i am nervous.. cant eat cant sleep - ThinnerTimes

ang! · 11-01-2005, 08:44 AM

as the day grows closer and closer i get excited ... but then get nervous.. i know i will be ok but i have never been in hospital nor go through a surgery without my boyfriend who just gave me the new that he was leaving me for another girl and i am just devestated now of all time this sucks.. this should be the happiest time in my life this is something i have been waiting for.. and he just gets up and walks away.... i am trying to be strong i really am.. but i am really happy i am getting surgery... just to much with all my boyfriend drama.. i mean 5 1/2 yrs down the drain pretty much... sorry to bor you all

feliciaespinoza · 11-01-2005, 08:58 AM

Honey....let me tell you something.....
"NO man is worth your tears and the one that is....Will never make you cry!"

You will do just fine I totally understand the whole happy, excited and nervous its almost like you dont know how you are suposed to feel. But you will do teriffic and as far as the boyfriend is concerned well let me tell you something he will want you once he sees you after your weightloss and then you can tell him Look ya Jacka** you didnt want me when I was heavy kiss my skinny a** cause ya cant have me now. You should have loved me the way I was cause you aint gonna love me now....geezz do I sound a little bitter?? lol Anyways honey stay strong sista and you will be fine.

ang! · 11-01-2005, 09:05 AM

thank you.. i just need friends and support from my family to get me through this.. thats what i tell myself every morning.. people really do love me and care about me, dont put yourself through this for him.. thank you again for your words of encouragement.

Brooke220 · 11-01-2005, 09:06 AM

I know it hurts, sweetie, but try to be really selfish now and focus on what the surgery is going to mean for your life. You are the most important person in your life now. You are facing a total life change and part of that change will be new opportunities for relationships and, yes, love if you want it. If possible, associate him with your old life -- and look forward to your new, brighter, healthier, and yes, happier, life.

Take care and keep the faith.

feliciaespinoza · 11-01-2005, 09:11 AM

All of this is for you and your new life you will be starting honey I was married for 10 years and talk about wasting time the best thing that came out of that marriage was my beautiful daughter but hell I could have saved myself sometime and got a sperm donor if I only knew then what I know now I could have been married to a real man, tuff it out and remember everything about this surgery is for and about you honey no one else but you, you will have a new life and a whole new body. Take care and I am here if you ever need support or need to talk you can PM me.

ang! · 11-01-2005, 09:24 AM

thank you i know that i need to be selfish right now.. and it is all about me but i think i was just used to him..and i am trying to get over that.. i tell myself everyday be strong.. thank you.. you really seem to care about me.. more than this a**hole ever did! and i really value that..

feliciaespinoza · 11-01-2005, 09:36 AM

Thats what we are all here for honey we all understand one another and have a few guys who like to participate and its nice to have the men jump in with thier opinions....aaahhh hemmm....men come out and give a response. Seriously though PM if you need support honey.

Gladitsme · 11-01-2005, 09:39 AM

Ang,
Sounds to me like you're better off without the jerk. That said, I'm really sorry for your loss. Can I find him and bitch slap him one for you??

Baron Patrick · 11-01-2005, 09:59 AM

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Originally Posted by ang!

as the day grows closer and closer i get excited ... but then get nervous.. i know i will be ok but i have never been in hospital nor go through a surgery without my boyfriend who just gave me the new that he was leaving me for another girl and i am just devestated now of all time this sucks.. this should be the happiest time in my life this is something i have been waiting for.. and he just gets up and walks away.... i am trying to be strong i really am.. but i am really happy i am getting surgery... just to much with all my boyfriend drama.. i mean 5 1/2 yrs down the drain pretty much... sorry to bor you all

Sweetheart, let me tell you one thing - most men are PIGS!! Not only is wls a change of life for you, it's also a test of those who love you, or you think they love you. He didn't want to deal with your surgery so he went out and found someone else. Just as well, you don't need that extra baggage hanging around!

I'm curious, is he obese as well? If so, he's probably in denial himself, and can't deal with the additional "stress" of having a girlfriend who is doing something for herself. Whatever the case, your much better off now. It's definately NOT 5+ years "down the drain", it was an investment that ultimately paid off - just not the way you expected. What if, you two married had a couple kids then he decided to skip?

Now, as far as this being the happiest moment of your life - IT IS! Don't let anyone take your joy and happiness away. This is for you, and look at the beautiful, prosperous future you have! No one can take that away from you, unless you let them!

Be happy and celebrate your new life!

ang! · 11-01-2005, 10:07 AM

baron no he is not obese.. he left for someone who is also obese.. i am thinking he is scared of what i am going to look like after surgery and that might of scared hime away.. bu thank you for the words of encouragment