Dyann

Ang,

Take a deep breath in and exhale. If he is not there for you after 5 years for a major surgery, then it probably has been over for a while. Forget about him and think about you. My little catipillar is about to become a beautiful butterfly. Not just on the outside, but you will grow emotionally because of all of this.
You are so young....AAHHHHH to be 26 again. For me 27 was the perfect age and you will be in your prime. Be selfish right now. You need this for yourself.
It is so hard for us. I don't know if being MO gives you the personality type of being the helper and support for everyone else. Maybe because you think you are not worthy of the support unless you nurture everyone so a little comes our way. He probably would not have been much help and would be a source of energy drain if he stuck around.
It does suck and you probably feel like the rug has just been pulled out from under you. Stay close to us and we will reassure you.
You are going to be great and you will strut your stuff soon enough!!!

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DYANN

Lap RNY 1/4/06....
46/19.8/23.5 BMI's 167.9 pounds gone forever as of 9/12/07 116.3%to goal

294.4/126.5/150
5' 7''
Jupiter, Florida
Dr. Jefferson Vaughan: GBP
Dr. P Duddly Giles: Plastic surgeon TT/BL 03.20.2007

HeatherT

dont you forget you are doing this for you - and next year when you are feeling GREAT and able to do more because so much weight will be gone melted away you will be turning heads and be able to really pick a man that will love you forever, not some jacka** you dont want someone like that to ruin the rest of your life be glad you found out now not after you were married with a couple of kids and hes been cheating on the family you have built together...be glad its over now and you didnt waste more time! keep your head up & remember we are here for you!!!

You will have a sucessful surgery and the weight will come off faster then you even can realize - i was laying in the holding room waiting to go into surgery saying to my mom that what if this surgery didnt work for me and i didnt lose any weight - well let me tell you that was 2 weeks ago and 22lbs ago - i am able to admit i was missing food a little yesterday and had a couple of bites of my daughters KFC chicken - i chewed chewed chewed till it was nothing and it still sat in my chest like a rock 2 hours later i tried to drink it hurt i tried ice chips it felt awful until i threw it all up - and today i do not miss food so much really i love my water today! so remember later down the road when you need us - we'll be here - you can always IM me too i am at home alone on the computer all the time...i have aol instant messanger as thetapia4 & yahoo instant messanger as thetapia4 so you can IM me anytime I am only a few weeks out ahead of you....

Keep your head up!

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Heather
244... / ........ 174......../ ......153.5........ /131... / .............125 ..../.......137
pre-op /1/06@3 months/ 4/06 @ 6 months/ 10/16/07 (1year) / my goal./current 8/29/07
LAP RYN 10/18/05 Dr Sanchez in San Francisco, CA
tummy tuck, lypo(removed 300cc from each flank and 350cc from tummy & breast argmentation 450 implant filled to 600cc on 8/23/07, Dr Sumida Folsom, ca

ang!

thank you so much.

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"FINALLY ON THE LOSING SIDE!"
DATE OF SURGERY:
11/03/2005
DR.MUELLER
437/363/?
POST OP/CURRENT/FINAL
woohoo down 74lbs in almost 2 months

Dara

Ang:

WLS can have a dramatic effect on relationships. I believe that if your relationship is solid, WLS fortifies it. If your relationship is shaky, it shakes it up even more.

It sounds like your former boyfriend likes obese women. If that is his priority, then it's best for you that he moved on now. You're at a different place right now. You're trying to improve your life and health.

Please try to think of your relationship dissolution as a blessing. You may not understand it now, but later, down the road, it may make total sense to you.

As the others have said, concentrate on yourself. You're doing this for yourself. It's not a bad thing to put yourself first sometimes. It's not selfishness, it's self-love. Big difference.

Best of wishes in your journey for self-love.

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Dara
Open RNY 4/27/04 Dr. Callery
10-15 lbs. above goal weight and okay with it

ang!

thank you for everyones words of encouragment..

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"FINALLY ON THE LOSING SIDE!"
DATE OF SURGERY:
11/03/2005
DR.MUELLER
437/363/?
POST OP/CURRENT/FINAL
woohoo down 74lbs in almost 2 months

feliciaespinoza

Very well said Baron...Nice!

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Dr. Potts
297/160/190
May 14, 2004
Open


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