Claire-in-Texas

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About Claire-in-Texas

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    TT Master
  • Birthday 03/17/1940

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  • Gender
    Female
  • Location
    Southeast Central Texas
  • Age
    74

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  • Height (ft-in)
    4-10
  • Start Weight
    236
  • Current Weight
    104
  • Goal Weight
    126
  • Surgery Date
    04/09/2007
  1. The Honeymoon Period

    Truly my pleasure! Claire
  2. The Honeymoon Period

    And YOU are awesome!!! Congratulations!
  3. The Honeymoon Period

    Yes! Had a lovely time in Las Vegas! It was a convention for Paparazzi Jewelry with a lot of R & R before and after! My suggestion to you is that you try not to analyze and think about how it will be after your surgery. You have no idea how you will feel, and it will be very different than anything you have experienced in the past. I suggest, for best results, to embrace it, accept it, and move forward with it. Take it as it comes. Follow your guidelines. It is really that simple. We humans tend to complicate things, but that's the best advice I can give you. It's right around the corner for you! How fabulous and exciting! Best, Claire
  4. The Honeymoon Period

    Hello Sunny! Please accept my apology for the long delay. I was in Las Vegas for almost two weeks, and I didn't look at my email! Shame on me! You raise a very good question. The honeymoon period is the period of time where your limited intake, and slow return to various foods (based on your doc's recommendations) cause you to start over again with habits. We have obviously had very poor ones, and this is the way the tool allows us to spend months developing far better habits (assuming we don't push the envelope). It is almost 10 years since my surgery. I weigh the same, give or take 3 or 4 pounds at any given time. Over the two weeks I was in Las Vegas, for business and pleasure, my mind and stomach caused me to seek out my beloved yogurt and fruit, chili, grilled hamburger without bun, etc. I had a scoop of ice cream during that time, and that was fine (no guilt), but I resumed my good food eating after that. As obsessed as I had been for decades about eating and eating, now I enjoy eating like a normal person, BECAUSE I ALLOWED MY EATING HABITS TO CHANGE OVER TIME. I am not suggesting you have only yogurt and fruit, chili, etc. What I am saying is that the food I found that was delicious and satisfying during the honeymoon period, remained with me. I have no idea when the end of that period was for me. It is a transition period. I slowed down weight loss after about 9 months, completed 130 lbs of total weight loss in 13 months. Here is the important thing to remember. We hear a lot about people gaining the weight back after this type of surgery. Keep in mind that the failure (a huge percent of the time) is in the human's desire to push the envelope, and not the tool. So therefore, go forward with tunnel vision, accepts that it works, and follow your guidelines to the letter Your slim and healthy body will thank you, and you will look wonderful! Best, Claire
  5. The Honeymoon Period

    Excellent commentaries and educational information. Claire
  6. The Honeymoon Period

    Hello, Gabriella! I'm just seeing your post, way past Thanksgiving! I'm not far behind you at 75, and I congratulate you on taking this journey. The older one gets, the more difficult the decision You have an excellent mind set, and you will continue to do well because of it. Best, Claire
  7. The Honeymoon Period

    Hello, and I'm so glad you reached out! From my experience (going on 9 years post op), the best thing you can do for yourself is to find a weight loss surgery group somewhere near you. If your surgeon has one, that would be the best. Even if it means traveling a distance, it will be worth it. You sound very alone in this process, and you will get relief from being with people of like minds and interests. Second, I suggest you go to a nutritionist to discuss your concerns on a personal level. It is so worth it - it gave me a clear road to follow, and I am still at my lowest weight. I still follow the nutritionist's guidelines - they were very explicit. If your surgeon has one in his/her practice, that is the one to go to. If not, perhaps they can refer you to one. If you have already seen one, visit her/him again. Speaking for myself, it is not possible to determine whether you are on the right track with your food or not. And keep in mind this is a mental battle just as much as a physical one. If you FEEL out of control, you likely are (my opinion). I wish you the very best! Claire
  8. The Honeymoon Period

    Molly, you are so very welcome - and I do think that you and I are indeed very similar in perspective. Maybe I'm just more used to it, with all the passage of time. Best, Claire
  9. The Honeymoon Period

    Molly, I agree totally! Your perspective was mine exactly after 2 years or so post op. Now, at past 8 years post op, and at my lowest weight (the best weight for me), my perspective is a bit different. As I look back, I realize how we humans tend to complicate tasks, easy and difficult ones. I agree this is an overwhelming task at first - a trauma to the body and the mind. BUT At first I put blinders on, had tunnel visions. A food addict all of my life, with yoyo dieting, I saw this as my last chance, at 67 (I'm now 75). What the first year did for me - it caused me to form habits that would cause me to lose weight, and then maintain it. I was determined. It was the most difficult thing I have ever done, for sure. After the first year, I was still a bit shaky, and so focused on what I ate that I made myself and everyone else crazy. Over time that softened (at least it appears so - I'm still relentlous).. Eight years post op, it's just who/what I am. My message here is that we tend to over analyze and become paralyzed and so stressed in this journey. It's only natural. I totally agree with you, Molly, that it isn't about going off the wagon and then dieting like crazy. Here is what I do. I go "off the wagon" in a calculated way. For example, I had Chinese Food (yes, the fried kind) recently. The next day I simply went back to my normal eating habits. I never even thought about "dieting"- I just started to do what I do as far as food inake that I normally do. Never diet. That's what normal for me. That is what thin people do. And to consider myself with the mindset of a "thin person" is unbelievable for me, a lifelong foodaholic. So here it is - take each day, one at a time. Follow guidelines. Drink lots of water. Laugh a lot. Reach out to others (sometimes people who didn't know you obese are better than those who judged you before). Surround yourself with positive people, people who encourage you. Express gratitude for the opportunity that this tool has given you. AND DON'T OVERTHINK. And one more thing...yesterday is GONE. Today and the future are what matters. It's not too late. For the lovely lady who is in so much pain who recently posted, my heart goes out to you. And I agree that professonal help is called for. With compassion, Claire
  10. The Honeymoon Period

    I don't know if I mentioned this here on T-T, but I'm a Certified Master Life Coach, and my mind went to my professional self when I read this post. You don't have to answer t his, of course, but I'm interested to know how this thread is helping you. I am so sorry that you are feeling such despair. C.
  11. The Honeymoon Period

    RIGHT ON! Best, Claire
  12. The Honeymoon Period

    Karina, I feel your pure JOY! I remember feeling this - I remember it very well. I still feel it to a degree. It truly is a joyful experience when you simply "get it." And when you "get it" now, you will definitely evolve to a comfortable life style change. Your powerful tool of gastric bypass will assist you and guide you, since you "get" what it is all about. It's new now, and it will evolve to good eating habits! I don't get on the scale often, but when I do, I pat myself on the back - I am so happy that I am a recovering food addict, a successful one! You go, girl!!! Best, Claire
  13. The Honeymoon Period

    Thank you for your kind words, Jo. In my opinion, giving yourself permission to go off the plan, even a little bit, at your stage, is failure waiitng to happen. Yes, I truly believe that. The stricter you are with what you eat, the stronger your good eating habits will be, and that is GOLD for your permanent success. Keep in mind that losing weight is the "easy" part. Keeping it off is a whole different ball game, and much harder. It is the HABIT that makes for a successful journey. Look for substitutes of food that you love. I love frozen yogurt, low calorie, protein enriched. Yummy. That's my go-to treat, and it is common for me to go to it more than once a day. Just an example. My own yardstick is calorie counting, and I know by heart the number of calories in the items I eat - combined with the nutritional/protein value. My habits changed 8 years ago - now there are tons of new items on shelves that are wonderful substitutes. Best of luck on this fabulous journey! Claire
  14. The Honeymoon Period

    You are so very welcome!!! You will never DIET again. You are changing your eating lifestyle. It's life-changing! Best, Claire
  15. The Honeymoon Period

    You are very welcome, and I'm so glad this thread is a tool for you! I wish you the very best as you begin new habits that will become regular habits and evolve to a more enjoyable lifestyle. I have to add something here of my own journey. I thought my clothes were a bit tight, and I got on the scale (which I seldom do), and YIKES, I saw that I had gained 7 lbs. I realized that I was just eating too much of the right things - no junk, just portions, obviously that were too big! I knew exactly what I had to do. I reverted back to the basics, and those 7 lbs were gone in 3 days, plus a half pound. It's an education in eating. And as I have said many times, here and elsewhere, I have never felt deprived. Best, Claire