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About Jabsie

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  • Surgeon
    Dr. Namir Katkhouda
  • Hospital
    USC - Keck Medical Center
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  • Surgery Type
    Vertical Sleeve

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  1. Relationship Trouble?

    Most of us worry about how our weight loss will change our relationships. Many folks on the other side of WLS will tell you that the issues they had with their partner didn't disappear after, or because of, their surgery. In many cases their weight loss magnified their relationship issues. Your lifestyle and priorities will change dramatically post op. The fact that your GF is able speak honestly about her insecurities is a very good thing. Saying that your weight loss won't change things between you and your GF is a really nice thing to say but I suspect you both know this is not true. With a physical transformation also comes an emotional one and this can be challenging to traverse within a relationship. Rather than saying your weight loss won't change things, perhaps try some of these: My body may change post op but my principles will not. I'm not sure how I will change after surgery or how others will react to those changes, but I do know that I love you. What I'm about to do is going to be very hard. I can't think of anyone better to help me get through it than you. Your support means the world to me. I have no control over other people's behavior but I can promise you that I will never give you a reason to distrust me. I'm so sorry you're feeling scared and sad about this. What can I do to help? Here's the good news; you guys are talking about it. There's a lot of people who are not able to do that. Instead they act jealous and even try to sabotage the efforts of their partners. My hubby and I went to couples counseling before my surgery to work through some of the issues that could be compounded by the changes the surgery would bring to my life. I am so glad we did. It made a HUGE difference and even 2 years out, we're still experiencing the benefits of it. My best advice; try your best to keep ahead of this. Continue to talk about things ahead of time. Best of luck!
  2. dry mouth....bad breath....

    Yup, this ^
  3. Maintenance Time

    Awww yes...hip bones :-) Congrats my friend!
  4. I'm alive!!!!

    Happy to hear! Congrats!
  5. Little surprise victories...

    1 Toilet, 1 bowling ball, 1 chihuahua, and 4 guinea pigs.
  6. People range from genuine concern, to curious, to nosy. There isn't much that can be done about that. Just do you, be as tight lipped as necessary, and move forward. You'll have a new life after your surgery so there'll be lots of positive things to focus on. On a separate note, if you shared something with your supervisor in confidence and they shared something with others you specifically asked them not to, this is a problem. I'd recommend talking to them asap, make sure they understand that you are very private about this, and stress to him/her that they respect respect and maintain that privacy.
  7. Learning Still

    So sorry to hear that you had to go through that as a child. It sounds like you have a rock at home which can really help a lot. Best of luck to you.
  8. Do you take body measurements on top of weighing yourself? With the amount of heavy lifting you're doing you could be putting on muscle AND losing fat. I too am a fan of weight training and noticed, especially early out, that there were weeks where I lost inches but not pounds. If you see no change on the scale but do in your body measurements, this would be a good indication that you are indeed losing fat. I'm 2 years out too and doing my best to fight the good fight too :-) Best of luck.
  9. How much protein?

    It depends on a few things like how much you exercise and your age and gender but my nutritionist says 60g is the standard for adult women.
  10. Well that didn't go well....

    I know fun and that sounds nothing like it!
  11. What Does Everyone Do For A Living?

    ...international woman of mystery.
  12. Two truths and a lie.

    I totally get it and understand why you responded the way you did. Although I am acutely aware of the social stigma associated with WLS, I'm not ashamed about my decision to have it and never wanted to lie to anyone. However, I'm a pretty private person when it comes to medical things and really dislike being fussed over. I decided prior to surgery that I was going to be selective about who I told. So the question then became, how do I answer questions in a way that is honest yet still preserves my privacy? This is what I came up with: We'd like to assume that everyone's inquiries come from a place of concern or genuine interest but we all know some folks are just plain nosy or gossipy. I would have to gauge in the moment the intention behind people's questions. Typical questions: Q: 'Wow you look amazing! How did you do it?' A: 'I went on a coffee and cigarette diet and the weight just flew off!!!' (you'd be surprised how long it takes some folks to realize this is a joke). After a little chuckling, I just say 'A couple of years ago I got really serious about getting in control of my health. Let's face it, knowing what to do isn't really the problem...it's the doing it that gets us tripped up. I made a lot of good decisions after that and here I am!' That usually is enough to sooth their curiosity. Q: (from work people who I had to tell I was going to be out of work for a couple of weeks) Is everything ok? A: Yes, everything is fine. I have to have a routine medical procedure. I'll be back after that. Inevitable follow up Q: What procedure are you having? Is it serious? A: It's a standard procedure, nothing life threatening. Occasional additional follow up: Q: What procedure? A: Thank you so much for being concerned about me. I'm actually really private about medical things but I promise this is all routine. Than I change the subject. Weather I told them or not, I'm sure there are people who connected the dots and either assumed or figured out that I had the surgery. There really isn't much I can do about so I just have to let it go.
  13. I hit the 100 lb loss mark this morning!

    What an incredible accomplishment! Congrats, this is wonderful news!
  14. Gym?

    I added working out as a part of my 6 month pre-op requirement. Once I was cleared to do so by my surgeon (which for most I think is 6 weeks), I went back to the gym. As others have noted, walking on either a treadmill or outside, is encouraged immediately post-op for healing so I did this as much as I could tolerate. It's hard to know how much it will take to get fatigued so my only suggestion is to pay really close attention to what your body is telling you. All my medical professionals encouraged me to exercise for the health benefits and not as a means to manage my weight. I've since come to understand and appreciate this; weight loss is about food, not fitness. I exercise for all the other reasons, and as much as I hate doing it, I must admit I really love the results. I could give you a bunch of tips about the gym but at the end of the day, the best exercise is the one that you'll actually do.....consistently. Best of luck!
  15. The concerned voices are starting to irritate me.

    Aside from WLS, the only other time people typically lose this much weight so rapidly is when they're sick. As annoying as it is, I suspect their concern comes from a place of love. Your current weight may take them a while to adjust to. It will be normal to them eventually.