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About amandr

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  • Birthday September 11

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    Richmond, VA
  • Interests
    Reading, hiking, adventuring, exploring, travel, cooking
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  • Surgeon
    Dr. Eliseo Bautista
  • Hospital
    Bon Secours St. Mary's
  • Height (ft-in)
  • Start Weight
  • Current Weight
  • Goal Weight
  • Surgery Date
  • Surgery Type
    Vertical Sleeve

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  1. 5 month update

    You look great! Shout out to a fellow corgi owner too!
  2. Thanks for the advice everyone! I called my doctor and they said I shouldn't worry about it because I am not showing any other symptoms ( extreme fatigue, coughing, high blood pressure) but said if it continues I can go ahead and schedule a sleep study. I probably will just to be safe! Thanks for making me be rational!
  3. Hi y'all. I'm pre-op and have been lurking on here for a while. If everything goes well I should be getting sleeved in about 4 months. I (thankfully) don't take medications and don't have any documented co-morbidities. BMI is at 42 right now. Well, recently my husband has been telling me I'm having "gurgling snores" when I sleep on my back. I normally NEVER sleep on my back and am a side/stomach sleeper, but our mattress is terrible, so recently I've been waking up in the middle of the night because my back is in crazy pain--and the only way to make it feel better is to sleep on my back. Of course I looked up gurgling snores and from what I can tell it is possibly a sign of sleep apnea. Yikes. I don't really have any other symptoms of sleep apnea and since this is infrequent and not a normal sleeping position for me I wonder if it's even worth getting checked out. I know sleep apnea is usually treated by losing weight, and since I'm on track to have WLS soon it doesn't even seem worth it to go through the rigmarole right before I have surgery. I should probably go and talk to my doctor, but it seems really unnecessary right now. Should I just shut up and go or just leave it alone and see if it persists after we get a new mattress/I lose weight?
  4. Upper Endoscopy, anyone?

    I'm late to the party on this one, but I had my EGD last December and it was a breeze! I was all nervous about it too, but I was in and out of there in about an hour. They knocked me out for only about 10 minutes. It was super easy! I absolutely do not like being put under, but this procedure was so quick and simple it didn't matter.
  5. I'm pre-op, but I've been logging my food for the past six months. I used MFP at first and it's great, but I recently (within the last week) switched to LoseIt and I like it a lot more! It's way less finicky about adding exercise, which is what I hated about MFP. I don't have a FitBit (looking into getting one) but I use Google Fit on my phone which tracks my steps. Lose it works so much better with Google Fit than MFP did. I also enjoy the graph view of weight loss that LoseIt has versus MFP. Just depends what you like!
  6. Good WLS blogs or video blogs?

    Clusie is by far my favorite WLS youtuber. She's hilarious and very honest. Also, FIghting 400 is a new one I've been watching. He's super motivational and adorable: Rock's Kitchen hasn't been updated in while, but he's got some great cooking and motivational videos:
  7. Pre-Op marriage counseling?

    Thank you both for such great reassurance. Like you I have read so much about how divorce runs rampant after WLS and that's the last thing either of us want. Needless to say it did freak me out too. I feel much better now.
  8. Pre-Op marriage counseling?

    Steph what amazing advice! Thank you so much for sharing. That was really wonderful and very inspiring!
  9. Are you afraid to get to your goal weight?

    Thank you. I usually can roll with things pretty easily, I think me being overweight is really the only constant thing about me--so I don't want to say I'm clinging to that, it's just....disturbingly familiar and comfortable, I don't want to end up with transfer addiction or be a failure. I guess I just have to continue being honest with myself and trust my family and friends to keep me in check. It's exciting and scary at the same time.
  10. Are you afraid to get to your goal weight?

    I think where a lot of my fear lies is in the unknown for me. I've been overweight my ENTIRE life. I absolutely do not have memories of being normal-weight. What is it going to be like? How am I going to be different? Will my friendships fall apart? How will my relationship with my family be different? My husband? Myself? I feel pretty confident about who I am and like myself now--other than being obese. I'm used to this body. Am I now going to be ultra self conscious when I'm thin? Will I not like who I become? These are the things I'm afraid of. Oh, and of course, me getting just a small taste of it and regaining everything back like I have time and time again. You know, nothing major.
  11. She definitely sounds like she's got some MAJOR self-esteem issues if she's that competitive all the time. I'm totally with everyone here--get this woman out of your life. Which I know is crazy hard, but If you have fond memories and no fond present, just keep the memories and move on. Personally, I would have a talk with this woman and tell her my feelings. Let her know that she's a huge source of negativity in your life even though you do care about her and her family. Wish her the best and maybe see her every once in awhile. Friends don't compete with each other, they support each other. That doesn't mean surround yourself with sycophants, because you need people around you to tell you hard truths and to challenge you, but friends are family you choose. If you value yourself, you'll spend time with people who also value you and can add to your happiness, not detract from it. Best of luck!
  12. Hey all, Wanted to get a general feel for how everyone's experience went. I know every relationship/marriage is different so I'm not necessarily asking for a definitive answer, but to get a sense of how things worked out for you. My husband and I will be married 4 years this April, and we've been together almost 9 years. He's very supportive of my decision to have WLS and has been wonderful through this pre-op process. He's also overweight but not enough to be considered for WLS surgery, so he's currently working on diet/exercise and sees my WLS as a benefit to his lifestyle change as well. We are really solid, communicate well, and haven't had any major issues. We've both overcome personal challenges since we got together in college and have grown really strong because of it. I don't foresee us having any huge problems after I have surgery, but that's the thing--who does? I have no idea how I'm going to change, both physically and mentally and I fear our relationship may suffer, even though it's not founded on anything now. We've never gone to couples therapy, we try to talk everything out before it becomes an issue, so I wanted to see if any of you--particularly those who had a perception of your relationship being strong and healthy--went to couples counseling before you had WLS and if it was helpful for you. If you didn't go and still feel like you have a great marriage, did you do anything special to help through your transition? Thanks!
  13. Out at work? very close workplace

    Unfortunately, there's no correct answer here and it all depends on you and how you want it to go. Some people are really private about WLS, others (like me) are an open book about it and don't feel like it's something that needs to be hidden about themselves. It comes down to how you want things to go. Are you a person who could be potentially hurt by comments about your new appearance? How do you deal with prying questions about yourself? Personally, I have a pretty thick skin and feel like people are either being supportive, curious, critical, or jealous. The first two I'm happy to engage with, the last two I couldn't care less. I work in a super small workspace (at a university--I see the same 6 people every day) so there's no way I'm going to be able to hide a huge weight loss. I decided to be open about it if somebody asks. You control the information, so if you want to go all out, or just tell people the beautiful line I saw on here...I think it was "I'm following a doctor prescribed diet and exercise program" shut them down, that's fine too. Just do something you are comfortable with.
  14. I'm not post-op, but I recently stop putting sugar in my coffee and only use half & half. What helped me was to get an intensely flavored coffee, not just regular ol' folgers. Coconut, cinnamon, chocolate--the taste of the coffee itself was good enough paired with the creamer I now can't stand sugar in my coffee, it's way too sweet. I hope that helps! You can do it!
  15. 30 Second Chew Podcast

    Awesome! Good luck and I can't wait to listen.