Good and Bad news! - ThinnerTimes

angellamccall · 03-08-2006, 01:49 PM

O.k. The Bad news 1st:
My second Insurance Co. will not pay the 20% co-pay I need them too! It is an exclusion no matter what. I swear these Ins. Companys are so stupid! Do they not get it? I would rather pay the 20% then fight for it and hold up my surgery. I am eternally grateful for my family that has said they will loan me the money without interest!!!!

The GOOD news,
My Dr. appointment today went well, bloodwork shows some things I was suprised to hear tho. My coloesteral is a little high, my blood sugar is normal, my vitamins are fine,etc. The took another blood sample tho because my thyroid is a little abnomal. Whatever this means? I hope it isnt something that holds things up. My thyroid has always been borderline for medication, I actually have taken it before for about a month and then had more bloodwork done and taken off the meds.

Also, because of my secondary Ins. co. denials that outraged my Dr.--She has given me the refferals I need to have the EEG and Sleep study done and paid for by this Ins. How dumb is it to pay for all these tests, all the aftercare, BUT REFUSE to help pay for the surgery?

So now I have the hurry up and wait game. I fill my time wondering how I am going to handle all the change in me. How do I handle feeling guilty for the time I am spending getting prepared for this surgery with all my travels out of town to Dr. visits? How can I make sure my Daughter who is overweight already at 5 is feeling ok with all of this? I worry about the time in the hospital that is 3 hrs away from home and family and mostly the time away from my kids during all of this.
My mom, BLESS HER, says "don't people die from this, I am going to put Life Insurance on you". She says this with what? Support, love, ???? She says she will be by my side thru it all and help my husband out with everything, but she just doesnt get "it". I know she is thinking of my kids if something happens to me so I will just try to see the brighter side of her ways.

Anyways just wanted to vent---Thanks for listening!!!
Angella

JohnsWife4Life · 03-08-2006, 04:15 PM

It all comes full circle when it is supposed to. Keep on keeping on, and it will happen! It took a full year for me to get to the other side. You will prevail at the Lord's time. Remember, He makes all things beautiful in His own time.

Good luck!

AngelsKisses · 03-08-2006, 07:35 PM

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Originally Posted by angellamccall

How can I make sure my Daughter who is overweight already at 5 is feeling ok with all of this? I worry about the time

Well luckily you have the chance to change things now when she is still young... You can change what ever eating habits she already has and help her make healthy decissions for later on in life... Good luck with everything!

sweetchristiangal · 04-12-2007, 09:19 PM

I had the same thoughts about my daughter.....but how would having a mother die from MO complications affect her. I did my research and our eating habits have done a 180. Just today we were running errands and needed lunch out. did we head to the local mcd's for a kiddie meal? NOPE. We went to the grocery store that has a suberb salad bar. We made a salad together to split it and each selected fruit to eat as well.

I hope to break the cycle of emotional eating w/ my daughter.

LisaBoston · 04-12-2007, 10:04 PM

Congrats on taking the life saving steps. Only YOU know if this is right for you. I went through so many emotions pre-op, always questioning what I should do, what if....the list when on. I did a pro/con list and it was stairing me right in the fact. I would die an early age, be limited that I couldn't do things with my daughter and family and who knows what medically....I was not going down a good path....BUT I am now, and setting agood example for my daughter.

20% co-pay and family to help you out is WONDERFUL. Lots of people are not in the postition to do/have this, you are lucky - take advantage of it and wishing you the best with your surgery.

JenBear7 · 04-13-2007, 05:12 AM

Congrats! I know 20% seems like a lot.. but.. wow, think of if you had to pay 100%! Your daughter, being only 5, will probably come out of this positively too... after all, we learn by example. If mom is making healthy choices, daughter will too. As far as the life insurance. Hey.. you wont need it NOW.. but its not a bad thing. I have life insurance, and I DONT have kids.. I just want my final expenses covered... just in case.

Again.. gratz!! and Good Luck to you!

mauldinmama · 04-13-2007, 06:07 AM

I completely understand how you feel, this is a long journey and it controls all your thoughts. I too felt like I am/was being selfish for allowing this to consume me but after getting some wonderful advice and support from friends and family and this amazing board I have made peace and I know this is the right decision.
Your daughter is young enough that this surgery should change both your lives. I wish you the best! Just remember this is for YOU! The benefits of that are endless and will filter to those around you!
As you know if there is anything we can do to help you as you prepare for surgery, just let us know!

Take care

CarlieGirl · 04-13-2007, 06:43 PM

Super good luck

rivercanyon · 04-13-2007, 07:46 PM

It sounds like you have a wonderful support system. I think sometimes we just have to take mothers for what their worth, they really do mean the best.

I honestly believe that your daughter will benefit from this surgery too. My daughter and I have had that discussion. A boy in her school class was diagnosed with diabetes and she talked about how his whole family would be eating differently and more healthy now. I told her it would be the same way when I have my surgery. Because I will be eating differently it would affect the whole family and how we all eat. Nothing wrong with a positive change in all areas of our lives.

It's not too late to become a positive example for our children.