Stephtay

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  1. 4 years ago at this moment I was in the OR. It seems both like it's been just a few months and a lifetime. Today I'm wearing a medium top, medium pants, 4 inch heels and a bright orange handbag. 4+ years ago I was wearing size 20 or 22. I never would have carried a bright handbag as I would have felt like it would have been a spotlight on my chub. And heels - I stopped wearing them when I got over 240-ish. Too much foot pain for heels. Pre-op I was lucky and didn't have any weight related health issues, but I knew it was only a matter of time which is part of the reason I had surgery. Pre-op I made a list of things I wanted to do once I got the weight off and many of them I've done: run, get certified to scuba dive, ride roller coasters again, wear dresses on a regular basis, etc. What I didn't expect and couldn't have foreseen is how having WLS and getting my food addiction under control would impact so many aspect of my life. When I was fat and people asked me to stand with them at their wedding, I always declined as I didn't want to be the fat one in the photos or cram myself into some dress that would look terrible on me. I've stood up with two friends since WLS. In my fat years, while I was still active, somewhat athletic and social, I said "no" to various invites and activities more often that I realized. After I'd lost about 70 pounds I remember starting to say "yes" to nearly everything I was invited to or wanted to try. I realized in certain places I would figuratively wear armor to discourage people from making comments about my weight and protecting myself it they did. It was hard to be the fat one at the gym. Or on the beach/on the dance floor/in the kayak/on the ski slopes, etc. I spent a lot of time while in public trying to make my body smaller as not to bump into strangers on the bus, planes, in lines, weaving through crowds -- the list goes on. And, all the time I spent thinking about food. What to eat, when, how much, oops now I feel bad because I ate too much. Okay, this time I really mean it, the diet starts tomorrow. But, until then I'm going to keep eating xx until it is gone. I road this crazy roller coaster as a fat then thin and then fat again adult. All the tears I cried of frustration and shame. I have serious self-discipline. I smoked a pack a day for over 10 years and quit cold turkey - no meds, no patch, no smoking cessation aids at all while living with a smoker. If I was able to do that then why couldn't I control what I ate for more than a couple of days?! Finally, I admitted I was a food addict and slowly the pieces finally started to fall into place for me. Having WLS was just one of those pieces. I still love food and definitely enjoy it. But not with the all consuming love and need/desire I used to feel. I was happy before WLS but I'm much happier now. I had a great marriage before and it is even better now. Both people who know and don't know about my sleeve have remarked how more laid back I am since I lost weight. Yep, I no longer waste time fighting a mental battle with food and my body which in hindsight was exhausting. With the money I save on eating far less food that I did pre-op I've bought a closet full of clothes that I love in a variety of styles and colors! I've been able to travel more. The time I used to waste on food I now spend doing a variety of other things that contribute to my happiness - including exercise. 4 years out I don't think WLS was/is easy. But for me, is was far easier than all the years I spent losing and gaining. I think it is the easiest hard thing I've ever done. Last night I was thinking about how scared I was the day before surgery. And how I could still back out up until the moment they knocked me out. I had a vision of jumping off the table and running out of the OR! While I was scared that I wouldn't lose weight, what scared me the most was that I would miss eating the way I used to for the rest of my life. Thankfully I did lose the weight, keep it off and I don't miss the way I used to eat. Getting sleeved is the best decision I have ever made. Even better than marrying my husband and he is my most favorite person ever! Huge thanks to all that have shared their stories and inspired me. (And, to those who provided cautionary tales.) Reading the success stories from those who made it to goal were a huge inspiration to me. I felt like if that many people could do it and be happy, perhaps I could as well.
  2. Same thing happened to me. The surgeon another dr recommended to me had a waiting list of several months. So I went with the younger one with less experience. I LOVED her. She'd done hundreds of sleeves at that point (the other one had done thousands). After our initial consult, I ended up feeling really comfortable with her and I am glad I didn't wait for the other guy.
  3. My insurance required a 3 month supervised diet. I started the 3 months and during month 3 freaked out and decided "I would try one more time to lose the weight on my own." I gained 10 pounds that month. So, I had to re-start. I was really mad at the time. In hindsight, for me, it was the best thing that could have happened. I spent that 3 months jumping through the rest of the hoops and really working on the head stuff - how and why I allowed myself to get to fat in the first place. (And then lose it and gain it all back plus more.) I spent a lot of time trying to change my relationship with food. I am not someone who believes 'everything happens for a reason' so I certainly don't think that about my re-start (or yours.) Despite my frustrations and anger I chose to use that time to keep working on my food issues and I'm glad I did. Maybe I would have had the same success and outcome 4 years later but maybe not. Hang in there. Yes, 6 months is a long time and after you have surgery, you'll be at goal before you know it.
  4. I'm happy to share what did and didn't work for me. I asked a lot of questions in the beginning and even after I'd gotten to goal.
  5. Everything you listed. The main thing I had to learn to do was figure out handle whatever came my way without turning to food or another substance/habit to avoid the pain and/or process the anger. It took me a very long time to admit I was a food addict because I didn't abuse it every day. Not every meal was an uncontrolled free for all. For a long time I kinda had myself 1/2 convinced I just really loved food. Congrats on making the decision to get sleeved. You won't regret it!
  6. Sturgill Simpson - great cover of "The Promise"
  7. Lots of reasons to tell or not tell. I kept it mostly private because my health and body isn't anyone else's business. And, I don't enjoy talking about food. It seems when anyone is losing weight, people often want a play by play of their new "diet."
  8. I look for fiber too. Another option for fiber are psyllium husk capsules. I've been taking these daily for 10+ years. They add a few carbs but I don't worry too much about them.
  9. This is exactly what I do!
  10. Hope it went well! Keep walking and sipping and you'll be at goal before you know it!
  11. Congratulations on your loss - you are doing great! Love the shorter hair! In these two pics, I wouldn't know you were the same person!
  12. Welcome! Yes, you can be a vegetarian. I have been veg over 1/2 my life. I had surgery 4 years ago - no issues at all. You will have to plan a bit more in the early days but you'll be fine. You don't list your height but I went from 287 to about 180 when I was in my late 20's and I didn't have any loose skin. I did after I got to goal post-WLS but I was in my 40's and had spent most of my adult life fat. Loose skin really depends on the following factors: your age, how long you've been big, how big you were are your biggest and genetics. I had some of my loose skin removed but not all of it. Even if I wasn't able to have plastics, I would take all my loose skin and more over being fat for the rest of my life. Most people on TT have had a GREAT experience with WLS. Complications, death and the other worries that people have are rare. Don't believe the myths and urban legends about it WLS. Everyone knows someone's "best friend's co-worker's sister's cousin's husband who died in the OR." I call B.S. on 99.976% of those tales. WLS isn't easy but it is far easier than being fat and riding the insane lose/gain or gain/gain cycle that most of us were on pre-WLS.
  13. Congratulations! Follow your plan. Walk and sip. Don't stress too much about anything. You'll feel a little better everyday. If you get grouchy or feel emotional, that is part of the process and you'll soon feel like yourself again. But better because you'll be healthier and lighter!
  14. I found so many great recipes and idea on Eggface! Good for you!
  15. Most flavored yogurt has more carbs than protein because of all the added sugar. If you want flavored yogurt, buy plain greek yogurt and add your own flavoring. That way you can control how much sugar you are adding. Or, you can use sugar free sweeteners and flavorings.
  16. Welcome to TT and congrats on your sleeve date! I was sleeved on 9/19 nearly 4 years ago. Best decision I ever made. You'll be at goal before you know it!
  17. Thunderstruck - AC/DC Great song to run to!
  18. As others have said, I don't do low or fat free anything. Low carb is the way to go.
  19. Never, ever deny your great taste in music!
  20. Congratulations! You are an inspiration!
  21. Pre-op I read here "you cannot un-tell someone". I took this to heart and told very few people. My boss knows but he is my best friend and has been for 10 years. I knew he would keep it in the vault. At work I told people I was having a hernia repaired. Once I started losing people would ask me how I was losing weight, I answered honestly: eating high protein, low carb and working out like I was training for the Olympics. All was true - except for the Olympics part. I work for a very appearance conscious company. I work at the home office and of the 500+ people who work here, maybe 10 are obese? I know people here suspect I had WLS, including people on my team, but they can think whatever they want. My health and my body isn't anyone's business but mine. All that said, I applaud those who are open about their WLS. It helps to demystify it. I'm just not in that camp.
  22. Congratulations!
  23. Call your insurance company and see what you need to get it covered. I've heard people need to photograph their excess skin, document the rashes, measure how far the belly skin hangs down, etc. You can probably get a referral from your PCP. I was told it is difficult to get insurance to cover skin removal surgery so I didn't even try to get mine to cover it. Good Luck! Hope you are able to get your covered!
  24. Love Song - Tesla
  25. Hi Kim, Sorry to hear you need your knees replaced. My mom had both done at the same time. She was about 70. I think she spent 4 nights in the hospital. We moved her bed downstairs so she could be on the first floor while she recovered. I stayed for the first week. Within a few weeks she was back to her normal routine but without all the knee pain. She never regretted having the surgery or having both knees done at the same time. Good luck and please keep us posted!