her she is right now" The question he was dodging was, " Is the sex better now"?

??????? Really? REALLY????? ????? Is nothing private? I mean, come on. You guys know I pretty much put it all out there and am willing to say anything about just about anything.... but who puts what where and how good it feels is nobody's business but mine and the person to whom said body part or plastic appliance belongs to. Wouldn't you agree?

So, world...here it is...Yes, I was fat enough for that surgery. no, my man doesn't need to worry 'bout me cheating on him and yes, my skin does hang, but not as much as you'd think and quite frankly, I look better after 92 pounds of weight loss than most of the "questioners" look without ever having gained a pound. ( And, additionally, no problems with the ego.

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As far as the sex life goes...do people really even need to ask? Doesn't that seem obvious? I mean, with 90 pounds gone, it's almost like gravity free sex...lol.

soon2bthin · 03-13-2008, 02:30 PM

I love this post. I feel everyone of us here has been exposed to one or all of these rude questions. Personally my favorite was, you know when you lose all the weight, you are just gonna replace your food addiction with one to sex, alcohol, or shopping. WTF. Number one if I become addicted to sex I am sure my husband will be dancing the streets. Number two can't have alcohol see surgery guidelines. And number three, I am already a shopping addict so who cares!!!! It isn't your money, your beer, or your husband so shut up. I too got the you aren't that big all the time. Whatever. Just quit talking.

Cassie

Janelle · 03-13-2008, 02:41 PM

My mouth is gaping open!! I can't believe he asked your dh that. Actually, he is a boy. I CAN believe it, but he should know better!

fisher1000 · 03-13-2008, 02:42 PM

We need to get T-shirts made saying "I Kick Asses Randomly and Without Provocation" on the back. On the front it can say, "Keep you're damn mouth shut."

I know guys talk about that stuff more readily than the girls. I'm not saying it's right, and I myself have gotten in BIG trouble before. I know that doesn't make it any better, because your situation is kind of borderline harassment.

It might make you feel better if you sent that person a giant package of dog crap, delivered at work with a perfumed note attached.

-Mike

Godsblessedme · 03-13-2008, 03:21 PM

ok stop it! i almost spit my coffee out all over my lap top reading this! haaa

I absoulutly hate that statement! i get that from the people at my church. GOD they have no clue how stupid that makes them sound.

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Gee, you don't look fat enough for that surgery. (Read, you're fat, just not that fat).

Omaha Jim · 03-13-2008, 03:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Janelle

My mouth is gaping open!! I can't believe he asked your dh that. Actually, he is a boy. I CAN believe it, but he should know better!

Sorry gals - we are boys and we don't know better. We really don't!!!

VanessaSFL · 03-13-2008, 03:57 PM

Deb~ LOL~ I am not shocked at all.It is the "Y" chromosome..really.Jim is right, they can not help it.

Deb, here is something to share with ya....My DH is gone.We do not talk much at all. He called me the other night and if he used the "F" word once he used it 1000 times.In fact, I believe Ran used the "F" word as a noun, verb, adjective...Good Grief!!! I was kinda shocked but I know that it is from being around a bunch of Joes( Soldiers) all guys.Did'nt bother me I was just F'ing happy he is ok for another day

My DH even said, " Man, I F'ing miss the two of you"

LOL

Anyway, Nothing shocks me anymore from the Male world.

LizzieShell · 03-13-2008, 06:23 PM

Tell it like it is Sister!!

Some people ask the dumbest ????s

Congrats on your WL success.

sdgrrl · 03-13-2008, 06:41 PM

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Originally Posted by VanessaSFL

Deb~ LOL~ I am not shocked at all.It is the "Y" chromosome..really.Jim is right, they can not help it.

Shouldn't it just be called the "Why?" chromosome? I'm just sayin....

Debz · 03-13-2008, 06:45 PM

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Originally Posted by sdgrrl

Shouldn't it just be called the "Why?" chromosome? I'm just sayin....

Oh, sweetie...that's the most quotable quote I've heard in a loooong time. Can I use it as my own? Or do I need to send royalties? Either way, it's the newest "gotcha" phrase in my lexicon. Thanks!