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About lightenupwoman

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    Dr. Morales
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  • Surgery Type
    Vertical Sleeve

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  1. You look so happy and peaceful!
  2. Thanks so much!
  3. Thanks everyone! I was going to put up a before picture but I just can't even stand looking at it.
  4. It feels great! I really can't believe how long I was over weight. I feel like this is the real me.
  5. I'm sorry to hear about your husband. My ex is a trans person. I think right now he's hanging out in "gender fluid" territory. It's been a really hard year for me to say the least. I wish he had been honest with me about not wanting to be in my life after the divorce but he couldn't be honest with me about being trans either. He hasn't wanted to change pronouns or his name or anything yet. He's still a "he", he just wears make up and female jewelry and some female clothes and then goes out dressed fully as a woman on the weekends as far as I know.
  6. Hopefully this works this time! This was a few weeks ago.
  7. Thanks. I should also add that my skin looked awful for about a year. It's still not great, but not horrible. It's not anything that insurance would cover. I'm totally ok with it. It's just me. I don't think for the most part it looks worse than someone who has had a couple of kids. I notice the arm skin when I'm wearing something sleeveless but I've had people tell me they can't tell, like they thought I just had normal skin. Maybe they need glasses. I'm not self conscious about it for the most part. Sometimes someone takes an action shot and I can see the skin flying and I'm like that's not going online but that's it. Depending on what I'm wearing when I sit I do have skin love handles but whatever. I'm wearing for a size 8 and have one size 6 dress that fits me. I just think at my age even if I had the time and money and support to get plastics I wouldn't.
  8. Thanks. I should also mention that right when I hit goal, within days, my then stepsons' mother died of an obesity related heart attack out of the blue a day before her 37th birthday. It just hit me that I did the right thing.
  9. Today is my three year mark! I reached goal about two years ago. And then got down to 168. Right now I'm at 174 but I think it's water. Anyway I need to get back on my fitness pal and track everything. I want to lose four pounds. The site won't let me upload a photo from my phone so I'll do it later. For those wondering if they should do it, I have to say this is the best thing I've ever done for myself. My life has changed in ways I couldn't imagine. I had chronic ankle pain that is 99% gone now. I didn't have comorbodities yet but I wanted to be live a long active life for my daughter. My blood pressure is lower. It was a but high at times but nothing that was chronic yet. My relationship with food is so different. At times I have to remind myself to eat. I really don't get hungry. I have head hunger sometimes just because it's lunch time or whatever but that's about it. I don't feel deprived at all. What I've seen in my more than three years here is that doing the emotional and psychological work before and after surgery is so important. You really need to know your triggers, know why you gained weight, what was food doing for you, what was being over weight doing for you? Then find ways to replace that. I enjoy the atmosphere and conversation when eating with others more than the food usually. It's just not the main focus anymore. I want to thank everyone here for all your support during my long approval process. It took two years and I had to switch surgeons and redo all my testing but it was so worth it. Unfortunately my marriage ended. I'm not sure it was directly related to losing weight but I think it had something to do with it. He told me before I moved out that he wanted to stay friends and support each other and I've spent the last six months coming to terms with the fact that he wants nothing to do with me or my daughter, so I have no support system. I'm making big changes in our lives to get more of a support system and to move to a different area just to get a new start. I wish everyone the best!
  10. You look great! Keep up the good work!
  11. They say if you have a strong married, the surgery makes it stronger, and if not it makes it weaker. I don't think I'm in a place where I want to date, I am enjoying my own company too much.
  12. I know this sounds really random, but do you watch This Is Us? I'm just wondering because if you do and you haven't watched the one from this week, I'd advise not watching it. Trust me. This is so amazing! I'm so happy for you!
  13. Mint tea is your friend when it comes to gas!
  14. I'm not sure if it is related to surgery, maybe it is? But I am divorced. I am really glad to see that so many people have such amazing relationships and supportive spouses. My ex was very supportive of my process to get insurance approval and my surgery. I think when I had the courage to take care of myself and be true to who I was in such a big way it might have given him the courage to be his true self as well. He is a gender fluid/trans person and I'm not a lesbian so we got a divorce. This surgery definitely has changed me in a big way, I don't even remember what I was like before.
  15. You lost 100 pounds in five months?!?!?!?! That's amazing! Your body is just trying to adjust. Twenty pounds a month is CRAZY good. Unheard of. So yes this might be the end of your crazy amazing twenty pounds a month loss. That doesn't mean that you are going to stop losing! I'm sure you know that the more you have to lose, the faster you are going to lose it. So you are now in the 200's so your loss is going to slow down some. And that's ok! I am almost three years out and I still weigh myself at least five times a week. I don't think there's anything wrong with it. I would recommend that you take measurements of your hips, waist, and bust. And measure again when you have stalls, because sometimes your body is just readjusting things and you will find that you lose inches in some areas even if you aren't losing pounds. Also sometimes our bodies just get used to eating the same things, and I found that eating something out of the ordinary helped break a stall. I have a sleeve so your experience might be different. I would make sure you are drinking enough water, getting enough protein and that you are getting enough good fat in your diet. Also sometimes if you are exercising and eating a lot of protein you can put on muscle really quickly. Good luck to you! Please don't freak out, the honeymoon phase usually isn't over for about a year, and even after that you can still continue to lose!