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I_love_Hello Kitty · 03-02-2008, 02:41 AM

I don't know if I believe in reincarnation...but if its real, in my next life I don't want to have to worry about food or money. It seems like since I was old enough to think those have been my two biggest issues....and they're still here....and seem like they're here to stay. Bummer.

Six months out from surgery...and I'm becoming keenly aware of the fact that my food issues will always be here in one form or another. Yes, I've lost a great deal of weight and am very grateful and happy about that....and now its all about...how will I continue to lose weight...how can I manage to stop the bad habits which have been creeping back into my life...how will I manage to not gain weight back....how can I get in all the proper nutrients and protein my body needs.

And money...isn't everyone feeling this one right now?....I mean you hear about the economy doing badly...but we're feeling it personally...hubby's work isn't going as well...debt is growing...stress is increasing(losing sleep kind of stress)...but it seems like I felt this way about money forever....I just saw Fiddler on the Roof...and during "If I were a Rich Man..." he asks God if his being rich would have some drastic affect on the world's master plan...and if not...why can't he be rich??? I ask the same question.

ok...I know we have to be grateful for the gifts we have...and I truly am...I guess these are my demons which I have to accept...and they're common ones...I just am getting kinda sick about worrying about these two things.

Longwalker1961 · 03-02-2008, 06:30 AM

I'm so sorry you are going through these struggles. I think everyone is feeling the pinch these days... Well... Almost everyone anyway... I hope that you can get some decent sleep in spite of your worries.

VanessaSFL · 03-02-2008, 06:50 AM

I understand the food stuff just from being post-op.I stopped worries and just accepted that this was how it was to be, remember I am still on about 75% soft foods at three years post op.

The money situation.Well on Feb 25, 2004 my DH was hurt in devastating accident and we had to deal with a horrific injury.He was in a wheel chair for a year, crutches to walker for the next.Years of multi surgeries and physical therapy.Anyway, He could not work.We went from two incomes to one, mine.

I supported the lifestyle we built , it was very hard.Ran just returned to Military private contract work overseas..Yes, he is making a disgusting amount of money but at what cost????? He misses an entire year with his son & wife. He could have taken any job but took the highest paying/ most dangerous contract to help us rebuild our savings , our investments and Nick's college fund.I understand why he took the contract but sad that it all revolved around finances.I support him but want him home at the same time.

I do not believe in reincarnation.Trust me when I say there is a God.Every month for three years He made it happen.Provided & protected my family.There was no way on paper I should have been able to keep our home & cars with the loss of Ran's 80G a year income.He continues to provide & protect.

I won't say do not worry, I worry enough for everyone in my life, but just hang in there & expect good things.

Persephone · 03-02-2008, 08:43 AM

D just lost his job last week. It's hard not to stress out.

pebitpeb · 03-02-2008, 09:04 AM

Dear Simone,
Oh how I can relate to you, as food and money were big worries in my life since I was a little child, food was used as a tool for reward and punishment and I learned to use it well, today the food is still somewhat a time consuming brain space taker and the money, even though I live a nice life in Italy the life in this days modern world is costly to everyone unless we were to move to a 3rd world country and then we would be on top with the money, however the food thinking and worrying would still be running rampant. Sometimes today I take a bite of something, that in the past I would feel guilty about eating, but I am learning that I bite or two or three is not what the old habit was, it was the eating the typical bad food choices daily several times for a full meal, I think we can afford to have a bite here and there and not beat ourselves up for it, this is the probem with food thinking it comes with a little voice that screams bad things to the good people we are. Hang in there dear, I often wish I could win a lottery as I would not hesitate to help others in need especially those suffering from the lack of enough food or money or those that have been given an unfortunate hand in the from the deck of cards called life. Stay strong, tell us here we care and can relate to you. All the best Simone for you and your family during this challenging econmic time in the USA.
pebitpeb
Paul

Janelle · 03-02-2008, 06:32 PM

I don't know how I will do food wise after surgery, but I hope I am NOT able to eat everything!

However, I completely identify with the money struggle. I am a single teacher, and at lunch last week, I compared notes with two other single teachers. And, yes, we knew what the salaries would be when we took the job, but we didn't bank on being single our whole lives either! At this point, we are all virtually a paycheck from disaster. (I had cancer last year and had to spend my savings to cover expenses. So, I don't even have a small savings to fall on anymore!) Then, rising gas prices don't help. Now, I hear that some food costs are expected to skyrocket 40%. It is just disgusting! I often feel like I take one step forward and two steps back.

And, one benefit I hope to gain from gbs is the confidence to leave education and move into another field. I want to get into either yearbook sales, class ring sales, or textbook sales. The money in all of those is much better than what I can earn in the classroom. So, I'm on my way to LOOKING the part!

Good luck. I know what it feels like to just hang on. Based on news of foreclosures and credit card debt, there are obviously lots of us just hanging on.

Janelle

Eseret · 03-02-2008, 07:19 PM

I hear ya my friend. I worry about money and food too. Food wise it's about failing after working hard to get where I am at the moment. Sure, I've lost 100 pounds...I did that before and gained it all back and then some. Will I do that again? Fall back into old habits? I dunno. But I have promised myself to fight the urges I have to eat bad foods and stay on top of things.

Money...it's soooo tight right now. I get stressed out over lack of funds with more going out than coming in...robbing Peter to pay Paul (an old expression) and wondering if I'll be able to retire from my job at age 63, six years from now. Worried if I'll have a job with all of the budget cuts the school district's making...worried if my DH will have his job....brother!! All causes me migraines and lack of sleep....it seems to be endless!

All we can do is be patient and hope life gets better....

God Bless

Teri