My job think I have cancer.....how sad!!! - ThinnerTimes

NYNMD · 07-29-2005, 06:00 PM

I haven't told them I'm having WLS. They are chomping at the bit to find out what surgery I'm having. They are so worried. I feel so bad not telling them. But, I don't need the pressure of them knowing and checking me out everytime they see me. I will eventually tell a few people, but not now.

My mom died of Cancer and they know that. I told them I'm having abdominal surgery and that's it. They even want to visit me in the hospital. I told them there was no need to do that. I will be fine and back to work in 4 weeks.

Oh well, what a journey!!

veroniquetalk · 07-29-2005, 07:57 PM

Well, it is your right to share or not share with anyone. I only told one friend at work who I can trust won't say anything.

LizardQueen · 07-29-2005, 08:30 PM

To tell or not to tell is a personal choice. If you don't want to disclose then don't worry about it. This will all pass!

Bypassingme619 · 07-30-2005, 09:07 AM

Kimmy yeah it is going to get even better I bet once you do return to work. You are going to be a little smaller. I know at my job they are going to have all kind of asumptions as to why I am losing. I know I will have to spill the beans sooner or later. When you are ready they will know but not until then.

lealphachienne · 07-30-2005, 09:28 AM

My co-workers that I had a hysterectomy....better than thinking I had cancer since another co-worker was out for having cancer and I use to work at a hospice. When I returned to work, I set the record straight. What's there to be ashamed about? For me, I enjoyed informing people. Now, 2 others have had the surgery since and 2 more are considering it. The questions can get annoying, but it lessens over time.

SPICYEYES99 · 09-30-2005, 06:26 PM

I ahve to laugh because when i was doing all the tests one guy asked if i was pregnant, and I said no. BUT I think because my shape and some clothes I wear, that when I come back skinner they willt hink I had a baby and maybe gave it up or something! I got 4 kids now (3 my own adn 1 step son to be) so it'lll be VERY interesting as I have told ONLy my best friend and no co-workers or my boss.

jonirae319 · 10-02-2005, 01:24 AM

I had a crazy hard time with this and still am. I come from a super small town where everyone is up in everyone's business, and I really didn't want the "Oh, did you hear Joni had that weight surgery" flying around town (and I know I sound paranoid, but I can tell you the names of four of my friends' mothers who had GBP or stomach stapling or whatever, and believe me, i don't care to know that). I only told my closest friends, and it got out to a couple more but even my whole family doesn't know. Just my parents and grandparents. It's going to be a tough explanation when i go home for Thanksgiving and don't eat very much... oh... and how I've been gone since August and miraculously dropped 50 some odd pounds... more by then... I don't want to make a big deal out of it, because it just draws more attention to the fact that I was (am i suppose) fat and I don't like dwelling too much on it. I know I should be proud of myself or whatever, but that's a tough one. And I hate the questions. The "so you only eat a shot glass of food?" questions. They drive me insane. I guess it all goes with, and it's good in the end, I just wish I didn't have to tell people the way I did it.

it's like after you get skinny people have no trouble pointing out how fat you used to be. It's a compliment now, but it's sort of an insult in reverse, at least when coming from some people. I'm hoping that since I had it done in summer and disappeared for a semester I can just tell everyone I stopped eating and went to the gym... we'll see how many buy it...

bridgetgirl · 10-03-2005, 04:37 PM

Kimmy: If they think your having cancer removed, and then you come back you start dropping weight like crazy they are really going to be concerned.

I see this surgery being something to save your life, whether it be having cancer, or a tumor removed or angioplasty-its a drastic measure to save ones life..... why say cancer vs WLS when both have the potential to kill you. Do you have some shame? Is it to avoid asking questions? When you come back you are going to be tired, lack appetite and drop alot of weight very very fast.. you are still going to be surrounded with questions. Why this decision.. Im just curious-maybe you can help me understand.

By saying you are having cancer removed-you will get empathy that usually isnt an associated emotion from others when you have WLS-BUT you could potentially be the "leader" for someone else in your life or office that could potentially help save another life of someone MO.

Help me understand n stuff.

bridgetgirl · 10-03-2005, 04:47 PM

I didnt realize this was such an old thread.. my bad. So Kimmy how did that story work out for you... or anyone else that made up a different story?

ScootRider · 10-03-2005, 05:12 PM

i told everybody...saw no reason not to.