SuperMom69

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About SuperMom69

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  • Birthday January 1

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  • Gender
    Female

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  • Surgeon
    Hungness
  • Hospital
    Northwestern Memorial
  • Height (ft-in)
    5-01
  • Goal Weight
    135
  • Surgery Type
    Vertical Sleeve
  1. Best thing I ever did for myself!!!
  2. What everyone else said! I am also scale crazy... but only because it helps to keep me in line. I must tell you though - since week 2 I have had significant stalls... it goes with the territory... part of life. Someone explained it like this to me.. that my body loses and then needs to catch its breath (but I will still be losing inches) and then once it catches its breath - start moving down again. I had surgery on Jan 30th and I am down 47 pounds. Some people that I know are down 35 (same time period) and others are down 70 (same time period - but needed to lose more) Just keep doing what you are supposed to do and the weight will come off. I promise!
  3. AWESOME!!!! Congratulations!!!
  4. Bella... You are such an inspiration to so many... including me! As everyone has said... go easy on yourself (today) and know that tomorrow is a new day and you are winning. You didn't wait to realize something was out of sorts with you until you had gained back 20, 30 or even 50 pounds.... you caught it quick. Go back to your basics.... Get the sugar out and go back to when you began on the journey. Hugs to you and thanks for posting... we all are human and need help and encouragement. xo
  5. If someone asks... I tell them. I just figured I didn't want to hide or make it shameful... I am not publicizing it but I am being open because I know that it also may help someone else. this was hands down the best decision I have made... I am also sure to let people know that it is not a cure but a tool to help me. I am only 10 weeks out so I have a ways to go but I am sleeved and proud!
  6. I am sure I had a breathing tube - but I don't remember because I was out before I ever hit the OR. I did not have a drain when I woke up. I would ask yourself, why do you want to do this... then write out all the pros. The cons are truly the unknown ... and while certainly things could happen to you in surgery or afterwards.. as my doctor put it, when is surgery no longer an option but a must! This was the best decision I ever made - for myself, my family, my career, etc. I did a lot of positive thoughts / thinking about my future before I had the surgery.... I would push any negative things away.... You have to do what is right for you but I can tell you, as you can read on here... the positives absolutely outweigh the negatives. Good Luck!
  7. Best decision I ever made for ME! Only regret, waiting so long to change my life!
  8. #CoTN, I could not agree more! I too scoured through websites and posts and felt that all the people who came before me made it possible for me to be successful without surprise! So happy for you! It is an amazing difference in how we feel isn't it...? Very empowering!!! xoxo
  9. I think once you have gone through the surgery and you join NMH support group, they do have a website for support for bariatric surgery. I am 6 weeks out and have not been to a support group yet. Hoping to get to one next month. If you go onto Facebook, and you type in VSG or WLS, you will see some groups pop up. Beware, they are not private and your friends and family may get something that says "sally liked VSG you should too..." or whatever. I found one private group... I don't have it with me.... It is not northwestern specific. I love Dr. Hungness. He did my VSG on January 30th. he was really great! When you meet with him, ask a lot of questions. Your time with him is limited... When he did my surgery, I will never forget him coming to see me right before they wheeled me down and with a big smile on his face he said "Come on... let's do this!!!" I knew I was going to be ok!!! After I met with him, he ordered a sleep study and an endoscopy. My surgery was a month and a half out from my meeting with him.... Good Luck! You will do great! If you are on myfitnesspal, there are a ton of support on there!!!
  10. WOW!!! You look amazing!!! Regarding dating and ... feeling like you are the same person... or feeling invisible.... @Bellamoma is right! And I hate to preach to the choir but let me just say this to you... You are not invisible... only if you make yourself invisible. And you don't need anyone... ANYONE... telling you how great you look... or anything else...because it really comes down to how you feel about yourself. Maybe you need to look into yourself and see if you need to work on your own self confidence.... not just as a smaller healthier version of you but in general. I am 5'1"... I always dated taller men.... I, like Bellamom, had an ideal picture in my mind of what my partner would look like..Tall, handsome with a great movie star smile.... I dated some of those people that fit the bill.... then I met my husband... he is definitely cute but her is SHORT! and he for sure does not have the teeth in the movie star smile... but he is AMAZING! His heart! His zest for life! We fit together like peas and carrots! He even loved me heavy! Huh! Go figure! (Of course to tell you the truth, I don't think I ever thought I was missing anything as a heavy person... I think I still thought I was thin and hot! (IMAGE ISSUES for sure! ) Anyway.... You will meet that gal who is going to make you laugh and make you cry. She will light up a room when she walks into it. And she will love you for you... not for what you look like. Keep doing what you are doing... enjoy your life.,... be involved and she will appear when you least expect it. TRUST ME! I met my husband at 35... and he was well worth the wait. xo
  11. How is it going? Are you feeling better now? There are many people who take longer to get real foods in .... my friend is a month and a half out and she is still drinking shakes because she is afraid to eat. I have not had that issue. I think it would be good to talk to your NUT.
  12. I love you guys! Really! I needed this... maybe more than I ever realized. You are ALL right.... and ya know, I was / am not blind to it.... I just never wanted to see the friendship end .... so much history. Many good things / times... I am a glass half full gal, so I always tried to ignore the bad... but you are right. She is toxic. She is a believer that her success is my failure... or my failure is her success... I would find myself lying to her just to make her feel better about herself. I am going to jump off of that train now.... I've got my parachute... I don't think I will confront her... I think I will just let it die.... I'm too tired to confront her.... But truly, THANK YOU!!! I lost another pound yesterday! I am winning!
  13. I take 2 Flintstone Vitamins daily!
  14. @SMEI thought so too.... Thank you @bellamoma ..... I needed to hear that!!
  15. I was sleeved on January 30th. I am down 27 and holding right now... at a plateau and while I know the weight will start to move again, it is certainly a trying time. Anyway, that is not the reason for this post... I have a friend who has been in competition with me since we first met - 32 years ago! I don't care what it is... her husband is better than mine, her kids are better than mine, her diet is better than mine... she exercises more than me, she makes more money than me, she is prettier than me.... blah blah blah. After while, it gets really old. Yet, with age comes wisdom, right? So I know that what it really comes down to is that she is insecure or doesn't like herself very much. She does have a great husband.... I am happy for her. I also have an amazing husband! Although after I had my son, and was going through some post partum depression and my husband and I were having a hard time, after we went on a mini vacation with her and her husband around that time period, she had the audacity to call me to say that she and her husband did not think that me and my husband would stay together. (REALLY?!?) She has three amazing kids... I have two wonderful kids as well..... Part of the problem I think, is her eldest is a special needs daughter. Whom I love! She is a bright spot in my day! However, my friend thinks that her daughter is a reflection of her and thus a failure in some way shape or form. It is so very sad..... She does everything to try to push her daughter to be "typical" instead of embracing all the goodness that her daughter has in just being her! I try hard never to really discuss my children or their accomplishments or what they are doing because it always comes down to something about how her son does x better than my son... or something to that effect... so I just keep any goodness about my family to myself. Personally, she has always been in competition with me with regards to exercise and weight. I used to be a competitive figure skater and I don't know, maybe she felt threatened by that part of my past but... throughout the years it was always about her being x size... it could be if I was a 6, she was a 4. If I was a 14, she was a 12. If I was a size 20, she was an 18! If I did spin class, she did it longer and with a harder instructor.... You get my drift. Anyway, everything I do now, I track on myfitnesspal. Especially since surgery.... it has been my lifeline and saving grace for staying on track and doing what is right for me. So after surgery, (which I did tell her about .... her response to me having the VSG was "Well, I hope you don't tell anyone because that is so SHAMEFUL!" (P.S. I tell EVERYONE!!! :)) Anyway, she decided to go on a crazy diet. She was full of questions all about it... what I would be able to eat, how many calories, etc. I told her the main gist was to worry about eating your protein first and get a lot of it in... 80-120 g. So, as you can imagine, she started doing that.... (Good for her - she needed to lose 40-50 pounds!) Well, about two weeks after surgery she says to me... "How much weight have you lost?" I told her.. not even sure the number at that point.. and she says... "I'm down 15!" I congratulate her! That is pretty impressive. And she starts talking about myfitnesspal (as if she owns it!) so I look her up... (but, I don't friend her...) it says she is down 6. (Still a great number but now I know she is lying to me.) And every day that we talk - she lives in MD and I live in IL.... she tells me her new number - to which I look it up to see she is still lying... It makes me feel bad... for her. If she knew I knew the truth she would be destroyed... and I don't want to do that but I am finding more and more, I can't be a part of this with her.... Is her insecurity running so deep that she can't even be my friend and tell the truth. I am happy for her. She is losing weight. She is making positive changes. Her changes aren't mine... and they don't need to be... but I don't even want to tell her anything about me or my situation because she cannot be happy for me, except today when I declared I have been at a stall.... SHE WAS ELATED! This was the best news ever for her. She said, probably because I eat too much and don't exercise! (WHATEVER! I think I may continue to tell her I am not losing! Then SHE can pretend to keep winning!) Today, I realized she doesn't only do this with me.... when we spoke, after she told me what she was down, (another lie) she started bragging about how she is such a great loser and how her friend who she works out with is so jealous of her because she is losing weight so quickly and the friend isn't. I said, well why don't you try to pump her up it come join you.... she said, this person just doesn't have the motivation like she does.... because no one is like she is... Anyway, I am really just sad about it all. I am sad because she is a long time friend yet I really cant share anything with her... and I really don't want to talk to her because she is not motivating to me... she is a downer. Now mind you, while she is not impacting my journey on a positive side... it does feel like a negative drag and I don't want that. I know that I am focused enough on me and my life and my health that I pay no attention... but it makes me sad that someone I once considered a good friend, can NEVER be happy for me. She is always looking to hurt me in some way shape or form all to make herself feel better.... Does anyone else have a friend like that?