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lward76 · 01-01-2008, 04:31 AM

I have read it several times over and over!! I dont believe she was hiding but was sick!! And then when the deal went bad she made Suzy out to be the bad person!! Suzy your not a bad person!! And to Janine I really do agree with you!!! And Anglea I couldnt agree more!!! Laura

paige52 · 01-01-2008, 09:20 AM

Thank you for being reasonable...

when you read that thread, which I have done it's full of very one-sided conversations and accusations.

I personally have met Suzy, spent time with her over an extended period of time. She has never stolen anythign from me...drugs or otherwise. She has in fact been incredibly generous and honest.

We have had long conversation over this issue and all I can say is the otucome of that event is a producto f it's nature. Any time you involve drugs... it's has an overwhelming chance of going south. In regards to not defending herself... If I where involved at the same level as Suzy, given the same health consideration and emotional/mental stability I wouldn't have tried to defend myself either. The bull-dog defense metnality on this board can be a bit overwhelming ot a person that is completely heathly...imagine how it woudl appear to someone ill?

As for coming back as "janie"... not sure I woudl have come back at all... but if you are sick and in need of support and run the risk of being black-balled by other members of the board... I might have done that. I do appreciate the hoensty on her behalf that when she and I started to Pm each other, she immediately revealed who she was, what had happned in the past and why she made the choice to go incognito.... I read the issue and made my own detrimination about where I wnated to continue a friendship with her. After all things considered and a personal meeting... I'm very glad I did and find Suzy to be a huge help in my life.

I also think it was very mature and honest of her to PM Donna provately and not drag all this garbage on to a public forum when she was finally in a place health and mental wise to deal with the accusations. She didn't blast Donna on the board, she didn't drag the contraversial issue out for public resolution. She quietly told the few friends on the board the truth about who she was, her part in what had transpired with Donna and then privately posted to Donna.

If Suzy is guilty of anything it's participating in drug exchanges and such other activities... no story is ever as one-sided as it was presented by Donna in her original post. Not saying Suzy is 100% blameless but it takes two in any relationship/interaction for things to go wrong or right..... I"m sure that to Donna her perception of the events are accurate but I'm view on experience and I've had plenty of that over the years in regards to these types of situation.

As to Cinderbelle...

It might be time and energy better spent focused on helping your friend Donna heal and less time dregging up hurts and accusations.

To the other two ladies that posted....

I agree 100% about your comments in regards to sharing prescriptions. A doctor gives a specific prescription to specific people, sharing is not only illegal but dangerous.... Keep that in mind folks.

Now once again I will express my hope that this issue can be put to bed and those that have issues will continue them off board....where they belong. By all means... those that have issues with Janie/Suzy use your ignore button it's a wonderful and fuctional feature of this board!

Duckie · 01-01-2008, 09:27 AM

blah blah blah...

Cinerbelle · 01-01-2008, 09:37 AM

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Originally Posted by paige52

As to Cinderbelle...

It might be time and energy better spent focused on helping your friend Donna heal and less time dregging up hurts and accusations.

Sorry, Janie went back to Suzy and I thought everyone had a right to know who she was. The original "OT - Please Beware" thread had a lot of people upset and if Janie decided to expose herself, then that was her decision.

paige52 · 01-01-2008, 09:55 AM

Cinder, You are absolutely correct that when "janie" acknowledged that she was Suzy people should be aware of the change so there is no confusion.

From the the response you received to letting those persons who were "upset" about the original thread know she was back in town... it's still the same people being upset, to me it seems to be a very small select group of individuals. At this point it's only that small select group that is commenting on it.

The majority of us are quiet on the topic and a few newbies have posted in support of Suzy being here...

I say thank you for your diligence in keeping everyone informed... now we know have read a responded and it's time to move on.

Duckie... "Blah blah blah"... a very interesting and insightful commentary, thank you for sharing.

PJ

Duckie · 01-01-2008, 10:02 AM

Paige, you'd be surprised how many people have not liked Janie from the get go. I have received many PMs regarding her. NOW I am getting ever more from pissed off people. You may think it's only "the select few" but we are the only one that say what we feel. We don't sugar coat. We say what is on our minds. You never have to GUESS what we are thinking.

LQQkn · 01-01-2008, 01:57 PM

go away... there is an IGNORE feature here. You have done your damage to me and others here actually. It appears that you are getting your mileage out of the whole incident ONCE MORE. How sick are you people.. I again say I hope it really was worth it for you guys. It hasn't hurt me anymore than it orginally did in fact it's been healing to come out and reclaim my identity. I won't allow you to continue hurting me even despite the inflammatory posts.. because I'm not reading them.. I use the ignore feature now! But YOU are hurting other people besides me... consider that when you continue to strike out. (2 PM's from new people tell me that) I just am DONE hiding because I'm well enough physically to stand up and say enough. You kicked me when I was way down and sick enough to be in the hospital. Imagine how that would have felt for you Donna when you had your bowel obstruction.. could you imagine being attacked while you fight for your life? Well that is what you did to me, same thing! Again what goes around comes around... I saw it with Donna she loves to come here and lash out... I've seen it with others. Let me publicly post the NICE PM I sent to Donna that she failed to post publicly. I'm continuing to take the high road.... and say it one last time I really wish you people who find it OK to attack others and demean and belittle them would go and get help quit posting about it here it's taking away from the spirit of what this site is about. It's suppose to be about help and support. I'm not here for your support you have made that clear that you won't support me. I'm fine with it.... just take your mean spirit away from me and move on. I'm here for those people who have complications and need answers.. period! Paige will continue to support me and so will the other people who already know me. YOU CAN'T HURT ME ANYMORE! The same people attacked John two weeks ago. John is just a pompous ass I'm an accused thief and been already judged and convicted. I already know who is in my corner and who isn't... I get it MOVE ON! Suzy

P.S. Here is the NICE post I sent to Donna after my Kharma post that she took out of context again.

One last thing...
I've been in Therapy for a few months now and I'm dealing with all the crap that has happened. The really sad part of this whole thing is that you and I could have been really good supportive friends. I even despite the bullshit have posted to you and PM you to offer support. Because I really truly felt like I wanted to help. For me it's been an eye opener Donna, that people can be so mean. Look at the thread you want to go and defend the girls on?? What is that about?? People ripping into other people? GOOD GOD if you can't say it to their face why would you sit at your computer and type it?? I am just sending this one last PM to you to let you know it doesn't matter to me anymore who knows who I am, I needed the forum to help myself to find answers to my failing health. And while I was down at my lowest you made sure you got the whole forum against me. Now for my last post to you about Kharma, I'm sorry I didn't tender that a little because I'm not trying to beat you while YOU are down with your depression... only to POINT out how devastating it is when YOU are depressed and when you are critically ill. If you wish to talk about this via phone I will be happy to address it. Now I'm on a level playing field. If I don't hear from you I really do wish you well with your life. Suzy (phone number deleted)

That is word for word despite Donna taking all my PM's and rewording them.....

LQQkn · 01-01-2008, 03:05 PM

This is what happens Janine, My doctor (Callery) wouldn't give me any pain medication past 10 days post op and because I was in critical pain I resorted to this... I see a pain doctor who has handled my care now.

I sent a PM to John Callery about this issue and I'm surprised that they have failed to moderate this thread and the other thread. It's ruining his board. Oh and yes I'm guilty by going on incognito. I was in a critical situation with my health and to be honest I would do it all over again, I was on here to save MY life not anyone else's. If anyone ever walks in my shoes again with the bad complications and can say they would do it any different oh well then I take my hat off to you.

I'm sorry to anyone reading my thread for those posts that aren't relating to my original thread.. please feel comfortable posting here.. I will still take PM's as they come in. Suzy

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Originally Posted by janine

This whole thing stems from the orginal post that doc's don't always take care of there patients needs. Pain is a terrible thing and should be cared for by medications. Not self medicated by patients or friends. I see this type of thing happen time and time again. It's so easy to place blame on friends when the real blame lies with the doctor's who don't take care of there patients. Now it seams the problem has transferred to addiction and this will be a tough road to go down.

The surgery can cause so much good to some and so much damage to others. We all have alot to learn from this post. All of us need to be our own advocate. We all must listen to our bodies and make our doctors listen to us and if they don't listen.... find one that will.

Best of luck to you all...

lward76 · 01-04-2008, 06:47 PM

Well as some of you have know I have been in the hospital for a few days due to more complications,! My surgeroun put up the speed and my reversal willl be 01/18/08 in 2 weeks!! Suzy any suggestions!! i am scared but know tht i will be healthier againn!! And i know I will have to work my asssss offf to keep the weight "ok"..just wanted to let you allllllllllll ,,,,know!!thanks Laura

LQQkn · 01-04-2008, 06:59 PM

I'm happy you are having this done godspeed! I'm here for you like always... Please PM me your phone number and let me know what hospital you're going to be in! I'm praying you will breeze through without any problem. just take lots and lots of chapstick because you can't eat or drink for a couple of days and your lips get really chapped! You are going to do fine.. and seriously I've not had a problem keeping the weight down since my reversal. I'm eating pretty well now considering the way I used to be, and I find my weight still fluctuates about 125-135 but I don't go over 135...I cut back a little when I hit that number. Hang in Laura... you will start to feel much better soon! Suzy

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Originally Posted by lward76

Well as some of you have know I have been in the hospital for a few days due to more complications,! My surgeroun put up the speed and my reversal willl be 01/18/08 in 2 weeks!! Suzy any suggestions!! i am scared but know tht i will be healthier againn!! And i know I will have to work my asssss offf to keep the weight "ok"..just wanted to let you allllllllllll ,,,,know!!thanks Laura