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About amandr

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  • Birthday September 11

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    Richmond, VA
  • Interests
    running, camping/hiking, books (mostly sci-fi or fantasy), going to concerts, road trips, movies, tabletop RPGs, video games, my dog, and baseball
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  • Surgeon
    Dr. Eliseo Bautista
  • Hospital
    Bon Secours at St. Mary's
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  • Body Mass Index (BMI)
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  • Surgery Type
    Vertical Sleeve

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  1. From the album Pre-Op Photos

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  5. Thank you both for such great reassurance. Like you I have read so much about how divorce runs rampant after WLS and that's the last thing either of us want. Needless to say it did freak me out too. I feel much better now.
  6. Steph what amazing advice! Thank you so much for sharing. That was really wonderful and very inspiring!
  7. Thank you. I usually can roll with things pretty easily, I think me being overweight is really the only constant thing about me--so I don't want to say I'm clinging to that, it's just....disturbingly familiar and comfortable, I don't want to end up with transfer addiction or be a failure. I guess I just have to continue being honest with myself and trust my family and friends to keep me in check. It's exciting and scary at the same time.
  8. I think where a lot of my fear lies is in the unknown for me. I've been overweight my ENTIRE life. I absolutely do not have memories of being normal-weight. What is it going to be like? How am I going to be different? Will my friendships fall apart? How will my relationship with my family be different? My husband? Myself? I feel pretty confident about who I am and like myself now--other than being obese. I'm used to this body. Am I now going to be ultra self conscious when I'm thin? Will I not like who I become? These are the things I'm afraid of. Oh, and of course, me getting just a small taste of it and regaining everything back like I have time and time again. You know, nothing major.
  9. She definitely sounds like she's got some MAJOR self-esteem issues if she's that competitive all the time. I'm totally with everyone here--get this woman out of your life. Which I know is crazy hard, but If you have fond memories and no fond present, just keep the memories and move on. Personally, I would have a talk with this woman and tell her my feelings. Let her know that she's a huge source of negativity in your life even though you do care about her and her family. Wish her the best and maybe see her every once in awhile. Friends don't compete with each other, they support each other. That doesn't mean surround yourself with sycophants, because you need people around you to tell you hard truths and to challenge you, but friends are family you choose. If you value yourself, you'll spend time with people who also value you and can add to your happiness, not detract from it. Best of luck!
  10. This Saturday I'm running my first timed race since November 2015. I'm doing a 10k! I haven't run in what seems like forever. Lately I've been focusing on weight training and getting my cardio from swimming. This should be interesting, Thankfully I'm not putting too much pressure on myself for a specific time since this will be, I think, my 4th or 5th 10k. It feels good to get back into races though. Weather should be good!

    1. Zen_Steph


      Awesome. Have a blast! I was so scared my first time in a timed race, but it was fun just to get out and move. Now, I'm itching to do my next half marathon. Also, remember this: whether you finish in 20 minutes or an hour and a's all the same distance. It's still an accomplishment. Best of luck to you! :) 

  11. Hey all, Wanted to get a general feel for how everyone's experience went. I know every relationship/marriage is different so I'm not necessarily asking for a definitive answer, but to get a sense of how things worked out for you. My husband and I will be married 4 years this April, and we've been together almost 9 years. He's very supportive of my decision to have WLS and has been wonderful through this pre-op process. He's also overweight but not enough to be considered for WLS surgery, so he's currently working on diet/exercise and sees my WLS as a benefit to his lifestyle change as well. We are really solid, communicate well, and haven't had any major issues. We've both overcome personal challenges since we got together in college and have grown really strong because of it. I don't foresee us having any huge problems after I have surgery, but that's the thing--who does? I have no idea how I'm going to change, both physically and mentally and I fear our relationship may suffer, even though it's not founded on anything now. We've never gone to couples therapy, we try to talk everything out before it becomes an issue, so I wanted to see if any of you--particularly those who had a perception of your relationship being strong and healthy--went to couples counseling before you had WLS and if it was helpful for you. If you didn't go and still feel like you have a great marriage, did you do anything special to help through your transition? Thanks!
  12. Unfortunately, there's no correct answer here and it all depends on you and how you want it to go. Some people are really private about WLS, others (like me) are an open book about it and don't feel like it's something that needs to be hidden about themselves. It comes down to how you want things to go. Are you a person who could be potentially hurt by comments about your new appearance? How do you deal with prying questions about yourself? Personally, I have a pretty thick skin and feel like people are either being supportive, curious, critical, or jealous. The first two I'm happy to engage with, the last two I couldn't care less. I work in a super small workspace (at a university--I see the same 6 people every day) so there's no way I'm going to be able to hide a huge weight loss. I decided to be open about it if somebody asks. You control the information, so if you want to go all out, or just tell people the beautiful line I saw on here...I think it was "I'm following a doctor prescribed diet and exercise program" shut them down, that's fine too. Just do something you are comfortable with.
  13. I'm not post-op, but I recently stop putting sugar in my coffee and only use half & half. What helped me was to get an intensely flavored coffee, not just regular ol' folgers. Coconut, cinnamon, chocolate--the taste of the coffee itself was good enough paired with the creamer I now can't stand sugar in my coffee, it's way too sweet. I hope that helps! You can do it!
  14. Awesome! Good luck and I can't wait to listen.
  15. That is some intense requirement to give them your daily food log! I am also pre-op and I don't have anything nearly as strict--however I do track daily via MFP just to keep myself accountable and get ready for post-procedure food tracking. I'm not sure if your insurance will deny you outright if you have one bad day in six months, you should contact them to get the specifics about their requirements so you can stick to them. That being said, you really need to stop eating fast food. Try your best to meal plan, if you have to get something quick, make sure you compensate for your calorie count the rest of the day and try to stay away from the worst offenders. Learn how to cook if you can--a fast food diet is not going to be sustainable post surgery and you want to set yourself up for success. It has helped me a lot to get into the mentality that this pre-op period is all about mental transformation and preparation for the coming physical changes. Lying to ourselves about what food we eat, cheating, and not facing the eating disorder demon head on is only going to cost you dearly later down the road. Stay strong and commit yourself to positive changes. Good luck! I know it's tough, especially when you are still physically able to eat whatever you want and how much you want, but you can do it if you are honest with yourself and really want to change yourself for the better.