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justawoman · 06-26-2007, 07:56 AM

Hello TT family,

Not sure if you anyone out there can help me with this one.....

Well I saw my OB doctor yesterday and was hoping for good news but of course not....He weighed me and said hmmmmmm you lost 4lbs in a week. I said ok let me explain something to you....I am throwing up daily, my nerves are shot. You promised to induce me on June 18th so that I would have my husband here and you didn't now my husband is gone and I am all alone with 3 children at the house, I am developing severe anxiety as my mind is going crazy as what I will do if I go into labor all alone with these kids. His response "I can't help that". I didn't make your husband go away...grrrrrr

So he then does the exam and says the head is very low but my cervix is still LONG......So he will not induce me.......I asked what his reasons are...The baby is a good weight and I am DUEEEEEEEEEE! He said because your cervix is long...I said ok I was induced with all of my other kids..They put the gel in and within hours I started labor and I did have to have the potcin but who cares...He said I can't risk it because your cervix is long you may be in labor a long time....I just don't get it...I sat there and cried.......I am sick to my stomach daily, I am developing another kidney infection and now my biggest problem.........I have severe external hemroids.....Any advice on how to help with the pain of external hemroids anyone? I haven't slept in days, I can barely sit, walk lay down. I have never had them before but man oh man do they hurt. And he didn't even say anything about these damn grape size hemroids I have that are killing me. His repsonse was this........Well if you don't have the baby by JULY 5th.....WHATTTTTTTT I will induce you the following week! NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO not what I want to hear. My other option is to sign off and refuse to have a vaginal delivery and go with a C-section...He said but then he is not responsible because I am refusing his advice of waiting for a vaginal delivery......So my question for everyone is this: What do you think? I am seriously thinking about the C-section now, so it is scheduled and I can get it done now and fax the info to my husband and he can come home. But I don't know if there is any worries with having a C-section after bypass?? Anyone???

So if anyone out there has any advice please let me know....I just don't know how much more I can take. I am so exhausted my kids are suffering, I feel like a terrible mom as I can barely care for them anymore.

Hemroid advice and C-section after bypass advice welcomed pleaseeeeeeeeee!

Thanks everyone

taleci · 06-26-2007, 08:54 AM

Renee,
I am so sorry you are having such a horrible time. Take a deep breath, and know that at a maximum, in a little more than two weeks you will be holding your precious little one.

Is there any chance that you can get a second opinion? It sounds like this doctor won't leave you with the warm fuzzies in the delivery room anyway. Do you have any family or friends that can come out to help with the kids?

For the other issues, do you have a general practitioner you can see? They can give you things for the hemorrhoids and perhaps offer suggestions so that you can get some rest. If you're more comfortable, maybe the waiting time would be easier.

If it were me, I would do anything at this stage not to have the C-section. As GBS patients, we have already had so much moved about and rearranged in our mid sections that I would try to let that be if possible. You may even want to contact your GBS surgeon to get his opinion.

Good luck with this and I hope the time passes quickly for you.
Leslie

SDeRossett · 06-26-2007, 10:25 AM

but, (my husband would have a fit if he knew I told this) my husband has external hemroids too. Have you tried any over the couter stuff like preperation H? They also have wet wipes for hemroids. Also, what about using a doughnut to set on, the ones at the pharmacies that they use for older folks who have a hard time setting? What about making one yourself with a rolled towel in a circle with the center open. At least it would relieve some of the pressure off that area. As far a the C-Section I had one actually 25 years ago today. I do remember that I felt very stiff and sore, and it took longer to be up and around (activity wise that is). Have you tried to help push your body into labor with activity such as walking, swimming etc? Other than that I really don't know what to tell you except maybe call a pharmacy and see if they can recommend something to help with the hemroids, and like stated earlier call your PCP and seek his advice on a C-Section. Let us know how things go.

Sharon

justawoman · 06-26-2007, 10:41 AM

Well..........I have tried the prep H wipes, creams the donut thing and nothing is working.........I am so frustrated........I finally got my OB to call me in a prescription for the hemroids so we shall see if that helps...I think if I was a bit more comfortable I wouldn't be so eager to go......ok maybe I would be. It has been a very hard journey as I am doing it alone. I am new to this area and don't know anybody and all of our family lives out of state. That is why this crazy doctor was suppose to induce me on the 18th because he knew the situation I was in. As far as a second opinion goes, nobody will touch me as I am DUEEEEE and with my gb everyone is scared! I am too far along now to switch doctors...Everyone I have talked with said this doctor is just being a jerk, maybe even a bit controlling. When it was up to him to induce he was all for it but now that I WANT IT he doesn't want to do it. So he is just making me suffer...Celebrities get induced every day for there own reasons...He knows the baby weighs over 8lbs and is healthy and I am past my due date so there is no GOOD reason not to induce me besides him being a jerk........

Well we shall see if this medication works........Will update as soon as I get it and try it!

And I have walked and done everything I can to get things moving and nothing....Even a motorcycle ride hasn't worked.....

LyndasRoom · 06-26-2007, 11:54 AM

Renee, I sure hope you get some help with the pain situation...my best pal is suffering a bout of them right now too...and she just cries...maybe try sitting on some ice...it would at least numb it...OB docs are funny...they have their own ways...when is your hubby due home? Can you make a game of it with your kids? PAMPER MOMMY is the game! They can bring you ice packs, be super quiet so you can get some rest...the donut is an excellent suggestion, try to get one when you pick up your prescription...Remember, this won't last long...hopefully you can get some help with those 'roids when you're in the hospital if they're still there. Deep cleansing breaths, hon...

Duckie · 06-26-2007, 12:27 PM

I have no advice, only hugs! {{{{{{{{{{{{{Renee}}}}}}}}}}}

justawoman · 06-26-2007, 12:46 PM

Thanks everyone........Well I just got the prescription and no relief yet but I just tried it so will give it some time...I have tried the ice and it gives me minimal relief.....Man oh man....It feels like I have a bowling bowl tied to my butt......Sorry TMI........So uncomfortable.........I have phoned my doctor and I am now seriously considering the C-section if he will due it this week...Waiting on his return call....

I don't know when my husband will be around, he is an engineer for the railroad so he can be anywhere at anytime. Right now he is on a job for 6 weeks that runs through Illinois to Wisconsin and I don't know where he will be at what time....He just can't jump off a train if I call him...Very hard situation.....His job will not allow him to just "take time off"...If I have a scheduled delivery with a note he can take unpaid maternity leave for 3 days but that is it.....That is why I am trying my hardest to have this scheduled out so I can at least have someone around......Well I will keep you all up to date and again thanks for the words of encouragement!

LQQkn · 06-26-2007, 12:59 PM

Hi I am sorry you are in pain, I had surgery to remove them years ago.. holy shit it was painful. I know that epsom salt baths sit on your donut in the bathtub and soak.. for as long as you can. I also recommend suppositories of prep H
that seems to help more than just applying the cream. Google and see if there is anything else you can do for them. Janie

sdgrrl · 06-26-2007, 01:13 PM

I have no words of wisdom, Renee, but IMO your OB is a prick. If littleman is already over 8 lbs, every week you don't deliver him he can grow 1/2-1 lb. That is a huge baby to deliver! Another reason for not waiting until you are way past due is that after the due date the placenta begins to deteriorate and not provide the baby with what he needs nutritionally. I could tell you a frighening story about a former coworker of mine whose neanderthal OB let her go almost 2 months past her due date, but I don't think it's necessary to inject any more tension into your situation.

I definitely agree with Lynda about the making of a game out of it. When I was pregnant with my son I developed a kidney stone, and at the same time my husband had to have an emergency appendectomy. We were a couple of sorry ass parents for awhile, so we made our 4 year old a nurse's cap out of paper, named her nurse Sarah, and asked her to take care of Mommy and Daddy. She did things like get us water from the refrigerator, read stories to us, put lotion on arms and legs--any little thing that gave us interraction with her and helped us too. She felt very special and needed, we didn't feel like we were ignoring her. It worked out pretty well. The ironic part is that after going to college and getting a business degree, working in business for several years, she decided to go back to school to become a......nurse!

She actually remembers that time and says it is one of the reasons why she'd like to be a nurse! We just never know when we're just living life or making a memory for our kids.

You can get through this, Renee. Can you afford to pay for a family member to come stay with you awhile? Have any teenage nieces who would be willing to be the 3 older kids' nanny for a month or so, giving you time to rest, not worry, have the baby and spend a little time with him without having to worry about neglecting the older kids? I bet it would set your husband's mind at ease also--I'm sure he is worried about having to leave you at this time, too. Just some ideas..

LyndasRoom · 06-26-2007, 01:36 PM

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Originally Posted by sdgrrl

When I was pregnant with my son I developed a kidney stone, and at the same time my husband had to have an emergency appendectomy. We were a couple of sorry ass parents for awhile, so we made our 4 year old a nurse's cap out of paper, named her nurse Sarah, and asked her to take care of Mommy and Daddy. She did things like get us water from the refrigerator, read stories to us, put lotion on arms and legs--any little thing that gave us interraction with her and helped us too. She felt very special and needed, we didn't feel like we were ignoring her. It worked out pretty well. The ironic part is that after going to college and getting a business degree, working in business for several years, she decided to go back to school to become a......nurse!

She actually remembers that time and says it is one of the reasons why she'd like to be a nurse! We just never know when we're just living life or making a memory for our kids.

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Donna, that is so sweet! It made me cry, I can just see your little sweetie in her paper nurses cap!