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About athenarose

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  • Surgeon
    Farida Bounoua
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    Santa Barbara Cottage Hospital
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  • Surgery Type
    Gastric Bypass

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  1. Hot tea

    Tea is allowed on my doctor's clear liquids list. Obviously, check with your doctor, but I would imagine it would be fine as long as you didn't add any honey or milk and stick to low caffeine options.
  2. F - I - V - E

    Congrats on losing 100 pounds! Get used to people not recognizing you. It's probably going to keep happening, probably for years to come. I'm almost two years it from surgery and I ran into two different acquaintances last week and neither one knew who I was at first. It took me a minute to remember that I've lost so much weight that people who haven't seen me in a while won't recognize me. So, that'll probably be another part of your post-WLS new normal. As far as dating, when I was single, I spent a lot of time in bars hanging out and on dates (one of my best friend's works at a couple bars so that was basically where I spent my weekends) and I (very, very) rarely drink. It was never an issue with any of the guys I hung out with/dated. In my experience, guys don't care and are happy to grab you a water to sip on. My boyfriend (who used to be a bartender) suggests ordering a soda water with lemon & lime if you want to blend in and look like you're drinking something with alcohol. Good luck with the dating scene and I hope your heart is healing as you move on from your prior relationship.
  3. Mom of four here. I say just make it clear that your family doesn't eat those things. Not in an accusatory or judgey way, just a non-negotiable without apology. Maybe it's the California lifestyle, but I have plenty of friends whose families are gluten-free, dairy-free, food coloring free, Paleo, whole food only, etc. It just is what it is and if she's really your friend, it won't be an issue. I'll give her the benefit of the doubt and assume that it's never occurred to her that your daughter wouldn't eat those things. I'm relatively loose with my kids' diets, but when I know a friend is gluten free or doesn't eat food with food dye or has a diet restriction (voluntary or not), I adjust accordingly. If she knows those foods are off limits and pushes them anyway, then that's a different story. But assuming she just doesn't realize the differences in your diets, bring it up casually, maybe mentioning why your food approach is what it is. And in the meantime, just make plans where you bring own snacks and meet in neutral locations (children's museum, park, etc). And personally, I wouldn't bring up her WLS. I would make it about your family's lifestyle just like I would for any other parenting decision/choice. It's not a judgment on her, it's just how you're choosing to raise your daughter and a good friend will respect that even if she does things differently.
  4. Confessions

    All of this! I'm sitting here, reading the forums and (gasp!) eating Ben & Jerry's. But, instead of eating an entire pint, I take a couple bites and then put it back in the freezer. Part of creating a new normal, for me at least, involves indulging in ice cream and other treats, in small servings. I was stricter before I reached goal, but even then, I was far from perfect. Now, I just strive to generally find balance and only go overboard, on a rare occasion, in a very intentional way. I see it like a pendulum, so I aim to stay close to the center, but when I go overboard, I reign my diet in tighter after as a response. That's just what works personally for me. Like @BurgundyBoy said, acknowledge the indulgence and move forward. It's not the end of the world, just a bump in the road. None of us are perfect. The key is choosing to move forward instead of using the indulgences as a slippery slope toward completely going off the rails. You have come so far! Forgive yourself and try to get yourself back on track.
  5. Dairy?

    Hmmm. Unless it's specifically not allowed on your doctor's diet, I don't know why it wouldn't be allowed. I've never heard that most bypass patients become lactose intolerant and it definitely wasn't my personal experience with dairy. In fact, the majority of the foods I ate early out (baked potato soup, Greek yogurt, protein shakes) all have dairy and I didn't have any issues.
  6. Muscle Mass

    My ex-husband is an amateur bodybuilder and my current boyfriend is a former athletic trainer, plus one of my best friends is a personal trainer and from everything they've told me and I researched on my own (I've spent a lot of time reading peer reviewed studies and books by exercise physiologists), it's pretty difficult to gain muscle while losing fat (well unless you're using steroids, but that a whole 'nother can of worms). There's a reason bodybuilders go through bulking & cutting cycles. So basically, in a nutshell, you have to pick your poison. Right now, my suggestion would be to focus on losing fat (WLS is basically an extreme cutting cycle if you look at it in bodybuilder terms). So eat lean & clean. Work out, take in lots of protein (those premier protein shakes are great if you like the taste, but everyone has their personal preference), and try to maintain your muscle mass as much as possible. If you gain a little muscle along the way, then great, but if you can even just maintain your muscle mass while dropping 100 pounds, you'll be totally ahead of the game. In regards to other supplements, there are some that do work, but I wouldn't suggest you put your energy into those right now. They're not the kind of stuff you take lightly. You have to be careful about possible liver damage, stressing your heart, etc depending on which supplements you're talking about so I really wouldn't encourage you to even consider going down that road until you're already in really good physical condition.
  7. To echo everyone else, you're a week out! If you're hitting your fluid goals, you're doing amazing. Walking doesn't even need to be on your radar right now. Like @BurgundyBoy said, I didn't exercise at all until I reached my goal weight. I was straight up exhausted for the first 6-8 weeks after surgery. Just doing normal daily activities wore me out, so exercising wasn't even worth considering. Then once I got my energy back, I thought a lot about how we all have finite amount of willpower and I decided to focus my energy (and willpower) on keeping my diet on track. Additionally, I didn't want my "normal" caloric intake to be based on that of an active lifestyle. Once I hit goal, I did start working out, but because I'm used to eating less, I have to consciously eat more when I'm trying to gain muscle. And when I take time away from the gym (like this week), I just go back to my "normal" way of eating. All this to say, if you're too tired to exercise right now, then don't. Focus on healing and getting used to your new way of eating. The exercise can come later and likely it won't hinder your progress in the meantime.
  8. Hi! New Here!

  9. Getting sick before surgery?

    I go a more homeopathetic route (no flu shot for me personally) so I'd suggest the following: Elderberry syrup. I swear by it. If you can find it, use the tincture (it's more potent than the syrup with less sugar & calories). I love the Nature's Way brand. Also, Zyrtec nasal swabs and boost your zinc and vitamin c intake and make sure you're taking your multivitamin daily so that your immune system is as strong as possible.
  10. Stressed!

    I don't have any experience, but from my understanding revisions have a higher complication rate than first time WLS. Not that that provides much comfort when you're watching your friend go through it all. What calmed my mind pre-op was that I was relatively low risk going into surgery (as it looks like you are) and, the healthier you go into surgery, the less likely you are to have complications after.
  11. Sleeve Surgery Newbie

    I didn't have one either. My surgeon specifically told me she wasn't going to insert a catheter and instructed me to empty my bladder right before surgery. I don't see why she would tell me that and then do differently and not mention it post-op
  12. Options

    Will he eat a veggie or fruit platter with dips (yogurt for the fruit, hummus or something similar with the veggies)? That would be easy to put out and let him munch on. Also, not sure if it would work for you, but I tend to buy treats/snacks for my kids that I don't like, but they do. Then I'm not as tempted to eat them. Any snacks he likes that you're "meh" about?
  13. Don't know what to eat!

    @Trish1967, fwiw, I never ate 1000-1200 calories during active weight loss. I eat that now (some days more), but I'm also burning 500-800 calories in the gym 6 days a week. I think, as long as you're feeling ok and the weight is coming off, stick with what you're doing. My doctor was very happy with how I ate for my first year post-op and I never went over 800 calories a day until I hit goal. Just my experience...
  14. Me vs. the SCALE

    Not sure if I should be jumping in here since I had gastric bypass, but I'm going to chime in (and you can totally tell me to butt out, if you'd prefer). Also, I'm half-asleep so if I sound short or snarky at all, I completely apologize. My thoughts: 1) my doctor did not want me eating that frequently. I was to stick to 3 (small) meals a day. Eating 5 times a day would have been considered "eating around the pouch" (eating small amounts, but too often) by my surgeon's standard 2) from what you described, you're eating a lot more than I ever ate during active weight loss, much less at 2.5 months post-op. I'd really be interested to hear about a typical day in more detail (with measurements, what exactly is in the salad, etc), because off the top of my (sleepy) head, it sounds like you're probably eating at least 1200 calories (is that lunch all one meal? Or are you describing 2 different meals?) which, while it's low by normal standards is a lot for that early out post-op IMHO. 3) no nuts, no dried fruit, no granola bars, etc (or at least super minimal amounts, measured and tracked) during active weight loss. Those are calorie dense and can add up quickly. The foods you & Gretta mentioned (jerky, protein bars, etc) can be great, but you really have to watch your portions because the calories can add up. 4) the only time you should be drinking anything with calories is as a meal substitute. Protein shake in lieu of lunch? Great! Protein shake in addition to lunch (or 30 min after)? Nope. I'm not sure where the 120 cal drinks you mentioned come in, but I just wanted to encourage you to be aware of when you're drinking caloric liquids since they're an easy way for calories to sneak in. 5) Measure and weigh everything, then track it all. It's hard to gauge how many calories you're getting from your descriptions above and, particularly since you're eating so often, the calories could easily creep up. 6) WLS doesn't save us from keeping track of what we eat. I don't track on MFP, but I do keep a running tally in my head and weigh myself daily. I honestly don't know anyone of a normal healthy weight who doesn't keep track of their food in some way. Even people who have never struggled with weight issues. The only people I know who don't at least keep mental tabs on what they eat are overweight. 7) for a "normal" meal during active weight loss, I'd eat a P3 pack (those were the only nuts or chocolate I ever touched during active weight loss) *or* 1 string cheese & 2.5 oz carrots w/ 2 tbsp of homemade ranch dip *or* a high protein slimfast drink (I can't stand other protein shakes). My meals were typically 180-200 calories and I ate 3 times a day. That was it. I didn't work out until I hit my goal weight (I didn't want to get used to eating more because working out made up for the extra calories). Now, I'm in maintenance and I have more wiggle room in my diet, but I'm also in the gym 6 days a week, 1-2 hours a day minimum. So anyway, those are my thoughts and experience. Feel free to take it or leave it.
  15. Hello All